We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #2

[Treaclepie19]

For all the lovely ladies who are pregnancy after miscarriage! :)

Mines definitely worst in the evening sunbathing.
Very painful too!

The Doctors verdict is........A mix of constipation and ligaments! As expected really. Now on 15ml of lactulose 3 times a day. She says that where my pain is and because I get 'shooting' pains that only last a few seconds that it isn't anything to do with baby directly. So she wasn't worried and I feel better about it all. She had recently had a baby herself and said 'just wait until you are near the end and leaking from everywhere'.... the glamours of pregnancy. She didn't want to try and listen to the hb because she said she doesn't do it regularly enough and baby is still small (15+3) and didn't want me to panic when there is nothing to panic about

That's good happy :)

I dunno how much lactulose I'm meant to have. She said see how I go and add more if I need to but I'm sure she only said once a day. No wonder it's doing nothing.

Well treacle it is basically sugar syrup so no harm upping a bit, just be careful not to up too much in one go as it may make things a bit... Ahem... Violent? I was on twice a day 12-15mls but I have to wash it down straight away as it now knocks me sick! I Just take it like a shot with a juice chaser

Thanks happy, I'll up my dose a bit.
It makes me feel sick too.

Getting nervous about my private scan tomorrow.
How stupid is that? Being nervous about something I've booked to reassure me.

Treacle - I was nervous before my private scan too. And before my 12 week scan I was almost in tears in the waiting room, even though I'd had a reassurance scan a few weeks earlier. It's all normal after an MC I think. The worry does start to ease over time though (although hasn't gone away completely yet).

21 weeks today

Thanks ladies :)
smallbear, yay to 21 weeks!

I feel pretty rubbish tonight. Started heaving again which hasn't happened for a week or so.
I dunno whether it's pregnancy nausea, cus im so constipated or weird side effect from my flu jab.
DH cooking dinner as I'm starving but heaving at the smell.

Hi gang!

I've been awol for almost a week due to a lot of visitors and a deadline in work, so I've just caught up.

Maverick I'm so so sorry to hear your news. I hope you're being very kind to yourself and get the care you need.

Baby wonderful news and congratulations on your little bundle of joy. I'm so so pleased for you.

Hope everyone else is doing ok. huge welcome to newbies. Good luck tomorrow treacle

for me, I'm beginning to feel very pregnant- I feel huge, not sleeping at night with aches and pains (which is fine, I'm not complaining I'd take any ache or sleepless nights any day to be pregnant). I saw my mw this week and we heard the heartbeat, but yet my mind still isn't quite at ease.......A lot of blood when I wiped this morning hasn't helped- it was definitely 'from the back' but still, not a pleasant sight! dp is pushing for us to start buyinh things....I suppose I better!

Today we're pregnant

Has anyone had a 4D scan? Is it worth the money? I'd quite like a second opinion on the sex at some point as the sonographer didn't completely convince me and I thought a 4D scan might be fun.

I'm so sorry Maverick. It's so fucking unfair.

I got through yesterday successfully, so this pregnancy is lasting longer than my last two.

Took another Clearblue today and it's still saying pregnant 1-2 weeks. I know the conception bit is unreliable and hormone levels vary, but I was so hoping to see 2-3 weeks today. I don't know whether it's worth waiting a few more days to do the one I had left, or just accept that I have no control and leave it alone. I'd wibble no matter what the test says.

Is anyone else in the very early stages? I'm symptom spotting like mad and when anything lessens, I panic. My boobs haven't quite been so pregnant-feeling today and I didn't gag when I cleaned my teeth this morning, like I did yesterday morning. Therefore, brain = panic! This is despite having to suddenly unzip my coat earlier because it touched my neck and made me feel really odd and like I wanted to gag, which is a pregnancy symptom for me. I had it with DS.

