The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

Welcom doctor & worried, congrats on you Bfp & best of luck on the journey ahead.

Thinking of you this morning treacle & mummy hope you get good news

silver yea really nervous less about the idea of induction at 38+ because that's what happened with DS but the sweeps if they work and I don't get to the hospital to have her and stuff silly things really because I'm theory natural labour is meant to be easier than being induced but it's not something I've done lol

Welcome, doctor and worried!

Someone wise DH said to me that there's no point spending energy trying to distance myself and not get attached because if this is going to end in miscarriage it's going to be awful either way, so may as well enjoy it while we can. Makes a lot of sense but then he wasn't the one retching as he tried to swallow his vitamins this morning!

Walked into work this morning at 8 and my colleagues all looked at me and said "oooooh, you look dreadful!" - I work in an all-male office (well, all except me). At least I have my own loo to escape to.

Jesus wept, feeling sick at only ~4+4... I hope that's a good sign. GP later this morning. I had HG with DD, so much as I hope this pregnancy is viable I hope that HG keeps away this time.

I'm 4 +3 and feeling really nauseous, hoping it's just psychosomatic as I could do without this for the next few weeks!
Taking comfort in how sore my boobs are though - symptoms are good right?

Congratulations and welcome doctordonna and worried. Unfortunately pg after mc brings with it worry, panic and irrational behaviour. However remember ladies we are all in the same boat here and today we are pregnant.

Yes, good luck today Treacle

Welcome doctor and worried. I don't have any great tips for staying calm but swimming helps me (worries about work, pregnancy, all of it!) and I'm a big fan of the headspace app. Otherwise I think accepting that we are just going to worry a bit more than some is perhaps a healthy enough response - I find myself worrying about worrying! Treacle good luck with the Dr today. I'm now in 25 hours to scan countdown, not that I'm obsessing over it.

Thanks for the lively welcome.

The obsessive testing continues...mice just turned a clear blue digital "pregnant". Got a "not pregnant" on the same test on Saturday so hope this means the hormones are heading on the right direction at least.

*Lovely welcome

Morning everyone and very warm welcome to worried, doctordonna and treacle!! Treacle, I'm sure I recognise your name from TTC so it's lovely to see you here.

I'm right at the other end of my journey...it's my first day off work on maternity leave!! I am so happy to have finished work!
Am spending the day just pottering around doing all those little things I never normally have time for, then off for my 38 week midwife check a bit later.
Have booked myself a nice haircut for wednesday, and a pregnancy massage for Friday, so hoping that baby stays put at least until next week!

How lovely, Gail! I had 5 weeks of mat leave with DD, although it was actually stored up annual leave so I didn't start SMP until the week she was due . I seem to recall I did a lot of sleeping...

Back from GP, and normally I hate that particular chap but today he was really what I needed. He's phoning EPAU now to agree on a plan but it's likely I'll have a scan at ~6 weeks if nothing else for reassurance. I know it's possible they won't be able to see anything at that stage but it's a target I can concentrate on, you know? Think as far as that scan and if that goes ok, focus on the next milestone.

He was very understanding when I said that on one level I was happy, but mostly anxious because I know only too well that pregnancy doesn't always = baby. And he was pleased that I feel so rough (in a medical way, not a horrible way - he can be a bit irascible but he's not that mean...)

Can I go to sleep under my desk now? Please?

Hi guys! Hope everyone is ok and good luck to all those with appointments this week. Can I just ask.... What is the feeling regarding at home dopplers? My bf Is laid up after his appendectomy last week so not going for a private scan but would love something that could poss give me reassurance. I am 9 weeks today... I have my midwife booking in next Monday but apparently it is hit and miss whether or not they have a listen then. No idea when my dating scan is. Obs I know that the HB Is hard to find especially when your bean is actually the size of a bean... But I dunno for £40 is it worth a go?

