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Arkkorox · 26/10/2014 18:35

After being up half the night reading the forum ive finaly plucked up the courage to ask you guys for some advice. Bear with me its a long one but I really need to speak to people who know.

Im pregnant and going for my first scan tomorrow - at an abortion clinic. Now this was a bit of a knee jerk panic reaction however I have a feeling that Im going to be over 24 weeks. My last bleed was in april and just for 2 days but heavy. Since then ive had no more bleeding but because of being on the large side its not odd for my periods to come and go as they please. I have had absolutley no symptoms at all, no sickness, no sore boobs, nothing. Untill 2 weeks ago when I felt incredibly bloated and then wednesday when i had a leaky nipple. Took a pregnancy test on thursday and it was positive. Went to the doctors on friday and have my scan tomorrow.

Im 25, been in a relationship with my brilliant boyfriend for 5 years. But we are terrified. Currently living appart to save up for a house depoisit but I changed jobs 2 months ago and he was made redundant a month ago. Hes with his parents and im living with my nan as she sometimes needs help in the night if she falls etc.

If im correct in counting from my bleed in april that would put me at about 27 weeks.... so possibly no going back now! Which Im not entirely dissapointed about and neither is my OH, hes been lovely and less panicky than me!

My biggest issue is telling my parents. My mum is going to totaly flip and I dont want to ruin our good relationship especialy this close to christmas. Please say someone else has been in my shoes? Im so scared its going to ruin everything!!!!

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fairgroundsnack · 28/10/2014 17:21

Hello and Congratulations!
I am near Guildford - the NCT there is very active with lots of fab groups, have a look on their FB page. They also have a nearly new sale coming up on 15 November for toys and equipment,

Arkkorox · 28/10/2014 17:37

Dad knows, he has been brilliant and reassured me it will all be okay. However I've just had a pretty angry voicemail from my mum asking me to call her asap. I'm guessing she heard the hospital cock up message then. Crap. Feel sick.

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Knottyknitter · 28/10/2014 17:49

You'll be fine. Deep breath, ring her, then come back and vent to us if you need to!

Dilligufdarling · 28/10/2014 17:49

Good luck with your mum Ark.
Have been following your thread and it's amazing!
Am sure you'll be absolutely fine and be brilliant parents.
As another 6ft mum here I didn't find one pram better or worse for my height tbh. My biggest problem with ours is that the wheels are too wide and don't fit down the aisles of shops easily.
Also if your mum's first reaction is to be angry that's totally crap but please please give her the chance to sleep on it and apologise to you tomorrow/next week.
xxx

NewEraNewMindset · 28/10/2014 17:51

Oh Ark, that's a crappy way for your Mum to find out. I'm so glad your Dad has been supportive.

MikeTheShite · 28/10/2014 17:52

Congratulations ark, don't worry about your mum xx

jbee1979 · 28/10/2014 18:00

This is such a great post!! congratulations! you'll be a fab mum and it's natural to feel worried right now. hope your parents take it okay. my parents weren't happy when my wee brother and his girlfriend announced they were expecting - but as soon as they saw my nephew they were smitten! they'll be more worried for you and upset that you'll suffer, be in pain, be skint for forever than anything else - so try to read any negative comments as positive - they're just concerned Smile

DeputyPecksBentBeak · 28/10/2014 18:11

Holy crap! 24th. November? faints

On a serious note though, it will all work out. Baby is coming no matter what and all you can do is make the best of the situation. I'm making it sound so simple and that's probably not what you're feeling right now!

I hope things go ok with your mum. Just remember, she's not the only adult in the situation, you are too

Arkkorox · 28/10/2014 18:20

Mums angry.

Dads angry cause mums angry.

Dads very excited about being a grandad bless him.

I'm feeling a bit better now the important people know. Dads gone all ' we can knock through the wall and make a double bedroom for you and nursery and we can paint it all etc' bless him.

