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Gr33dyeggs · 2015-03-04T19:27:48+00:00

So heres a thread. Hope you all find it! Congrats we've made it this far [wine] My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch. Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

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northdownmummy · 02/04/2015 09:37

I'm a big fan of breakfast in bed. I keep a Tupperware of dry cornflakes beside the bed, having a nibble before getting up really helps me

fromwesttoeast · 02/04/2015 09:48

That's good news Guy. Mine were also separate placentas and both babies grew well and to a good size. So outlook seems good to me.

gennibugs · 02/04/2015 09:51

Good luck today wispy.

amyy sorry you still feel so poorly. I'm glad the soya milk seems to be helping though. I think it's understandable to feel that way about your scan - I know I did.

chasing I can't imagine the minack would be any good at all for nausea!

I've been wearing those bands too- having to keep the covered at work though! No idea if they are helping or not...

Amyyy27 · 02/04/2015 11:44

Thanks everyone, unfortunately its got so bad that the moment i wake before even opening my eyes i feel the need to be sick. Luckily this soya milk is working wonders and im even starting to get a bit of an apetite! So will try and get something food in me while i can!

chasingtherainbow · 02/04/2015 12:14

Guy was it you that had a strong line at 11dpo and I said I thought it was twins?

Amyy you sound just like how I was with dd. I was hospitalised in the end for 3 days.
Icepops and dry crackers.

I'm 7+3 and definitely feel that the sickness will start v soon. So far it's just been intense nausea and gagging. I've only managed an hour out of bed everyone else has gone to the beach.

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onefootinthebed · 02/04/2015 20:50

Who have you told?

I have told my husband,all you and my lovely doctor and the nurse in the fertility clinic. I havn't told my parents oranyone else im scared of telling people. I don't want to tell people incase they think "oh here we go again" . In my heart I know my mum won't really think that ,I also know she would be sad if she knew I didn't tell her I was worried.

I know my sister probably would though,infact she would prob say it though.

What's made me think about this is I was in Costa today I was just having an ice cooler when I overheard a woman telling her friends,I admit I wanted to cry I was so jealous of her. This was me with my first and 2nd pregnancy,I can't believe how niaeve I was then . I also feel like a horrid person for begrudgingly not letting people have abit of happiness.

onefootinthebed · 02/04/2015 20:56

Who have you told?

I have told my husband,all you and my lovely doctor and the nurse in the fertility clinic. I havn't told my parents oranyone else im scared of telling people. I don't want to tell people incase they think "oh here we go again" . In my heart I know my mum won't really think that ,I also know she would be sad if she knew I didn't tell her I was worried.

I know my sister probably would though,infact she would prob say it though.

What's made me think about this is I was in Costa today I was just having an ice cooler when I overheard a woman telling her friends,I admit I wanted to cry I was so jealous of her. This was me with my first and 2nd pregnancy,I can't believe how niaeve I was then . I also feel like a horrid person for begrudgingly not letting people have abit of happiness.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 02/04/2015 20:57

Told my parents, a couple of close colleagues and a couple of close friends. I'm a fairly open person and find life much easier if things are out in the open. I find it difficult keeping something secret when it's something i need support with from the people i love. Haven't told anyone who I would be uncomfortable telling if I mc though.

onefootinthebed · 02/04/2015 20:57

Ooh double post sorry ladies .

chasingtherainbow · 02/04/2015 21:06

Dh agreed we wouldn't shout it from the rooftops and no fb announcement but it isn't a secret and we will enjoy telling people in person when the moments arise and enjoy seeing them happy for us.. they were all so sad for us and it's nice seeing how people genuinely care and sharing happy news.

wispywoo1 · 02/04/2015 21:25

Thanks for the well wishes. Scan went well. We saw the heartbeat and even have a little picture. We met with the midwife and did the booking in appointment. Turns out I'm just under what I was expecting. About 6+5. Thought I'd ovulate earlier but that fits with period date perfectly. We're both really excited but I'm still quite nervous. Now believing my body and accepting that I'm not imagining nausea etc!
When I mc last time they think it had stopped at 5 weeks so I'm taking today as a good sign.

