Anyone due in April - part 3

[Debbiethemum]

Hope nobody minds me starting a new thread, but the old one was taking forever to load.

Who is still waiting? It's just that the thread has been very quiet of late.

I am having this baby, the day afer tomorrow (c-section), when are the rest of you due. Sorry I can't remember

Good luck for tomorrow Debbiethemum.

Isn't Bluecow about to go in for induction too, good luck for you too if you're still logging on!

Dolbear, I have stitches and pins and needles too. I think it's just normal. sadly all the pains are in the wrong places to be any sort of contractions - side and front of stomach. maybe due to going swimming 3 times in 4 days for me. or maybe just my body is giving up as the bump gets ever larger.

Just to echo the good luck messages for tomorrow Debbiethemum.

Lesley - as was the case with some of the others, I didn't get any noticable warning of labour until the day it happened either. Not preceded by a week of cramping pain etc

I am due next Monday so my parents are coming down from North Yorkshire today to be around to look after dd when I go into labour, and to help afterwards. I am dreading it. I do love them and appreciate that they are prepared to put themselves out to help me, but we do not really get on and the stress levels will be sky high.

I hope I don't go overdue because that will prolong there stay too much (what an ungrateful cow I am). Yet I really do need them to be around because dh can't really take any 'paternity leave' to help me (he is self employed so if he doesn't work he doesn't get paid). Oh but they do so drive me mad (and dh - they are constantly on his back about something). Oh woe is me!

HMC, hugs!
My mum was due to come down next week to be here for due date and ds starting school but she has had a nasty bug and may not be well enough now. Can't decide if I'm disappointed or relieved! We will probably have to rely on friends when I go into labour now.

HMC - stressful parents are my speciality - hope it goes better than you anticipate!

Stress levels rising here, WHY did I have to be due and then overdue during an endless 2 week school holiday? I really wish it was a normal school-and-nursery time. We are using up all our babysitting credits and will STILL need a load of help during and after the birth. We do have lots of friends around and also my brilliant sister lives close by and does loads but this is just dragging on now...

wish I'd had an elective caesarian at 38 weeks. (not that I had any excuse at all for one)

Fennel, are you trying all the things that are supposed to bring labour on? I can't really imagine what it must be like to be overdue (ds was a week early) but I am sending sympathy your way...

HD, unfortunately rising stress levels mean that any sort of rampant sex attempt between me and DP is unlikely - we are barely talking this week!

I was a week overdue with dd1 so have been here before, but 3 days early with dd2 which was great, I guess I really hoped that would happen again. am trying to be cool about it but clearly failing!

Fennel
How are the preparations for your planned home birth going? I have just about got a bag packed (for use at home/in hospital if I have to transfer). I did mean to spend some of my maternity leave sorting out photos but I haven't found any nice albums - so I will be years behind by the time I get round to this!

Aaaaaagh! Me again - have just found out that our new bathroom flooring which was supposed to be fitted last Thurs is now not going to be fitted until next Thurs (due date!) because of staff sickness problems/fitting us in.
This isn't helping my need to feel chilled and ready...

hewlettsdaughter,

John Lewis do a classy leather photo album - quite dear though at around £40

HD - plans for home birth still in place. Bought some nice biscuits for the midwives (but can't promise not to eat them). I worry the house is too messy and they will say it's a hygiene hazard. Would like to go into labour in spotless, calm environment but don't feel like cleaning it all the time.- DP and DDs very messy, DP is crap at cleaning, hence one of our recent arguments.

still, at least I have a bathroom floor!

Our house is not that clean either - I'm just relying on covering everything with plastic sheeting!
Lesley hasn't checked in today - wonder if anything's happening?

HMC, thanks for the tip. For some reason I have a mental block on all photo albums though - think I'm too fussy.

morning !
thank you to all those with the pins and needles advice , was starting to get worried ,
well this kid has one more day to give me some action or else its the inducement , realy not happy
mothers ! mine lives about a mile away , which is handy/not good , still she is always otherwise engaged with siblings as I am the 'stable' one ha ha have spent most of my pg running around after them , although I have had the last 4 days off !

