Another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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The new thread for mummy-to-be madness, mushiness and mayhem!

Congratulations one and hope you and baby are ok fedup

My baby boy was born at 4.30am yesterday, they broke my waters and things progressed fairly quickly until baby got in distress an they had to help him out with the suction cup thing (can't remember the name) and he came out elbow next to his head so lots of tears etc down there but he's fine atleast! No name yet. Already thinkin of abandoning breast feeding, I feel like a huge failure but I just really hate it, breast feeding that is, I love my baby but the breast feeding just isn't for me proly doesn't help he hasn't slept much yet. Were both well, although iv never felt so discombobulated in my life! Never quite believed I'd get a baby at the end of this so being given one has come as quite a shock!

mrsg glad you and baby are doing well!

There isn't a postnatal thread for the graduates of this one is there? Iv never spotted it so far...

Hope everyone else is ok! Il catch up properly when I can, only had a quick flick through so far

Congratulations alb Hope you are not too sore. BF took me a while to get used too. Def won't be helping if you are tired. We did mixed feeding from when we got home for hospital. Do what's best for you as that has to be best from baby.x

I'd happily try mixed feeding but my midwife said u have to wait 4-6 weeks to introduce the bottle cos otherwise they get confused, but il ask her again tomoro cos if I'm gona switch to bottles anyway it may be worth the risk...

Alb biggest congratulations! It is so overwhelming, isn't it? I hope you get some proper sleep and get some time and support to do what's right for you. Don't be pressured into something that doesn't suit you...

Still can't believe it'll be me having a baby, but you, One and MrsG seem to be proving it might be possible!

If there's not a thread, maybe you need to start one for us to join later!

Hi all

I have had the week from hell. It started last week on sunday with a tight chest and breathlessness, which got worse and I ended up in A&E. I was then sent home after being on the nebuliser, and told to see my doctor if it wasn't better. It wasn't. It turns out the ER doc had done a test that showed I could have a blood clot, but didn't act on it, so I then was in another hospital for 2 days, having lots of scary tests (including a Radioactive Isotope injected into me) to prove I didn't have a blood clot on the lungs.

On the Thursday, I woke up, and had the LONGEST pee of my life, having never experienced my waters breaking, I called the maternity hospital, who wanted me in just to check - but thankfully all was and is fine,
then on Friday, my cat, had been vomiting for 2 days, started bringing up bile, and we were told we may lose her. We have been back today and she is making progress but was a very upsetting weekend.

I had been in a phased return at work and was due last week to go back full time, but the doctor signed me off with all the tests (and after being radioactive, I wasn't allowed near a pregnant person(!) and children!) so am due on another phased return tomorrow.

I am stressed to the hilt and wish I could just stop and enjoy this. I am getting better - at 26 weeks the kicks are getting stronger and that reasurres me, and we had a lovely 4d scan today, it was a birthday present.... and saw little man, and heard his heart which reasurres me after the last week.
Rant Over - Congrats on all the great news, and good luck to those that need it!

xx

Congrats alb
Do want you feel is right for you and baby re bf. if it makes you miserable then it's probably not for you both.

Still here. Waiting for things to kick off again. Not given me anything to stop it but also not speeding it up. Although dr says may induce me tomorrow otherwise. Contracting irregularly, probably about every 20 to 30 mins. And had the most grossest 'show' ever earlier. Didn't realise there was so much!
Hoping it gets going tonight

alb don't listen to your MW. Her advice is indeed correct for those who aim at exclusive or mostly bf but with occasional bottle (ie early planned return to work). In your case you are considering exclusive ff. in that case any breast milk given is good for the baby. Especially colostrum. I won't ask why you hate it but if you do want to continue seek out the bf forums here or a bf support group. The MLW I was in had one and was great help. Baby was too sleepy to feed and they helped with expressing a syringe of colostrum and that seemed to do the trick waking up the baby.

Congratulations alb :) please don't feel like a failure for hating breastfeeding I hated it with DS just do what's best for you and your little one :)

Wow I look away for 24 hrs and all the babies arrive!! Congratulations Alb and onelittle so pleased for you. Birth is overwhelming and rarely goes according to plan so don't worry if takes a little time to get your head around it.

Good luck fedup, thinking of you.

