The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

Ive had a chill out moment and decided it'll be okay. Ill just wait till 12 wks, which will be around my birthday in february. Il be okay, (my new mantra!) i just had a mini melt down this morning. Im going to phone the midwives back the monday after xmas and attempt to get my booking appointment sorted...everythings going to be okay....thank you for getting back quickly ladies means alot!

Hi all. I am loving all the positive stories in this thread! Was hoping I could share mine?

We started TTC in September 2012 (it seems so long ago now) and fell pregnant Jan 14. Sadly, when we went for our dating scan we were told there was no baby, we'd suffered a blighted ovum and I had an ERPC to remove what was left. It hit us very hard, as we had told everyone, believing things were fine. It was a long 8 months before I fell pregnant again in November 2014, sadly, we lost that one naturally at 6 weeks, just before Christmas. I was floored once again. We started TTC and fell quickly, but in March 2014, exactly a year to the day we found out about the first loss, I sadly miscarried again at 5.5 weeks.

3 is the magic number they say, and we were referred to see a consultant who put me on aspirin and progesterone. Fast forward to now and I am 31 weeks pregnant with a large (!) and so far, healthy baby boy, having a fabulous pregnancy (aside from the utter terror of the first 24 weeks) I am feeling so much more relaxed about it all now and have even been to hypnobirthing classes to teach us all about breathing and visualisation to help with anxiety. I feel that the fight was worth this feeling of pure joy every time my boy kicks me in the ribs!

I have a question though, which I hope some people who have been in a similar situation can help with. I am planning to have our baby in a birth centre (its attached to the hospital, across the corridor from the delivery suite, so any issues we will be straight across the hall!) but have read some things about women with history of recurrent MC having to be induced early. Is this the case? I don't see the consultant again until 34 weeks and the midwife hasn't said anything (I've been under shared care) - I was hoping someone could enlighten me!

Thanks and congratulations/good luck to everyone on here.

malted. Fantastic to read a happy ending to your story. I have had three mcs too and although I am only 16 weeks pregnant the midwife and consultant have already noted my preference for the birth centre like with dd. They didn't mention anything about induction. In fact I am on routine antenatal care now having been discharged from rmc and consultant doesn't want to see me again unless I get to 41 weeks. My mcs were all first trimester losses and I have a dd who was born without complications.

Thank you! That helps a bit. I will tell them at my 34 week appointment that I am planning to go to the birth centre and hope for the best. I wont be devastated if I cant go there, but it is my preference now after seeing it, it just seems a lovely place to be!

I think the only reason she wants to see me at 34 weeks is because that's when I stop the aspirin daily. Hopefully they will discharge me!

Hello ladies I've been lurking for the last few weeks as life has been crazy and I've been practically too sick to move but just marking my place. I think my stats are still up but MMC March 2014, now 9+2 due late July. So many of you here from TTC after MC thread and it's great to see you

Sorry and just to add - reassurance scan all good at 7+1, heart beat at 115bpm and apparently all normal. Still terrified on a daily basis - that's normal right?

Littlelady33 - totally 100% normal. Congratulations and good luck!

Malted thank you. Can I ask a probably slight annoying question of you all - but today for the first time in ages I've not really felt sick. Into the tenth week is it common for that to level off? My boobs are still too sore for me to walk comfortably (my running shoes are sadly gathering dust) but having been miserably sick I'm now worried not to be!

little that's right. The placenta kicks in around now and lots of us felt a drop in symptoms. Is scary though! Luckily it often comes back for a final hurrah making you feel worse than ever.

Congratulations on your bfp and good news scan.

I lost every single symptom between 9 and 10 weeks and was totally convinced it was over, but when I went in for my 3rd EPU scan, there was bubs, wiggling away. It's very common for this to happen, try not to panic.

Thanks ladies that's so reassuring. I have my booking appointment tomorrow and not really sure what to expect? It's at UCLH where I've had good experiences so far but I've heard this appt is just very functional, has that been other people's experience?

I'm a 3rd lucky mum to be too, now 18+4. I didn't feel sick or nauseaus till 9 weeks, breasts only hurt first thing in morning for a few mins then nothing till the evening. No food aversions, no needing to use loo more often, I was lucky and my epu are great so I was scanned at 6 weeks and 10 weeks but I also booked a private scan at 8 weeks that really helped, really hope it works out for everyone having a scary time

littleady mine's in 10 days so I can't help but please do report back for those of us having them soon! Also let me know what UCLH is like, I was planning to go there (one of my friends gave birth there and said it was great) but I changed my mind right before I referred. Still might change again :)

I watched the hospital's info maternity video online today and surprised myself by bursting into tears once they got to the actual giving birth bit. I still don't think I can quite believe I'll get that far this time (I'm only 8.5 so a while to go, but all signs are good thus far). Called DH to tell him and he really didn't get why I would cry! Boys!

charlie, I'm crying at the oddest things these days too! The other day it was topsy and Tim on cbeebies, tonight it was at the cbeebies Peter Pan panto (?!?!) Gotta love preggo hormones.

