New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[squizita]

Hand holding and fish slapping...

Fish slap needed.
28 week scan tomorrow.
20 week scan, we were told everything was perfectly normal. 50th-60th percentile, but the belly was 'chubby' and larger. I double checked this wasn't a clinical concern: they said no it either meant the baby would be naturally big and strong (i.e. the rest would catch up) or most likely it had drunk loads of fluid and not peed it out for a few hours. The abdominal wall and organs were all normal.
Being paranoid there's some fatty baby disease I've never heard of! duh!

The smallest if slaps for you squiz all will be fine, my friend had exactly the same at her 20 week scan (and had to have a repeat scan at 26 weeks) second measurement was fine and her daughter is an absolutely lovely 10month old now :) x

29 weeks today and all I can say is:

OH MY GOD! the leg cramps at night have hit with a vengeance. Woke up Friday night/Saturday morning with the mother of all cramps (read: crying, swearing and generally flinging myself around the bed. Poor DH though I was having contractions when I said cramp).

Thing is, my leg still hurts nearly 48 hours later. Is this normal? xxx

tea good luck tomorrow.

squizita ofc the baby will be fine. That's what the doctors/sonographers said isn't it?

mrsgiraffe all I can remember from last time was that third trimester is hell. I'm fairly sure the cramps are normal. And sleepless nights too. And back pains. There's a reason why the second trimester is known as the best. It's not that you actually are glowing. It's just it's a lot better than the first and the third!

It depends on how much it hurts. My back hurts all the time last time. But it's not unbearable so I just left it . They can't really give you anything to take when pregnant anyway. My eczema was really bad too. It's slightly better this time probably because it's summer.

onetoddler I felt like a right idiot though, making such a fuss with the pain. I've been advised by facebook friends to have bananas and a glass of tonic water before bed! I still can't believe I've 11 weeks of this torture left. Don't get me wrong I know I'm massively blessed to be pregnant again after a loss but I'm very much in the camp of its a means to an end. Especially as I've had such a horrendous pregnancy :-(

DH felt our baby move tonight v special moment.

Getting leg cramps too at 24 wks. But not too bad yet. Hope they ease mrsg

Met an old uni friend this week, she was congratulating me on my bump. In asking how I was I was honest about my losses and then how it's led to crazy paranoia and general lunacy. She told me she had a tmfr at 16 weeks just 3 weeks ago... Just such an awful thing to go through :( my heart goes out to her and all other ladies that have to face that outcome :(

mrsg don't feel bad about it. Pregnancy is horrible. I am just so tired and I'm in my second trimester. Really dreading the third which starts next week. Only people who have been through this can understand. Your friends are just trying to help. Who knows, maybe bananas and tonic water does work?

fedup so sorry to hear about your friends lost. So many people have been through this type of thing (mc, infertility, abortions or tmfr), but it's strange it seems no one talking about it isn't it? I don't feel comfortable bringing it up at all.

Oh the ignorance of it last time had me working up till end of 36 weeks. I am finishing at 34 weeks this time and hopefully it is not too late. I have enough leave to start another week earlier so maybe I will change my leave date if I can't cope anymore. (I'm using annual leave as I don't want to actually start the maternity leave early).

I worked til 37 weeks last time. This I'm stopping at 34. Only really because ds starts new nursery beginning of sept and can't be faffing with new childcare for the times when he's not there. So 10 weeks to go for me. Also using annual leave do that mat leave doesn't kick in too early. 10 weeks feels an age but think it's going to go quickly now!!
Much more tired this pregnancy. But think that's cos of ds and I'm 3 years older!

good luck today tea - it is such a milestone day, we all know how hard it is - will be thinking of you!

For me after being so happy with my scan, am now feeling a bit lost - am 14 weeks and my first tri symptoms have pretty much departed, which is lovely on one hand, but too early for any bump, obv no kicking yet so I'm feeling a bit like it has all gone away, if that makes any sense? 2.5 weeks till 16 week midwife appointment but I'm not sure if they will listen to the heartbeat. It just feels like such a long time without any reassurance everything is all right. Trying to focus on the positive that at least I am feeling well enough to distract myself more but I can feel my anxiety starting to creep up.....

moomin agree that period in time is really awkward. My ms contined til about 15 weeks but still felt very much in limbo land. My mw checked for HB at 16 weeks so that was a relief! Hang in there and if you do feel you are going totally mad, then private scan is always an option.

