We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

Good luck ladies :)

Hi Everyone, and good luck to the due date ladies!

I have a question.... I am approaching my first due date on the 20th April. Strangely enough I have a scan on that day. I currently feel very 'OK' with everything. My MC was a blighted ovum so it was over before it even began so there wasn't actually a baby, so I find it difficult to mourn. I am feeling more ok I think because I am 20 weeks preg and will be 24 weeks on the 20th April. However I feel I should 'do' something.

I am visiting Ely cathedral the week before with my mum and although I am not totally religious i have thought about lighting a candle and saying a little prayer.

I thought about buying a plant but I am an awful gardener so I would be mortified if I bought a special plant and then it died.

My step sister will be giving birth around the same time, but she is up in the lake district and I am in Suffolk and have already mentioned I am not 'up' to the journey right now as I would have to go alone because my OH is saving his leave for the baby. 6 hours is a looooong drive for a weekend especially with baby brain.

Woo-hoo littlemissy & florence how exciting! Best of luck, will be dying to hear news from you.

happy I reached my previous due date at 21 weeks. I expected it to be a lot harder than it was (which was probably due to having my successful 20 week scan just before), plus my dp doesn't really want to talk about the miscarraige, so I bought a lovely bunch of flowers for myself (& lost baby) & tried to be positive about the future. However I have read lots of great ideas from ladies here, who I'm sure they'll share with you xxx

happy the candle sounds nice. What about a walk somewhere nice? I know some people have bought special jewellery to wear or had a picture made. I have passed three due dates now and still haven't really done anything but would still like to do something to honour the lost ones. I did plant lots of cheerful flowers after mc3. Like you I was worried about a single special plant so hedged my bets. They were more about brightening the place up than marking the loss though.

I have to say, reaching kg due date wasnt as bad as i expected but was upsetting.
We just had a toast to our lost baby, it was xmas eve.

Having a bit of a panic today. I've been having sharp wind pains since last night.
I'm pretty sure they're wind pains as they're worse when I sit on the toilet and have mostly been around my lower stomach, back and bottom.
Still wondering whether maybe I'm ignoring something I shouldnt be?
14+4 today.

Yay to more babies on their way soon. There'll be another stats update before we know it

I bought a nice candle from the White Company on my due date, lit it and had a moment. I can light it again whenever I think of my baby or to mark significant dates. I also have a bush in a big plant pot, which I bought shortly after I MC'd. I had medical management and actually passed the sac whole, so I buried it in the plant pot. There was no foetus, as the foetal pole absorbed back into my body (the baby didn't develop properly), but I didn't feel right having the sac incinerated like the hospital offered. I was told it would be 'respectfully' incinerated, but I'd watched an Amanda Holden documentary not too long before about early pregnancy tissue being incinerated with the clinical waste. I'm sure it would have been 'respectful' incineration, but I felt uncomfortable in light of the documentary. P.s. the practice of incinerating with the clinical waste no longer happens, so I really don't want to worry anyone by writing this.

Treacle - it's probably just wind like you say, but ring your midwife if you're worried.

She's not easy to get hold of smallbear :(
Think I'll just mention it to the doctor when I go.
I really thought I'd be reassured after the dating scan... naive me!

Tori it's so true! Once upon a time I thought that after 12wks I'd stop fretting. Hardly! 16wk heartbeat and 20wk scan bought me about five minutes peace each. Can't feel much movement at 22wks really, but trying not to panic. I think he moves at night and wakes me slightly, might be dreaming!

I am currently in a lull of my panic as I had my scan last night at 16 weeks and all was well, hurrah! Baby was really active and think we have a real wriggler. It was really lovely actually felt really like the bean looked like a baby and I just wanted to cuddle him/her. We decided not to find out the sex, leave a little excitement for the end.

Let's see if I can make it to 20 weeks remaining positive!!

Phew, I am glad it's not just me.
I even talked about booking a gender scan before my 21+2 scan just to ease the worry in between.
I just worry about what other people will say though.

Glad you're feeling reassured cava :)

Thanks Tori, i might have to.
Still cramping tonight but I'm pretty sure it's wind. It's just so worrying.
I wish I could just be relaxed but I'm not that person!

treacle at 15 weeks I was at the doctors with tummy ache and it turned out to be wind/stretching/constipation. Between now and 20 weeks baby kicks up the growing a gear so you stretch a lot I guess. If you are worried though go see a GP. What your experience sounds like the normal joys of pregnancy though xxx

That's reassuring happy, thank you.
It seems to be all low down on both sides and my bottom so guess I've just got to try and get it moving somehow.

treacle I have had dull cramping and my friends all say its normal growing pains but yes I thought I was going to go mad if I had to wait till 20 weeks. I paid for a fairly basic one as I thought I might get another at 28 weeks if I need to.

I found ginger beer helped with trapped wind early on if that's any use to try?

Ooo thanks cava, I'll give it a try.

Good morning all. I have to go for a glucose tolerance test this morning, as there was sugar in my wee at my last two midwife appointments. The appointment is at 9.45 and I haven't been able to eat anything since 9pm last night. They will take my blood and then give me a sugary drink. I then have to sit on a chair for two hours (I'm not allowed to go for a walk or anything), and then they will come and take my blood again to see how I've reacted to the glucose. Better pack my i-pod and a magazine! I'm not going to be able to eat till about midday so will by Miss Grumpy Pants.

Treacle - who cares what others will think or say. If they'd been through what you've been through, they'd understand. If you really think people are going to be judgmental, just don't tell them about the extra scans. I think I posted on here at about 14 weeks worrying about pains, so maybe it's just normal stretching at this stage. Hope you manage to put your mind at rest

Thanks smallbear, you're right.
I think I've decided that there's no point til we can tell the gender so ive got at least a week and a half to wait but at least it's a smaller countdown than 6 and a half weeks.

Good luck with your test today, doesn't sound like much fun!!!

Sitting in the waiting room . The woman sitting next to me has an attractive love bite on her neck - classy!

Small I had that. It wasn't so bad as it turned out my hospital has installed wifi and I had my work laptop with me. Hunger was the worst bit (and the fact I tested positive for gd - boo). But you can have glucose in your wee for innocuous reasons so hope you don't.

Longest and Smallbear I have this on the 28th May. I have booked the whole day off work because I am guessing I will feel like crap after 12+ hours with only half a lucozade to keep me going! Do you find out the results immediately? I have a MW appointment on the same day so do they discuss your results or do you not find out until days later?

My MIL is coming with me in case I get a migraine (highly likely) so hopefully the time will fly.

Fx that everything is ok Smallbear but if you have GD it is best that they know about it and can advise you accordingly xxx

happy - the lefleat which came with my appointment letter says that I will get a phone call if there's a positive result. Feeling tired and grumpy now!