I THINK IM PREGNANT? OR HOW LONG TILL?

[Jael123]

I'm 18, just recently turned 18. Ive been trying for a baby with my boyfriend, we have been planning this all for the last 6 months, this really is what we want, we have a good income (we don't currently have any benefits and we plan to not rely on them)I came off my mini pill 1 week ago, I'm having heavy bleeding now, I presume this is my period.what do I need to know, what's important. I've googled and googled but I want really advice. How long do you think it will take for me to fall pregnant etc?

Anything would help, thankyou!

You know what guys, I don't care if the op is lying or exaggerating the truth. If she had lied she won't get appropriate advice and that's her problem.

I just want to make sure the op rethinks having a baby until she's lived with her boyfriend without parents and possibly siblings around, and makes sure she will be financially secure for when the baby is born and is prepared for things to go wrong or not as she'd like.

sorry if I'm doing better than you lot did when you was my age

Oh why? Why the shitty arrogant attitude?

I'm now actually really sorry for you, everyone on here is giving you a right battering but you keep handing out ammo and standing in the firing range.

Some of your posts are so childish, all this ha ha nonsense - there is nothing funny about this and your posts are only making you seem less mature.

I never understand why people post when they are dead set on not listening to any advice unless it is what they want to hear. Infuriating.

Anyway, OP, sorry I'm not sure if you're for real due to all of the inconsistencies in your posts. If you are I'd just say that you need to look into childcare costs and maternity leave allowances before you get pregnant. Really work a budget out. Oh and move in with your boyfriend....

I agree the OP has a really weird attitude. On all her threads she has persisted in being rude to posters who have offered perfectly polite advice and then drip feeding details of an- at best- average education and job like she's the governor of The Bank of England. The only thing I can imagine is that she's only experienced very poor parenting and very low aspirations in her life and therefore doesn't know what's generally considered normal in 2014.

My 23 year old cousin is a graphic/web design graduate apprentice with an extremely respectable company. He fought off hundreds of applicants to get one of 3 posts. He has a first degree and an excellent employment record with supervisory experience at Next who were desperate to keep him as a grad trainee. He is in South east. He earns around £23k

I am truly gobsmacked that someone of barely 18 who couldn't hack their A levels so ended up with a diploma in photography can walk into a full time job in a BANK when there are thousands of highly intelligent, more appropriately qualified graduates who cannot get decent jobs and are working in call centres and Starbucks.

Replies like that are not helping, it's a life choice that I've seriously thought about and I plan to carry out. Raising a baby is the life I want

And I still don't understand why you have a second thread, virtually identical to the first, and are still banging on and on about how you are just eighteen. If you don't think it's at all relevant then for gawd's sake stop making it the first thing you tell everyone. It really is making you sound like a silly child.

I'm not sure what kind of advice you think you need exactly, but all the bog-standard stuff about what to expect/do/not do while pregnant can be easily found and discussed without needing to bring your personal circumstances into it. You just seem really belligerent and attention seeking now.

Attention-seeking is right.

Why engage? OP is either a fantasist or a wind-up merchant.

Bore off you silly girl.

raising a baby is the life I want

...but it's only a baby for a year... You seem desperate to have a baby, and not actually considering that this baby will turn into a child.

I literally cannot be bothered to give any of you a minute more of my time. Thankyou for all the personal messages from people that agree taking me seriously. I haven't lied once. I don't have to explain myself to a bunch of immature parents. I'm sorry but when I have my baby the last thing I will be going to do is sitting online bitching with a bunch of online people. Goodbye

As a former young mother myself, I was helpful and supportive towards you, and gave useful and practical advice, and your response was to ignore me completely. I see what the others mean when they say you are not good at getting along with people or listening to others, on here anyway. This is something you should consider addressing if you intend to become a successful parent.

Jael I tried to take you seriously, as a young mum myself and like I said I don't care if you lied or not, I try to assume all posts are genuine.

However, I haven't seen any posts that are immature towards you and I have seen no posters saying anything rude or immature unless responding to your defensive and lalala ignorant attitude.

Why are you on here if you think so badly of mums using online forums? (which I find to be a great source of advice and support even when I don't get the response I'm looking for, after all, sometimes I'm wrong.)

You would do well to listen to the advice and think about it before deciding to reject it and stop the teenage attitude you are going to manage motherhood. You will Get tonnes of advice both asked for and unwanted and you'll have to learn when to smile and nod and walk away when you don't want it.

People are genuinely concerned that you will make the wrong decision but we don't know you in real life, you may actually be mature and make a good young mum, but that doesn't mean you should rush into something you can put off now but can't change once it's done.

Aside from that you have been given lots of good advice for if and when you do decide to go ahead with your plans, I would drop the rudeness and look at the positive posts.

I would also advise that if you want better conception advice, you name change and go on the conception boards and ask for tips without mentioning your age or circumstances.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Poor deluded little buba.

Does this mean the show is over? Gutted. ^puts glass of down!

On a serious note, Jael you really do play into the cynical and sometimes ignorant views some people have about young parents (male and female). Your attitude and general stroppy behaviour make you seem very immature and IMO not ready to be a responsible parent. Based on how you come across, if you do become a parent, you are in for a serious shock.

Its such a shame because there are lots of excellent and mature young parents out there. This is coming from one of those old (38) parents that your detailed research tells you cant keep up with their children (5 month old in my case).

I've been watching this thread and thinking that although it was entertaining it also sounded quite familiar and then it hit me. It sounds a lot like this thread!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/a2010980-Plain-white-baby-clothes

Wow....Jael, it sounds like you have made a decision. And when you make a decision (like having a baby), its a VERY important decision and one that will be with you for the rest of your life (must stick this in your brain ). It sounds like you have researched a lot and to be honest, once you become pregnant, nature will take over and your midwife/family/friends, etc will give you welcomed advice. You will just have to look after yourself. In the meantime, my advice would be to not think about it too much or you will become obsessed with the concept. When you overthink something, it can take over your life. Live your life as normal and when its right, it will happen to you, but relax about it

Cariad - brilliant thread!

It was even better before several of the OP's responses were deleted! It sounds so similar to this thread that I couldn't help wondering if it was the same person.

Hey guys, Jael123 here- changed my name. I'm not going to say thankyou because I do feel a lot of you were un-necessarily rude. But I just thought I would let you all know I've spoken with my boyfriend about this all and we have decided that I'm going to take up my uni offer, (in London though) so that my boyfriend can work, we are going to find a place in London, we have also further talked about America, so we have booked a 3 week holiday out to America for September and we are going to see how we like it out there, look into jobs, housing prices etc. And then once I finish uni (in 3 years) we are going to take a month holiday out there to start looking for a job. Then hopefully move out there. When we are settled etc, we will then start trying for a baby. So yeah

Fantastic! I'm really pleased that you've been mature enough to listen to advice - good luck with everything!

I think you're doing the right thing. However still could do with some improvement on the manners front. It's fine to think some people were rude but also polite to thank those that have helped you rethink your plan and come to the decision you have.

Well done. Absolutely the right decision, I promise you. You have your whole life ahead of you to do everything you want to do - but in the right order. You know it makes sense.

:) best of luck at Uni.

What a transformation!

Huge sigh of relief

Good luck (again).