The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

Ignore me - entirely wrong thread! Double fail as my post was about making a mistake

Catbus - thank you. I'm ok, just can't shake my fears off. I've spent the last 2 hours reading posts (and I'm at work!) of similar situations just to reassure myself it's normal for symptoms to disappear for a while. It's not working too well though. I have a very bad case of negativity - which doesn't help - and suffered with it for many years. Since I was a child really

Had to tell my mum we are pregnant again because we were supposed to visit her this Christmas but I'm a bit worried going over there as im not sure what the outcome of this will be and didn't want her to think I don't want to visit. We actually really wanted to go and planned for it.

But I f it comes to worse I wouldn't want it to happen in a foreign country. I am sure I won't find any travel insurance to cover for a miscarriage especially after previously having two.
She started to lecture me on how I should be positive as if I wasn't positive enough the first time. Look at how well that went
I'm trying to be positive really but my statistics are not helping much. And it would be crazy to travel ignoring the facts and the likelihood of something going wrong. What the hell would I do then, end up having my heart broken and my bank account broken at the same time with a huge Drs bill.
And then she started saying how I need to:

eat well (as if I don't!) - when she says eats well she means get fat as she always nags me about how I'm too skinny - which I'm not by the way :(.
Stop having hot baths - this used to be my only way of recharging. Having suffered with anxiety and panic attacks for many years Ive made a habit of hiding in the bath tub for hours. Would just fill the tub, put some salts in and listen to relaxation music. I never liked too hot water anyway but since my first miscarriage when she blamed it on my baths I have never taken a bath again. I hate them now and only shower:(
She also said something that really pissed me of - that if I put my mind at it i will get it. If I really wanted something it will happen. As if I didn't want my first babies enough. How mean is that?!
I do apologise for the long post but I needed to let it out. It really got me very upset.

phryn ha haa your posts made me giggle. That's how I've been at work these last few days. Completely confused:))

I could never in a million years handle being pregnant and a house move at the same time. I actually hate moving house, it really works me up. It takes months after that to rebalance my nervous system :)

skinny
I'm sure she means well but fgs! That's very hurtful. And also pretty ignorant. Hot baths are my saviour too. And my babies didn't miscarry because of a bath, but because of a piece of their jigsaw missing, as it were.
I know.it's hard to stay positive but definitely stay away from the net for a bit..
What do you love to do? Maybe throw yourself into that for a while. I've been trying to occupy myself with crocheting which I love but the sodding yarn is squeaking and I'm feeling too twitchy to feel the hooking love and the kids are fighting

skinny. Hugs. I think your mum just wants to feel she has the answers for you but agree her comments are ill judged. Ignore! Btw totally up to you if it would be too stressful but I think you would be covered by travel insurance. I went to Australia in early pregnancy this time and was convinced I would miscarry while I was away but it never occurred to me that I wouldn't be covered by my normal policy. You are allowed to fly while pregnant.

Ooh, good luck to those moving house. Where are you off to? Is probably a good time to make the move as is easy to meet new people when you have a baby.

Evening all!

gail! So pleased to see you here and all is progressing well for you

I did the classic location, location, location/Sarah Beeny/any other property tv show thing - moved house and within three months was upduffed! It's always been a joke amongst my family that people buy these houses that need tons of work then get pg. Of course, I dreamt it'd be me...and so far, it's happening

sunbathing eek! Hoping it's not a whopper!
And I keep forgetting about pregnancy brain and everything - I have been known to throw money in the bin, consistently use random.words in place of the right ones, convinced myself that someone.owed me a fiver when it was the other way around
And so clumsy it's not funny.

Skinny, no disrespect to your mum, but she is talking rubbish. Could you perhaps show her the info on he Miscarriage Association website, so she has some facts at her disposal rather than a load of old wives tales. Maybe this leaflet.

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Someone-You-Know.pdf

Or this page which states is MC is very unlikely to have happened because of anything you did.

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/causes-tests-and-treatment/

sunbathing, that actually made me lol!! Can't beat a bit of preggo brain.

