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We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #2

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Treaclepie19 · 13/02/2015 07:51

For all the lovely ladies who are pregnancy after miscarriage! :)

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SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit · 26/02/2015 13:51

Ooooh, we're getting very close to seeing some new arrivals on this thread then! I have my fingers crossed for everyone in slow labour or waiting to go into labour. Smile

I've reached a personal milestone - 5 weeks today. I know it's ridiculously early but given that my two losses were just before 4 weeks, it feels amazing. It also means than in a week, I can ring the EPU and go in and get an early scan. We have a 24hr EPU here, so I'm hoping they'll just tell me I can come and in wait to be seen, rather than needing a proper appointment.

I also heard back from the midwives and I have my first appointment when I'll be 6+6, and they're going to refer me to wherever I need to be referred, given my history. Fetal medicine most likely, for Downs screening.

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Treaclepie19 · 26/02/2015 16:45

Not long to go doctordonna :)
I'm going to ring again tomorrow as still no scan date.
Went for lunch with dh's family. They were all so excited. I felt I had to keep reigning them in.
DH said to me just though, when will I allow myself toget excited?
He's right. I keep saying after my dating scan but I doubt I'll stop worrying ever.
I was so excited after my scan last week but it hasn't taken long for the worry to creep back in.

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DoctorDonnaNoble · 26/02/2015 16:49

Starting to think it won't be long. Can't believe you still haven't heard Treacle! Ridiculous.

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Treaclepie19 · 26/02/2015 16:55

I know :(
I'm so fed up of it.
Dh's family keep saying oh well, after your last scan there's nothing to worry about.
I feel like im always being negative!
Still, I'll ring again tomorrow.

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Boozle80 · 26/02/2015 19:15

Thread babies on their way - very exciting!

silverine · 27/02/2015 00:34

Had the scan too. All fine apart from tummy measuring just above 95th percentile, which might indicate I have high blood sugar. The sonographer recons he weighs 3.9 kg (8 lb 9) Shock. I was a bit freaked out about the tummy measurement but mw wasn't overly worried.
Took bloods to check sugar. The nurse was useless and Absolutely butchered both my arms and my hand, including bursting my vein and the back of hand swelling up like a baloon with blood!! Really painful and bruised now Angry
also waited to see doctor to discuss induction dates but had to give up after an hour... no giving much confidence for the staff.... hopefully will be different in labour ward.

cavamonster · 27/02/2015 05:01

Aw silver sounds like a rough time the last couple of days. I'm sure the labour ward will be much better and if that weight is correct hopefully not too much longer until you are there!

Thepurplegiraffe · 27/02/2015 08:16

Thinking of you today Broody, hope you are doing ok.

Got my 20 week scan this morning, just hope everything is ok in there.

northdownmummy · 27/02/2015 08:29

Dull backache and bloated feeling today. While the logical part of my brain knows this is all perfectly Normal at 5wks I feel like I'll be on knicker watch.

Oh I hate how the MC took away all the early days joy and replaced it with anxiety and paranoia

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Treaclepie19 · 27/02/2015 08:34

Sending hugs to Broody today.

Good luck with you scan purple :)

Definitely all normal north :)

10+5 today... going to ring again to chase my scan.

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HollyBen · 27/02/2015 08:43

Sounds awful silver I have had 2 growth scans and in both baby was measuring 50th percentile for head and femur but 90th for abdomen and no one was concerned (no bloods or anything done). The weight estimates seem to be a hit or miss for what I can gather - they don't give a weight estimate where i am for that reason. Do you know what policy on induction is in your area? Here it is 40+12, though they offer membrane sweeps from term onwards.

Due to my age they recommend induction at term. I have agonised over whethet or not too agree. Heart says no baby will come when it's ready (dd was 40+11). Head says it us easier to arrange childcare and maintain sone normality for DD to agree. So I am booked in for Tuesday at 40+1 giving me 4 days to labour spontaneously which isn't looking likely. I am a mix of sad, excited and scared. Also slightly in denial as i haven't packed my hospital bag yet...

longestlurkerever · 27/02/2015 09:31

silver that was exactly dd's weight at birth and she had a bit of a tummy too. Don't worry - she was perfect! I quite liked the fact she felt like a proper little bundle rather than a fragile waif. Good luck to all three of you waiting for labour. Very exciting!

Builder is here painting dd's new room and the nursery. Scary and exciting in equal measure.

GTT was fine in the end though don't have results yet. Feeling a bit unwell today though - queasy and have mouth ulcers and an eye infection.

tannyLoo · 27/02/2015 09:47

Holly I managed to get my consultant to agree a stay of execution for a week, so I can try to have a natural birth up to 41 weeks. Saying that, I have got a sweep booked for Tuesday when I'm 40 weeks and two sessions of acupuncture. Part of me wishes I was being induced next week just because I'm so anxious and fed up.