Hewlettsdaughter, I use really lovely watercolour sketchbooks for my photo albums - I am a prolific taker-of-photos and £40 per time would be a bit steep - there are 9 albums with first 4 years of kids lives! The ones I love have handmade paper on the outside and are spiral bound and I found a really good oline supplier having always bought them from a big Whitechapel art shop when I lived in London - they are made by pink pig you have to look in the sketch pads section.

My MIL has just taken my eldest off to Devon for 3 days so now I just have to entertain my 2 year old - who I think is going to miss her! I am very lucky and all I need now is for the baby to take advantage of the peace and quiet and COME!!

afternoon all

just dropped DS at nursery - am relishing the prospect of an idle afternoon. Bliss ! sure as hell am not going to spend it cleaning....

Debbiethemum - good luck for today, looking forward to hearing about another new arrival. You too Dolbear - maybe things will kick off for you b4 tomorrow.

HMC- you have my full sympathy - parents and in-laws at this time are sure to send stress levels soaring - reach for the rescue remedy. My in-laws were staying all easter weekend - i was due on the saturday and when no baby turned up i swear my FIL held me personally responsible. i was hoping things would kick off once they'd left but still no luck. lots of periody twinges and manic but painless BH in the night but still no labour pains. Why all the tedious build up ? - i had none of this malarky with DS. have become a hugely stroppy mare who has HAD ENOUGH!!!!! DP tiptoeing around me in fear for his life !

peppergirl , soooo , l know what you mean , have v similar random movements etc
sometimes just want to have screaming fit ! stop wriggling and do someting ! it can not be comfy in there !
godluck DTM !!!

Dolbear, hewlettsdaughter, emmagee,Fennel,handlemecarefully and peppergirl - hello ladies!
I remember well those feelings of frustration, discomfort and twinges from last week, like they were last year!! Presently, I am blissfully happy. However, those good old endorphins and placental hormones have left me feeling sore nipples and a painful undercarraige (although I understand I got off lightly. My milk has just come in so I have enormous, heavy boobs - and they were not small before!!
I am afraid though that for us (and it's only day 4) an active baby at night during pregnancy does mean an active baby now!
I was wondering last night, as I was listening to the dulcet tones if dd at high decibel, am I now a graduate of this thread? This fills me with a strange feeling of homelessness.
Anyway , enough! I hope you are all still bearing up and for those first time mums - there is more than you can possible imagine to look forward to you. I have to say the strength of feelings I have about everything now cannot compare to any preconceptions I had before the birth of our very dd!!!
I hope to keep in touch with you all.
Hewlettsdaughter - Mum is coming down next week now and dh is on pat. leave the week following.
I shall ring you soon Goodluck with everything!

hi Mrs D!

you are right, it's an amazing gulf between where we are and where those of you with new babies are!
you could always start the "April babies" thread. several people seem to be about to be induced/caesarianed etc in the next day or two so you should have some company.

at least my baby appears to sleep well at night in my tummy -let's hope she does in "real life" too!

Dolbear - so will you have to head in for induction tomorrow?

Hi MrsD, good to hear from you! I guess you are a graduate of this thread but don't let it stop you posting (when you have chance, anyway!). Glad that everything's going well - remember we're here if you get the blues though too (not that everyone does!).
Dot, how are you?

Saw midwife this afternoon having had an appalling night last night, I was awake from 2-5, I managed to be an hour late for my appointment as was in such a daze, but she was very forgiving. Slight worry as my blood pressure was up having been 120/60 for WHOLE pregnancy was suddenly 140/95, nothing wrong with urine sample though so she just told me to get lots of rest, anyone else had high blood pressure - what should I worry about...?

Hi every one ? is there anyone there? As far as I can gather, most of the April mums have either given birth or are off being induced today? Surely there is someone left? Fennel and HD ? you?re planning for home births aren?t you?

