New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[squizita]

Hand holding and fish slapping...

maddy welcome to the board!! I hope your scan went well yesterday! Lots of posifrickintivity!!

postit also wishing you good luck, fingers crossed both your scans go well

mims welcome to the board! Lots of hand holding and fish slapping here!

As for me - the leg pain got progressively worse over the lat 2 days and I ends up going round the houses yesterday, gp, then community midwifes, then maternity unit, then a and e. They have decided it "might" be a blood clot!!! So have to self inject with clexane twice daily now for the remainder of the pregnancy and I also have to go in for a scan of my veins either today or tomorrow! Am offiically fed up of being pregnant now with the huge catalogue of shite that's happened in this pregnancy so far. I can safely say I am never ever doing this again and will asked to be sterilised after this baby is born. I just have to focus on the beautiful prize of baby at the end of it :-)

Off to consultant appointment today. Have a scan too, to check baby's position. Scan doom is hitting me even at 36+ weeks. I have the usual fear that it's all gone wrong, but also a new one that they are going to tell me I need an emergency caesarian today and I'll be all on my own.

I just want the baby here now, I'll hit 37 weeks on Friday and I'm fed up of waiting and worrying!

mrsg I can safely say I am never ever doing this again and will asked to be sterilised after this baby is born. I just have to focus on the beautiful prize of baby at the end of it :-) How many is your 'ideal' family? It's hard to not feel broody if you haven't get to that number yet. I have forgotten how crap being pregnant is. My DH keeps telling me I was the same last time. I had two nights of sleepless night already. Feeling so so tired. I went to bed last night at 9pm, but just couldn't sleep. Then I was up for hours going to the toilet with diarrhea. (I seem to fling between constipation and diarrhea throughout the pregnancy. Very fun). Then it's back to bed lying there feeling sorry for myself.

mimsdog You have a nice NCT that gives reassurance scans! Give them a call and see when they could do it?

nerdy wow 37 weeks. Any time now really.

onetoddler I have a DS who is nearly 6, he was 8 weeks early with severe pre eclamlsia and I was borderline having HELLP syndrome with him too, then the miscarriage. And now this pregnancy i lost 13lbs in the first 12 weeks, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, am border line pre eclamlsia again and they have said I may well develop gestational diabetes also. So chucking the potential blood clot into it I can definitely say I have no desire to do this again. I just wish pregnancy was easier x

Fedup Pregnancy is like BabyBear from Goldilocks. You don't want anything to big (ouch!), anything too little (worry re premis etc'), you want it JUST RIGHT.

Mims congrats! Give your hospital a ring but they might only scan you after 6 weeks - before then everything's so tiny it could cause you anxiety (i.e. the scan picks nothing up, but there is a perfectly OK sac/embryo, just too small to see yet).

mrsg oh gosh, you have gone through so much worse than me. I am just starting to have the normal third trimester crap. I'm glad you are happy with 2. I won't have another one either. I'm looking forward to give away all my pregnancy stuff once this is all over. Oh and don't we all wish pregnancy is easier.

Omg mrsG you have drawn the short straw for pregnancy illnesses, I am not surprised you're contemplating sterilisation! Hope you're getting as much help as possible and you don't get any further rubbishness.

nerdy nearly there!

Maddy scan's at 11. Bricking it (and I've been the most nauseous and gassy to date this morning, erk!)

MrsG Booooooooooooooooooo to injecting Clexane. Love that drug, hate how it gets into you. www.stockport.nhs.uk/documents/PIL/34646_Med44.pdf - found this document which is the best guide to avoiding bruises. She says having stupidly injected a hurty/nervy patch at 6am rather than repositioning the needle and now having a duck-egg on the side of her bump grrr.

