Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Thanks all, I just feel so negative but also hate having that tiny bit of hope too, as it really messed me up last time,
just know it's game over, but have called the docs, not my usual one so hoping they're kind and do send me. Called Dhabi and bless him he's on his way home, going to take him two hours. Just feel awful and now going to have to get through the weekend and next week with the in laws.

Called Dh bloody pred txt.

Oh miss I'm one of the ones with a huge red bleed followed by weeks of on and off spotting both red and brown (all started for me at 7.5 weeks) Baby was still okay at the 8, 10, 12 & 16 week scans so please get yourself checked. I really hope it's okay for you.

silver sorry to hear that your scans thrown up some questions, I hope you get some good news next week as well.

liesal congrats on your scan! Got my 20 week one next week and am bricking it so it's good to hear yours has gone well.

Miss I hope you can get seen and fingers crossed it's not the end.

Happily, all went well at scan, sending you luck for yours xxx

Thanks, at the docs now and they're running late. Got pains in my side where I got them last time and at every period since, so although the bleeding has slowed/stopped, I know it isn't good. Think the doc will be less than sympathetic too as I'm sat here listening to him with the woman in front of me and he is talking really loudly, so loudly we can all hear him Sat in reception asking her when she went through the change! He'll probably just tell me to go home and let nature take its course...

missmakestuff all the best. Hope you get a sympathetic doctor who'll refer you to the EPU.

That's great sea was it amazing! I'm so excited/nervous!

I'm so sorry to hear that miss hope you get on on at the doctors x

He just sent me home to wait it out, said as I've got cramps it doesn't bode well, but to go to a and e if I bleed lots or am in lots of pain. There's nothing else now, just mild cramps, just wish it would hurry up now.
Dh is home but dd is being a complete pain, grabbing me and trying lay on me. She has been a pain for weeks now, elbowing me and poking me in the stomach and books, don't think I cam cope with it today though.
I'm going to eat a massive chocolate eclair, then have a bath and leave Dh to it whilst I go back to bed.

Good luck everyone, I will check in once I'm feeling better to see how you all are doing.

Oh dear, it sounds like your GP is rubbish as my experience. I was told to just wait it out as well. And that if I'm still bleeding in 2 weeks then go back! And A&E is the same except the time I was bleeding bucket loads of blood out.

Take good care of yourself.

Thinking of you miss hope every thing settles for you and all turns out ok

Miss I would go to A&E anyway: simply state bleeding and pain in early pregnancy. Another day when you feel up to it, complain about your GP: I would bypass PALS and go direct the to trust.
Many don't understand that there are clinical risks and all bleeding in pregnancy should be referred to hospitals.
It doesn't sound like you have an ectopic or molar but to put it crudely that is why they are obliged to send everyone to hospital. Everyone who bleeds. Every time.

Today is my last day of clexane. Also although movement is regular and deliberate it is getting more cramped (as they say to expect) but my brain keeps leaping to those poor anxious women on boards who claim this doesn't happen. Now I've got 5 weeks to wait with no meds.

Have read all my RMC books AGAIN to double check which all say trials where Clexane is stopped at 34-35 weeks have no higher morbidity or mortality for mother and baby than a healthy non-RMC pregnancy. They only keep you on it till 40 weeks if you've had a stroke/thrombosis: same medicine, different condition.
Of course the hysteria I got when I asked about this on MN (have now blocked that thread) got me really scared a few weeks back.

So I am off to epu on Monday :( cramping and spotting spoke to mw who said she'll get me seen Monday but if spotting gets worse call her back and she'll send me to A&E but to rest in the mean time and try and stay positive :( not feeling very positive in all honesty but keeping everything crossed! Saw heartbeat at 8 weeks so hopefully it's nothing and will just pass on it's own and baby will be fine

:-( lots of sad and scared thread ladies today!

Hand holding and hugs to you all xx

Sorry to see lots of anxious ladies on here today, miss so sorry, I agree with others maybe go to a&e anyway if you don't want to wait it out, sounds like you got an unsympathetic docter there, hope you manage to get some
Rest and RL cuddles

baby sorry to hear you've got bleeding as well but it's good your midwife is on the ball and hopefully the weekend will be event free and Monday will bring good news.

miss I agree with the others, in your shoes I'd go to a&e or ring a local epu direct. Your gp is useless, sorry he didn't help you but there are some great people in the nhs, get yourself checked by someone more knowledgeable/sympathetic.

Babytinx good luck, if you saw the heartbeat that is positive, I'm feeling annoyed that he didn't send me now. I think as long as the surgery is open they will refer me back there, so I will just wait and see what happens tomorrow, then go to a and e or the doc I usually see on Monday, I know she will send me.

Thanks for all warm wishes, I think my way of dealing is just to be negative, then I can't be disappointed! Still getting tweaking pains, low down and to the side, no more bleeding, but then I think the last one started slowly like this.

Miss, am sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. I also bled at 7 weeks & spotted between red & brown for a month. I'm now 12 wks and all is good. Definitely do what you can to be seen & get a scan.
Take it easy & I hope that things settle down for you. You too Baby.

Miss and Baby, am crossing everything possible for you both, such a worrying time. I know that you know that it can be something or nothing, and I really hope it is nothing.

It just is staggering that there is still such inconsistency in the support available when we go through this. I know there's nothing they can do to prevent a MC if it's going to happen, but the stress of not knowing is horrible.

((Hugs)) to you both x

miss fingers crossed for you really hope things turn out well for you.

I just spoke to DH he called from work to check on me he wants me to get DS to bed then get sent to A&E I get the feeling I'm not the only one getting flash backs to last time

Thinking positive thoughts for you both miss and baby x

miss and baby I'm so sorry to hear about your bleeding. I'm another one on this thread who has had loads of bleeding (pretty much once a week), bright red and clots the size of my hand at times, but here I am still preg at 16 wks. miss your gp sounds shit! Please do get yourself scanned, as others have said either at a&e or go private of it's an option for you. I'd be pretty insistent on seeing another gp too if you can. Until you are scanned nothing is certain.
Thinking of you both

Baby and Miss, so sorry you're both going through this worry. I really hope that you get positive results like others on the thread who have had cramps and bleeding and all has been well. I'm sure it all just sends you right back to last time, so just take care of yourselves.

silver I said no to screening so don't have any tests to wait for. Hope all goes well with your results xx

Planning on telling DD tomorrow about the baby - feel a bit odd about it. Any tips from those with older DCs?

Hugs to baby and miss, I think the worst thing is not knowing. It's amazing how different doctors respond differently although my doctors (at 2 surgeries) have always referred me to epu. I've had to wait for a scan (usually a few days) but at least I knew I was getting one. And that's just been for pain or small amounts of spotting.

Really not sure what to do now follow 1st mw's instructions and called back because there was clots sorry tmi only to be told by a different mw to wait longer and see what happens if it gets heavier or more clots call ambulance freaking out want to get mil to look after DS and go now but I don't want to look like I am making a fuss :(

Make a fuss. Why should you sit at home scared and worried? Go in and say how scared you are and what's happened now and in the past. They might send you home again but at least you'll feel better seeing someone face to face. Hand holding xx