I "lost" my car in the asda car park when I was pg with dd. Even did a whole dramatic "omg someone has stolen my car" thing. I'd convinced an old man who had kindly asked me if I was ok.... Until he pointed out "that grey mini there ends in xxx, it's not yours is it?!" Oh yeah. Right opposite where we were standing...

Hi am i ok to come into this thread? Im about 4/5 weeks pregnant i had a MMC in november had my eprc on 5th nov, well ive had my bloods checked as started spotting sunday on monday they was 1900 then wednesday they was 3600 the dr said there progressing and show a healthy pregnanch but im still bleeding they think i may have thrush so gave me some cream half an hour after applying the cream another bright red spotting after it had turned brown cant help but worry but trying to stay positive sorry for the long post xx

Heyoo ladies may i join this thread too? Currently 4 weeks pregnant after m/c in september. I feel weirdly calm about everything i just have a feeling in my bones (touch wood) that everythings going to be okay. Anyone experience this? My hubby thinks ive lost the plot and is the one whose terrified rather than me. Im going to the gp to book first appointment with midwife tomorrow....anywhoos ill post a bit later on just wanted to show my face. :) xxxxx

Im the same with this pregnancy even though im spotting i have a good feeling all will be ok bit worried but just got a weird feeling all will be ok, when i was carrying the baby i MC i had a bad feeling from the start xx

Hi all, I am 5+3 after a blighted ovum in September mell and elley I also feel like this, so much calmer. At this point last time I was regretting falling preg and was very down whereas this time I am very content. Who knows if it means something or if our MCs just showed us how strong we are xxx

Hi everyone - hope you're all OK. I'm having a really bad morning today. Had terrible anxiety dreams last night including one where I started bleeding, and woke up this morning with an awful sense of foreboding that something is wrong with this pregnancy. I just know my symptoms aren't strong enough for it to be viable. I've had no nausea, no vomiting, no cravings/food aversions, no strong sense of smell - the only things I've had are sore breasts (which constantly come and go - they're barely sore at all this morning) and needing to wee a bit more often. Surely at nearly six weeks I should feel more pregnant than I do?

I feel at this point that I'm just waiting to start bleeding again. I've miscarried twice already since June - why did I think I could ever have a successful pregnancy?

Hello ladies! Hows everyone today? Has anyone had problems booking their first midwife appointment? I phoned the doctors and explained about m/c in september, they said i might need to see the mw sooner than the usual 8 week appointment and gave me the mw services area number to call....so i reexplained and asked for a 8 week appointment , to which i was told they dont book booking appointments that far in advance and to phone back in two weeks time. Which will put me at 6 weeks (i had a m/c in sep at 6w2d) im now paniking a little i know they cant do anything to stop or help but i dont know.....i was just hoping to have a date. Sorry for the moan :(

my appointment was at 8 weeks but I had a 6 week and a 7 week scan, could you ring your EPU and ask for one at 6 weeks to make sure?

Hello everyone. And welcome and congrats to those just joined.
bookworm at 6 weeks I wasn't feeling much either so stay positive if you can
elley It's so hard waiting isn't it? Hang in in there

Well I am having the biggest wobble so far. Breasts have been very full and tender (mainly towards the end of the day) pretty much consistently for weeks now.
I've woken up this morning and they have deflated and are not tender at all. And I feel normal. Too normal. There's nothing I can do I know but I feel like crying. 10+4 today and supposed to be seeing Mw again for bloods on.Mon @ ,11.weeks. My main concern is bleeding over Christmas and potentially being away from my kids. I am.now terrified .

Elley I've had 2mcs and I'm seeing the MW for the first time at 10w. They didn't seem worried at all. I've had 2 reassurance scans so far though.

Hey girls phoned EPAU this morning they wont do any scans or blood tests as its a matter of waiting and seeing...only 1 in 4 experience mc so i have a good chance this timd i am now in tears so much for the positive thinking! I feel so alone right now. :( sorry for the non positivity!

Can you go and have a private scan somewhere if you're worried? I had one at 8w and it was worth every penny of the 100 quid