Our local church had a "light a candle for someone you'll miss this Christmas" today. I'm not overly religious but I wanted to go to sit and remember baby broody who should have been enjoying his first Christmas this year. As soon as I got into church, I burst into tears. The vicar was amazing, didn't pressure me into telling her anything, just gave me tissues and space. I did tell her later though and she said such a wonderful little prayer for our lost boy and for our little bean to flourish and grow. It was so touching. Meant a lot to just have some time alone to remember, you know? Anyway, I'm rambling as per.... Hope you all have lovely weekends planned?

Hi elley try not to worry. It is a crap time of waiting. I saw my gp yesterday and I book in at 10 week. I have hardly any symptoms. Not like last time but at the end of the day. This is pre-written right now there is very little we can do or not do to change the outcome. Just try and stay healthy and have support here and from your family and partner. Good luck and try and stay positive. I know how hard this is, we all do here xxxx

Argh sorry my phone missed out a load of posts. elley glad you are feeling better. I keep debating whether to wait for 12 weeks or go for a private again. Thank you all for your lovely posts of reassurance. I even had a little cry reading some (however I cried that tesco had ran out of strawberry milk so this means little) xxx

Hello ladies. I'm new to this thread and guess I'm just after a bit of reassurance really. I had a mc last month at 6 and a half weeks and found out yesterday I'm pregnant again! A bit shocked at how quickly I've fallen. We weren't trying but weren't exactly being careful either but I still didn't expect things to happen so quickly. Obviously my husband and I are really happy but we don't feel excited like we did the first time round as we don't want to get our hopes up too much. I'm also a bit worried that I didn't wait to have my first AF which I know is what is advised. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and gone on to have a successful pregnancy?

Hi folks,

Elly I echo the others advice. My symptoms really eased off between 9 and 10 weeks. Thankfully my 12 week scan came early at 11+2 so I didn't have long to wait and see a happy wiggly bean with a strong heart beat. The first trimester is such hard work and so worrying after a loss, but chances are it's a totally normal shift in symptoms.

Welcome Hannah and congratulations - my story is very similar to yours. I had an early miscarriage at 6-8 weeks (due to weird cycles it was hard to date) and then got pregnant in the WTF cycle without a period in between the miscarriage and getting pregnant. I'm now 16 weeks today and all is well. From a western medicine perspective it's fine to get pregnant straight away without waiting but it does making dating a bit harder that's all. There's even some evidence that you might be more fertile following a miscarriage - perhaps linked to the elevated progesterone levels (the sticky hormone) that's still on your system from the first pregnancy. From reading other people's experiences I think if you had a molar pregnancy and possible an ectopic (not sure about the last one) you are meant to wait a number of months. But as it sounds like your miscarriage completed naturally you should be fine to have got pregnant straight away. It also happened that way to a good friend of mine who is due to give birth any day now! So it can happen and be totally fine.

This board is a great source of support from ladies at lots of different stages of pregnancy. It's really helped me and I'm sure it'll help you too.

Hey all!

Hope all going okay with everyone! I received my Down's syndrome results in the post today they were 1: 29,776

Hi everyone.

Broody, what a lovely story, and how kind of the vicar.

I spoke to my GP yesterday about how anxious I was feeling and she managed to get me a scan. Saw a yolk sac and the doctor also thought she saw a foetal pole and heartbeat! All looked normal for six weeks. I've got another scan booked for 30th Dec. Am feeling reassured, but I don't think the anxiety is ever going to go away completely!

Hey ladies, can I join you? I have one DD, who's 4 in a few weeks. Last Christmas I had a MC at 6 weeks, which was a complete shock. You think it'd never happen to you, especially as I'd had one healthy baby and no TTC issues. Anyway fast forward through a busy year we stopped TTC until November, then wham BFP on 1st December. I'm scared, confused, happy, worried, excited.... Too many emotions! I'm 7weeks and so far I've had a lot stronger symptoms than before, very similar to my healthy pregnancy and I've gone past week 6. I know a MC is still possible but I was holding my breath until week 7! I have a private scan booked on the 2nd Jan (I wanted to ensure I was far enough along), I have everything crossed I see I little heartbeat.

Welcome doodles and congrats. I'm just back from a lovely booking in at UCLH for any planning to go there I highly recommend although I've nothing to compare to of course! But incredibly efficient and supportive. Still contemplating pre Christmas private scan though despite reassuring seven week heartbeat and scan. I worry I'll be setting a bad precedent of giving in to the panic however!