best shit place grass #3. Still pregnant and scans ahoy. End of the year can't come soon enough!

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New thread for shiny scan pics were hoping for.

Hi all. chasing initially I wanted to find out this time (didn't with no 1)but as I've progressed, I want the surprise at the end. I'm 90% certain it's a boy again though! I ovulated early and don't think the xx sperm would have had a chance!

That's how I started out with dd.. I wanted to know.. dh didn't. . He convinced me and I was glad of it in the end and so enjoyed the mystery.

This time I just don't know...!!

I thought 'whats more exciting?' At the scan - 'boy/girl' thanks or after birth 'boy/girl - to take home' eek! Plus I'm very scared scans can still be wrong.

I would maybe talk to your oh about wanting to know and that you are happy to do so alone that way he can choose one final time. I found out with dd and have already said I can't wait to find out again (found out at 26wk private scan last time) and all the neutral stuff was wasted I literally used one vest because she pooped out of her 3rd outfit lol obviously each to their own but if you really want to know then it would be very hard for you not to esp if you feel that you would bond better similarly are you sure it is what you want? X

My notes are pink and my dh is a marvel. He put them to one side when he emptied the bin phew.

Just a quick update am off out but omg don't get me started on the to find out not to find out conversations, or the names one xx

Ugh feeling so anxious today no idea how I will get through the next few weeks. Could someone just knock me out and wake me up at 12+ weeks? Please?

evening all!

My notes are white :) I've put them away for safekeeping!

chasing would you maybe be able to find out with DH knowing that you know. I say that because I REALLY wanted to know. but DH REALLY didn't. as a compromise he said to me I could find out but not tell him - get the sonographer to write it on a paper and pop it in an envelope for me to open later After much to - ing and fro-ing I've decided I want a surprise and I'm really excited now. But wondered if that might be an option?

amy hope you get to hear a heart beat. is your private scan so you can find out boy or girl as well as reassurance? X

We love knowing the sex with dd. We chose her name as soon we knew so she became name rather than 'the baby' and 'she' rather than 'it'. We genuinely didn't have a preference and don't this time either but for us, it made her more real and less abstract.

*loved

Plus this time, we need to agree on two names for each sex just in case! Too hard.

My notes are pink and my dh is a marvel. He put them to one side when he emptied the bin phew.

Just a quick update am off out but omg don't get me started on the to find out not to find out conversations, or the names one xx

Guy I would DEFINITELY have to find out with twins. Too much to handle

The thing is, if dh knows I know, I won't be able to contain myself and I will end up ruining it and I'll never forgive myself. BUT if he doesn't know i know, I know i can keep it to myself. But I'll feel guilty. But honestly I'm worrying about pnd (don't have the same support network as I did with dd) and keep thinking guilt of keeping it or risking another added stress dimension? Does this sound like I'm making any sense!?

I found my engagement ring a month before he proposed. I didn't tell a soulexcept now you guys ... and he will never ever know.. he still boasts about what a surprise it was. So I feel like I could trust myself. IF he didn't know, because I'd be protecting him (from ruining his surprise iyswim )

Sorry you're feeling rubbish Romeo, I know it doesn't seem like it (or reduce the anxiety at all), but time really does go quickly

That's a toughie Chasing. It would be nice if DH didn't mind you knowing so long as he doesn't find out. I'd be really scared of saying something gender related though! We've decided to find out if we get that far as we both want to know so we can buy little boy or girl stuff and be prepared. Neither of us is much into surprises though!

Glad you found the notes onefoot

Gah bloody name change ishoos.

I think the key here is I need to feel as in control as possible.

Hi all. Sorry some of us are still poorly . I wasn't nauseous yesterday but very tired after a 2 hour round trip to see friends. Nauseous this morning but crumpets have sorted me out - I'm trying to cut down on the bacon butties!
18 weeks here today. I'm sure I've had quite a bit of movement feels like turning - the past week, but then you worry when you don't feel it for a bit!

Can't believe you're 18 weeks already. Does anyone else feel like it's speeding up a bit now? Seems like only 5 minutes ago the days and hours were dragging just after poas.

Wow 18 weeks! Almost at your next scan milestone! I'm a month behind most of you lot (11+5 today going on Wednesdays scan), but definitely feeling like there's light at the end of the tunnel (end of first trimester is looming!) and time does seem to be going faster. Are you all still nauseous? I was kinda hoping it would stop soon...

I remember the 2ww like it was yesterday! Crazy. Feeling like it's slowing down again now but that's due to countdown to scan I think. I imagine after the 20w scan it will just fly by!

Chasing I found my engagement ring just before our weekend away when he proposed and never told anyone until now! He was also chuffed with himself for keeping it a secret so I kept shtum! I think it's gunna be up to you about finding out. Maybe don't tell anybody at all and if you mention a sex it's just a feeling ;)

onefoot great he kept the notes, bet that's a relief! :) also struggling with names here its starting to bug me :( I had a boy and girls name I have loved forever... OH hates both but has agreed the boys name can be extended to a longer name and he is happy with that. One possible girls name... that's it :( I had hoped for a list so we can see how they look when born and then choose!

It definitely speeds up after 20wks!

Does anyone else just feel rubbish.. pretty much daily? If it's not nausea it's like a head fog... or I'm constantly sore. . My back or stomach. I don't remember with dd and I just feel a bit.. huff.

Yes, me! Sickness, headaches, sore clicky hips, constantly knackered, crap skin, bloated and uncomfortable..The list could go on!! There is no glowing pregnant lady here!

Interesting night/morning here. Back pain got progressively worse throughout yesterday and overnight then I woke up in the night with an upset stomach and generally feeling awful. Managed to convince myself it was ectopic. Went to out of hours at 7am and the Dr said he didn't think it was but I didn't feel that reassured so then saw my GP. She examined me and pretty much ruled out ectopic and said it could be my body gearing up to miscarry (no bleeding so far) but she thought it was more likely I had a virus as I felt generally unwell. So feeling a little relieved but still not very positive. I've got a scan at the EPU on Monday but as I'll only be 5+3 and probably not even that as I ovulated late I don't suppose it will tell me much.

Oh Romeo :-(
There is so much going round Atm )I'm a childminder and there is so much d&v and virus' try not to worry)
Do you know you ovulated late? Our epau refuse to scan before 6 weeks- even when they thought ours was ectopic as they said you won't see much at all hopefully you'll be able to see something :-) x

ThanksBarbie, they didn't actually ask the Dr how many weeks I was when she called. I did have a scan with DD at just over 5 weeks though and just saw a blob in the right place. I guess they might get me to back again if the can't see much. Just woken up and I think the pain might be a bit better so fingers crossed.

Ah romeo fx for you. As barbie says there is a lot going round and think we are more susceptible to things when pregnant.

I feel like time is speeding up here too. I've got a feeling it will whizz by after 20 weeks! We are struggling with boys names, neither of us likes the others suggestions. Girls names I think we'll be ok, we have a little list.

yes I'm another who feels like everyday there is something! I'm trying not to bang on as I'm sure DH is thinking what next every time I open my mouth

Romeo sending you a hug and and positive thoughts.

I have cried about about everything today I was crying for that little girl on the final of bgt and coronation street. I need to get a grip.

I am feeling better but I am coughing like a 60 a day smoker, never have I smoked in my life. It has also made me aware of my lack of pelvic floor muscles ??.

Romeo fingers crossed .. I bet it's a bug and beany is ok

Also started coughing like a smoker here too!