Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Baby just because you are consultant led, doesn't mean the MLU won't be a possibility. When symptoms are well managed and don't interfere with the 'mechanics' of birth they may well give permission, especially if the MLU is on a hospital site.

She said the mlu at the hospital I am booked only takes those suitable for home birth and I'm not hopefully though I'll get in there fingers crossed I have a while to swing something :)

Hi ladies sorry for being quiet for last few days. Been very stressful week with our house and my job :(
Sorry to hear of so much anxiety - it's so tough this pregnancy after mc. I swear I was not this much of a loon until I had my miscarriages. I genuinely empathise with all your thoughts. No matter how irrational. And squiz I think you are holding it together amazingly well as I would be a right mess of I had the same family history thing. So don't beat yourself up about worrying. I think in your situ that's very natural. But yes, 5 hours on your side is no way to live so I do think if this level of anxiety continues then please talk to dr / mw about it. I had awful anxiety around the 17 week mark where I couldn't sleep or think straight out of fear of finding something wrong with the baby that was incompatible with life. It was absolutely terrifblr and felt I was going completely mad. My mum, friends and husband all were worried about my MH. Having an ok anomaly scan got me through and mw and sonographer really calmed me. So do use them, particularly if they know your history and fears. Big hugs xxx

Oh goodness, I think I may need slapping with a fish. I did one of the CB dating tests today and it hasn't gone up from the one I did last Thursday - it's still 2-3 and I should be in the 3+ bracket by now. I was only doing them to stop myself from panicking and it's now had completely the opposite effect! Anyone else had misleading results?

squizita hope you are ok today. I agree with others if you are still feeling the same as yesterday, please give your MW or GP a call. They can either talk through your concerns with you, or refer you to counsellors familiar with this type of issues.

Booze, don't fret, it might well go up in the next few days especially if you caught the 2-3 right at the start of the 2

Baby,, I had consultant lead with both of mine, but still had midwives in there not consultants, they only came around after with ds2 thought it meant I had 1 2 1 attention which to be honest I was so grateful for, I've requested clc this time but I think I'll be mlc which actually scares the hell it of me as I've heard nothing but bad stuff from the midwife unit here locally at least I know the consultant side is fantastic!

bozzle - naughty!!!! They do nothing to get rid of fears. And no, they aren't accurate and I know people who never got a 3+ with their healthy pregnancies. I didn't use digi with this preg as I did with my last mc and totally messed with my mental health. And after my erpc I read 3+ weeks :( step away and don't use one again please!!!!

boozle i did the same last week - got a 2-3 at 5w3 days. Did another one the next day and got a 3+. So far 6 week scan showed all ok. I hate those things! I should have spent my tenner on chocolate instead, would have made me feel much better ;-)

baby sorry about your blood sugars, hopefully it was just a dodgy reading if all you can stomach is sugar at the moment!

I love all the symptoms I felt like I had have gone now, in fact I feel totally normal. Definitely didn't feel like this with my MMCs so maybe no symptoms is a good symptom???

Sorry those of you with ongoing bleeding... even though I'm sure everything is fine its a stress you don't need.

Wishing everyone a stress- and bleed-free day!

boozle I'm sending some fish slaps your way, those tests are deffiently inaccurate! The best bit of advice I have ever taken on this forum was when I first joined and that was to just stop taking pregnancy tests, best thing I ever did!

Almost thrown up twice today already, like being back in the first trimester, also have an incredible urge to do some laundry (this is very rare for me) so il be making the most of that. My Braxton hicks have gone to every 3-4 mins but don't hurt at all and have been like that since yesterday, so I contacted my midwife like the nhs website says to do who says it's perfectly normal n unless they start hurting just to ignore them, she seemed to think it was cute that I phoned but everything iv ever read about bh says to inform midwifes of any changes and that's what I was doing... She said 3 times 'as long as their not regular' to which I responded every time they are - every 3-4 mins! That I wasn't to worry. I assume my body is jus doin a mini practise run cos iv not had any other signs. Gota go into town today tho before work to do hospital bag shopping, really not looking forward to it now! Also today I literally need a wee all the time time, cud this be normal if the head is engaged or shud I be getting checked for a uti? Was gona ask my midwife but her 'cute' thing made me mad, pregnancy rage is in full force today!

baby I have nothing useful to say with blood sugars but I hope your ok and it was just a randomly crazy reading! Good there taking it seriously tho!

Sending out some love and fish slaps to those who need them.

Squiz I've been following you (non stalker, promise) since I joined MN after my first/second(?) mc and you have come so far. This anxiety level cannot be good for you and you need see someone about it, your thought of speaking to your normal MW is a good place to start. Thinking of you and sending you a load of love.

I'm now 10+5. This is the furthest I've got knowing there's a baby in there (first preg was Blighted Ovum) but i'm so scared of getting to my third scan next Friday to be told bad news.

