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Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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MrsGiraffe12 · 22/07/2014 20:27

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

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Happilymarried155 · 25/07/2014 09:41

seasalt you sound exactly the same as me, I'm a week ahead of you but only had a scan last week everything was great but still sat here stressing about the next one and it all going wrong. My symptoms disappeared a similar time to yours and I had a scan a couple of days later and all was good. I think it's just going to be worry for the next 6 months until this little bundle is in my arms. Do you have a scan date yet? X

BlueStarsAtNight · 25/07/2014 09:42

MrsG and Cuppa I cannot believe people who are supposed to be friends could be so hideous! You are well shot of them. You too Baby, that was so insensitive. I don't buy it that not having a mc can make you so completely oblivious to the feelings and pain of others.

MrsG post your dress pics and we'll be honest Smile

Seasalt I'm sure everything is fine, symptoms do come and go and especially as you are nearing 10 weeks that sounds completely normal. That doesn't make it easier to relax though unfortunately. Just repeat "today I am pregnant" and try to plan lots of things to occupy in the lead up to the next scan, hopefully it will go fast!

InternetFOREVER · 25/07/2014 09:49

seasalt yes it's the right time for symptoms to decrease, as they placenta is doing more and more of the work. And you're right that seeing a healthy baby already means that the risk of MC has dropped hugely. I'm sure I'll be stressing just as much if I can that far too, though! It's funny how we know the right things to say to other people (and know that those things are true), but struggle to say it to ourselves!

Babytinx11 · 25/07/2014 10:24

squiz that woman just sounds scary it can work both ways I think that having miscarriage can make some woman plain nasty towards pregnant women/ mothersand the
Some pregnant women/mothers can be rude and insensitive to people who've had miscarriages I guess what it comes down to is some people are just plain rude and nasty regardless of their circumstances.

seasalt try and relax it's normal I can't wait till I stop feeling nauseous in fairness though I will probably worry just as much as you are but your baby will be fine :)

Gwlondon · 25/07/2014 11:08

Alb1 "the womanly art of breastfeeding* is a good book to read. Covers everything. Split into sections. Not preachy. Very practical. There is a section to read when you are pregnant.

Cuppachuplaz and mrsgiraffe12 bloody hell! Some people are awful.

seasaltmill yes my symptoms came and went. Fingers crossed for you too.

SeaSaltMill · 25/07/2014 11:25

Thanks everyone. In the past 20 mins I have had some nausea again and actually thought I was going to chuck at one point. As horrible as it feels its such a reassurance! I'm a crazy person.

My next scan is in 2 weeks, I will be 11+5 and we plan to tell my Dh's kids and then the rest of the family. The nuchal isn't until 13+3 and I already have a belly on me!

Davidtennantmistress · 25/07/2014 19:45

Cuppa, let's hope it's good news for you, and your friend, well she chose to have the children so close in age, you work the hand you're delt and deal with it! Ref the downs, for us personally we were and are not bothered, we would test if required to prepare but we wouldn't terminate unless there was severe issues where by the quality of life for ds's and the baby would be non existent.

We are lucky here our trust offers the full works blood tests including screening for HIV hepatitis and downs etc at the 12 week bloods, I'm never usually worried as they should all be clear.

Baby I had ds1 in Wales, Pembrokeshire and was offered the same screens and in England although that was some 9 years ago now, eek!

Radley, so pleased you had good news, sooooo cute of ds.

Ref breast feeding, I fed ds1 until 5 months then mix fed until 9 months, I leaked and leaked about an ounce each side each feed, cups were needed!

Ds2 I leaked but not so much he was more effective at feeding, fed him until 5 months. What upset me the most with ds2 was the amount of people who we're telling me after a week to give up as I was exhausted and stuff, I s a determined I would not, and will feed this one as well for as long as I can do. Each to their own I say, I'd never tell someone how to feed their child as it's personal choice as long as baby is eating sleeping and pooping all is good.

