Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

God, how do we manage the paranoia!
I seemed more relaxed out in Bulgaria, perhaps because I could have a scan whenever I wanted for very little money!
But here I'm just going bonkers! Knowing that my next scan is not until the 7th... I have been having cramps/pains and freaking out, even though I know it can be explained by growth. But my tummy feels flatter and boobs not very sore. I know my symptoms tend to come and go but I can't keep worrying...
My mum had offered to come visit for a few weeks. I know I will still worry and I might not be a very nice person to be around...

Welcome Silverloony. We're near namesakes!

silverine I know what you mean! my scan isn't until the 7th and it feels like ages away. Have convinced myself about 4 times in the last hour that its all going wrong and it's going to be bad news at the scan. There is no reason, only the madness that is preg after mc. Chin up - we'll count down together! Only (!) 10 days to go! Arf!

Welcome silverloony

I know G&T, I feel so silly, as my last scan was on Thursday!! Have to try and keep sane! Hugs!

Thanks Fedup and One altho I am sad you too are suffering - I am glad to know its normal. Ho hum.
Just gotta keep 'keeping on' lol!

sliverine my last scan was Wednesday and I'm looking at 3/4 weeks before my next one I'm already worrying myself silly think I'm going to have a party when I get to 12 weeks. 24 days not that I am counting lol got dh's birthday Thursday so I'm hoping that last minute organisation for that will keep me busy it'll be his 30th so big family party which means the sil and fil from hell will be there but it's gotta be done.

Hehe at squizs story, I bet he will be telling that story for a while aswell.

Welcome silver I'm another one who had no symptoms till about 6 weeks so I agree it's perfectly normal!

Iv started to have another wobble unsurprisingly and decided I need to have another private scan to make sure the placenta is in an ok place an the cord is ok etc basically reassure my crazy but to my surprise iv discovered most places won't do them this late! There are loads of places near me that do them fairly cheaply but all say they can't do it after 32-34 weeks (iv found somewhere that will but at like £200 which I can't really afford). I'm guessing it's because with the baby being so big the picture might not be very good and they don't want complaints so iv emailed a few explaining that I don't care how rubbish the pics are I just want to check on the baby hoping someone will take me, DP thinks I'm crazy for needing a scan so late on but I can't help it, as I'm sure you ladies all no the paranoia and worry for us never goes

Hi baby the waiting is dreadful and can't help reading into every little thing. Keeping busy as you say is key, that's why weekends are worse than weekdays.
Enjoy the party and brace yourself for the in laws!

Morning ladies, hope everyone is OK today!
I've got my scan this morning... after counting down the days and feeling like today would never come, I now don't want to go! Feel like its inevitable that it will be bad news yet again, and if I don't go I can bury my head in the sand and pretend its all ok . Don't know how I'll cope with work tomorrow if it is bad news, colleague is a few weeks ahead of me and its all she can talk about...

loving that story squiz :D
I guess it's lucky you didn't require any more assistance than a chair!

silver welcome to fab, friendly, hand-holding, sanity-saving thread. Or welcome to the nut-house, you choose! symptoms come and go; mine didn't kick in until about 6 or 7 weeks (and I had hardly any in previous pregnancies, and none whatsoever in the one which resulted in DS), yet now at 18w, I am sat in work fighting back the tide of nausea and feeling dizzy every time I stand up...

quiet, have looked into harmony and trying to get DH to sit down and talk. Both he and I are contractors, so I will be on my own a bit when it comes to ML, and can't help feeling that paying for it would be a month earlier that I have to go back to work. I guess better than never getting as far as ML though...

Date night fab fun, although was ready for my PJs by 10pm!

I had a friend visit yesterday, who had tracked down DS's car seat which had down the rounds through a circle of friends over the last decade! I wouldn't have it in the house though; asked her to sit on it for a few months if she didn't mind. Crazy, jinx logic.

good luck internet.

cuppa what is ML provision like as contractors? Do you still get maternity allowance? I'm getting statutory maternity pay which I thought isn't that different from maternity allowance? Also, ignore me if you already know it, but I have to say it in case you didn't and something bad happens. Car seats are designed to only last for about 5 years. The plastic deteriorates. (Same as bike helmets btw and not many know this either). There is supposedly a stamp somewhere on the seat with the used by date on them. If yours have been doing the rounds for a decade, you probably should buy a new carseat.

Yes yes to the car seat - mine is 6 years old and I've been advised to buy a new one. Luckily a friends baby has just grown out of his seat (only a year old car seat) so they have let me borrow that one x

Good luck internet I hope it goes well for you today. I feel exactly the same as you, my scan is tomorrow and I have been up and down about it all weekend. At times feeling quite pregnant and at others feeling like it's definitely all gone wrong and it's going to be bad news. I think it's so so incredibly hard not to obsess over every little thing after a miscarriage. I had a MMC at 6 weeks only 6 weeks ago and so I don't do the knicker watch thing I just obsess over whether or not my symptoms have decreased/stopped. I remember last time my tummy was no longer hard and boobs felt totally normal (altho stil bigger) and I had had a MMC so every day now I am monitoring symptoms.

silver like you I don't have many symptoms at all, mild nausea at random times in the day which lasts around 5 mins and passes, bit hungrier, slight headaches at times and tiredness (but I have a 2yr old so that could be that!). Boobs also sore but only really noticeable in the shower. Certainly thought I would have more but I have no idea how far along I am...probs 5.5-6 weeks now but will (hopefully) find out tomorrow. I am trying to be thankful for feeling OK and stay positive but finding it incredibly hard.

