The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

I'm in a right grump today ladies. Toddler (2y 9m) has a dreadful cough at the mo and so had hardly any sleep last night - she kept almost drifting off then waking herself up again, coughing and spluttering. I'm so rubbish on no sleep!! Really praying this bubba is going to be a good sleeper. Going to stay home all day, de-Christmas and be a grumpy shit. Sorry for the rant ladies!!

Are most of you back to work tomorrow? Hopefully it won't be as icy where you are as it is here this morning - took dh 15 mins to de-ice!!

I am a bit worried about that too broody. Dd was an awful sleeper as a baby but it seems a long time ago now and one of the reasons I didn't want such a big gap is that psychologically I have moved on from that stage, although I keep reminding myself I loved the baby stage despite the lack of sleep.

I am back at work tomorrow too. Quite looking forward to things settling back to normal as dd and her pals are all a bit wound up but nursery doesn't start till weds so my mum is coming down, then I have a friend staying.

No worries broody - we all need to grump from time to time and lack of sleep makes everything worse. Hope you have a nice day pottering about at home and that your DD feels better soon.

Fab scan news envious - really pleased for you.

Thinking of the ladies for whom Monday is a sad anniversary. It's hard, upsetting and worrying when the diary rolls round to those days that remind you of the worst of days and what can happen. But today you are pregnant and there is more chance that that will continue than not.

I've also tried to ignore the "pregnancy is meant to be a relaxed/happy/special time" and view it as an urban myth or unhelpful and inaccurate over-generalisation like "unversity/your late teens are the best/most carefree years of your life". I don't want to beat myself up for not experiencing something I'm not certain even fully exists. Yes, there will be special moments like a good scan outcome but there will also be scary bits, concerning bits, painful bits and downright boring bits. We can't unlearn what we learnt through MC about the darker side of the journey to parenthood, but our experiences - the good and bad are just as valid and even as normal as those slightly mythical ladies who seem to sail through!

Am also v glad this thread exists. I like the June AN thread ( to all my fellow June bugs) but sometimes all the crib planning feels too scary and I need a dose of understanding combined with positivity from you lovely ladies .

I was feeling a grump so have rejoined my AN thread. It's nice to remind myself of a bit of the excitement. But I will not be ordering wipes yet at 19 weeks!

I haven't joined an AN thread for fear it will do my head in. I'd just rather talk to you lovely ladies who understand my worries etc.

Well, I'm meant to be back at work on Monday - but I have to ring my boss in the morning to tell her I won't be in on time as I have to go to the hospital to discuss the results of the combined down's screening test. With my first pregnancy I had time off for scans and then a further two weeks off following medical management for the missed miscarriage. With this pregnancy, I've had time off for scans due to bleeding (as well as the usual maternity appointments) and now this. It's one thing after another! I also have annual leave Thursday and Friday as 8th Jan (Thursday) was the EDD of my first (i.e. MC'd) pregnancy.

So sorry broody, of course not! Phryn I couldn't agree more - I feel as though I'm waiting for when this becomes 'a really special happy time' rather than a worrying time and that's only making me worry more! We all just need to take it at our own pace but as we know it is hard for people who haven't been through an MC to really understand why, even though the odds are in our favour, we can't get very excited. Even my DH is one for massively jumping the gun - he's now an expert on our local primary schools' Ofsted results!

SunbathingCat I'm the same as you. My AN group have their entire nurseries painted and bags ready since their 20th weeks. I'm 6 weeks away and only yesterday braved up the courage to buy the frame for a cot! We're slowly starting to think about buggies also but there's no way I could have done it before now! Sure I'm still on 'knicker watch'!!

Hello,

I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow thesmall bear

I have been very brave and emailed my ob/gyn, so I'm sure I will have a blood test this week and the scanning will start......can't keep living in denial.

I know my chances of another cmp are high but it will be good to know what I am dealing with this time.

I also don't find pregnancy exciting, I find it totally terrifying and if I receive good news this week I don't actually know how I will cope!

My doctor is so lovely, got back to me and I have to go and see him on Tuesday, I'm sitting here shaking.....I really need To get a grip!!

Good luck 50. Excuse my ignorance but what is a cmp?

Envious I can relate to that. We moved in Dec 2011 and DS was born in Feb 2012, and the midwives and health visitors were both lamenting that his room was full of boxes and chaos. Couldn't see the problem myself, he was co-sleeping and then in a cot in our room until he was about 8 months, by which time I had decorated his room and got it cleared of junk. Not a biggie really!

Any prep I'm doing this time about rooms is more to get DS used to the idea of sharing his room with the baby, so gradually making space and adding some stuff...

Another in partial denial here. It's only the sickness, nausea and fatigue that reminds me! I think you're right, it's the innocence that's been knocked from us that makes us like this. I'm worried of everything this time - eating and drinking contraband, moving too much/too fast/awkwardly, even that I'm being this sick because it's a molar.... I annoy myself most of the time!!

Sooo bitten the bullet and agreed to go baby shopping with DH and DS lunch 1st so dragging my feet a bit over food so that we don't do much would much rather leave it a little longer and shop without ds who hates shopping any way but baby shopping appears to be insult to injury lol not that I mind too much at the moment

How did it go baby?

We didn't end up doing any shopping DS had an asthma attack and despite his pump sorting him out we decided it was kinder just to come home

Morning everyone! Who is back at work today?
I am but only until Friday which is when I start maternity leave. I'm coming up to 37 weeks now! There was a point I never ever thought I'd get to full term with this pregnancy but here I am!
Hubby bought me some vouchers for a haircut and pregnancy massage so I'm getting those booked in for next week when I'm off work.

Aw baby. Your poor ds. Hope you get your shopping sorted eventually.

I am bean but have forgotten my password for the new system so am mumsnetting while I try to get through to IT. Last week eh? Exciting!

hi everyone! just wanted to come back to this amazing thread to let you know that we had a baby girl just before Christmas. cant quite believe that we have got here - I keep looking at her in amazement. This thread was my constant support during the pregnancy so just wanted to let you all know.

Yeay moomin! Congratulations. Thanks for coming to update us xx

Congratulations amicable

longest we are going to go tomorrow when DS is back at school he is back to his normal argumentative self this morning lol looking forward to some normality lol