I'm just going to ignore my mum for the evening to be honest. I've been proded and poked so much today I'm knackered. Don't need her giving me crap about how I can't look after myself let alone a baby.

IM HAVING A BABY!!!!!!! Smile

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NewEraNewMindset · 28/10/2014 18:23

You certainly are!! Grin

Your Dad sounds fantastic. Your Mum will come round, she is shocked!!!! Yesterday she had no clue and today she will have a grandchild within two months. That's pretty big news lol. Worthy of a Facebook announcement Wink

Arkkorox · 28/10/2014 18:27

2 months! I wish, my due date is in 26 days.

Oh my god my due date is in 26 days.

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jenmcspen · 28/10/2014 18:27

Have missed so much since I first replied to ur post-eek! Big congratulations, so pleased everything is ok with baby and that ur dad is being supportive Grin
Ur mum will come around, she is prob just in shock x

NewEraNewMindset · 28/10/2014 18:31

It's pretty common to go overdue with your first. I only went a couple of days over but could go 2 weeks!!

Do you actually feel pregnant now lol?

Zamboni · 28/10/2014 18:37

Congrats OP - I think you're doing amazingly!

Arkkorox · 28/10/2014 18:47

I still dont really think its sunk it at all! Maybe now I can tell people it might. Oh and the fact that I appear to be carrying some kind of boxing champion.

Thank you all for you support, its been brilliant.

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MissSusanStoHelit · 28/10/2014 19:12

Yay Ark's dad - he will calm your mum down, I'm sure! 26 days - holy cow... You're having a baby!!! Grin

Arkkorox · 28/10/2014 19:19

Yeah, no going back now is there!!!!

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DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 28/10/2014 19:38

Congratulations, your mum will come round. Smile

FTRsGotAShinyNewNN · 28/10/2014 19:50

Wow Ark I've just come across your thread, Congratulations!! Thanks
It must be quite a lot to get your head around, rest assured we're all in the same boat, I'm 27wks with my 2nd and don't feel any more prepared than I did with my 1st and I've done it before!
As others have said don't worry too much about your mum she's got no choice but to get used to the idea, my mum isn't a big fan of babies but was instantly bewitched by my boy when he was born.
Try not to worry about all of the 'stuff' too, newborns particularly breastfed ones need very little to begin with.
Nappies
Vests
Babygros
Moses basket
Sling/pushchair (whichever is easiest for you to get)
And most hospitals won't discharge you unless your baby is in an infant car seat.
It'll be fine, Smile

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Bondy83 · 28/10/2014 20:06

Congratulations. See if you are eligible for the sure start grant (£500) it's worth applying for they can only say no. Give your mum time she will soon come round once baby is here she'll have too. Hope your partner is coping a bit better today. What have his parents said?

upyourninja · 28/10/2014 20:06

Wow! Congratulations!

You don't need much for the first few weeks, trust me!

My essentials would be: 0-3 months clothes based on size expectations

Lots of popper vests
Lots of baby grows
A few cellular blankets
Moses basket/cot type bed
Sling (Kari Me or Moby are great for newborns),
Pack of muslins
Nappies
Cotton wool
Metanium - best bum cream ever
Rucksack/big bag for changing bag

That is really all you need to begin with!

Also not to scare you but my number one post-birth trick for you is to have a little bottle of water into which you put a few drops of tea tree oil. Pour it over your bits as you wee and it stops the stinging :)

Good luck!

fuzzpig · 28/10/2014 20:09

Oh my word this is amazing!

Sorry your mum is being so unsupportive. Hopefully she will come round to it soon.

Annarose2014 · 28/10/2014 20:19

Hi Arkkorox, you can head over to the Antenatal Clubs - there's one for November! Don't worry about joining "late", someone else joined just today!

Whilst we can't imagine your shock, we can certainly empathise with the "oh crap, its coming really soon & I'm kinda freaking out" part of it. Grin

NewEraNewMindset · 28/10/2014 20:29

Yay!! Go and join your fellow November mummies-to-be and go talk babies Grin