no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

I can understand that Tft. I couldn't face trying for 3 months, which was def the right thing for me. But the three months of ttc drove me insane, especially as our due date approached.

I think there is never a perfect time, we have such complex emotions this tome around. Maybe the best you can do is have faith the baby will have no respect of your due date!

Great news on the scan tft

Welcome bejeena congratulations. No real advice on how to handle the early days and weeks......you just have to be kind to yourself I think and do whatever you can to get yourself through.

Can relate to how you feel re: trying again, after my second mc it took 6 months to conceive again, I'm not going to lie it was really hard work and my body took ages to settle down. Looking back on it, I've been so upset and anxious with this pregnancy that perhaps it was a blessing in disguise that I didn't get pregnant again really quickly..........yes, we never forget the ones we've lost but why should we? A new baby can never replace the ones that didn't make it, I think I will always carry a little sadness with me.

On a more positive note, we're still here going strong, we will get through!

Glad your scan went well tft.

The early week are so hard bejeena. Fingers crossed they are uneventful for now.

I feel pregnant in the wtf cycle after mc. Actually quite greatful that I never got around the working out the due date for that pregnancy, only knew about it for about 4 days before mc started. Although knew it would have been around a couple of family birthdays at the end of january. All being well I think I'll be around the 35 week mark then. As deverstating as the mc was trying right away was the right thing for me and actually glad I fell right away, if I hadn't I don't think I'd have been ready for a long time. I've almost a completed a memory blanket to remember the baby we lost, something just me and dh will know the signifigance of. I couldn't have beared to kill a memorial plant!

Had such an awful grafic dream last night about having a mc has taken me all day to shake off. Dreamt that it happened a couple of days ago at home and there were all these random people I used to know from school in the house too. Enough that I could kind of tell it wasn't real, but still left me a bit jumpy and thinking wtf today. I've got thrush (again) and used a pesery last night to treat it, think that might have triggered the dream. Dh and I haven't dtd since bfp, I can't face the idea yet and felt too ill and tired, so using it might have been a bit too much for me mentally. Hoping for a more restful night tonight.

Hi ladies, sorry for the silence, I'm following too many threads at the moment!

Scan went well on Thursday, babyCarrot was waving its arms and legs and wouldn't move into good position for NT measurement! I had to get up and walk around and eat chocolate twice, and they finally got it on third attempt. Measuring 6 days ahead, so new EDD is 4th of March. I felt so relieved and excited!

On the down side found out I am anaemic (which no one bothered calling me about) so taking ferrous sulphate now. I hope it will shift some of this horrid tiredness.

Booked my 16w appt with MW already, god the time is flying fast now! Also my 20w scan is on 16th of October.

Paws I hope your bean hangs in there.

tft congrats about the scan too!

And im back again !

Didnt get to stick around long the last time.....

this is my 3rd pregnancy in 5 months (have a 3 yr old ds)....eeeekkkkkk ! 1st MC was 1st April ....then found out i was pregnant again 14th July....MC that pregnancy on 1st August (was extremely traumatic was taken into theatre as they thought i had an ectopic in the ovary but when i came around from the surgery there were wrong and it looked like a straightforward miscarriage)

We had planned to leave it a while this time before trying again....and tbh ive been TTC for a year now and have only had 2 periods in that space of time (have endometriosis) and after each of them periods i got pregnant so i assumed that i wouldnt get pregnant until i got another period....wrong ! Found out i was pregnant again 31st August....just less than a month from 2nd Miscarriage !!

I am absolutely terrified. think i am around 4+6 atm ...both my MC have been around the 6 week mark and time is now dragging. ive been referred back to the EPU for an early scan so waiting to hear from them now but my GP is hoping they will see me in around a weeks time.
I really really hope this is my take home baby because i cant go through it all again

I'm ok guys, thanks...got 2nd bloods today at hospital to make sure levels are doubling! Will let you know the result..

Stopped bleeding! But now bleeding from bum as had bad diarrhea since becoming pg...is this normal and safe???

tft congrats on good scan! X

beanie fx this is your take home baby X

Welcome to any newbies! Great supportive thread here

Sorry I have been quiet will attempt to catch up been mostly sleeping seems the bleeding took it out of me a bit everything seems to be OK still though awful sickness and sore boobs so hopefully they are good signs dh is pretty sure they are.

Hope everyone is doing well

Bloods back, levels have more than doubled!

Brilliant news paws!

Congrats on all the good scan news, and on your blood results paws!

Welcome back beanie, I hope this little bean sticks.

I'm 27 weeks tomorrow, got another growth scan on 16th September but actually looking forward to it this time! Little one is moving every day so hopefully all should be fine.

I've really been suffering with constipation and piles these last few weeks though (the glamour!) so might have to visit the doctor this week and ask if there's anything I can take. Tried eating more fruit and drinking more water but it doesn't really seem to help.