Hello everyone!
Just had my first scan for this pregnancy this morning.
I am absolutely over the moon, we saw a hb and Dr said was a healthy one too!! I cried tears of happiness and I'm crying now as I type this. I have never been so happy and scared and just... I can't even describe it.
I just wanted to share this with everyone on here as we've decided not to tell anyone in rl yet (except for my mum who has known for a while)
I've never seen a hb with my previous mmc and... I'm just so happy right now I can't stop crying ?!
Thank you all for your support so far and I hope everyone gets to be at least as happy as I am at their appointments this week.
Gtg back to work now

happy just read your post and remembered I came across a thread asking a similar question the other day. I think the consensus there was that anything before 12 weeks is considered too early and hb can't be picked up at home.
Might be wrong though but after I've read those posts I've decided to wait rather than drive myself crazy with a home Doppler that's not even supposed to work at my stage.

Hi folks.

I wasn't going to join you all until a little later but I saw there were a few other daring newbies joining so I thought 'why not'?!

History: 32, ttc #1 since Nov 2012, 4 previous mc ranging from 6 weeks to 10 weeks. Been under St Mary's who have removed a septum and prescribed the general progesterone treatment plan after finding no other identifiable causes.

Currently 4+5 and trying to be as positive as possible. It's hard, but I'm doing a much better job at the positive approach than in previous pregnancies. Not poas (particularly any evil clearblue conception indicator sticks) as in that way madness lies. Instead trying to be a normal pregnant lady and looking at nursery furniture and little booties and considering baby names. As I said on the rm thread, previously I've gone with the 'don't get your hopes up approach' but have found that contrary to assumption that does not make miscarriage any easier, so I may as well get my hopes up and bloody enjoy the next x weeks - months!

Apologies for the essay! Really happy to be here and it's lovely to see so many healthy successful pregnancies and little bundles. I'll go back and read the thread properly now!

Yay, skinnylegs! Great news!

GP has just rung and EPAU, who are run out of Emergency Gynae at my local hospital, won't do a scan unless I have other symptoms. He's going to try and get one through the usual ultrasound department, but he's not sure they'll agree other than for a dating scan. Wibble. Trying not to panic. Feels like a very very long time til 12 weeks. Feeling really upset by it; considering they weren't ruling out an ectopic last time it feels like they don't care this time.

twilight that's the attitude im trying to take... assume it's all ok until proven otherwise, you can't trick your brain into being ready for a mc so you might as well try to enjoy the pregnancy you have. so in the first tri ive bought a few things for the baby, we've painted the spare room to be ready etc etc. some days it works better than others! I'm also trying to be nicer to myself, say no to things i dont really want to do, really minimize what ive got to do for work, spend lots of time mooching about reading and watching tv.

happy im not going to buy a doppler for some of the reasons others mentioned, but just want to say i managed to get a quick listen at my booking in by sobbing my guts out. it wasn't on purpose or anything, she asked how i was going and i just lost it! i had to wait a bit but obv that was fine for me, hb still racing away. doesnt stop me being paranoid in the runup to my 12w scan this week but I'm probably much more chilled than if i hadnt. ive found that by being really honest about my fears has helped me be treated really well by the mw this time round

Charlie and twilight that's a great attitude to have (and welcome twilight!). I think I'm somehow trying not to get too attached to this pregnancy but I'm not fooling anyone, perhaps I should let myself enjoy it a bit more!

Midwife appointment went well! Baby 3/5 engaged so we are all systems go hopefully for an on time arrival! (Due date 29th jan).

I had a Doppler and found it really good. I bought it at about 12 weeks and couldn't find the heartbeat till 14/15 weeks so I'm afraid I don't think you have much chance of getting it to work at 9 weeks. Once it was working reliably, I found it really reassuring for that time between 14-22 weeks ish where you aren't feeling much strong movement. Once I started getting kicked in the ribs and cervix all the time I didn't feel the need to use it any more!