Another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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The new thread for mummy-to-be madness, mushiness and mayhem!

Hello,

I need a fish slap. I am having the baby on Weds or Thurs this week, c-section, depending on theatre availability. So close!

And yet I'm in a panic, almost feeling depressed. I think I'm still worried that after all this time I could have this taken away from me. My little boy is so excited about the baby and I'm worried about having to tell him bad news, or what if something happens to me. I know I am being mostly ridiculous, I just wish I could go into this process with the same 'I am getting a baby!' expectation that 99% of mothers have. I think I'm anxious about the op itself (yet I'm not going to change my mind on that so please don't try). ARGH.

Also I've just had a big panic about the name we'd chosen and am now wondering whether to find something else.

Can anyone else identify with this?

Hopeful, I think it is fair enough to be anxious. Don't be too hard on yourself. And I was umming and aging about names right till the end with dd. But an elective c section is one of the safest ways to give birth. You will be grand! It is probably a delayed reaction to the anxiety you have been carrying till now.

Think you might be right Longest. I was super anxious for the first 20 weeks, then chilled out a bit, now all the old panics are coming back to me.

We'd decided on Serena for a girls name, but I've just found out there's a BCooper/JLaw film coming out in Oct with the same name, where 'Serena'/JLaw can't have children and tries to kill BCooper's illegitimate son; she's a really horrible character. It's made me doubt the name choice and I just don't know what to do! It's only a stupid film but I can't think straight for baby hormones. Selina/Cara/Calista were the other top contenders but we'd decided on Serena ages ago.

hopeful this doesn't sound like a film many people will go to see Good luck with the birth!

hopeful sounds like a rubbish film any way :) Serena is a beautiful name :)

Thank you, I think I've gone a bit bonkers at the end of this pregnancy!

Itscurtainsforyou hello! I remember your name from the other thread. Did you recently find out about your blood? Good luck.

starsinthenightsky congratulations! I hope that things have been going well.

hopefulhampster what a lovely name! Can't really worry about one film though.

babytinx11 poor you. I hope that it goes well managing your kidney. Must have been very stressful.

GandTnow glad the scan went well! Great news.

Big welcome to everyone new. I have no news as such, just wanted to wish everyone lots of luck and baby dust.

Thanx GW & missmakes got an appointment Friday to review pain relief going to see how long I can manage with pain relief over the surgical option as a general anesthetic is not ideal in pregnancy had the same with DS and ended up on some serious painkillers but avoided surgery so hoping for the same this time

This month is going from bad to worse - After all the drama of the suspected blood clot, I have now tested positive for Gestational Diabetes. I feel like I am loosing my mind,
I keep imagining all the worse scenarios and can't seem to stop - has anyone else been through this?!

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baby hoping your feeling better soon.

hopefull hoping the anxiety settles soon and you enjoy some cuddles. Btw, beautiful name x

gandt fable news :)

liesal how awful for you. Hugs. Whilst no experience of GD personally, I have 2 friends who had healthy babies. Now they have diagnosed, they can properly treat and monitor you. Xx it's horrible having a pregnancy where nothing is right isn't it? On my positive days, I am taking this as meaning it's all gone wrong and the birth will be a doddle ;)

Just got back from hospital. Not me for a change, but had barely got through the door yesterday when DS arrived home and promptly fell out of tree at the park; dislocated elbow. With following him through theatre etc all night, and no food on wards rule, I hadn't eaten for 24 hours when I got in this morning :( checking threads whilst waiting for blood sugar to get back up again as v dizzy now. DH fuming as he brought me in food last night but they wouldn't let me eat it. V bad as I am visibly pregnant at 28w and still limping from last weeks accident. However ultimately DS ok now, just trying to get his cast grafitti'd by all and sundry, and I have tea and bicycles.