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Gr33dyeggs · 02/04/2015 21:37

Great news wispy!

Only myself, OH and a colleague who was rather concerned about me know. I don't really want to worry my mum and I think she would disapprove anyway. I was going to tell her today but I didn't get her alone.

Because I'm unable to get excited, I'm not sure I can manage others excitement iysyim?

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epskie · 02/04/2015 22:24

Hi everybody, I have only told sister and mam so far, I don't think I'll tell any body else until I know everything is ok (fx)

When did you all ring the doctors to book in with the midwife? I can't imagine going in that horrible little room again! :-(

Also, does any body find themselves with a lazy dh? We live in a big old house and dc' s rooms are right at the top. I must've been up and down those stairs about 25 times tonight while dh watched the telly! This is ordinary for us but given what happened last time I was hoping he might be a bit more chivalrous! Not that I want to be one of those ' fragile' pregnant women, but I'm sure you all see what I mean.

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Gr33dyeggs · 02/04/2015 23:15

That must be frustrating epskie.

I am actually most surprised how helpful OH is being. Considering it's my 'request' for another child and he has many reservations, he has been great entertaining our ds and picking up the house work I'm not coz I'm feeling so tired . I fully expected 'your choice, deal with it'. I completely underestimate him

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epskie · 03/04/2015 06:03

Totally and utterly confused and a bit scared now! I've had 5bfp's this week some faint but definitely there) I've just done a clearblue digital - 'not pregnant' can anybody give me any advice please? I'm 18dpo and 4days late for af, feel so gutted.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 03/04/2015 06:45

epskie I think digis are known for being quite inaccurate / not very sensitive. What kind of tests were your bfps on? Are they still positive?
I know it's insanely stressful but there's nothing you can really do but wait a few days.
We're all in limbo for this first few weeks. It's so much harder than the tww.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 03/04/2015 06:47

My DH is really good generally. Frankly the way I see it, he can do a bit of extra childcare while I'm exhausted and sick. He doesn't get a choice. I'm doing 24 hour childcare for two babies in my uterus so he can do a few night time wake ups with it first baby.

epskie · 03/04/2015 06:56

Thanks guy I've had positives on cheapies from the pound shop, superdrug and frer. Darkest lines on superdrug and frer, very faint lines on pound shop cheapies. A line but faint on cheapie last night. What're your thoughts? I might go and get some superdrug ones today. Utterly deflated right now

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 03/04/2015 07:13

Cheapies didn't give me a bfp until well after missed period whereas clearblue was strong positive at 10dpo.
I would do maybe a frer and then try and leave it for a few days. You've had positives, you are pregnant and there isn't anything to suggest otherwise.

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Gr33dyeggs · 03/04/2015 07:31

I think you'll drive yourself crazy not knowing so perhaps get a supermarket / superdrug one. If you've no reason to see for a drop perhaps its a dodgy one?

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epskie · 03/04/2015 07:36

Thanks ladies, I'm going to go and get some superdrug ones today. A little google research seems to show this as quite a common problem for people with digital tests.

Amyyy27 · 03/04/2015 09:09

epskie i agree go get another superdrug or frer to put your mind at rest and forget about the digis! And give your DH a kick up the backside!!

Great news wispy!!

Barbiedoll79 · 03/04/2015 09:13

Wipsy that's fantastic news :-) congratulations

Epskie I had exactly the same- only showed on the cheaper ones for about 1 and a half weeks before the clearblue, I just bought more cheap ones in the meantime for peace of mind- I booked a gp appointment and they said I wasn't pregnant and I cried my eyes out but came home did another test and I still was (then I found out that digital ones and gp ones tend to need a higher concentration of the hormone than the cheap ones!)
I'm now over 7 weeks with twins- stupid gp

A bfp is a bfp congratulations :-) x

chasingtherainbow · 03/04/2015 09:25

Well the sickness is well and truly here.

Just vommed instantly over someone's breakfast on fb.

Epskie I'm sorry the digi is making you worry. Your hcg could be a normal but slow riser, I reckon a super concentrated pee in two days time would get you a digi confirm. X