Good luck internet

cuppa you probably need a new car seat I was told not to use ds's again and his is only 3 years old. I might be fussy but only 2 things I won't use not brand new that's car seat and matteress

Good Luck Internet and I am sorry you are going through such a stressful time Cuppa...

I feel like I am losing my marbles. On Thursday last week I had a full blown panic attack which resulted in me having a reassurance scan, and everything was fine.

People around me, don't seem to understand, that after 1 mmc and 3 mc's in 2 years that its hard for me! They simply tell me about their perfect pregnancy etc! Its beginning to get me down.

If one more person tells me to Calm Down, or Chill out - I may snap! I can't control this feeling! Argh! Rant Over!!

Internet and Chops Good luck!

Alb I am getting increasingly paranoid as I approach the end of my final lot of heparin. I kept asking if I could have extra scans etc' but they basically said the placenta has stopped developing by 34 weeks so with my particular issue it will tick over just fine, just count kicks etc'. But I am so paranoid and nowhere does scans. Oh well.

Liesel if you're having actual panic attacks ask your midwife for counselling or support - you are certainly entitled given your history. I asked when I couldn't go into an EPU without shaking (!!) which was annoying when they kindly gave me fortnightly scans, so I am sure they can help.

We have a heartbeat!!!! Didn't get this far in my three MMC so am feeling amazing right now. Also got first bout of morning sickness today, so its all feeling more real. Have to go back tomorrow to get heparin and learn how to inject, then next scan in two weeks.

Squizita what are you on heparin for? Do you have any advice/ tips? I've never injected myself before and am not sure I can do it! I'll have to of course... mine is for lupus anticoagulant.

liesal glad everything was fine at your scan, I think all any of us can do is get through a day at a time, freaking out if needs be!

Good luck for tomorrow Chops!

p.s. forgot to say on scan they saw a second, small shape next to sack which could be undeveloped second sack or could be a bleed - this is nothing to worry about, right?

Internet Great news! :) Provided the second shadow was small, it wouldn't be a problem I'd guess? They would say if it was a problem or make an appointment to investigate further.
I'm on heparin for antiphospholipid coagulant issues (similar to you in terms of day to day!). This leaflet is a pretty good guide:
www.hughes-syndrome.org/resources/factsheets/HSF-APS-SH-How-to-inject-Heparin.pdf

I found an ice pack applied very gently to the site eased the burn until I got used to it.
Also, to avoid bruising, a good tip is if you get sharp pain when you touch the needle to the skin, it means that place has lots of nerves and thus blood vessels. Give up there and try a few centimeters away - there will be places where sticking the needle in hurts less. I used to get horrific looking bruises and this method really helped.
Also LOW on the belly seems to be a good spot for not bruising- but avoid the line of clothes waists as their rubbing can be painful.

Oh, also always make sure any 'drop' on the end of the syringe is shaken off (heparin at the prick site will make it bleed) and shake the syringe so the air bubble is at the 'plunger' end. Do not remove it. For some reason it is needed to work and it won't go into you or hurt you!

Internet great news about seeing the heartbeat! how many weeks are you now?
On my 8 week scan they saw a small area too which they said looked like a bleed. For me it had just healed itself up/reabsorbed by 12 weeks and nothing came out as spotting or bleeding. Hope that it is something similar for you? Im not an expert on second sacs at all but I think they mostly tend to reabsorb aswell?

13+3 here, not too much to report here except I haven't puked for about 5 days now!! woohoo!! And am finally wearing sensible clothes at work in stead of the sack-like baggy T-shirts that were hiding my tummy from about week 9 onwards. Nice to be proud of the tummy bulge (not quite a proper bump yet) for once!

internet I wouldn't imagine they would have told you if it was something to worry about I had similar with DS and they said it was vanishing twin syndrome so basically the pregnancy had started as twins but one didn't develop by the time I was 12 weeks it's was gone and I now have a very healthy busy 3 year old :)

liesal its really really annoying when people tell you to chill out I've snapped at more than one person who has told me their perfect pregnancy story or just to stop worrying it's not that easy but talking to someone will help. I am still panicking that even though we saw a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks last Wednesday that there won't be one next time pregnancy is a scary business I think that's why these guys are so great coz we all understand :)

Thanks Everyone - I'm 19 weeks now, so really need to stop with the obsessive panicking!! But I do feel a lot better today - I have been given the number for a Mental Health specialist!
I'm getting a bit fed up of people - weather its people telling me that I am over-reacting, or "not far along enough to feel that!"

Never mind - Yesterday I actually felt flutters and it was amazing! :)

Afternoon everyone. I had totally dropped off the last thread. Weird to see my name creeping up the list!

tanny lovely to see you here (we were on the same an bus in October around the time of my last mc).

Heavenly to be on summer holidays but not looking forward to 3 months of teaching in the autumn before ml.

18w +1

internetforever great scan news! Brilliant!