Good luck today tea hope all is well

fedup DD came at 37 weeks, so that's why I felt I have left it really late. I'm sure this changes how I feel because from 34 weeks, I'm probably only going to have 3 weeks to do me things. DD will still be in full time nursery. I'm planning to actually do the baby shop, wash the baby clothes, get a hair cut, watching some tv box set etc for that three weeks. Felt like it'll be my last chance to be doing whatever I like to do.

thanks fedup - you are right, if I can wait another two weeks and mw hears the heartbeat that hopefully will carry me through to 20 week scan, but i'll keep the private scan option in my back pocket....if she doesn't listen to HB at 16 weeks (I think I read some practices don't try now) I will have to do private scan. It will be worth it just for the reassurance. I'd love to say I have a small bump growing, but sadly it is just from eating so many carbs to get through 1st tri!!

Morning all, hope everyone had a good sunny weekend ? Am feeling a bit strange this morning as this was the day in my last pregnancy that I started to miscarry. I had a scan on Friday that showed heartbeat and bean so am feeling more confident but still feel ... off. Don't really know how to describe but thought someone here might recognise it.
Probably not helping that my grandfather is being moved to a mental health hospital today after the team of doctors at his home say they can no longer cope with his mood swings and they Alzheimer's medication is not helping

Ahhhh feeling off today going to have a hot chocolate and then attempt to work to take my mind of it!

Hope to here more stories of happy scans and heartbeats soon! Who has the next appt?

ellisisisland could it be that you don't know how you should be feeling? Happy or sad? Like a limbo. Hope the day gets better.

I am in the 15 week limbo. Don't feel pregnant. 4 weeks until next appointment that sort of thing. But I can't complain really!

Hope everyone has an uneventful day.

ellisisisland the reason I thought of a limbo feeling is that I miscarried mid June 4 years ago. I am not sad thinking back to it just remembering it. I have had scans with this pregnancy so I know I am not in the same position at all. But I am still not yet excited for this pregnancy. To me it is a sort of limbo.

Gwlondon- yes limbo is probably the best way to describe it. Have my 12 week scan on 8th July and am hoping that assuming all is well then that I can start to feel a bit more excited and happy about it.

Hi All, Im all new to this.
I had a missed miscarriage about a year ago, Im now 12 weeks pregnant, 34 and overweight!!!

I had an early scan and that showed a little baby at 8 weeks with a strong heartbeat. I have my 12 week scan today and I am terrified!!!

With my last miscarriage, baby died at about 6 weeks and I was 9 weeks when I found out - I started bleeding -but only a small amount. Things do seem better this time, but I am really struggling with my family being positive and hubby, when I am trying to remain calm incase something goes wrong! :)

Any advice

Good luck Tea! To all those in limboland hang in there. You will get movements and a bump soon and everything will feel more real.

Can I have some fish please? Am 7 weeks now and still have no sickness really. In some ways feel less pregnant than a few weeks ago. Is anyone else feelings pretty emotionless at this stage? Am panicking that it is like last time all over again and I have lost my little bean already. Early scan on Friday and I am finding it hard to think of anything else.
Also worried that I went on a shelter smelter with dd and ate a yoghurt that tasted v off and then discovered was past its sell by date this weekend. Worried one or other thinking will have done some damage. Is hard to avoid lifting dd too.

Sorry about all the typos. Emotionless was supposed to say symptomless.

Hi longestlurkerever

My understanding was that if you eat something your body doesn't like, it will reject it - such as out of date food - as I found out when my mother in law fed me out of date coleslaw when I was 5 weeks - but then again I do have IBS

I have gone through the same feelings but had a positive scan at 8 weeks and have a dating scan today... Fingers crossed for you xxx

Thanks for the new thread squiz and great to hear the news about positive scans

Not much to report here, still going quietly bonkers with the occasional day of brown sludge / spotting. Waiting on a date for my 12 wk scan, I'm about 10 wks tomorrow and really lacking posifricken attitude at the moment, getting tempted to go back for another private scan as time is going so bloody slowly. Feeling tired and have a constant horrible metal taste in my mouth so I'm trying to think of these things as positives, but after you've had an mmc I think you forever take symptoms, or lack of, as pretty meaningless. Fish slaps please ladies.

Hi everyone and first an apology. I stopped reading the thread a couple of weeks ago, don't really know why, but I just stopped reading anything pregnancy related. Been thinking for the last few days that I should catch up as I'm sure I've missed mountains of news (there's been about ten pages!) and I've been wondering how you're all doing, but now I'm wondering if my dropping off the thread was some sort of subconscious premonition.

Very sad to report that it's game over for me. Had a scan this morning after spotting all weekend. The baby stopped growing four weeks ago, within a couple of days of the reassurance scan I'd had by the measurements. Feeling rather numb and shocked at the moment, and haven't really decided how to proceed. Just taking a few hours to let it all sink in before making any decisions. If there's any silver lining I suppose it's that this makes three in a row and I've now been referred to RMC. Not sure if that's really anything to be happy about, just trying to look for any positives I can!

Thank you for all the support ladies. I wish you all the best and hope your outcomes are happier than mine.