We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

Aah, do they tori? That's interesting, I hope so. I did the Antony Nolan cord blood donation with dd and it was such a fantastic feeling being able to donate and especially because it didn't even effect dd or I by doing so. I'll still be able to do that this time, do you think, even if I delay clamping? Hope so. The Nolan nurse made me cry when she came by to say thank you after they'd taken it and assessed my blood last time.

Do they discuss these things at NCT classes? I have no idea about any of these options and whilst I'm not going to have a birth plan as such I wouldn't like to not do something like donate for a good cause just because I didn't understand it all.

Today's two worries I have are at polar opposites my trivial worry is flipping Kate's choice of name - our top option for a girl is flirting around as a bookies favourite and one of the reasons I liked it was because it wasn't top ten - stay away from the name Kate

The other worry is like others I have an anterior placenta and it's really getting me down I can't feel the baby, I wouldn't say I have had anything I can definitely say was a kick or a punch and I'm 22 weeks. Everything I feel I'm just not sure it may be gas. I know I should probably be grateful as baby has always been a little mover at scans so I could be getting battered by the movements but it's just disconcerting to not be able to tell if my baby is ok or not.

broody and tori they delay cord clamping at my hospital too as standard (unless for whatever reason they can't) I can't donate though as I am in Norfolk.

cava 22 weeks is still early to have any sort of movement pattern, especially with an anterior placenta. Also for ages I didn't really 'believe' it was baby and not gas until I saw my belly move.

As for Kate.... Am I the only one who doesn't care if she uses my 'girls name'? Did no-one call their little boy George after the prince was born? It's not like I have come up with the worlds most original name and even if Kate and will choose it, it will not stop it meaning something to me and my family. Plus my baby is (hopefully) 3 months away so no-one will think I am 'copying' by then

Hi cava, our NCT class didn't cover cord blood donation or delayed clamping. For the former, it was a little leaflet in the bumf my mw gave me at my booking in appt. you can read about it here though. Only issue is that you can currently only donate at a few hospitals.

www.nhsbt.nhs.uk/cordblood/howtodonate/wherecanidonate/

Re delayed clamping, I didn't know it was an option until I'd already had dd. It's so hard because mw only has so much time for appts and stuff to cover off like blood test, fundal height, heartbeat check etc and so I don't think mine would offer loads of advice because she's just assuming we would do antenatal classes or not have any questions about our birth preferences. Problem is, if you don't do classes or your teacher doesn't cover off every option available, you won't know! Google and MN should probably show many options though, so maybe then you could read up and discuss with your mw while she's taking blood or measuring you?

thesmallbear and ToriB, thank you for your replies. I bought a star charm for my bracelet when I had my first MC. I'm in two minds about doing anything on the day as I want to avoid getting fixed on it, for me I think it's better to be looking forwards. I went out with friends last nght and got questioned about being pg as I wasn't drinking, I told them that we were trying and would have some exciting news soon.

Amen to that happy!! I could not give a monkeys if they called their baby Alice and if that was our chosen girls name too. There's only so many names without going completely off the wall and as long as you like it, dp/dh likes it, who cares? Unlikely that every girl in your dd's class will share the exact same name isn't it?

happy you are right! I have also just read another thread on it and the consensus was that George didn't dramatically rise last time so I'm just being an idiot

With the movement I need to keep that in perspective, I've been doing really well for a few weeks so maybe I'm just having a "worry weekend" my rational side will reappear shortly hopefully!

Sorry if I sounded defensive lol! It's just that I had 3 people text me yesterday asking what I would do if Kate 'stole' my name.

fifi my due date was 20th April for my mc pregnancy and Kate's pregnancy was announced the day I found out about my mc. But I think because my step sister had her baby last week, that now Kate doesn't bother me too much. It can be hard though. Big hugs xxx

I've just read the link on cord donation and my hospital isn't one of the ones that does it which is a shame.

I'm glad I've now heard about delayed clamping, will definitely discuss with midwife.

Off to Sorrento in the morning for our last abroad holiday before baby comes, think that's why I've been worrying about stuff as I'm changing my usual routine of sofa, sleep, eat, bed

fifi the things I did to mark my first mc I didn't do at the due date. I did make sure I had time and safe space that day to fall apart if I needed it though. Due date for 2nd one is later this month and I've no idea whether I'll do anything. Hope you can find the way to deal with it that's best for you.

I'm interested to hear that delayed cord clamping is now the norm - I've no idea whether it happened with my small person, I wasn't very with it at the time (and was flat on my back in theatre with my legs in stirrups!) but I suspect it wasn't delayed. Mind you I have no memory of the placenta being delivered so who knows....

We're going to be going public this week (which ends up meaning way more public than I would like but such is the nature of my job) and I'm already anticipating the 'that's a big gap' and 'we thought you must have decided to stop at one' type comments (it'll be a just over 4 year gap if all goes well). Any suggestions for responses that will be politer than 'sod off it's none of your business' but have the same effect of shutting people up? Very few people know about the mcs and at the moment I want to leave it that way.

tori, are you an east midlander by any chance then? (Reading your "both hospitals" comment).

You can also donate cord blood through Antony Nolan at St. Mary's in Manchester, kings college in London and the leicester royal and leicester general.

Aaah a fellow leicester lass! I'm at the royal again. Parking is a bloody nightmare there so I was in two minds about going to the general this time but we've moved to a village near the big deer park so the general would be too far away in labour I think.

Hello ladies, can I join you? Happy to recognise so many names from the miscarriage threads last year! Congrats!

Greysar, 29, no dc, TTC for 20 months now, had a mmc diagnosed at 12 week scan in Jan 14. Got 1-2 weeks on a Clearblue digi on Friday and am now absolutely terrified of miscarrying again, but DH is very overexcited at the prospect of a mini-me early next year...

Stick it's very reassuring to hear from someone ethos had two MC's who's pregnant again. Good luck with the announcement this week. I'd perhaps deflect negative comments by either saying that you'd planned the age gap or saying that it hadn't been as smooth a road to #2 as your hoped.
Sunbathing I can completely understand what you mean, I questionned in my head for weeks afterwards whether they'd missed the HB before my ERPC. It was only by having my second MC that I realised that they were right. I didn't keep the scan pictures as I really didn't want yo look at them.
Fantastic to hear that you're 34 weeks, how exciting, not long to go now! X
Congratulations Greysar!