Totally agree with mags, unless you've been our side of the fence you don't know what it's like, and on going thing I've had with sil. Who has gone from only having perfect life etc to two m.c which is horrendous, but is now acting like she's the only one to of had them, not to sound harsh but so have we, we know how it feels to! I've told her we're expecting, but likewise I actually really feel for her, as I've been her side of the fence as well, and was devastated when she told me she was expecting, hysterically crying with mum so am trying to be more forgiving with her and let her talk to me if/when she's ready.

Internet, step away from poas! I know it's hard, I tested every week with cb digital 1-2 2-3 and 3+ Plus daily cheapie to see the line come up before it reached the control line. Obsession is bad! Natural but bad lol.

Sea, don't worry my lovely, I'm same as you 9+4 mines come and gone last few days doctor said today it completely normal at to stage to have waves of everything so all is good.

I've had a horrendous migraine today so much so I took myself back to bed for a few hours and woke up feeling sick again, had them with ds1 so I'm hoping this is all good signs, so crap though not being able to have anything other than paracetamol. :( esp not wanting to say why lol. Anyhow best play nicely with hubs esp after he let me watch pretty woman last night. Have a nice evening everyone.

Babytinx11 · 25/07/2014 21:27

davidtennant I asked DH what testing they offered me with DS he normally remembers these things but he couldn't remember lol not going for additional testing though just routine bloods and scans I'm in Carmarthenshire so
I can't imagine it's massively different especially as very soon mums from Pembrokeshire will have to go to west wales gen anyway as they are closing the maternity unit in withybush guessing it will have to be the same across the board

OneLittleToddleTerror · 25/07/2014 21:32

baby the downs screening is routine bloods and 12 week scan. It isn't additional. You can however refused to be told. Though I am not sure if the sonographer sees something wrong with the nuchal fold, it means they have to keep their mouth shut?

OneLittleToddleTerror · 25/07/2014 21:33

I mean they don't take more even if you opt for it. I assume they just run the numbers through some software. You can refuse the scans too.

Babytinx11 · 25/07/2014 21:53

one i didn't realise that they asked me if I wanted a blood test for downs last time but no bloods other wise would be done until 16 weeks just the 12 weeks scan then like I said bloods at 16 weeks is that not normal I am feeling very confused about this booking now

OneLittleToddleTerror · 25/07/2014 22:06

I think all the trusts are doing different things! I don't have bloods at 16 weeks just a midwife appointment. The downs screening is just the same one as the 12 week scan and bloods. But I was asked if I wanted to be screened. They also asked at the same time if I wanted to be tested for a whole load of other things, like HIV, chlamydia, what not, maybe they even asked my consent for iron level! I didn't have to do anything extra on my part for downs screening, iyswim.

Babytinx11 · 25/07/2014 22:15

All the tests other than downs they offered me last time but to be done at 16 weeks maybe because booking is done at home i don't know but he downs test was 12/13 weeks I will have to pay extra close attention on Thursday so i know what tests they are doing I think :)

MrsGiraffe12 · 26/07/2014 05:39

And the time has come for me to leave the house or my last shift before starting maternity leave :-) begin excited but so tired! I'm gonna miss my colleagues more than I though though, I can just tell!

Ahhhh, this has made it all more real, I'm going to have a BABY in 6 weeks or so :-S

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KeepingTheFaith9 · 26/07/2014 06:59

Just dropping by ....as ever this thread gets so big so quick! Seasalt hope your symptoms keep you going, although never nice to feel ruff, always reassuring to have some symptoms rather than none.

Alb very interested to read what you had to say about breast feeding . I am a first time Mum and have no desire to BF. I feel terrible about this - but your image of being tortured resonates! I feel like being a bad mum already just for thinking this way; but it's never been something I have wanted to do.

I will give it a go because society (and the midwife) says I must - and who knows maybe it won't be that bad...... But tales if leaking boobs do little to encourage me! Lol.

