Best shit place grads # 2- still pregnant after miscarriage

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Another thread ladies

I understand chasing My last pregnancy (which resulted in miscarriage) was a complete and utter surprise and I think dh was a bit puzzled when I went on this determined ttc rampage. We haven't exactly got lots of money, we've got quite a bit of debt, our boys are 14 and 9 and (at the moment) our house only has 3 bedrooms (and we have no.idea where the money is coming from to make the 4th bedroom!)
It's understandable to get swept along and then realise that it might not be entirely practical, I bet every single one of us can relate to that.

Nothing wrong with having a little wobble.

I was very uncertain my last pregnancy (the mc). Got pg first month and really felt I wasn't ready. This time... I don't know. First I was anxious I would mc. Now I've had a scan, I'm still anxious, but that has been eclipsed slightly by the fact that there are two babies. I have had some really negative thoughts about that. I'm very frightened and doubtful about it.

There's a poas thread in chat. The OP gets a positive and immediately said 'That's that then! I'm having a December baby!'. My immediate thought was that seems a bit overconfident and clearly that OP has never had a miscarriage. And then I felt mean. I guess I'm jealous that her happiness isn't tainted by anything like ours is. I still haven't thought of this pregnancy in terms of definitely having any babies.

I think I'm feeling fairly confident 95% of the time that this baby will be ours, but I feel a bit detached from it all. I felt a moment of .. I dunno.. motherly connection and protection at the scan, but now I'm back to feeling so uncertain and confused.

I really have no idea what I'm feeling. I don't not want this baby. . I think I still can't see/understand that there will be one though.

Thanks ladies!

chasing i think thats totally normal. I felt a massive bond with mc pg because i had no doubt the baby would be fine. Its so much harder when you know what can go wrong to allow yourself to feel so attached to that little bean. X

Im off work again today rang in and told my boss im pg. No point lying anymore! Excessive vomiting and now with blood in! Im sure just cause of all vomiting but think its time to get treatment so the blood will help get an appointment today whereas if i just went for normal vomiting i would have to wait 2 weeks!!

That sounds nasty Amyyy. Glad you are getting that checked ASAP.
I had my own sort of wobble over the weekend. I think the emotional toll of the long wait was just getting to me. This is not helped by the fact that I have developed a noticeable bump and I'm just so nervous that people will notice. I'm wearing loose clothing, but even so, I'm 5"2 and normally 50kg so any change to my shape is not easily absorbed if you see what I mean. The bump doesnt mean anything. Ever since my stomach muscles were shot to pieces by having twins (small frame- ludicrously huge with twins) my "bump" pops out at the slightest excuse, but I'm so conscious at the moment and don't want to be asked any questions.
I mean, what would I say? I'm not sure if I'm pregnant would be the honest answer. I've had bad news at a 12 week scan before, with absolutely no prior indication of anything wrong. So I feel right now that "I don't know" is the correct answer.
I've been feeling better since the sun came out on Monday. It's just ups and downs of mood. Feels like such a long haul.

Wow so much to catch up on :-)
And some fantastic news :-)
Good luck to everyone with scans and congratulations to every one who has had scans

If they haven't said "doesn't look viable" that has to be a good
Sign :-) they were very blunt at 5 weeks about my mc so fingers crossed for you x

MOrning everyone.

I am so sorry that emotions are running a little high for some of you and your OH are not very supportive. But what you have to remember we are all in such a rubbish place atm. Hormones are going mad were all nervous about m/c and the future. We all have our upsets even with our first we question are we ready am I going to be a good mum etc etc. Then the second is will this be fair on the other child how can I love the next as much as I love the first and same goes on with more. But once we get that final confirmation that our little beans have stuck and we see 5fingers and 5 toes the OH attitude will change and within time so will yours. We always cope always and this new addition will be loved so much by you mummys. Chin up lovely ladies it will all work out trust me :) .

Oh no Amyyy27 that dont sound like much fun. Rest up hun and get yourself check i'm sure all is ok.

Barbiedoll79 Thanks for reassurance hun. Didnt sleep very well last night got to wait until Friday week its agonising. But she said looked good for my Ges Sac measurements like the sac and yolk were not measuring out of 5 weeks it was not bigger than it should of been so no false pregnancy or sac growing and baby not. So I will just have to be patient and any pains I will take myself back.. But as we know either way theres nothing I can do about it, its just the not knowing.

