Plenty of chocolate and support all round - #5 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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for those who feel well enough to eat it :)

Having a bit of a time of it here. Had some very scarry spotting over the weekend. Luckly scan at epau has shown all is still well.

Ils are causing loads of greif at the moment. Dh is really upset by it all which is not helping matters. Mil is being her usual delightful, self centred self; having reused all invited to see dd is now moaning we don't want her involved. Unfortantly we can't tell them how much stress we're currently under. Mil and gmil gosip like made so everyone would know. They also like to make every situation about themselves, if I losse this baby and they know it will be all about how terriable it is for THEM!

Glad to hear scan showed everything is ok dobby. Sorry to hear your ILs are causing grief though, not what you need at the moment I'm sure. Do they know about your previous mc?

I am lucky to have a very understanding MIL who found out she had a mmc at 12 weeks, the same as me. She has been very understanding but not intrusive at all. My own parents though have not really been able to give me the support I need, they don't know what to say and just stick to discussing the weather. The whole mc experience has made me see both my DPs and my ILs in a different light.

I really hope your DH is supporting you at the moment.

Well done for getting a cot and pushchair sorted rebecca. I remember doing that in my first pregnancy (which wasn't straight forward) but being really nervous that I'd jinxed it. Mothercare stored the pushchair until I'd had the babies because I didn't want it in the house just in case. Hate to think what I'll be like if I get to the end of this pregnancy.

Thanks tft. Dh is being amazing, but has an terriable relationship with his mum impaticular. I think she's probably got some mental health issues but she won't ask for help. She was breifly given something by her doctor which helped but she stopped taking them pretty quickly. Only bil knows about the mc from dh's family, he was a god send helping out at the time. Dd had some potentially scary health problems in her first year, so we really learnt how awful mil and gmil can be in stressful situations. Also made my pergency with her all about them...not something we ever plan to repeat.

My mum and dad on the other had have been fantastic. And are continuing to be now I've fallen pregnant again in the wtf cycle no less. I'm not particually well this time around, sick and exhausted. Exactly the support we need.

Evening all,

I've not been on for a bit and it's tricky to catch up. Welcome to the newbies and to the new babies in the group!

So very sorry to hear about baby Lucas-very sad, may he rest in peace.

I've been panicking a bit about not feeling very pregnant so it's very reassuring to know that others are going or have gone through something similar and all is ok! I'm only just over 5 weeks so still so early. I want to bring my scan forward but I know the later the better and they are so expensive I can't afford to do multiple ones.

I told my parents and my sister-all very excited which is lovely but also has freaked me out a bit which was unexpected. I guess I feel pretty nervous about it and don't want to jinx anything. Still just living in the moment and trying to enjoy it for now!

Just a really quick post from me to say rebecca I love the egg! If it had been in store when I purchased my pram I would definitely have went for that! Don't worry about the jinxing feeling, just try and enjoy the excitement of such a lovely purchase x

Morning everyone! Hello to new faces!! Dobby I'm glad to hear all is well with the pregnancy. Sorry to hear about problems with mil though, it can be a nightmare when relatives aren't supportive!

Rebecca congrats on your purchase!

Cloud thanks for your comments on the situation at work. At the moment the timescales look quite long as there's a 30 day collective consultation period before anyone can be dismissed and my notice period is 7 weeks - so I should remain employed until about 2 months before my due date and therefore qualify for SMP. It's very stressful though and I'm in a selection pool so will have to apply for the new job and be interviewed by mid-September when i'd really rather be focusing on trying to stay calm and focused on the pregnancy. HR seem to be making some very odd decisions as well which is making it more difficult.

Just realised this thread may be about to run out!! Does anyone know how to start and link a new one?

Sounds like a few of us are worried about the curse of the jinx! I've had some dark moments recently, it's so hard to let myself enjoy this pregnancy, I love this little one so much already and I really don't know how I'd cope if anything went wrong.

new thread

if I've done it right this should be a new thread for us to fill up

Thanks for the new thread northdown.

zeux, it sounds like you might be ok for SMP which is excellent news but having to re-apply for your job sounds like a nightmare. I'm sorry, I'm not completely up to date on where everyone is in their pregnancies, will you be very far along come Sept?

The curse of the jinx! That summarises how I'm feeling right now melon! I booked my booking appointment with the mw today which i am kind of dreading. Last time i saw her I was so happy about being pregnant although I didn't know at the time my little bean had already died (found out three weeks later at the 12 week scan). But i figured I needed to get the appointment booked in order to get the ball rolling to get a 12 week scan appointment. Thinking that far ahead though is very very scary.

As there are a few ladies here very early on and understandably worrying I thought I'd mention that it is possible to get early scans. I had one at 6 weeks because I made an appointment with my GP and explained how distressed I felt. I had also had some cramping, which looking back I have have exaggerated how often/painful, but for me ever single twinge was a bad sign. So, it can be worth going to your Gp, if they're sympathetic (I made an appointment with a women Gp on purpose), and trying for an early scan appointment. It did help reassure me for a few weeks finding out there was a heart beat. Still felt like an eternity waiting for the 12 week scan though! I'm 21 weeks now and although not totally worry free, it is much much much better now. Good luck all x