We're not having the best of times on here at the moment, are we?
liesal, as cuppa says, being diagnosed is a good thing really - means that your GD can be monitored and controlled. There is no reason to assume a bad outcome. Am sure there are lots of GD ladies on MN though, might be worth starting a thread.
cuppa hope you and DS are both feeling better soon.
afm, just off to have my flu jab: whoopee!

liesal79 I have it now and had it with DS. It sucks. I don't like watching what I eat at all. Basically you will meet with various people. One of which will be a dietician and they can help you understands which foods are better and worse and what sort of portion sizes are best. I think it varies from place to place about when and what medication they put you on. My current medication is metformin. You have to measure blood sugars regularly with a small portable monitor (pin prick). I was induced a week early because of the diabetes but the birth went well and DS was fine and neither of us needed any further intervention. Not knowing is the hardest thing about it. I am very relaxed this time because even though I had to be induced (I didn't want that) it went well so I know what to expect. You can do it, but be especially kind to yourself. How many weeks are you? Big hug.

Hi GWLONDON, I am 28 weeks and just back from the hospital who were lovely, and gave me my machine,
they are going to try with diet first and see how I go, but was very positive about what I currently eat. I am overweight but have only put on 4kg so am doing well, I just need to stop the chocolate basically and reduce my carbs.
It was very scary, but I am seeing it as a positive. :) Thanks all for you very kind words!!!

Hi all, how is everybody?
Liesal and cuppa sorry to hear you've been through difficult times....

Quick question: when did you first start feeling movements with your first baby? I'm 18 weeks and really worried I haven't felt anything. Also I can't really tell if my bum is growing or not... it doesn't look so to me and not sure it's big enough for 18 weeks... another confession: I just bought a doppler... Help!

silver my MW said not worry unless you hadnt felt anything by 24 weeks could be anything maybe your feeling it but not realising or your placenta is at the front so it makes it really hard to feel baby move or it could be facing your back which again makes it hard to feel lots and lots of reasons why you haven't felt anything yet

Silver, as Baby said, everyone feels movements at different times. My SIL's two pregnancies were that the placenta was at the front, therefore she didn't feel anything until late on. My sister didn't feel a thing till 22wks with both hers.
Hope you get your wee pokes soon.
Leisal & Cuppa, sorry you've both been through the mill. Cuppa I can't believe they stopped should being brought into you.
I have a brie & parma ham roll on order for after I pop! I dare them to try & take it off me! I'm only craving after the things I can't have!
My news, is I'm 20wks tomorrow & apart from not sleeping (and a shocking case of baby brain), I'm feeling great. Energy is back up & a stranger said to me on Sunday that I'm blooming! It's the little things! Have 20wk scan on Monday so hopefully Bean is happy & healthy in there!

*stopped food....not should!

Thanks baby and blank it's the most frustrating period when you have no way of telling if things are fine, as pg symptoms have gone and no movements yet.... 20 week scan is 2 weeks away...

Hi Silverine. I didn't feel anything until bang on 22 weeks, and it went straight to kicks!! Even now at 28 weeks they are not the strongest but you can feel them from the outside. Its odd!! :) I am overweight and have an anterior placenta so please don't be frustrated! I paniced something chronic before my 20 week scan....And it was all fine. Keep positive - easier said than done! :))

Tori - I'm pretty sure you're protected by law re time off for miscarriage. Your time off was pregnancy-related, so there should be no repercussions.

The link below gives guidance for employers on how to handle someone having a miscarriage - if you have problems it might be worth sending them a copy...
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Miscarriage-and-the-Workplace.pdf

Tori - This happened to me, and the whole process of being made to sit in a room and talk about "why I had been off" was so tramatic, I had a panic attack and was signed off with stress.
They tell me that they have to go through the same process as everyone else, but the outcome should be different.
My argument was that the pregnancy related illness can't be accounted for. Nothing came of it, but ensure that it is handled sensitively! xxx

I've had another look and I think the equalities act says that miscarriage is a pregnancy-related illness, so should not be counted towards any disciplinary action etc.