We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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Last thread ended with a series of Really Good News, so let's hope this one keeps up the trend!

Thank you sunbathingcat can't wait to get it over with !

Hi Flumpy. An ERPC is basically the surgical way of dealing with MMC (like a D&C). I had to have two as they managed to leave most of it behind the first time. Not pleasant.

Handhold rebecca and poco. Poco if you really think all hope is lost you'd be welcome to come over and join us on the RMC support thread. The NHS don't normally do testing after 2 mcs because your chances of a good outcome next time remain very good but there are ladies on that thread with experience of persuading their doctors to make an exception, and of alternative options. At the very least there is plenty of mutual understanding and support.

Good news cava and sunbathing!

Flumpy digi tests are rubbish. Don't worry.

Great news on the scan Sunbathing, I had to go back last time and although it was frustrating it was nice seeing the little bean again. And having an excuse to have more time off work.

Broody I am also still petrified, I am going to talk to the midwife this week and if she won't listen to the heart beat I might think about paying for a reassurance scan.

Thinking of every one with scans today

thanks lurker. Yesterday I was all about jumping straight back into ttc. Today I am back on the drs might be wrong and bargaining with myself. Think I need to have a break from all this for a while, its not fair on me, my DH or our DS.

Poco and Rebecca, thinking of you.

Sunbathing I am 16 weeks tomorrow. I am freaking out as I don't really seem to have a bump and haven't felt movement for about 3 weeks. I know there are logical explanations for this but the illogical side of me has it all being over which makes me very scared to go for a scan. Another week with no movement though and I think we will just do it.

Poco I'm so sorry, has Dr said its mc?

I'm having a stupid melt down here. We're due to go to waterbabies class but I can't face it, I'm so scared of overdoing things, or anything going wrong again. It's so unfair on dd. Dp is supportive and just said don't worry about it but I'm going crazy for some reason. It's like all the anxiety has just hit me. I sound nuts don't i!

Flumpy I know that it is hard to get into your mind..... but you are SO unlikely (I would say almost impossible but I am not an OB-GYN) to do anything to 'cause' an MC. I see the first 12 weeks as being entirely pre-determined from point of conception. I haven't exercised for weeks but more because i feel like poop! I am hoping to start after 12 weeks (currently 10+4). Up until very recently, the past 20-30 years or so, pregnancies weren't even confirmed until you had missed 2 periods so 8-9 weeks. I hope you don't MC I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy and we have all been there.

You def don't sound nuts but I hope you can try and pretend to relax, that is what I am doing. Even when I have my mum already buying sleep suits, muslin squares and hospital bags for me!

Big hugs!

Thank you happy. Rationally I know that nothing I do can really change what will happen, I do believe in what will be will be. I don't even so much want to fast forward time, I just want to find a way to enjoy this.
I think getting close to the time when I mc at 6 weeks last month is making things worse.
I know they'll scan me early if I want because I am a high risk pregnancy anyway and have had previous mc. I was due to be scanned when I mc. There's no point going until they'll definitely be able to detect a heartbeat though. When is that?

Well it's official, miscarriage number 2 :( the hospital were very good, saddened to hear my chances of my next pregnancy being a miscarriage has gone up, I almost want it to happen as soon as possible so I can find out what's wrong with me.

Good luck all you lovely ladies, wishing you all happy, healthy little ones xxx

Rebecca I am so sorry. I have been there and it just sucks. In fact your chances of another mc next time haven't gone up that much and you might be able to persuade your gp to do some basic investigations now (for thyroid, hormones, insulin etc). When you feel able to pop over to the RMC thread for some more advice if that's an avenue you would like to pursue. In the meantime and please look after yourself.

Rebecca I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. It's so devastating. I hope it all passes soon. I'm just so sorry. What awful news. Please don't give up though. Hugs x

So sorry rebecca :(

So sorry Rebecca :(

Really really sorry to hear that Rebecca. Hope you're being looked after x

Rebecca the second MC is horrible, I had two last year which left me absolutely distraught. Do keep in mind that while your MC may mean the chances have gone up vis-a-vis the general population, the VAST likelihood is that your next baby will be absolutely fine. I'm on pregnancy 3, first two ended in MC but I'm currently 14w with happy healthy baby seen on screen at 13w. Please don't lose help yet. And head on over to the recurrent miscarriage thread, those ladies are legends and really know their stuff about MC and all its causes - they helped me an enormous amount over the past 6 months.

I'm so sorry Rebecca. take care of yourself

Oh Rebecca I'm so terribly sorry I just hope that your GP can perhaps run some basic tests, perhaps rule a few things out. Flumpy my reassurance scan was at what I thought was 7 weeks but now with my revised dates after the 12wk scan it would have only been 6+4. Heartbeat could be found straight away, and doctor could do enough measurements to reassure me. So from 6 onwards generally I believe you might be lucky enough to see something

DH has gone away this weekend so I'm staying at my mum's. She doesn't know yet. Crossing my fingers nothing happens for several reasons. Trying to ignore my nerves!

So sorry to hear your news rebecca. Thoughts and prayers are with you xx

Thanks sunbathing and purple, for the reassurance that it's normal to still be panicked at this stage. I'm still nauseous and sick at least once a day but I'm thinking "oh it's because I'm so far along and the hormones are strong so my body hasn't recognised things might be wrong". So neurotic, I know, but that's me right now I hope that at my mw appt a week on Tuesday (16+1) she will listen for HB. I've got to have quads blood test too as baby was too wriggly at the test to get proper measurements .... Probably the thing that's worrying me the most and why I've not done a big public announcement yet. Hope by 20 weeks, I'll be more back to normal!

Thanks Sunbathing, logically I know I am being silly, I guess I just expected things to happen more quickly with no 2 and I did feel movement 3 weeks ago but I didn't show until about 6 months last time so maybe it makes sense.

Broody I know exactly how you feel, I keep having that exact conversation with myself. Last time I took the ongoing sickness as reassurance that all was well but not this time.

Rebecca I am so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you and Poco and hoping you are getting lots of tlc