Yay paws - great news!

I'm 39 weeks tomorrow. How did that happen?! Permanently exhausted but if my family is anything to go by I've got another 3 weeks before DD2 appears.

Hi all - very very tentatively joining. I recognise a few names here from the ttc after mc thread -although I admit I haven't been on that for a couple of months as (although thrilled for people) I was feeling a bit upset that everyone seemed to get bfp again within the first month or two). Rationally I know I probably only noticed those and it's only been 4/5 cycles for me but that's hormones for you!

So I mmc at 9 1/2 weeks back in April (although we had an idea from early on it might not work out).

Now just got a 1-2 weeks on a clearblue digital after the faintest of faint squinters on Friday on a Frer. I'm not actually due on until tomorrow / tues so very very early days but hoping and hoping this one sticks.

Typically my parents and OH are away for the next week and a half (although told the OH about the frer Friday before he left - hence the very early test)

Sorry for the essay!!!

Thanks for the congrats guys! X

disney hi, I remember you! Congratulations on bfp, although a hushed one... I'm early days too, I did seem to get bfp after bfp, but also mc after mc...so perhaps it's a good thing that your body has had a proper chance to 'catch up' although I can imagine the torment of bfn after bfn! FX these are sticky beans for both of us

Well done to all of the above who have managed to get so far!!! Not long now x

My hormones are driving me mad, am getting so pissed of with dh, want to throw the laptop out the effin window! So bored with doing the same thing everyday, I miss work so so much, had to leave work this last January for personal family reasons, and can't go back for the foreseeable future bored bored bored! Loved my job, it killed me doing five 13 hour shifts a week, but i loved it so very much! Spose its just hormones?

Need some advice bleeding started again last night nothing hugely heavy but in allot of pain not sure what to do whether to go to the hospital or take it easy at home until my scan on Friday really don't know what to do

Great news paws!

Congrats Disney, it's hard to relax in the early weeks, but try to keep busy.

Oh no Tinx, is the pain really bad? Can you call EPU tomorrow? Hope it's nothing

Yea it's really painful painkillers don't seem to be doing anything just worried that if it's the same thing as the last bleed where baby was ok they will think I am making a fuss about nothing

Also can't phone my epu anymore have to be referred by the gp or midwife

If the pain is that bad you should definitely be seen by someone baby, that's not normal even if it is the same thing as last time. Do you have an out of hours GP or can you phone maternity triage at the hospital? They might not be able to see you as you're still early on but maybe they can give you some reassurance/point you in the right direction.

Will call the out of hours once dh wakes up from his nap with dd fingers crossed it's just the same as last time

Everything crossed for you tinx

Congratulations disney - I remember you from the TTC thread

That's great news paws so pleased for you

FX tinx, sorry you're having a rough time

I am 8 weeks now - very tired but really no other symptoms. MrVan's depression is back so things are quite shitty here

Hi ladies, I am still so worried about something being wrong, I just don't feel right but then maybe I am convincing myself of this. I need to call the doctor and get an appointment sorted for ASAP, scab will be done and then I will hopefully feel better.

I have not got the slightest bit excited about the pregnancy, can anyone relate to this?

So called out of hours they said it's probably carrying on from the last bleed but if it gets heavier or more painful to go straight to the hospital so I am off bed see if I can maybe sleep and feel better tomorrow thank you guys

Fingers crossed for you tinx. How are you feeling today?

I think most of us can relate to that bejeena. I remember asking on here a few weeks ago, when did people start to feel more positive about their pregnancies because I was feeling so negative. I'm just over 12 weeks now and a good scan has helped a bit but I think it's going to be a while before I totally relax into it. I wasn't sure I wanted to even see the baby on the screen at the scan or get photos because I was worried if I saw it I'd start getting attached to it then it would be even worse if something went wrong. I closed my eyes for the first bit but did look and I'm glad i did. I know that if something does go wrong, it won't be because I jinxed it by looking.

I really feel for you, I know this bit is hard and there's little anyone can say or do to make it easier or the time go quicker. There are lots of people here though who understand how you feel.

How are you today baby? Hope things have settled down for you.

bejeena it's completely normal to feel a bit detached from the pregnancy in the early stages, it's just a way to protect yourself against possible further heartache. I didn't fully start to believe that everything would be ok until after my 20 week scan, and even now at 27 weeks I'm sometimes still a bit reluctant to buy things for the baby.

Welcome disney and bejeena

bejeena I'm 20 weeks and still get uncomfortable about talking about the future but I do feel more relaxed after the 20 week scan. I thought I was getting a bit better at 16 weeks but looking back I wasn't really. Hope all works out for you.

Hope everything has got a bit better today for you baby