It my DD birthday tomorrow so throwing all my focus into her for the next few days. Hoping the week goes quick next week and see a heartbeat on the scan :).

Big hug guys xxx

amyyy I hope you can get some anti sickness drugs!

keys keeping busy sounds a good idea.

I find it strangely comforting others have the same worries.

I'm feeling rough today. I woke at 4 am and couldn't get back to sleep after an hour of trying coz OH was snoring, so I ended up sleeping on the sofa for 2 hours. I went back to bed when he got up til 9.

I feel a bit better for a bacon butty now though.

Hows everyone else?

Had my booking in this morning. Still doesn't feel real. And if it is, how the fuck am I going to cope with twins?

DD seems to have started potty training. I was going to wait until spring when it's warmer but she decided she wants pants now. Can't really be bothered to put any effort in though. Is it bad just to let her get on with it and let her wear pants if she wants and let her wear nappies of she wants? She's 2.5.

Thank you all! Doctor has said hyperemesis! Have been given tablets if i want to take them and he wants me off work so sick note for 1 week and have to go back in next week to see if any improvement although he said i can expect another 4 weeks of this :( and bed rest! Oh and have to take urine sample in to check for infection.

I think if she's ready all she needs is encouragement from you so let her get on with it :)

Amyy I'm not surprised, from your posts you were being vvvv sick. Will you take the tablets? I hope they help.

I'm currently on a newborn job and am sat in sunshine cuddling a 7 week old. Ahhh.

I think you should let her try pants. The most important thing with potty training is the willingness of the child to cooperate, in my opinion, so I wouldn't want to waste her enthusiasm. She may lose interest in a few days, but that's ok too.
I have always been quite relaxed about potty training. I have found that if you catch the right moment they pretty much train themselves, and it's all done in a week or two. But I've been willing to take a temporary step back to nappies too, if it didn't work out the first time.

She's been in pants today and yesterday so I've just let her. No big accidents, just one little dribble. She does seem to need reminding to go though but I guess that's ok.
Haven't convinced her to do a poo in the potty yet...

Hello all

amyy glad you've been to the doctors and glad you are signed off. You can't function when you feel that bad.

Another one who had a bad night sleep, despite being tired I struggle to sleep at the moment. We've just booked a holiday for June so something to look forward to. Just hope all goes well so we can really enjoy it!!

I'm I'm a and e with bleeding had bloods taken waiting for results :( so worried this could be the end of this little beams journey. Very :(.

Oh keys. I'm thinking of you. Xx

MsJ are you here my love?

How are you doing keys? I would imagine they can't tell you too much as it is still to early to see heartbeat on scan. Thinking if you. Is it a lot of bleeding?

Also still thinking of you MsJ if you are out there.

Sorry you're in A & E keys. Fx its unexplained bleeding and alls fine. But we all know that that positivity is hard to find.

guy it sounds like dd is doing well! We had some in between washable undies for ds when we started going out during potty training. Enough to stop the wet soaking trousers but time to get somewhere to change.

I hope you finally get some respite amyyy

Hi guy, if she's keen go with it, a friend of mines daughter was the same, she said she wanted pants and was practically potty trained within a week. Wish my almost 4 year old was that good- we're still having accident after 18 months of training

Amyyy - glad you have got the meds and are singed off. Hope you manage to get enough respite from the sickness to put your feet up x

Thinking of you keys - hope you get some answers soon and it's just a minor blip x

Thanks everyone! Im so scared to take tablets though i just don't think i can unless i get to 2nd tri and still poorly.

keys im sorry for the bleeding. Hope all is ok but i know you must be worried. Any updates?

MsJ also thinking of you

keys hope everything is ok?

and yes msj hope you are doing ok too.

Morning guys.

So far little bean is sticking :). The bleed was outside my uterus had an infection. I didn't get another scan but my cervix is closed and my hcg blood level is very very very high they said. No sign of m/c or baby not developing as hcg were so high. It would be low if baby was bit developing.

still long way to go and just counting down the days until my next scan next Friday but all looks good.

Thanks for well wishes guys. Hope you all have a lovely day. Xxx

Great news keys!

Yay keys!

Grrrr rang my boss to te him what doc said yesterday and his half of the call was "Hi...Right...Right...Bring your sick note next week.... Right bye" and hung up on me! Is it my hormones or should i be pissed off? Not to even ask of im ok or 'get well soon' . Its totally pissed me off!!