Best shit place grads # 2- still pregnant after miscarriage

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Another thread ladies

Welcome Indy - congratulations on your scan that fab news when you get a heartbeat x

Sasha - I'll join a new board. technically I'm still in limbo but pretty sure I will be joining you on the testing and TTC front soon xx

Just caught up with the news. Congrats to those with good scans and so sorry to hear about the sad news for others. I'll join you on an alternative thread Sasha.

Hugs sasha I hope today goes as well as it can.

Aww sasha my heart goes out to you. Hope today goes as well as can be. I really hope you get some anseers so we can see you back here shortly x

Welcome indy I'm a few days behind you im 7+3. I've had 2 mc one at 6 weeks one at 8 weeks. Both times no hb was detected this time like you I've seen little beans hb and all sems really good I however worry sick everyday just like you from stretching cramps to not feeling as sick or boobies not as sore for a few hours. Our 13 week scan seems like ages away as well. i totally agree with guy I stumbled across this forum and the support on here for one another is amazing. Good luck hun. Just out of intrest when u mc at 10 weeks had the baby stopped growing earlier on than 10 weeks or did u find out at your 13 week scan and baby had stop growing at 10 weeks?

glenpip will it be next Thursday for your scan again? Really feel for u to be given this glimmer of hope when deep down you know. :(. It's horrible being stuck in limbo I remember it well the days seemed like weeks and the weeks seemed like months.

Hope everyone is well today. Xxx

Sorry sasha just caught up on page km so so sorry huni my heart goes out to you as well I can't imagine what your going through right now as mine come away naturally. I'm so so sorry I wish I could make it better for you :( big hugs xxx

You will have another child hun my friend had about 5-6 mc before she feel with her 1st I remember going over to her all the time now she's pregnant again had mc inbetween these two unfortunately sometimes there's no explanation but I so hope your back with us soon and u get answers xxx

Sorry was meant to say had no mc inbetween xx

Thanks everyone! I didn't realise that the chances increased that much now we've seen HB, that's reassuring.
Keys - the last MC I had a private scan at 9+5 as I didn't feel right but my DH was desperate to tell our little girl about the baby. At the scan the lady asked if we were sure about the dates as she could see something but not what she'd expect to see. Next morning I started bleeding. As it was a Sunday I couldn't get a scan at epau so by Monday the mc was almost complete. So never saw a HB with that one so maybe was never there?
I understand what you mean about cramps and stretchy pains, everything makes you completely paranoid all the time. Hopefully the next few months will get better if everything's ok

Sasha your post just made me cry,I've been there and my ds is 2.10 and loves babies right now and asks if we can take one home from the childminders each day. Heartbreaking, sending you my love.

Oh sasha, I hope today goes as well as possible for you, and it can be the first step towards the start of your recovery from this.

Welcome indy, I'm 7 weeks on the dot today. I know what you mean about worrying over every twinge - Time seems to be going backwards! Great news about your scan, here's hoping for an uneventful 8 months.

I've been having some right sided abdominal pains, not too severe, but just quite persistent (on and off for a week or so). I also woke up with a sore shoulder in the night (though I could have just been lying on it funny). I'm now worrying that it could be ectopic. Any thoughts about whether I should call the GP? Or am I just being paranoid? I do have endometriosis, so abdo pain is not unusual for me.

Oh sasha :-( bless your heart we are all thinking of you at such a horrid time

Bristolian I think it's always better to get checked I have had this every time I've carried (thankfully never has been ectopic) but if over 6 weeks the gp usually refers you to epau for a scan to check everything is in the right place... Obviously you then have to be prepared for a waiting game but for us it is more reassuring knowing all in the right place and it is what detected my mmc otherwise we wouldn't have know till 12 weeks potentially x

chasing can tell you more about ectopic but I think the pain with ectopic is very severe if it reaches the shoulder pain point (as the shoulder pain relates to a ruptured tube and internal bleeding).
No harm in getting an early scan if any doubt though.

sasha will be thinking of you today. You are a very brave lady and you will get your baby. You will. There is so much that can be done these days. Make sure you just rest up and take as much time as you need off work - put yourself first.

glenpip so sorry to read you are in limbo. That's just rubbish. :(

Welcome indy. I think early pregnancy is a really fraught time especially when you've experienced an MC. But we are all here to support and help stay sane!

bristolian hope you are ok.

