no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

baby hope you are ok x

dobby I got to around 17 weeks (private scan) before the sheer terror faded and I actually acknowledged any sort of bond but if I'm honest it's still around from time to time, had a good old cry yesterday firstly when I was sorting nappies into drawers because I was terrified something would go wrong so close to the end and the second time because I put the light show on in the nursery and thought maybe I was tempting fate. 24 -34 weeks have been the most enjoyable but it's important to remember that even if the anxiety never leaves you, you can still carry a perfectly healthy pregnancy - it's just exhausting! I completely distanced myself from over excitable people and DH told most friends/family with an opening gambit of "we are not celebrating yet but we are x weeks and fingers crossed it works out well" this set the tone early and stopped any hysteria. It honestly does get easier, it happens with time.

llama forgot to say you did make me laugh with your hippo comment! I keep thinking back to little lady saying she was barely mobile at 38 weeks and thinking yup that'll be me! We went for lunch yesterday and they nearly pulled apart the restaurant trying to fit me in - very inconspicuous

Keeping everything crosses for you baby

Hope your bloods are positive today baby.

Good luck for your scans panda and cloud!

Can totally relate to the feeling of 'surviving pregnancy and not really feeling achievement at x weeks because of a previous MMC. This time I've only felt like I'm 'really' x weeks once 'verified' by a scan showing everything ok.

I have my 12 wk scan today, can't beleive its actually happening. Also can't believe I'm saying this but I'm looking forward to it.

Good luck for all the scans today ladies and for your bloods baby. Keeping everything crossed for you all

Good luck today baby, and everyone having scans! I've got nine days til my scan, will be counting down the hours I think!

Waiting for bloods to come back they came in at 7 this morning and did them had another scan still not sure what they are looking at so it all rests on blood results no idea how far along I am by my Last period almost 7 weeks but scan doesn't seem to show that right now I just wanna cry the staff are nice though which is something

Good luck to everyone else having scans today! Thinking of you baby, hope you will get some reassurance.

It also took me until the scan at 16 weeks (private one) to start feeling more optimistic about this pregnancy. Until then, it was head in the sand as much as possible, taking one day at a time. Now we have started making plans...even talking about names! My anxiety has calmed down so much, I didn't think it would happen, but it has. DH is getting more involved now, too, which he did not at all before, which made me feel really lonely sometimes (but I can totally understand why he did it). He even told me on Saturday that he is looking forward to seeing the baby at the scan again today!
It is such a shame that we will never feel the same way about pregnancy again like someone who has never experienced a miscarriage, but there is nothing we can do about that. I sometimes worry about the implications after birth, ie. whether I might be more at risk for PND etc... But again, I will have to cross that bridge when I get to it.

Fx for you baby and bumble.

Thinking of you baby, hope you get some good news x

Haha cava, we went for a meal for our anniversary yesterday and the woman who seated us looked genuinely scared when she saw me.

"Your baby is low isn't it???"
Me - "Yeah, he has been the whole time"
"Oooh I hope you don't go into labour, I'm not good at first aid!"
Me - "Haha, it's ok I've still got 5 weeks to go"
"Oh, really??? You wouldn't think it would you?

Lol.

Gosh, sorry bumble, good luck with your scan :)

Wow llama!
I must be massive :p

Ha ha llama, that's made me chuckle!

hi ladies.

Bit of hand holding needed. I'm 17+5 and dtd with DH last night for first time in a month (been too anxious before) after I had some tiny pin pricks of pink when I wiped. nothing today but haven't felt much movement. I'm so worried, feel like I should just give up on intimacy as the price is too high. Should I call my midwife even though there's been no spotting today?
My wonderful friend is waiting for a scan at EPU as it sounds like she's losing her baby and it's put me in a dark place remembering when it was me.

Sorry for the down post

If your worried melon call your midwife they won't mind and it will put your mind at ease

baby hope your bloods give you reassurance. Hugs for you at what is a very anxious and unsettling time. X
melon I'd call your mw and she may be able to listen on the Doppler which will put your mind at rest.

Thanks for all the well wishes. My scan went well this morning. Measuring 12+3 so dd 26 Feb 16. 'He' was having a really good wriggle so it took ages to get a good measurement, but meant we got longer which was lovely.

That's great, bumble !

melon It was probably just some irritation, but do call you MW for reassurance, that's what they are there for! am now petrified to dtd, we've not done any since BFP because I can't muster up the energy/courage

treacle People can be so insensitive... I had pretty much that conversation with SIL when 35 weeks with DS - well, she started with 'OMG, you're massive!'

envious I wish that happened to me when I went to this nice restaurant with DH for his birthday last week! The first thing the waitress assured me of was that they are very happy to adjust anything on the menu. And then they proceeded to not give me any goat's cheese in one of the courses (even though I hadn't specified it)! It's really nice for them to go to the effort, albeit a bit OTT (very fancy restaurant, ie. tiny portions, so minimal amounts of cheese...). Ah well, definitely can't hide it anymore!

I'm so inefficient at work today, ready to go for the scan now... Another hour before I leave, appointment is at 4pm.

Awww great news bumble so glad it went well!

Thinking of you baby really hoping everything turns out to be OK.

I echo the others melon call the midwife, this is what they are there for, she'll know what to say/do.

Good luck cloud!

Haha llama, that's brill.

People don't think do they cloud?
I'm proud of my bump so just trying to take it all as a compliment :p

I agree melon, hope you get some reassurance.

Glad the scan went well bumble and cloud I really hope yours was all ok too. Def call the mw melon, I think they're usually really nice and helpful, esp when you've had a mc.

In fact I am waiting for mine to ring me back because I am having a massive wobble today - I've convinced myself that I am going to mc again soon because of the huge amount of cm I've been producing the last few days (sorry, gross). It doesn't seem normal and I'm worried it's the mucus plug going before I mc. I've also had quite a lot of cramping.