Congrats alb it sounds like you've had a rough time of it so just be kind to yourself, it's amazing how much easier bf can be when you are in your own home and aren't feeling pressured, if you've fed colostrum that's amazing, just tell them you'll formula feed and use a bottle if it gets them off your back and try again if you want to when you get home, or express, it's up to you not the mw. If it helps though, my friend told me to count to 10 every time I started a bf, if it still hurt to take Dd off and try again, and if I got to 10 and it stopped hurting all was good, just to get over that initial burst of pain/discomfort in the early days. We also went to a support group and dd went to a cranial Osteopath as she was a bit scrunched up looking after delivery, she fed tons better after that. It worked for us but either way just enjoy your gorgeous baby x

I think they have to induce you with 48 hours after water broke as there is an increase risk of infection. That's what I have been told last time as my water went first too. Hopefully it will all go well for you tomorrow. And you will see your little one very soon.

squizita fingers crossed for you too. I think US birth are very medicalised unlike here. We prefer to keep things as intervention free as possible.

liesal omg that's horrible. I assume it means the tests came back fine and you don't have blood clots? It will get better soon after 26 weeks. The movement will be very regular from now on. When do you plan to start maternity? That could be something to look forward to?

And yes I need a new nickname as I have two little terrors now. Though baby 2 is very sleepy and barely cries yet. I'm sure she will find her voice soon. The docs says babies born from a very quick delivery can be sleepy as it's very hard work for them and a huge shock.

A baby boy arrived at 4.15 this morn! Yay!!!

Congratulations Alb and fedup hope all with new little 'uns are doing well. What an exciting few days

fedup congrats on the baby boy.

Congratulations to you both Alb and fedup! Hope you're both managing to rest up and be taken care of. Such lovely news.

Thank you one - I don't have a blood clot - and taking maternity at 36 weeks on 14th November! It will fly by....Hopefully!!

Congrats on your new little addition!!!

How exciting Fedup! Congratulations!!

Yay, congratulations one, alb and fedup! Was that 3 babies in 3 days?!

A girl and 2 boys! Someone please update the stats list - how exciting. Your turn now squiz
liesal sorry you've been having such a shit time, hope things are looking up.

Fedup that's fabulous news! Lap up all those cuddles xxx

Congratulations fedup. It is so reassuring to have all this positive news x

How are you getting on alb. By all means take mw advice re:bf. My experience was that giving DD formula a couple of times in her 2nd day did no harm to bf. I bf her for 3 months with no real issues after that (with some formula and expressed bottles thrown in). Whatever you decide must be what is best for you. Good luck

Congratulations Alb and Fedup! Such super news. Enjoy your new little people!

Liesal sorry to hear you've had a scary time medically. FX it eases off. It's the pits having multiple worries and appointments at thus time.

Noooo baby news here. Stretch dislodged a little brown mucus. Birth centre said they'll sweep at the weekend as a cluster of later sweeps are much more likely to work.
Bubs gave me a scare this morning, rang them, did the cold shower & cold drink & lie down and thankfully a little hand started to punch me in the bladder as per usual. things you're only grateful for in late pregnancy after miscarriage
Off to walk to the local library.
DH has offered to help by buying me (and him) a curry and requiring lots of tea so I can "walk up and down stairs". Yer OK ... I will mentally tally the tea for poo nappy changes "so he can bond with baby".

Hi everyone,

Been away for a couple of days at a family wedding, and come back to 3 thread babies! Congratulations onelittle, alb and fedup. Xx

A new thread for thread grads sounds fab, I didn't realise that there wasn't one either, and keep losing antenatal threads I I don't want to disrupt the happy ramblings of all the lovely ladies who seem so unaware of all that can go wrong with own special brand of paranoid doom and gloom...

I have read through everything since my last post 3 times and still keep forgetting who is where, so sorry will have to leave comments to welcoming newbies and sticky hugs to all. Hoping all those feeling shitty are on feeling better soon x

baby I'm plagued by horror headaches! and now really think is stress. Take it easy as you have so much going on that this could be the ace for you too x

I have physio on Friday now to try to sort out hand and feet numbness, and have been given some reassurance today with regards to my maternity pay (my contract was up next February) and re any sick pay I might need, ie all clear to stop resisting MW in signing me off if I need it, so maybe I can start to relax.
Baby very wriggly now - everyone commenting from across the room, and mega heartburn to add to the shakes and vomiting... I am totally making up for my lack of sickness in all previous pregnancies, but maybe if I can relax a bit, all will be well :)

Congrats fedup

cuppa yea I think it's stress they have been worse while DS has been poorly things should be better stress wise soon my wardrobes are finally being delivered today so I can finish the house :) will be lovely to have it finished also finally getting registered with new doc and midwife tomorrow with 1st app with new midwife on Thursday :)

And I am finally going to be able to do some work as we are back online and I'm not throwing up all the time :) so lots of positives happening now :)

Congrats fedup! Move lovely news

Thanks for all the bf reassurance, send DP out for formula feeding stuff earlier n the baby took to the bottle straight away n slept for a good 2 hours contentedly after n he just instantly seems more settled and happy, and was such a relief as id gotten to the stage of crying everytime he wanted feeding cos I was dreading it so much, I still wana try mixed feeding but the boobs hurt so much (so solid and sore!) I don't even no if I can! I will try n start a postnatal thread later

baby glad things are gettin a little better for you now!

squiz hope things start off for you soon!