Plenty of chocolate and support all round - #5 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[Treaclepie19]

for those who feel well enough to eat it :)

Thanks broody, I dunno what's wrong with me today. Just feel incredibly sensitive and anxious.

we all have days like that treacle your not alone :) I'm sure little bean is well cushioned !

I had gut wrenching anxiety waiting for my 16 week app today, felt better after hearing the heartbeat though, having said that I had to ask, apparently it's not something they offer here ? I've started writing a journal today to the baby (is that wierd ?) its helping me to feel like it's all a bit more real

Thanks Rebecca :)

Yeah my midwife wouldn't listen to heartbeat at 16 weeks. They worry people will get stressed if it can't be found.
I wouldve! :p
That's a lovely idea, glad it's helping you :)

I think I would have had a nervous breakdown if she couldn't hear it and instantly think the worst ! Luckily as soon as she put the Doppler on my belly there was the heart beat ! Still can't believe it's real !

I'm five weeks away from B Day, treacle, the anxiety hasn't really left me this far so don't beat yourself up xx

rebecca, my mw didn't offer to listen in at 16 weeks either because there's still lots of hiding room for bubs. She said she would listen if I wanted but to be aware that I wouldn't be getting a scan if she couldn't find it. To avoid any possible more freak out, I decided to wait four weeks until my anomaly scan because I'd have been beside myself if she hadn't have been able to find it!

Can't believe my app says I've only got 39 days left of pregnancy. Mental. Baby is 2/5 engaged already (that was Tuesday) and I can really feel when s/he pushes down even harder on my bits. Fanny daggers, I believe is the common term for it! I dunno, but ouchies!

Lol, baby Boozle is still floating around happily doing its own thing. Mat leave starts next Friday, can't wait!

Wow 39 days left broody that seems so little!

I wanted to add back to Amyy's comment about using the Doppler and whilst I understand what others are saying about getting it mixed up etc and I would never use it in the case of reduced movements, using my Doppler from 17 to 24 weeks when due to an anterior placenta I could feel nothing, completely changed my pregnancy. I went from not sleeping, feeling very detached and an emotional wreck to feeling reassured, able to enjoy elements of my pregnancy and overall so much less anxious. It really is something to be used with caution but it certainly helped me so much.

I am in two minds whether to get the mw find the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment or not. With DS, it took her ages to find it, and then last time I was pg, she couldn't find it - because there wasn't any anymore
Thing is she kept saying that she definitely heard something 'in the background', really cheerfully, trying to reassure me. And I actually believed her because in my mind, I was out of the danger zone. Little did I know.
This is certainly going to be interesting. I might actually decline, depending on how I feel. Or arrange a private scan very shortly before or after...

I received another appointment in the post today, to attend an 'antenatal clinic' in July. If it's anything like the one I had last time (again, before it all went tits up), they will discuss birth options with me and how I will be monitored during my pregnancy, seeing that I am under consultant care.
While I don't mind at all having this appointment, it's by far too early - I will just be about 15-16 weeks! At that point, all I can think about (if I get that far) is how to survive until the 20 week scan, without going batshit crazy. Wondering if they'll let me push it back until after...

cloud doesn't sound like you'll find the mw listening to the hb a very reassuring experience, completely understandable if you decline. I refused to discuss any options about the birth at both 16 and 20 week appointments - I will have that chat tomorrow at my 28 week check up. No reason for you to go in to that detail if you are not comfortable to yet.

I have been weeping on and off ever since this afternoon's BFP!

After a history of repeat miscarriage four-five years ago when I tried to become pregnant with my first husband, he and I split up and I didn't start trying again until about 14 months ago with my DH. No luck until switching around a couple of DH's medications...and then, this month, my BFP. I swear I've filled an entire landfill with BFNs, so I'm freaking out about this quite a bit!

The first thing I wanted was a support group like this, women who know what it's like to lose a pregnancy or more than one, and be fearful about losing another...thank you for being here...this is just the kind of thing I hoped to find AND that list of thread babies fills my heart with happiness.

So, hi, everyone! I'm ridiculously thrilled to be here.

Welcome womb. Glad you found us and congratulations on your BFP.