Just... How do you get through each day without going completely insane? How?

treacle, it's not stupid to worry at all. I was in floods of tears at my 12 week scan but I'd taken sunbathing's advice and was going to tell the sonographer I'd mc and was nervous - as it was, thankfully, she had my notes and had read them and said she would tell me immediately when she saw the heartbeat.

somesort, errrr, I don't get through the day and I definitely show signs of craziness dally. Tbh, i have no idea how I've not been sectioned already. 18+3 and still on knicker watch, panicking about still being sick and why am I not being sick the next day, feeling nauseous one moment and not feeling nauseous the next, why I can sometimes eat chocolate when other times I heave at the smell, why the folk on my an thread are having kicks and pokes when I've not felt hardly anything yet.... It sends you even crazier than you think is possible, this pregnancy lark! Most of all, I'm pissed off that mc has ripped the enjoyment and innocence of pg from me

Somesort, I'd leave the testing. I had to stop myself trying to get the 3+ as I'd decided because my 2-3 weeks was late it would be the same as last time when I miscarried.
I'm 9+4 and absolutely crazy still.

Thanks broody, I'm just feeling a bit like we shouldn't have bothered because then I'd be pregnant for longer.
Obviously if all is going wrong it'd be better to know on advance but I'm a bit insane :p

somesort I echo Broody's thoughts....I don't know how I haven't been sectioned either. There's soooo much to worry about, and one worry just replaces the other. But, somehow time does pass...slowly. I'd also leave the testing, especially the digital tests, I never trusted them, actually I was too afraid to use them. Try find distractions.....

I might try learning to crochet again. I started and really enjoyed it, but lost my hooks in a house move (which means I have them and they'll turn up in the most random place in about five years ). I fancy having a 'doing things with my hands' hobby that I can lose myself in.

I'll calm down a bit when I get to a point I can have an early scan. They cost £50 here at our local hospital and you can get one at 7 weeks, so I'll do that, unless I can convince someone to let me have one on the NHS for reassurance.

Then I'll have a period of calm until 11 weeks when I need nuchal fold measurements and all the other soft marker screening done for Down's Syndrome. I'm 'lucky' that I'll automatically be under our Fetal Medicine Unit, but I will go full wibble around that time.

I pretty much know how I'm going to react at each stage, but I have no control over it. It helps to write about it though.

God, I'd even take my hyperemesis returning and be grateful, because at least it's a 'Yup, still pregnant' sign. If all goes well and I get it again, feel free to remind me I just said that. Pointing and laughing will be optional.

Somesort ive been knitting which helps, and writing it all down definitely helps.

It's funny because I had an early scan at 6+4 and told myself if I had that I'd be fine til 12 weeks.
Right after I wanted another. Which is why I've got my private scan tomorrow (I'll be 9+5.

I wish I could knit, but I end up in a tangle! I don't know if there's any truth to the axiom that you're either a knitter or a crotcheter (is that even a word?!) but knitting is far too complicated for me! How do you do it? There's two sticks and poking and all sort of things going on.

I will cross everything for you tomorrow, but how exciting! You're getting another peek.

I have decided that when I rule the world, I will tell all the scientists to invent technology that will give women a view into their womb whenever they want.

ToriB, I had a giant baby. It's not so bad. He was 10lb 14oz.

Haha somesort I can crochet but I've not done it for so long I couldn't do it without being reminded how!
As for knitting I watched youtube videos to remind myself :)

Thank you, I'm keeping my fingers crossed too :)
It will be lovely for DH too as he couldn't get time off for the first scan.

Some sort I'm 18wks and still crazily obsessing. I should be enjoying this trimester when I can finally eat normal food (and my hair actually feels nice - who knew that really happened!?) but instead I'm worried that I don't feel sick anymore... I'm not sure it will go away tbh as now I'm worried about not feeling movement yet.

It's not until 5.30 sunbathing :(
Such a long wait!

Somesort, I have been the same. I'm nearly 20 weeks now and still can't actually seem to think about the end result and believe it is actually happening. I am just focusing on how crap I am feeling. I remember the early early days of constant knicker watch all too well though, it does get better than that. Great that you have made it through another day, here's to tomorrow!

Treacle good luck for tomorrow! It will be lovely to see your little bean again and be reassured for another few days.