Silver sorry you're having a hard time right at the end. We will get there very soon!!!

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Littlelady33 · 27/02/2015 10:32

Hope that today isn't too horrendous for you broody and purple looking forward to good scan news!

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Treaclepie19 · 27/02/2015 11:32

Had my scan appointment (and consultant appointment at the same time). Bit gutted as it's not not til 13 and a half weeks.
18th March 8.50

Sort of worried as it's late for the nuchal test isn't it :/

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happygojo · 27/02/2015 12:05

Hi treacle as long as it is before 14+1 you should be fine. I didn't have it anyway as I wouldn't do anything with a high risk result other than worry. At least it is early in the day so you won't be waiting around for ages.

Hugs and good luck to those having scans xxx

Thepurplegiraffe · 27/02/2015 12:52

Hi all
Back from my scan, so far so good but just like last time we have to go back as the baby wouldn't move. Apparently we produce really stubborn children.

broodylicious · 27/02/2015 13:39

Thank you so much for all of your kind wishes and thoughts - I've said it before and I'll say it again...you really are amazing ladies! It's tough going but I'm trying to be positive and I'm going to plant a beautiful hellebores (or lenton rose as they're sometimes called) this afternoon in honour of our lost littlie.

Glad all is looking good so far purpleSmile

holly and tanny, as soon as I had a date for my induction (I saw the consultant on the Friday and he wanted me to be induced on the Tuesday), I relaxed and actually went into labour on the Sunday night. Fx it happens for you both too xx

treacle, I have to agree with happy re nt testing. I was dated at 13+2 at my 12 week scan (I thought I was 12+5) but she couldn't get the nt measurement due to Olympic gymnast baby so instead, i had the quad blood test as there was no slots for me to be rescanned before the cut off at 14+2. My quads came back as high risk (1:85) for downs and I've done absolutely nothing but panic myself stupid ever since. We knew we wouldn't ever terminate for downs so it was pointless having the quads, especially as they're nowhere near as accurate as the nt and bloods combined, so I've just made myself sick these last seven weeks while we wait until Wednesday for the anomaly scan. And even then jeez, I'm ranting now, aren't i?! Sorry there's no real fast and hard evidence they'll be able to give us that baby has downs!

Sorry this has been a rambling long post! Xx

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Treaclepie19 · 27/02/2015 15:03

Thank you ladies x
It's pointless for us too really I suppose because we wouldn't do anything if baby had downs. Spose I thought it would prepare you but its not accurate anyway :/
I'm so glad we had a private scan now.

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broodylicious · 27/02/2015 16:02

Yeah I was thinking it'd prepare me too, treacle, so I agreed to having the quads. In reality, it's just made me worry more about the anomaly scan in case there are any soft markers that are noted because I got the high risk result. The nt&blood combined are more accurate than quads though so you should get better than me if baby is well behaved.

The consultant we saw for the quad results said she'd seen someone to deliver a 1:1 result, according to quads...but baby was delivered with not even the slightest sign of downs! Can you imagine if you'd terminated?! Crazy.

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Treaclepie19 · 27/02/2015 16:54

Gosh that is terrible! What a thought.
I wish I could offer something to help you stop worrying.
They like to worry us don't they these babies!

I've been in tears over my scan being late. Feel so stupid. I keep saying I want to announce it but our family and close friends already know so I don't know why I'm so bothered.

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SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit · 27/02/2015 17:05

Ah, Downs stuff. Sad I did terminate my first pregnancy due to it, but after CVS confirmed Downs. It wasn't just that though - we were told I was unlikely to make it to term due to the severity of the heart abnormalities, so for me, it felt like a choice between 'lose baby now' or 'lose baby later'.

I do actually think that's late for a NT scan, but it would be late for me, with already having history. If it falls within guidelines, they'll still be able to take the measurement.

For the sake of my mental health more than anything, I need to have an NT scan around 11 weeks. I did with my next pregnancy and DS was in the wrong position, so I had to wait around for a few hours and do a few jumps to try and move him. I don't think I'd have coped if I'd have had to come back for it on a different day.

I'm not looking forward to the screening this time because it just brings back awful memories, and I think I've already made up my mind that I don't want invasive testing (so no CVS or amnio) unless the NT is a risk. I was such a wreck with my pregnancy with DS that I had an amnio to confirm he was fine, but I trust enough in the screening to not go invasive this time. I think. Fully reserve the right to change my mind.

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thesmallbear · 27/02/2015 17:33

We went for the Harmony Test. It's very expensive, but very accurate. We wouldn't have terminated for Down's but wanted to prepare ourselves.

My hospital won't terminate unless they are 100% sure due to you having the amniocentesis.