Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

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Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

Happy birthday Treacle!

Good luck Tori hope things progress soon for you :)

Happy birthday treacle! Hope you have a lovely day xx

Sending positive vibes tori. Really hope things will start cracking off for you soon. What do you think you'd rather opt for, if it comes down to restarting induction or a section? Hope the waiting around doesn't drive you too bonkers and that if you do go home, a walk along the river or in A Park (with an obligatory stop at the cafe of course!) might start you off xxx

Happy Birthday Treacle I hope the baby wriggles and spoiling help you deal with the memories of today, it is ok to feel sad but equally ok to enjoy what you have today and how far you have come in the past year.

I got my first BFP on the 10th August last year and my EDD now is 10th August. So I really feel that the year will have gone full circle

Sending dilating vibes tori I hope things start soon. It must be exhausting you poor love! xx

Broody how annoying I don't think you're being too sensitive at all. Ridiculous comments. Tori thinking of you and hoping you get a baby today! Small it's also my upper back that's driving me crazy. Seeing an osteopath this week as I'm worried it might cause me to finish work early (haven't exactly budgeted for that)

Happy birthday treacle glad to hear your having a good day

tori isn't it your birthday today? It's an unusual way to spend it that's for sure. Good luck and happy birthday!

broody some people on this site just have snarky as their default setting. I started a thread in primary education. It was pretty innocuous just asking for some advice and experiences but I got quite upset by some of the replies. I think some people interpret considering doing something different to them as a personal attack.

broody some people seem to come on here purely to be horrible. A woman asked whether she should sterilise a dummy to put in her hospital bag and then people started having the whole dummy vs thumb sucking debate vs using the boob as a dummy (which I had never heard of before personally). The poor original poster was only asking advice and it turned into a massive slanging match!

Happy birthday to you too tori! I hope things get moving for you soon so you can get a very special birthday present!

Happy birthday treacle and tori! Re the posts below I agree some people do use the site to get incredibly worked up about perceived criticism of their choices which is why I love this supportive and non judgemental group so much!

Happy birthday to you too Tori!

Aaah thanks everyone, you're so kind. I knew you'd understand me. It's just, you know, being pg and ever so insecure and a little paranoid anyway, I never know how I come across on here so I do spend a lot of time checking my posts before publishing to make sure they wouldn't offend or don't sound too preachy. At least there seems to be a consensus that some people just want to be here to argue and bitch! I shall leave them to it, the miserable buggers

Happy birthday to you too tori. Hope your little one comes along today so you can share your special day

A close friend has just learned that after seeing a hb at an early scan that a few days later their baby had died... And after years of fertility treatment. She asked how I'd been coping and I feel as though I have no useful advice to offer and don't think I coped particularly well. I wish I could be more useful.

Little - sorry to hear about your friend. Just tell her how you felt. Maybe it will help to know that it's ok not to cope/be brave IYSWIM.

I agree. She'll likely have people telling her the usual things we don't want to hear, like 'Oh, at least you can get pregnant'. Be honest with her and tell her how sorry you are and how you felt, and that's it's ok to feel awful.

My blood results finally came back - I'm immune to parvovirus, so that's a huge worry off my chest. Tori, I hope everything is fine for you too, my friend worked out the stats and the likelyhood of getting it and passing it on really is low. I know that won't help ease the worry until your baby is here though.

Happy birthday to Tori and Treacle. It's mine tomorrow!

Thank you all, yep its my birthday today :)

We've had a lovely day... I am in pain now though! Spd is acting up really bad. Can't move my bum hips or legs.

Happy birthday tori :)

Happy birthday treacle & tori! Glad you enjoyed it treacle & I hope yours has been eventful tori

Good news somesort

broody hopefully karma will bite her on her bum in her white post natal trousers and tena ladies .

Love that gr33dy xx??

Thanks all. That's about all the advice I could give really - even though it happened early and people will say that it's very common etc etc you've the right to grieve as much as you want to

Somesort great to hear tests came back ok!

Hi everyone. An extremely nervous passenger but can I please join you all? I got my BFP on a FRER a few hours ago and just backed it up with a clear blue plus (strong positive) and a clear blue digi (pregnant 2-3 weeks). Am in shock and pretty terrified if I'm honest. My mmc was discovered in Dec at 11+5 and I miscarried a few days before Christmas. Cycles been all over the place since then so wasn't sure if I was even ovulating. OH been very quiet since I told him this evening and seems wary. Already talking about early scans and "not getting too carried away". I feel sad we can't be happier about this but I think we're both very nervous.

Ahh congrats Teenie! :)

Welcome teenie, glad you found us, and congrats on your BFP. Yes, it's sad, but true - once you've had a mc, it is very difficult to really enjoy a pregnancy, everything is laced with fear. I am 8 weeks, and have not stopped feeling like I'm walking on eggshells since my BFP. Others have said that it does ease up later in pregnancy, and I really hope that'll happen for me. My DH is not getting emotionally involved, I wish it was that easy for me.
I really wish I could be as happy and naïve as I was when pg with DS (v. uncomplicated pregnancy), but that ship has sailed...

But for today, you are pregnant, and you have every reason to believe that everything will be fine this time!

Hi Amy and Cloud. Thank you for your lovely message. I think you are so right that miscarriage steals your naivety about pregnancy. I feel like until I have an early scan and see it with my own eyes, I can't even bring myself to believe it's actually happening and everything will be ok. Even then, any time I feel damp in my underwear I'm going to panic.