I see that most of you have parents or in-laws coming to stay to ? help?. I don?t know whether to be envious or commiserate! I?ve been moaning on another thread about my completely uninterested parents and MIL. We told them both about this preg at Christmas ? since then, none of them have even picked up the phone to ask how things are going, let alone visit (they all stay about 30 mins drive away, and have cars). We even visited my parents at the Easter weekend and they managed to not mention anything about their soon to be new grandchild ? a bit hard to ignore a 39+ week bump but they did it. Even after being solemnly informed by 4yo DD that ? My Mummy?s growing a baby in her tummy?. They DID ask me to come and do some gardening for them, ?once the excitement is over? ???. Yeah right??.

Do you think they are embarrassed that everyone now knows that DH and I have had sex (we only did it once, honest!!!)???? We anticipated this from 17yo DSD but not from people in their 60s?????

MIL is much the same, although she does have a bit more of an excuse in that it?s her 17th grandchild, so the novelty has worn off for her I guess. Though she could have called at Christmas / Jan when my DSS was on ventilator in intensive care for 2 weeks. Perhaps just to ask how my DH (her son!!!) was coping with a pregnant wife, a dying son and a distraught teenaged daughter?not to mention a 3yo who couldn?t understand why everyone was so upset and why she wasn?t allowed to visit her brother in hospital???..

BTW DSS pulled through in the end, but the medical staff were preparing us for the worst. It was a horrible time???..

Anyone, enough bitching about the family. Hope you are all surviving having yours to stay. At least they WANT to be involved, although it sounds like some of the ?support? isn?t very supportive.

EmmaG ? sorry to hear you?re feeling so unwell. Sorry know nothing about high blood pressure but I?m sure someone else here will do. How weird that you were late for your appointment yesterday ? so was I, for the first time ever. I just for get about it. To be honest, I think I thought it was Tuesday rather than Wed coz of the holiday on Monday. I?d had a burst of energy and had taken the two girls clothes shopping (for them ? they love it) and was sitting in MacDonald?s with them when I remembered????.must be 39 week amnesia

Mrs D ? are you going to post more about your birth experience? Not sure if you are sparing us other first time mums the awful details or just blissed out with baby Orla and fed up with sore boobs. Are you going to try BF? Please post any tips you have, as I would like to but am very anxious about it??.

Lesley - just lurking around from october thread and wanted to send hugs re: your parental situation. People. Are. Strange. Whereas you seem perfectly lovely. XXX

yes, am still here! Had another bout of sex (decidedly un-rampant though as DP and I are barely speaking so it wasn't exactly passionate) and am currently chomping my way through a whole pineapple.

Lesley, I could go on a long rant about parents and in-laws too. If it makes you feel better... DP's parents are crap, they live an hour away and still babysit his brother's children 4 times a week, and his sister's children weekly, but have only ever done any babysitting for us 5 times in 4 years and have not offered any help to us now. Sometimes we justify it saying they are getting on a bit (early - mid 70's) and are permitted to have their own life, but it's really that they are not interested in their 3rd set of grandchildren. It's as though the first lot takes 95% of their energy and enthusiasm and the second lot took the other 5%.
I think it's quite common, there was a thread on this this week wasn't there? We are used to it, but it's irritating at times like this. the good thing is we won't feel any eldercare responsibilities when/if that time comes, the others can do that!

as for my parents, my mum's a sweetie but lives 200 miles away and comes in a package with my dad who is unbearable, quite honestly. Read the threads about living with Aspergers syndrome children and imagine them as adults. that's my dad. so we can't use them realistically either.

but luckily I do have a lovely sister and her DP who do do a lot, and we do have paid childcare etc and friends. so not all bad....

so are there any more babies yet then?

oh, Emmagee, sorry I don't know what causes raised blood pressure at this stage but I do know it's very common and probably not due to something being wrong, but can be a "natural" thing at this stage. I
hope someone can be more informative on this.

Ah shucks, Toots you are sweet!!!

Fennel, ROFL at the thought of you and DP doing the prostagladin bit but still not speaking!!!!

My Dh has that hunted look again.....he has started to stay on the computer til late at night in the hope that i will have fallen asleep before he comes to bed

About a week ago he was reading over my shoulder - the bit when we were all going on about rampant sex starting labour. Dot posted something about how we must all be mad and DH commented on how sensible she was and how he should be married to Dot instead of me!!! LOL ( Dot1 hope you are reading this!!!!!)

Emma how are you feeling today?