Mrs G what in earth are you doing up at 5am?!! You must have a demanding job with such an early shift... I'm only up and conscious because of the heat, and DH having left to go to golf!! Gonna go to pregnancy yoga in a bit .... For any ladies who haven't tried it - would def recommend.

Have a good Sat everyone - enjoy the heat - and waves to everyone I haven't mentioned by name.

Keeping Smile

Davidtennantmistress · 26/07/2014 07:12

I know baby, that's where ds1 and I spent the first five days of his life, not being funny but it's a good half hour drive from Haverfordwest to Carmarthen, and an hour to Swansea: the road in the winter isn't or wasn't the best at all prone to flooding, I certainly wouldn't want to run the risk of baby there now as with dis both he and I probably wouldn't have survived if we had been sent home after initially going in, especially as the midwife I saw at home said I wasn't in labour and it didn't hurt at all.... Hmmm. No dear that's why I was flooding blood everywhere!

My mw just asked if I wanted screening both times I've been here with ds2 and baby, I assume it's just the additional scan checks then bloods if needed?

Babytinx11 · 26/07/2014 07:53

davidtennant I know it's awful makes no sense to me to have the main hospital in the county downgraded they are centralising allot of care from withybush to glangwilli it's beyond me but that's the nhs

blankfornames · 26/07/2014 08:10

Keeping, at what stage would you recommend starting pregnancy yoga?

MrsGiraffe12 · 26/07/2014 09:29

keepingthefaith I work in a cafe, doing the breakfast and lunch shift, so have to stock up for the day, then prep and cook, as well as serve. So I'm done by 1pm which is great :-)

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HollyBen · 26/07/2014 09:38

Enjoy your last day mrsg

I started pg yoga at around 14 weeks with dd. I found it really good for the relaxation as much as anything. Unfortunately the teacher went of to some retreat for a month when I was around 28 weeks and I got out of the habit of going. Need to have a look at it as I cannot remember what day it wad on

GandTnow · 26/07/2014 10:01

Morning all. Lovely and hot here (again). could do with it raining actually as leggins are the only thing that fits me now! My freaked out about mat clothing came in the post yesterday - so much for freaking out, the trousers are cut far too low and fall down - will be going back! Grin

Have a good last day MrsG x

10 +4 here and still feeling too sick to do much. Was planning on baking with DD but hasn't happend yet. Hey ho!

OneLittleToddleTerror · 26/07/2014 10:22

mrsg it will be my last week next week and I'm so looking forward not having to commute or sitting in a hot office. On Friday it was so hot I left like passing out. My boss has a thermometer at his desk and it was 29C in the office. Luckily a meeting room was free so I went there to work instead. (They have good aircons in the meeting rooms for clients). It is also an hour commute each way and it is so draining.

blank most antenatal class doesn't allow you to start till 14 weeks. I think it is mostly you can't blame them if you miscarried? I mean antenatal stuff are gentler than normal ones so I can't see how it can be harmful if you aren't pregnant?

KeepingTheFaith9 · 26/07/2014 12:10

Hello ladies.

Hope you all enjoy the lovely sunshine and don't overheat too much...

I'm currently on the tube which is uber toasty!

Mrs G you are nearly finished - yay! Hope your last shift was okay.

Blank I think I started at 14 weeks which is the earliest they allow it. It's very relaxing and gives you a bit of really special time with your bump. Have also met some nice ladies - many of whom are first time mums and live local to me.

Smile
MrsGiraffe12 · 26/07/2014 13:35

Hi all
Thanks for the kind messages. Last shift was hot and busy, but managed to have laugh with my colleagues. Snuck out during hand over though to avoid any embarrassment!

39 weeks off - yay :-) just got the tricky business of having a baby now lol x

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Davidtennantmistress · 26/07/2014 15:15

Yay mrs g you know what that means.... Copious amounts of cake!

I've got next to no symptoms, :( hubs and I have decided today we will take the mini ones to the 20 week scan when we know all is ok. :)

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