One and MrsG I know what you mean about the process of pregnancy. I am considering myself lucky to get one baby out of this cruel situation, and do not think - after the years of heartache and medical intervention - I would be willing to repeat the whole process and risk more losses. When you haven't got any children yet, you have little evidence that this isn't "as good as it gets" (just over 50% chance of success even with daily medication, higher risk etc') so it's a tough call: my "ideal" family now is not to be childless to be quite frank. :( I'm just lucky I live in the 21st century in the 1st world and - unlike the many inexplicably childless women down my mum's family tree who had blood issues/fatigue blatantly Hughes Syndrome - can pop an aspirin or warfarin pills once baby is out and live a "normal" life.
With all my miscarriages, I forgot about my chronic joint pain (I sometimes walk with a stick- turns out to be APS all along too) until my diagnosis revealed I could be a mum AND a mum who won't walk like a nanna!

Nerdy Good luck with the scan. :)

The frustrating thing is I'm usually so healthy and never need to visit doctors so I'm finding it harder that I have to do this lots now. Healthy baby at the end is all I care about, though at 27 I think the doctors would think I'm too young to be sterilised!

ihavetowaithowlong I am very sorry. Thinking of you.

squizita I have seen friends suffering secondary infertility. Logically we should think we are blessed to already have one. But sadly a lot of women can't come to terms with it. It doesn't help you get asked a lot when you'll be having a second. However, if you are open about the reason why (especially in your case), I'm sure they'll shut up!

mrsg I'm normally very healthy too and never sees a doctor either. I felt so useless now. Last night I was slumped on the sofa after work. Struggled to put food down my stomach (third trimester nauseousness)?. And this morning, I lied in bed after DH left for work and left DD playing her doctor set on me. She knew I wasn't feeling well but I just don't have the energy to play with her. In the weekend I'm not any better either. I felt like I just want to go back to bed and lie down most days . And I don't even have any diagnosed problems with the pregnancy!

By the way squizita, DH is very happy as an only. He actually am happy with just one and prefers it that way too. It's me who wanted more. Don't let anyone tell you that an only child is a lonely child.

squitza I agree with what onetoddler says, one child doesn't equal lonely child whatsoever, my DH is an only child and he's said he was never lonely growing up as he had lots of friends and he did a lot with his parents too xx

Ihave I'm so sorry to hear your news. I hope you can get some answers from a referal and have lots of RL support

Good news Tea and Squiz, lovely to hear.

Welcome Maddy and Mims

Not long now Nerdy good luck today and hang on in there!

MrsG if there was a trophy emoticon I would award you it for keeping going through such a high number of health issues in pg!

I have my 25 week appt with the midwife tomorrow. Can't believe the 3rd tri is nearly here!

londonjen it sounds a lot but it's all been gradual throughout the pregnancy so it only sounds a lot when you put it all in a list. And to think all I was worried abkut this pregnancy was a miscarriage early on, and the potential for pre eclampsia again

Ihave- I'm sending you lots of warm thoughts and hope the referral will lead to thw correct answers. Big hugs...

Mims - Congratulations! I wish you lots of stickiness for this pregnancy. Call the EPAU near you and get a scan booked in for your 6 week marker. Stay positive...

Squizita - you are a wise woman and one with great wit

Hello - can I join and just sit in the corner quietly for now please? BFP (well actually quite a small faint positive, but it was very definitely a line) yesterday, which I think makes me 5 weeks today, EDD 24 Feb.

History: TTC #1 for 3 years (!), struggled to get pg at all, had one MMC at 11 weeks (had stopped developing around 6-7 weeks) and 2 early MCs around the 5-6 week point.

I am therefore not thinking anything at all about pregnancy and not telling anyone except DH and not going to see the doctor until at least 6w - but needed to be here so I can tell someone before I go quietly mad. If that's okay...

Ah well congrats on your bfp badger. I know, it's hard to get excited but very exciting at the same time! No need for any curling in corners here!
Enjoy your bfp and let's hope this is a sticky one for us all!

