Very Scared!

[Arkkorox]

After being up half the night reading the forum ive finaly plucked up the courage to ask you guys for some advice. Bear with me its a long one but I really need to speak to people who know.

Im pregnant and going for my first scan tomorrow - at an abortion clinic. Now this was a bit of a knee jerk panic reaction however I have a feeling that Im going to be over 24 weeks. My last bleed was in april and just for 2 days but heavy. Since then ive had no more bleeding but because of being on the large side its not odd for my periods to come and go as they please. I have had absolutley no symptoms at all, no sickness, no sore boobs, nothing. Untill 2 weeks ago when I felt incredibly bloated and then wednesday when i had a leaky nipple. Took a pregnancy test on thursday and it was positive. Went to the doctors on friday and have my scan tomorrow.

Im 25, been in a relationship with my brilliant boyfriend for 5 years. But we are terrified. Currently living appart to save up for a house depoisit but I changed jobs 2 months ago and he was made redundant a month ago. Hes with his parents and im living with my nan as she sometimes needs help in the night if she falls etc.

If im correct in counting from my bleed in april that would put me at about 27 weeks.... so possibly no going back now! Which Im not entirely dissapointed about and neither is my OH, hes been lovely and less panicky than me!

My biggest issue is telling my parents. My mum is going to totaly flip and I dont want to ruin our good relationship especialy this close to christmas. Please say someone else has been in my shoes? Im so scared its going to ruin everything!!!!

[Arkkorox]

Oh
My
God.

Due date is the 24th of november, it's currently 6lbs 4 but healthy.

[Arkkorox]

Now to break the news to the parents. Crap.

[confusedandemployed]

Wow. Just wow. But in a lovely way

Good luck for the news-breaking. Try to keep in your mind that it's your baby, you are happy (yes you are!!) and you are excited. If a little scared, admittedly.

Did you find out boy or girl?

[BuckskinnedAstronaut]

If that's accurate (often they aren't) then that suggests an 8lb baby at full term -- so may only be in newborn size clothes for a couple of weeks. If you're looking for baby clothes (via eBay lots or similar) go for a mixture of newborn and 0-3 month sizes.

[OhMjh]

Wow! You're due 10 days after me. How are you feeling about it all now? And did you find out the gender? X

[fuctifino]

Wow, congrats
Hope mother takes the news well.

Can they really estimate size so accurately from a scan?

[Firstpregnancy2014]

Im due that week also:) Congratulations
It must be so much to take in but I hope your well, did you manage to find out the sex? I hope the news to your parents goes well, everyone deals with shock in a different way but i hope you are ok :)

[Nocarbs]

Congratulations op! Everything will work out fine, just trust in it. How exciting :-) x

[Arkkorox]

Baby was in an awkward position ( head down - argh!) so couldn't see the sex. My partners a bit gutted and so am I but may ask midwife on Monday if we can squeeze in another scan just incase

[NewEraNewMindset]

Awwww that's so lovely. Have you got scan pics?

[BuckskinnedAstronaut]

It's typically very difficult to see the sex after about 30 weeks, I think -- so not particularly likely to get a better view next week (still, in five weeks or so you'll know for sure!)

fuctifino, they take a bunch of measurements (femur size, crown-to-rump length, head circumference, abdominal circumference) and feed those into an algorithm that spits out a likely weight. The accuracy figures are something like that in 80% of pregnancies it's within 10% of the right weight, so it should be taken as a vague indication of possibilities rather than as gospel (I had growth scans at 34-36 weeks with all three of mine; two were spot on but we were expecting DC3 to be about a pound heavier at full term than she actually was).

[Arkkorox]

No :( none of them were really clear enough cause baby is that much bigger, they didn't really look like anything you could make out unless you knew what it was. Baby had its fists clenched and kept waving a foot around though lol.

[OhMjh]

Head down is a great position to be in! At least you know for future reference that you do pregnancy extremely well. How is your partner doing?

[NewEraNewMindset]

So come on. How are you intending to tell your parents? You must give you Mum a little time before labour starts to process the news and buy you lots of baby goodies

[LuckyAugust]

Wow!!! Congratulations and wishing you lots of luck x

[curiousgeorgie]

Wow, that's amazing, and congratulations!!

Don't worry about stuff, as others have said nearly new sales and gumtree are your friends. I'm in Epsom, so not far from you and my cousin works in maternity at royal Surrey!

[roofio87]

wow!! not long left at all. I hope you're feeling ok. good luck with telling your parents. come and vent here if you need to!!

[excitedforbaba]

Wow have been following your post! Congratulations your due 9 days after me! I used to think it would he fab finding out with only a few weeks to go! I have known from 7/8 weeks and the wait has just been unbearable

Wishing u all the best with the remainder of your pregnancy and telling your parents! A baby is a wonderful thing and even if they do not react well to the initial news once they have time to process it they will be so excited for their new/first grandchild!

There is an antenatal thread for November babies if you have a chance to pop over to read up on symptoms, potential labour signs and just general chat about feelings emotions etc xx

[skunkpixie]

Congratulations! It must be such an emotional and scary time for you and your partner, but everything will be fine xxxx

[Itsfab]

How do you know they left a message on your mum's answer phone and have you told her and your Nan yet?

[Marmaladecat1]

Wow! Just read all of this. All the best of luck to you.
You will be just fine, do not expect too much of yourself. You'll get there.
Congratulations!

[Peaceloveandbiscuits]

It's quite amazing how unclear later scans are compared to 20 weeks. I had one at 29 weeks and could only make out the spine, and the general head shape. Sonographer said it's because it's so cramped in there now. Disappointing though!

[SweepTheHalls]

Wonderful news from the scan!

[cookielove]

Oh wow what a surprise for you.

With regards to being unprepared, my ds came 6 weeks early and we had only the car seat and pushchair ready. They don't need to much in the beginning although we have shed loads of shit now ds is 11 weeks.