Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

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Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

Thanks for the invite to this thread. :)

Great news metal

cloud, I found my concerns eased off a little after the 20 week scan and even more so when I could feel baby move around. I do still have a little wobble every now and then because my downs results came back as 1:85 (quad blood results though, not scan and bloods) so it's occasionally on my mind but then I have a word with myself! Haha!

Congrats metal! What brilliant news :)

Cloud I agree, my 20 week scan has been the one where I've felt the most relieved. It's a long hard road but it'll all be worth it :)

Love hearing about good scan news!

I'm really struggling at the moment. Bit like cloud described. I feel like I've gone from coping by dealing with one day at a time, to having some mental freakout this week and time feels like it's stopped. Have had on off bad nausea. Struggling to look forward at all. Dh has been good putting up with me and helping out a bit more with ds but I feel like I'm failing at everything. I'd just like to fast forward the next 6 weeks or so. Sorry to be miserable at you all. I just don't know what to do. Just one step at a time I guess.

I think I might book another scan to try and break up time between now 8+5 and 12 weeks. Give myself something to focus on. I just can't get bad bits from my last 2 unsuccessful pregnancies out of my head. I'm not purposely thinking about stuff. It just won't go away.

Awesome scan news going on guys, love reading it.
I ordered a hired maternity dress to be a maid of honour on Saturday. It came today - I look like I'm wearing a giant condom, it's very funny!

Hurrah metal great to hear good scan news!

mrs I had a scan at 9+3 and I feel this has massively helped with the wait, my 12 weeks is on Monday, without the inbetween scan I think I would have gone out of my mind with worry by now. As for thinking about your previous two pregnancies I think that is completely normal, it's impossible not to try and relate them to the current. Keep your chin up x

Thanks Rebecca I'll see if I can book a scan for next week. Thinking about it already makes me feel a bit better.

Definitely agree with Rebecca there diddly had one at 9+1 and the lovely midwife let us listen to the heartbeat and reassured us of the statistics dropping after that...

Saying that because of past experience I've put off everything else (not wanted to get my hopes up) and don't even have my booking in appointment til Mon when I'll be 11+4! I have a feeling I'll be more like 13/14 weeks by the time I get my next scan!

Thanks for all the positive vibes RE: crappy job loss, I have an interview at my OHs restaurant on Tuesday for some bar work, although now I won't be entitled to Maternity pay wherever I end up working

Pizza as you were employed when you fell pregnant and if you get a job now, you should be entitled to maternity allowance right? Which is the same amount as Statutory Mat Pay, just without the 6 weeks at 90% pay. Definitely worth looking into what you are entitled to.

I didn't have a scan before 12 weeks this time, the wait was awful and I nearly caved a couple of times, but now I am glad I didn't pay for a private scan. When I found out about my MC it was at a 8 week private scan and it just seemed to add insult to injury when my OH was asked for £100 after the scan. I couldn't face going back there and there was no other option in my area. I told myself that if I had pain or bleeding I would go to the EPU. It is obviously a personal thing though. Seeing that baby at 12 weeks though was the most amazing thing ever!

cloud the bit before the first scan (also 8 weeks for me) was the absolute worst. After that it was the build up to each milestone that was the worst but bearable in between. I think on some level we'll always be anxious but certainly there was a huge weight lifted at 20 weeks. I know that feels like light years away but it will gradually ease before then too.

pizza good luck. Rubbish altogether but sounds like your old company were a bunch of bastards so at least you don't have to deal with them any more.

Thanks for the advice happy unfortunately my last job was all cash in hand I only worked weekends covering for my mum so honestly don't think I'll be entitled to anything except maybe income support? I'm sure we will find a way to manage trying not to worry too much as long as baby is ok that's my main concern x

i'm looking forward to 20 weeks now. im currently 17+2 or maybe 18+2 depending if they do ever decide to change my dates.

i got a bit of a reprieve after the 12 wk scan but the anxiety soon hits again. i dont think ill really feel comfortable until im at the point where i know the baby could survive if that makes sense.

on a good note i definitely definitely felt the baby move this morning

oh didnt say in my post but im the same i hate scans they crank my anxiety up massively and altho baby is good and healthy every scan ive had so far has been marred by the worry beforehand.

