The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

Hi everyone - can I join? I'm new to posting on Mumsnet although I've lurked for a long time.

I'm 32, DH 34. We've been TTC our first child since March this year. I'm currently just over five weeks pregnant, having had two early miscarriages in June and September this year (one at around five weeks and the other at nearly six weeks). I haven't had any investigations so far - other than a thyroid check which came back normal - as everyone I've spoken to says you need to have three miscarriages before they will do anything. I've got a scan booked for the end of December, assuming the pregnancy makes it that far.

I'm a complete nervous wreck at the moment and am convinced I'm going to miscarry again. The only major symptom I've had is sore breasts, and I keep checking them obsessively to see if they're still sore (probably making them worse in the process!). I'm worried I haven't had morning sickness yet, even though I know five weeks would be quite early for it to start.

It's good to see that lots of people have had successful pregnancies after one or more mcs. I just don't feel at all positive at the moment!

Thanks SunbathingCat.

Congratulations liesal

Had to fight my gp today to get meds prescribed by the hospital but it there in the end :). Seeing the urologist tomorrow and going to be really firm about something being done DH is coming with me so hopefully everything will get sorted :). Really wanna say thank you for all the support you guys are giving me you must all be sick of hearing me feel sorry for myself now thank you all so much x

Welcome bookworm and wishing you a brilliant pregnancy. Nice to know I'm not alone with the boob poking
baby Good luck tomorrow and I hope that by presenting a united front, you'll get the answers and action you need. X

Thanks, Catbus (nice username, by the way - I assume it's a Totoro reference?). The boob-poking is seriously out of control today; God know what my colleagues think! They're definitely less sore than first thing this morning so I've convinced myself this means something's wrong...

welcome bookworm im on no3 as well, my sickness has really only kicked in with a vengeance today at 8w so really don't worry if you don't feel sick yet!

Now that we're talking boobs can I just say that I'm terrified as since yesterday morning mine went really quiet.
Saturday they felt as if they were about to explode. And for the last 2 days I got nothing.
I'm so worried and on the brink of crying all the time. Spent my day at work teary eyed all day and been in a horrible mental state.
I keep poking and squeezing but I get no reassurance.

I'm exactly the same, Skinnylegs. It's miserable. I've got virtually no work done this afternoon as I've been obsessing.

Yes it is indeed, bookworm
Regarding breast tenderness, I have noticed upon my many-times-a-day-squeezing that mine usually are more sore/ tender towards the end of the day and at night.
I have had quite a few days on and off where I have been prodding to no avail and they just aren't tender. But then a few days later it's back
I think it's almost cyclical- I have no nausea now and haven't for a week maybe- which makes me wobble. But then I will have the odd wave here and there, again mainly in the evening.
It sure is a fractious time in the first trimester and all we can do is attempt to stay sane and distract ourselves says the woman who walks around clutching her breasts to check tenderness every half an hour

Try not to worry about the boobs. Mine have come and gone several times, I don't think there are any reliable indicators really. Just remember, today you are pregnant!

And on top of this I've just discovered my first grey hair this morning in the lift at work
Entered the office red face struggling to hold back the tears.

Catbus, I've noticed something similar: mine are absolutely normal at night, can sleep on my tummy, move around, etc with no pain. They start again at around 8.30-9.00am and they get more sore as the day progresses. You are right, the peak is in the evening.
Obviously this doesbt apply to the past 2 days in my case.
I had some on and off nausea but I don't consider this reassuring as I went with serious nausea to my first scan and they've told me I had miscarried a week before. I think I can bring the nausea on myself. Seriously, if I think about it I start getting it :o

I'm another member of the boob squeezer/nipple tweaker anonymous! But I think like so many pregnancy symptoms it fluctuates over time and not every woman gets it to the same degree which doesn't mean anything dangerous - it's just about how wonderfully individual our bodies are in how they respond to pregnancy. That said I'm now firmly in the habit of tweaking my nipples after taking my bra off and before I get into bed. My husband finds this highly amusing!

Also huge congrats liesel. Really hope your recovery starts to increase in pace and that you feel much better soon.

Omg!! They hurt again!! ??Not the whole boob but my nipples are extremely sensitive, itchy and sore Thank good got that! Will sleep like a baby tonight.

Sunbathingcat, you must be one of the lucky ones with no symptoms I say lucky but it's probably hard to cope when after a mc we seek reassurance and feed on it all the time.
I think I would not panic as much if from the start I didn't have any symptoms. The problem is when you have symptoms and they start to wane.
Phryn - you made me giggle. I think my husband would enjoy see me doing that :))

That's the thing isn't it- whether we have symptoms from the off, or none from the off, or waxing and waning, it's going to mess with our heads. MC/MMC almost takes the innocence out of pregnancy, at least for a certain amount of time..
Hoping everyone has a good night's sleep and sweet baby dreams

Hello sunshines, how's everyone doing today?

SunbathingCat that was really funny :))) however, they went back to sleep today I've sort of stopped obsessing about them. Been too busy being nauseous today. It's weird, I don't actually feel like being sick(throwing up), it's more like I've been on a ride or the feeling I used to get as a child after a long and bumpy car ride.

You know, with my first pregnancy last year. We've got the family together in a nice restaurant for my birthday and announced I was pregnant I was barely 5 weeks but I swear it did not cross my mind that anything might be wrong with the baby. I had never heard of a mmc before and I thought mc happened if you had an accident, etc. I know it's absoluteky stupid but this is how naive I was and completely detached from reality
So you can probably imagine the shock I had a week later at the scan. Was there with both my mum and husband Brrrr. Shitty times.
With my second pregnancy we haven't told anyone we were pregnant . But then I had to tell close family when I miscarried, which didn't make much sense either.
eith this one we haven't said anything yet.

I haven't vomited either, just feel really ill, don't want to eat anything, and SO TIRED.

Good service from the hospital finally - I called yesterday to chase up my email referral and was told "oh I don't think our email referral is working at the moment" (wtf?) so had to do it again over the phone. Then today was called up by a staff member to talk about the ikelihood of having another trisomy and to book me in for the booking appt in 2 weeks (I'll be 10w). They seem to be treating me as high risk which I'm pretty happy about at this point. Yay, things underway! Sh*t's getting real!

The pregnant woman who's due date is only one month after my due date was (MMC not current pregnancy) is leaving before Christmas. Myself and two other colleagues are usually responsible for organising collections/cards etc. I hadn't heard any rumblings from either of them, so I double checked when she was leaving and had they got a card. One said 'I don't mind getting one tomorrow.' Then two days later she said to me, 'did you get a card.' Apparently she meant she didn't mind, not that she actually would buy one FFS. The other colleague said he'd get one at lunch time but forgot. A collection has gone round anyway.

I'd booked tomorrow off to catch-up on Christmas shopping and have now been tasked with buying her present. This is a bit insensitive considering I'm meant to be be on mat leave as well, isn't it? Or am I being too touchy? Just because I'm pregnant again doesn't mean I've forgotten about the baby I lost who would be due soon and I should be buying my own stuff for. I knew this would end up falling to me!