Another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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The new thread for mummy-to-be madness, mushiness and mayhem!

Hello everyone,

I've been lurking about a month, finally ready to face the fear that posting won't jinx it.

DontBeBlue, 26, DC1 after 1MMC earlier this year, EDD 23/03/15

Missmakesstuff i am scared about telling my sister and my dad (mum knows) because I'm the youngest and my sister got married last year and just told me she's TTC, i think she'll be horrified I've beat her to it, esp after i eloped in the summer (long story). She's the oldest of our cousins and I'm the second so i think she sees it as her birthright if you see what i mean... i have a great relationship with her though, so fingers crossed. My dad will just be so shocked as i don't think he takes me very seriously, sees me as still in my travelling 20s. I'll probably end up waiting until 20 weeks to tell!

Scan yesterday pleasantly put me more than a week further than i thought, as i got BFP in the WTF cycle after miscarriage. Absolute joy, couldn't believe what i was seeing! Reassured that's why my tummy's got a bit big lately!

Looking forward to chatting with you all

Hey guys, just a quicky to say thank you for being so welcoming here. Unfortunately I'll be bobbing off as we lost our baby's heartbeat yesterday - op today. Hope everything goes super smoothly for you all and Monday is awesome Mrs G :)

I'm so sorry to hear that Boozle take care of yourselves. That's so sad.

I haven't been on here for a while because I am just trying to not obsess about my pregnancy. But I'm having a wobble.

After 4 great scans I am now 15 + 2. But now, I am freaking out. We have booked a private scan to find out the gender in 2 weeks. We're taking my DSC with us - 11 and 14, so not babies. I am terrified we're going to get in there and they're gonna find something wrong.

I have my 16 week appointment next week with the consultant and they will try and find the HB which I'm looking forward to and WILL reassure me. But at my scan she said my placenta is anterior, does this mean they might not find it? What happens if they cant?

I'm freaking out. I'm overanalysing everything still. Every twinge, the fact I'm not properly showing yet, I didn't wake up in the night for a wee.

I cant handle the anxiety any more :(

hi everyone, just caught up with you all after a week away. boozle very sorry to hear your news. I hope you have lots of RL support and are getting the care you need.

Seasalt I have an anterior placenta and the MW found the HB the first go at 16 weeks and it was massively reassuring. So it shouldn't mean that she cant find it. She is a very experienced MW though so that might make a difference. She also said at the start that in the very rare times she couldn't find a HB she sent that lady straight away for a scan. I don't think all areas will do this though. I felt the same anxiety though prior to it - despite the scans it was just such a worry prior to that appointment. maybe call the midwife in advance and check what the procedure is?

AFM, now 24 weeks. I met up with two very good friends who know my history last night who cried when they saw my bump - it suddenly brought it home to me that we are well on the way. I finally got some kicking last week and since then have been feeling much more reassured.

We have the hv appointment in a couple of weeks - never had this before, is it ok in people's experience? Just wondering what to expect.

Sorry to hear your news Bootle Take care of yourself xxx

seasalt I had an anterior placenta with DD. It never stopped them finding her heartbeat or caused an issues.The main thing was that I didn't feel any movement till around 23 weeks (which I was assured wasn't unusual).

Thanks both. That's reassuring. Its the consultant I am seeing, and he's the top bod for the area so I assume he would know what he's doing! Thank you.

So sorry to hear your news boozle hope your being taken care of and getting lots of RL support

boozle I am so sorry to hear that, I hope the op is as ok as it can be and I hope you get another BFP as soon as you feel ready

Seasalt - I have an anterior placenta - and they couldn't find the heartbeat at 16 weeks. I Referred myself to the EPU and they took me in for a scan. If that happens and its a very big if....explain to them how anxious it is making you!

I was able to be reassured when they showed me that he was just under the placenta and that's all we can pick up - They also said hearing the placenta proves it is working ,and if anything had happened - they wouldn't be able to!

I would say to be calm, but I wasn't! Good Luck !!! xxxx

Seasalt - I have an anterior placenta - and they couldn't find the heartbeat at 16 weeks. I Referred myself to the EPU and they took me in for a scan. If that happens and its a very big if....explain to them how anxious it is making you!

I was able to be reassured when they showed me that he was just under the placenta and that's all we can pick up - They also said hearing the placenta proves it is working ,and if anything had happened - they wouldn't be able to!

I would say to be calm, but I wasn't! Good Luck !!! xxxx

boozle so sorry to hear your sad news. Offering you hugs and I hope you have a lot of support in RL xx

boozle, I echo the wishes above that this time passes as easily as it can for you and that you are well supported.
seasalt, my placenta is anterior, we have had no real issues with finding a heart beat at MW appts/MAU.

amicable, I have my HV appt next week, I read somewhere on here that it is a relatively new initiative to try and make sure that vulnerable women get the help they need. It feels odd to me as I am seeing the second HV who was assigned to us for DD, so she knows me and the situation reasonably well. But presume they are trying to see all pregnant women now; it might make for a less brittle start or let you request a different HV before the baby arrives (our first HV never came back after losing an argument about the -now nationally adopted - rotavirus vaccine, which she both admitted she knew nothing about and insisted we should not give). Just a bit weird to see them during pregnancy!

oh, thanks corpore that makes sense! Bit nervous about it! think I am more concerned about being judged on my housekeeping than anything else!!!