Thinking of those of you having a tough time.

I've booked a private reassurance scan for tomorrow. My 12wk scan was actually at 10 and it seemed such along wait till my next appointment at 15weeks that I needed something in between to keep me sane.
I've been feeling pretty positive recently but of a sudden I'm back to being anxious. Scan is at 9:20 in the morning so at least not too long to wait

Good luck for your scan tomorrow north!

Just rang the hospital to check my scan date ( as i am so anxious!) And they havent even received the bloody referral yet!! The midwife told me she would do it on Monday afternoon but according to hospital they dont have it and midwives always bring them in on a weekend so may know by next Wednesday. And seen as though they then have to post out the date i think all hope for a scan next week is lost and im worried i wont get one the week after either!! :( i know i am being whingy for little reason sorry i am just so scared and really hoped to have my date to count down to!!

Good luck for tomorrow north. Hope all is well.

That's so annoying amyy. Hopefully you'll get a date to countdown to in the next 2 weeks.

Bristolian please get checked asap. I had hardly any pain with my ectopic. . Shoulder tip pain comes on once your tube has ruptured so you'd know about it. The earlier it's caught the better chances of not needing surgery and almost definitely losing a tube. .

Call epu.. lay it on a bit thick about the pain and get scanned asap. Xxxx

Amy that's mega annoying. DH and I have had to rebook ours cos of work and it's now 3 weeks away. How will I last 3 more weeks! Gah.

Thanks genni and chasing and how shitty an extra week :( how far will you be then?

Thanks for the advice ladies... I'm going to put it down to being over-anxious for now . Just realised I said I'm 7 weeks when I'm actually 6! Talk about wishing my life away!

Amy that is really frustrating! Hope you get your date through soon.

Oh man... Now I've read your message chasing I'm more worried. Maybe I'll just call the GP...

Thanks bristolian! Didnt see your post sorry i had exactly the same at the same time just woke one morning with a painful shoulder. In my case i thought i was overreacting so left it a day and when i woke up the following day it was gone. However, that was just me and i think if you are worried a quick call to the midwives wouldnt harm. Hope all is ok :)

They take ectopics seriously. The first signs of anything usually show around 6 weeks on average, though some women get to 8, usually by which point they are at serious risk of rupturing. The only thing that confirmed mine was very bizarre hcg tests .. (some here will remember the epic drama that lasted weeks on end!) And eventually a series of progressively more painful internal scans in which they found a 'suspicious mass' in my tube. It was tiny and although the first round failed my 2nd round of methotrexate worked. It was emotionally awful and drawn out.. but ultimately my tube was saved and I escaped surgery. This pregnancy came from the opposite ovary..

With my ectopic the only things that led me to get help was the sudden v strong tests that should have been neg, and I had a day where I was struggling with dizzyness and just felt, awful.. I had a few cramps but they were so mild and only slightly more to one side.

No one would listen to me and I knew it was wrong.. when I noticed how much more interested he was when I mentioned the cramping to one side I massively played it up and was scanned immediately.

I hold a lot of hurt and resentment. No one wanted to help me.. no one would listen. Who knows what could have happened to me.

I know how easy it is to think it's probably not a brush it off- hell even after all the scans and bloods I kept wondering if they were all just wrong somehow. I felt ok.. if I just went home and slept it would all go away- .. I'd much much much rather you play it up and get seen and have it be 'pointless ' and get to see a healthy bean, than miss it and lose a tube or get seriously poorly in a fortnight. X