Sorry to hear you are struggling diddly Def have a scan, if it helps you, anything goes!
I'm very lucky in that my hospital EPU agreed to scan me at 8 weeks, once they heard about my mc history, it was a no brainer for them. Will have to see how I feel about the time until 12 weeks after Sunday. But we will most likely have the Harmony test, maybe they will scan me for that anyway (they did at the place I went to last time, but that might have just been them).
I struggle with long-term planning, everything is so up in the air! For example, we had plans to visit my sister in Berlin during autumn half term - however, if it all goes well, I won't be allowed to fly anymore, as I'll be too far along. If it doesn't, then we'll probably not be able to afford flights anymore, as prices go up rapidly. Sigh.

Anyone else absolutely ravenous? I'm ashamed that I literally inhaled a large pizza within 15 minutes last night, without batting an eyelid To my defence, they took ages to bring it, and we were late for the cinema. But still... I so crave anything with carbs and fat. And if I don't eat in regular intervals, I get bad nausea, it's a vicious circle. The irony is that I joined Slimming World the week before I had my BFP - I need to tune my expectations right down, obviously should lose weight, but if I can avoid putting on too much, that would be great.

Yep cloud - in the first trimester and beyond I was starving the whole time. Since I got diagnosed with gestational diabetes I have to be careful what I eat and have lost weight off my legs and arms so am feeling OK about previous overindulgence but the proof will come after the birth!

It's tough about the planning isn't it cloud. Could you make it to Berlin by train?

Yeay for movement gingerbread!

I'm exactly the same cloud been having three breakfasts most days (crereal, scrambled egg & toast then fruit and yoghurt ) I'm full for about 30 mins after eating then starving agan!

Found out at my last scan my weight had plummeted and my BMI is >18 now so need all the help I can get in my defence

Sounds like you need some of your namesake Pizza. Seriously especially in the early days eat what you want when you want, especially if you feel sick. I went through a massive phase of eating like a hobbit (breakfast, second breakfast, elevenses, brunch, lunch) I then didn't eat much for the rest of the day. Now at 27 weeks I am mostly just hungry!

metal great news on your scan

mslad thinking of you and hoping you are already having tiny cuddles!

cloud I found my 12 week scan helped for a while but pretty nervous about 20 weeks now. 19+1 today but scan not till 1st June. Hope Sunday goes well. Will be thinking of you

I was another hobbit eater with many stage breakfasts and big lunch but then less interested in the evening. After about 14 weeks I was less hungry but it's coming back again and I just want cheese!!

Hi everyone, can I join you?

I had a MMC last month and it tore me apart. 6 weeks later I'm still off work and it seemed that nothing would fill that hole...you know what I mean, right?

Anyway, at 4 weeks post EPRC I took a pregnancy test and it was negative. At 4 weeks + 4 days post EPRC I took another (as no sign of AF) and I got a very faint positive...fast forward to today (5 weeks + 5 days post EPRC) and my test lines are darker than my control lines. Long story short I think I've come to the point where i've realised this isn't left over hormones...I am pregnant again!

There's a few problems with this. Firstly, I don't know how work will be with me. I go back next Friday and I'm dreading the 'oh and by the way I'm pregnant again' conversation. Secondly I have NO idea how far along I am. I've done a ClearBlue which was 2-3 weeks twice this week...so I think I'm probably about 4-5 weeks gone.

Finally, and most importantly, I'm petrified. I'm sure we all are/were, but I don't know what to do with myself now. I just want to get through the first trimester and i'll do whatever I have to do to make sure that happens, but all I can think is negative thoughts at this point! Did that wear off for any of you?

I'd love to give you an EDD but all I know is it will be Jan 2016 some time!

Congratulations to everyone who has had that BFP after MC...I'm so glad I've found this thread :)

Gemma
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Hi cat welcome and congratulations on the bfp! A pregnancy after mc is always going to feel different so your worries and anxiousness is normal. Hopefully the further along you get the more confident you'll become. Just take one day at a time. Going back to work will feel like a hurdle but it might help filling some time taking your mind off things a bit.

I seem to be living on ready salted crisps and haribo tangtastic. Nice healthy first trimester diet!

Metal - great news! Glad all went well.

Cat welcome - I also got pregnant the cycle immediately following my mc without a period in between. It took me a while to trust it and feel settled but amazingly time did pass and I'm now at 37 weeks! Hoping for a uneventful pregnancy for you.

Mslad - thinking of you and hoping all went well!

Morning all!

Welcome catinajar. As others have said it is an anxious place to be, but with time you do start to have excitement too.

I went for my 16 week mw appt yesterday. All good so far. She suggested I record babies heartbeat which was nice. I said I was still a little worried due now to my ds excitement, and she recommended just taking one day at a time still.

I can't believe I'm not due to see her again untiluntil 28 weeks! But she has said I can go in whenever if I want.

Any news mslad?