She never seemed to care about the laundry hanging everywhere and mild chaos - I think whatever you think is bad, they have seen 1 million times worse stuff. She once managed to leave a whole pad of scripts under my sofa and didn't notice (she was prescribing DD some cream for dribble rash, thank goodness I'm honest!)

Quick update on phone. 2 doctors, a midwife and a sonographer have diagnosed bean as being bloody awkward! She was just kinking her legs to the side.
Once scanned she revealed herself to be average in every way, and "small" as in 6 lb something (ie short parents small not medical small). Phew.

That's good squiz. Hope you can relax a little now.

MrsG sorry you got bumped to Monday, fingers crossed the weekend passes quickly for you.

So sorry to hear your news boozle, hope you have lots of support

That's interesting about the HV visits. Is it just for first babies, or do they do it for subsequent ones too? We are in a new area this time so I don't know how it works here. Only met a HV once, at DS' 2 year check - she seemed nice and sensible though. The ones where I lived before made me want to smack my head against a wall.

T minus 3 for 12 week scan on Monday. Absolutely bricking it.

I also managed to have a huge collision with the bathroom door handle, right where my sciatic nerve keeps sticking. That was Wednesday morning and it still fricking hurts! I only have a tiny bruise but the nerve keeps catching more than usual, so my leg is tending to give way at unhelpful moments

What's everyone got planned for the weekend? We have a zoo trip tomorrow, if the weather is ok.

missmakes my ms is allot better than it was and I'm sure once we're moved and settled it will be better again tiredness and stress don't help at all.

On my way to see the new house which is terrifying.

squiz try not to worry it's probably
Like you said baby is engaged I've never heard of babies shrinking :) relax

So sorry for your news boozle tale care x

mrsg best wishes for Monday! hope the Chinese was yummy; am jealous, at 10am! X

squiz DS measured small on bump throughout out! and 'shrunk' at 37 ish weeks when he dropped and engaged. In fact I was able to fit back in normal pre preg jeans at this point. Growth scans showed him on the 80th centile, and he was born just over 4kg! Babies don't shrink, and soon you will be meeting yours to prove it. Xx

Scary day yesterday. Back pains and cramping through Wednesday night, and some clear fluid. Spent the whole night in tears clutching my hot water bottle, so sweaty emotional wreck by the time I made it to clinic. However baby HB fine, but baby lying right at the back (took ages to find, panic...) so probably causing pain and reduced movements. Blood is from inflamed cervix and vaginitis, and now have thrush too :( as uncomfortable as this all is, means LO is fine :))))))))

Utterly shattered as I move into the 2nd day of baking marathon as catering DSD's wedding tomorrow. Wish me and my bulging cankles luck! Xx

So this mornings post only just showed as I log in again :/

Great news squiz.

Cooking almost done - only sandwiches to assemble now. Aching everywhere from so long on my feet. Thinks DH owes me a foot rub for to make up the swollen ankles I have gained for his daughter! LOL.

Feeling sooo lousy today, havnt had much sleep but am sooo tired, stomach has started to ache too (just a dull ache tho, no contractions) am suppose to walk into town (about 30 min walk) an run a few errands but I barly have the energy to keep my eyes open. Would like to think my body's getting ready but tomorrow is my due date and somehow the idea of going into labour on time seems impossible so I doubt it I realise that makes no sense

squiz glad youv been reassured, hopefully the baby's getting into position for you!

Boozle so sorry to hear your news,

Squiz that's great, I hope it's reassuring.

I had an early scan at lunchtime and all is ok! I was measuring 7 weeks which is 3 days behind what I thought but makes sense as my bfp took ages to come through - was a v faint line 14dpo so probably ov later than I thought.

great news squiz, that must be reassuring. cuppa hope you can now put your feet up and are feeling better? your DSD owes you a large post baby bottle of wine .

alb how exciting, due date tomorrow! no wonder you are feeling tired. hope you managed to get some rest.

tea not sure if hv preg visit is just for first babies....may well be....I got a letter in the post saying they would come by, and the date and time. It's my first baby. Corpore has reassured me, but hopefully it will be good motivation to drag the hoover around a bit in advance - DH will be pleased!! haha.

I'm just back from the hospital, went in as hadn't felt any kicks since yesterday afternoon despite lucazade, cold water, lying down etc etc and although the rational part of me knows this is ok, only just 24 weeks etc etc, the irrational part of me worked myself up into a right tizzy to the point I was composing the email telling people the baby had died. Total over reaction, and a big part of me knew that, but I think I have been so chilled (for me) since the 20 week scan I was due a meltdown. Thought 'sod it' and called the community midwife who was brilliant and had me in to listen to HB and calmed me right down without making me feel like an idiot. Taught me a good lesson early on I think - if in doubt call - feeling much better now despite the continued lack of kicking.

Happy Friday everyone

So sorry to hear your news boozle sending big hugs

fedup and missmakes it's pretty daunting, telling! I was quite superstitious. I told people who knew my "issues" 1st. Also yes my symptoms were subtle at times! If we were normal pregnant women we'd be like "woo hoo, no symptoms today!"

Welcome Rainbow!

Boozle so sorry to hear this. :( Take care.

Sea salt I found the weeks between bean bleeping and "it looks like a real baby" nerve wracking. I am sure all will be well.

Corp and moomin I am waiting for my hv appt. Luckily work in a related field so know my house is crap but clean and safe enough haha!

Tea I have a similar knock on my leg. Soon painful and irritating and nowhere near sympathy bruised enough! Grr.