Congrats Badger! Feel free to shout it from rooftops on here. The motto: Today we are pregnant. Its the best we can hope for and it certainly helps me stay just on the right side of madness (on the whole!)

hiya, still here still pg, and another test (or 10) taken, i'm now 3+ weeks on CB so hormones increasing as expected (5+1 based on conception dates) the doctor has me on antibiotics for my VB and she's booking me an early scan as well, i've decided to keep my gyne apt and play a little bit blonde there, in the hope if I haven't had a date for a scan through i will have then as I would/will be 8+ weeks by then so hopefully they will see something.

feeling very hormonal and sorry for myself (hayfever!) we've just moved over the w.e and I had a major rant at hubs after he decied to huff and puff every time I told him I wasn't suppose to be lifting heavy stuff (ie beds mfo boxs weighing 75kg) sofa's etc etc so he was told if I had another m.c again i'd blame him. needless to say we are now in our new home, my mums the only one i've told and has been fussing big time so he's feeling suitably guilty and now telling me not to lift anything. (not guilty enough to let me watch dirty dancing thou :()

my stats are:-

DTM, no 3 2 DS's (8, 2) 2 mmc @ 8 weeks 5 early m.c at 5 weeks. edd 23rd ish feb, (hoping I go over as DS1's birthday is 23rd feb) so don't want to have four 9 year olds sleeping over or at the cinema when my waters break lol.

hi badger, i'll happily hold hands, i'm a nervous wrek as well! hello to everyone else big waves once my net is back on properly i'll be fully back, bloody virgin!

Back from hospital. Scan was ok. Sonographer did some growth checks too, as I hadn't had a scan since 20 weeks. Baby's head is down, and quite low so she couldn't measure the head. Tummy and femur measurements are fine and seem to be just over 50th centile. There was a graph on the wall in one of the rooms which seemed to indicate baby might be around 6lb based on that and the number of weeks. The consultant has given me iron tablets as she thinks my iron is low, and I'm going back in two weeks. As I'm on steroids still I might have to have steroids in labour if I can't get off them before birth.

mrsg you have had a build up of medical issues! Hopefully they can be managed until baby arrives and then you'll get back to your healthy self. Not surprised you don't want to do it again. My friend has had two straightforward pregnancies and she doesn't want to either. I'm not sure if I would. Mainly for the stress and worry really. Although it was hard coping with the colitis flare up I am kind of used to that.

ihave very sorry for your sad news. Do take care of yourself.

Welcome new BFPers! It definitely helps being able to post here when you can't tell anyone else. And we have all had our worries and fish-slap moments so you are not alone!

Welcome all the newbies, you'll find great support and fish slaps as needed here, so feel free to rant away!

nerdy good news on the scan. Hope others having scans today/in next few days are doing ok.

I've just had my date for 12 wk scan (9th July) and feel sick just at the thought of it. Scared scared scared. I'm even considering another private scan a week before it as if it's bad news I'd rather get it from the lovely lady at the clinic than at the hospital from a stranger. Am I being totally nuts?! Probably. I just have a terrible feeling of doom about it all. Still having some brown bleeding but no fresh stuff which is good. I'm clinging onto this as a positive but my mmc is never far from my mind and I had no clue a out that until the scan. Grrrrr. Agree with others, pregnancy is just sh*t sometimes and I also know that if we get to the end of this with a baby then I won't be having any more. Always felt I'd probably stop at 2 and now I'm certain. And of course I'm an old bird so better had really

cake, likewise we will be stopping after this one, I said that after my last mmc, but tried again and had another mc at 5 weeks in jan/feb ho hum. I think you get to the point where you just cant do it any more. fingers crossed for you my lovely.

Hi All -
Had my dating scan yesterday and everything is going well - and I am actually 14 weeks - not the 12 they thought, They measured wrong at the reassurance scan!

Sorry to read the bad news as well - I know - as do we all just how heartbreaking it is.