My symptoms have really died down in the past week. Boobs less sore, nausea not constant and not really there at all. Still tired but not like I was. Argh. This is so hard. I want to enjoy it and be positive but I feel like I cant cos i'm too worried.

I met my midwife yesterday and she was lovely, I'm shared care meaning my 16 week appt will be with the consultant, not the MW, but she's booked me to go see her anyway so she can have a listen to the HB! fingers crossed I get that far.

boozle step away from those tests! My gp told me she wished they would be banned due to the amount of unnecessary stress they cause. In fact don't do any more tests of any sort - as others have said, I still had a positive result several weeks after my mmc and that really messed with my head. Just repeat the mantra, today I am pregnant

Sorry to all those having a rough time, this pregnancy after mc/mmc lark is the gift that just keeps on giving isn't it. I am seriously considering changing my username to 'queenofbleeds' but that would make me seem even more of a loon than I already do. Xx

Seasalt I have already seen someone (in Feb!) and was doing just fine with CBT. Massive, massive trigger just recently which I mentioned above. Not at all like 'me' normally when pregnant!

Boozle Nooo don't use the digi tests, so unreliable and just scary.

Alb Are your BH just like your belly going rock hard? That's all I ever get. Very unevenly - mostly evenings and nights.
what a patronising MW, I would be fuming.

I hope you can start feeling better soon Squiz, I get anxiety too, it's no fun :(

I was consultant led with DS and only a midwife when I delivered but she said I'll need to be on labour ward instead of mlu but still midwife delivery that's where they are set up for everything I don't mind really but I would like to avoid induction this time if I can but it's along way off so trying not to stress over it :) feeling lousy today and still niggly worried something isn't right next scan can't come fast enough :( did some retail therapy today and bought some maternity clothes had the omg my favourite jeans won't do up moment this morning cue tears for no apparent reason lol

I'm really glad I read this today as I too had considered the digital test and will now definitely not be going down that route.

Well after my symptoms 'subsiding' for all of four hours yesterday I've since had constant and horrid nausea. Luckily I got to sleep last night but literally nothing is helping. I feel horrible and if this is only 5.5-6 wks ish am dreading that's to come. I've just made DH cancel our weekend plans I feel so crap. Not sure what to do but think it's going to get me down. Nothing like this with DD1 so has knocked me for six.

I am trying to think positively that it's hopefully a good sign baby is well and er growing but we will find out on Monday morning.

squiz I am sorry to hear what you're going through. I've also suffered with bad anxiety over the years and know how awful and what a spiral it can turn into. I often return to books I found useful for moments of support when my mind runs wild, I'd say it still happens once or twice a yr. Last pregnancy I was lucky and had no real fears or concerns. Wow what id give to be like that again!!

squiz yeah it goes rock solid for like a min at the time, it's every like 3-4 mins all the time, an I'm now gettin pressure in the bottom of my bump and quite often my bum my lower back is now also killing and I feel really quite sick! If I was a few weeks further along id be thinkin my body was geering up for labour but as I'm only 36 weeks tomoro I'm guessing it's just a random off day!

Chops ugh that sudden onset of sickness, HATED it. Hope you feel better soon.

Alb Yeah I get just the rock solid feeling, usually all round the front. Not long to go before you'll be checking the time of them though, eh? A week and your little one will be classed as full term if they do decide to pop up!

I rang my MW yesterday about how no one had given me some leaflets it said I should have. She said 'Oh, you should have been put on our new parent course' I was like 'you what I'm 34 weeks and did ask all the MW and Consultants!!' ... basically sounds like everyone assumed it would have been sorted at booking in (one think the nice lady forgot!) and hardly mentioned since. Still, getting that booked ASAP.

Hi everyone!

Glad everyone seems to be getting on ok. 12 weeks today for me and feels like a major milestone, I have scan on Friday morning so fingers crossed all is well! Had scan 2 weeks ago and it was all fine so hoping everything is still good, we can't wait to share our good news with everyone. Anyone else have any scans coming up?

happilymarried congrats on the 12 week mark! That is fab! I have a scan Ono day morning just to confirm dates but hope there will be a heartbeat clearly visible too. Excited and scared but glad they are seeing me early!

It's lovely to see the heartbeat and the start and is really reassuring, we had one at 7 weeks and one at 10 weeks. Both times have been amazing, so I'm hoping that it's still ok next week when we go. Every scan is worrying after a previous miscarriage but to be honest I think il worry until the day it's born! Good luck for your scan xx

It's lovely to see the heartbeat and the start and is really reassuring, we had one at 7 weeks and one at 10 weeks. Both times have been amazing, so I'm hoping that it's still ok next week when we go. Every scan is worrying after a previous miscarriage but to be honest I think il worry until the day it's born! Good luck for your scan xx

Congrats on 12 weeks happily 17 days for me until the magic 12 weeks I'm not counting at all h

*honest lol well maybe a little bit :) any one else had their 12 week scan at the same time as their 1st consultants app? When I have mine I won't just be having a scan I have to see the consultant before and after which confused me a bit