Welcome womb we all understand your mix of elation and abject terror

Oh yeah, I should give my stats! I'm 31, no children, MC 7 weeks January 2010, MC 6 weeks January 2011. EDD February 14th (Valentine's Day baby!).

Welcome womb and congratulations!

Hello womb (waves)

Ladies lucky enough to be further along, how did you find the time in pregnancy where bad things had happened before? I'm 8+1 today, my mmc happened (even though I wouldn't know for another 3 weeks) at 9 weeks exactly. I'm luckily working away next Thursday but I can already feel the anxiety ramping up. Got a scan booked already for 9+6, deliberately booked for then as want to know that I'm making it out of the 9 weeks hopefully unscathed.
Also, have you found that you've enjoyed pregnancy at all after you got past 'the point'? I'm hoping that especially after 12 weeks I'll start to enjoy bits of pregnancy as it will be unchartered territory then. Fingers crossed.

By the way 'lucky enough' was not meant to sound insensitive to those of us in early pregnancy, I just meant I wish we could all go to sleep and magically wake up a few months further along where it is hopefully a bit easier! I'm definitely counting myself lucky to be pregnant as its tough to get here.

nouser From the start of my pregnancy I just accepted I wasn't going to have a blissful naive pregnancy. I had very small milestones that I looked to and focused on. I had fortnightly scans due to my history and the 9 week one was a biggie. From 7-9 weeks I kept myself as occupied as possible with work and bizarrely played a lot of solitaire (think it kept me from thinking)??!! I didn't start to enjoy it until 17 weeks, I love it now although I still get anxious some days but I still look to milestones - today I'm 28 weeks and when I woke up this morning I cried with happiness that I've made it to 7 months!

It's amazing we all come through this without going completely mad!

Thanks cava, the solitaire thing doesn't sound weird at all. I was thinking of buying a jigsaw to try and distract myself over the next couple of weeks, TV doesn't hold my concentration and also leaves my hands free to use my phone and Google all sorts of scary things, even though I know I need to step away and leave it alone.
I'm pleased to hear that you are so far along now and also enjoying it

Cloud my midwife didn't even give me the option.

Eek Broody that's so soon :)

Boozle yay for maternity leave starting soon :)

Welcome womb :)

We've booked a 4d scan to see our little boy at 28+2 (29th June) :) DH really wanted one which was nice. I'm looking forward to seeing his little face :)

Wow that's a lot of smileys...

Welcome womb! Congrats on the bfp and here's to an uneventful 8 months. I've hit the officially finding this pregnancy hard work point - 34 weeks and it feels like 34 years since I slept! Baby kicks so crazily when I lie down I genuinely think he doesn't like it. And little feet are tap dancing on my ribs...I'm also struggling with food almost as much as first trimester. Constant full feeling - that's pretty normal right? My weight gain stalled a long time ago and I've tried not to panic - the guidelines they give you are hopefully just an indication? And water on an empty stomach makes me throw up! It's like the first trimester but with a bowling ball strapped to my stomach

Marking my spot
Feeling good now, other than being at the 'just fat' stage, rather than looking at all pregnant yet. I ever this from when I was Pg with DS, the 3-4month spell I just sort of get wider until bump pops out eventually. 14 weeks yesterday, better start actually telling people, not even my own mum know yet I've been to nervous to go through it all again. I think my MMC was sooo much worse because all our family knew (literally 2 days before) and then we had to break the news . Couldn't bare to go through that again but can't keep this Pg a secret much longer!

Hello to all the newbies! :)

Just wondering if anyone stopped worrying? Im 17w now and havent felt any flitters for a few days, i know regular movement isnt for a while yet, but i had flutters a week or so ago and now nothing. Gah!

Hello more newbies!

Well I had my scan today. 6 weeks 2 days and a little heartbeat fluttering away. The EPU were so kind and gave me a photo as well.

I'm cautious though as had a heartbeat last time and still lost and I'm approaching my danger zone now... So next scan is in 3 weeks when I'll be 9+2

Had my first clexane injection as well

Hope everyone is going ok - can't believe how close some of you are

That's greally brummie, glad all is going well :)