We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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Last thread ended with a series of Really Good News, so let's hope this one keeps up the trend!

worried I'm not sure if this is an advisable approach, but I had a scan at 9 weeks & completely convinced myself it would be bad news. Almost to the point where I 'accepted' it (though of course I would have been utterly devastated if it was bad news again). I told myself that I just had to get through the inevitable, & that night I'd be on my couch drinking wine, eating uncooked meat and that would be that. Ad I said, not sure I would advise being that negative. And I was still shaking uncontrollably throughout the scan..... Good luck on Wednesday xx

The early scan and the 12 week scan with this so far - I'm praying! - healthy pregnancy were torture. More so the early scan in EPU where I had my mmc confirmed, at least the 12 Wk scan was on a different floor! It's funny because the waiting room was full of happy and excited women just assuming - why wouldn't they!? - that everything would be ok. I felt, as I said to DH, like I was waiting to be shot. I'm 15 wks and still don't want to tell anyone but close friends, won't let DH do a FB announcement - partly because I know how painful they are after a loss / infertility and I've couple of friends struggling with those issues. They really don't need scan pics appearing all over the place, I'm probably being overly cautious!

I did the same as mslad. I told myself it was all going to be the same. So much so that when it was good news I had no idea how to react!

Thanks all. It's like a pit of fear in my stomach all the time. It sounds weird I know but with the MMC it was like my body refused to let go of my baby -despite there being no heartbeat. You're supposed to trust your body to do what needs doing but it let me down so I suppose I think it will do the same this time. This is probably my last chance to have DC2. Arghhh - my positivisticfrikiness has deserted me tonight. I think my default position will be that it will be the same Maybe I'll get a surprise. x

Another one here who deactivated her Facebook account. I felt I had to for my own sanity. I don't miss it tbh, just come on mumsnet instead. If the 20 week scan goes well, I might Instagram a pic of one of those London Underground 'baby on board' badges as a way to mini announce it (not that many people follow me on there). I doubt I'll do bump or scan pictures though as I know how upsetting they can be.

Not feeling positive at all today.
All day yesterday I had cramps and this morning they're really aching like when my period has arrived.
I can't help but think this is it :(

Aw, Treacle, just remember that it could just be normal stretches and aches - you're at about exactly the right stage for them. When I got them I moved as little as humanly possible and crapped myself a lot! Then about two months later I realised they were ok and normal - although it's really shit that it feels exactly the same as periods - that's really like some cruel joke isn't it! Are you in work today?

Second what Boozle said, I had loads of cramps at your stage and worried about them all. Thinking of you Treacle and hoping all is ok.

Agreed treacle I had similar and I still do at 15+3. It's scary but quite normal for a lot of people I think

Thank you ladies x
No I'm not in work, im still signed off at the moment.
7+1 today, no idea when my scan is as I'm still waiting for the midwife to call.
I thought having my scan last week would help but it didn't reassure me for long.

Yes I had those too treacle. TYAP!

Sorry if this has been covered before but I wondered if any of you in this pregnancy or others had bought a Doppler to use at home? I think it's unrealistic to imagine I can go the next 25 weeks without at least considering it!

sorry if this posts twice but I wondered if any of you had used a Doppler at home? I think it's unrealistic to think I can get through the next 25weeks without one!

treacle another one here who had period style cramps and still get them on and off. It's the worst fear, but I try to convince myself that its the uterus stretching, which would lead to some cramping.

Littlelady personally I didn't buy a doppler. I thought about it a lot and was tempted, but knew that if I couldn't hear the hb with it that I would panic big time! the time from the 12 week scan till the 20 week scan is long, but after that feeling movements, really puts my mind at ease. My mw said I could call in every week to hear the heartbeat, which I did, and it helped reassure me (for about an hour!)

Had my diabetes test this morning, I'm really hoping it comes back ok- I couldn't bear an even stricter diet!

Littlelady I have one. It was quite cheap on ebay. It did cause a bit of panic in the early days and I wasn't sure I'd recommend it but from about 18 weeks it has worked well, though it's around then that kicks start so I haven't used it much.

Thanks mslad and longest that's as I thought. Well I should hear heartbeat this weekend at mw Appt and I'll be 16wks then so hopefully I can last until movements kick in, I can't wait to feel them!

Also that's amazing mslad that your mw said you could come in once a week! You're not based in North London though I'm guessing!?

Hi all
treacle and worried as oothers have said, try not to stress too much. As others have said, cramps are perfectly normal (i had them too) and the more positive you try to be the better (i know it's hard but do your best).

Had my 36 week assessment today. All fine apparently, nothing to worry about, no reason to get a scan at all... I almost wanted there to be some sort of doubt, so I can get a scan. I had a few concerns - short cervix, umbilical cord was around neck at 27 weeks and my sister had narrow pelvis with baby not engaging - but apparently none of these a reason to be concerned according to midwife and doctor. Need to decide whether to pay for private scan anyway or just sit it out. Any views?

Gail hope you're doing ok. baby you're nearing induction too, aren't you? All set at home? Go on girls, we're due a stats update . Speaking of update, would anyone like to add themselves? X

Haha littlelady I'm not in North London- I'm living in Holland at the moment. MW care is great, but their reluctance to give pain relief is annoying! My mw actually said I could come in more often than that(!) but I was like 'I'm trying to keep the crazy at bay, even a bit! don't offer that or I'll be here every day!!'

Good luck to those at or reaching their due dates! I imagine it's hard to believe how close you are now! silver that's a shame you didn't get a scan to see baby again- though probably a good thing that they're not worried and they think everything is as it should be?

Just in from work. It's the most exhausted I've been yet! I really needed a nap at lunch time shame it's not possible at school. Most of my frees are on one day, Thursday, which means I'm really exhausted the rest of the time!