I THINK IM PREGNANT? OR HOW LONG TILL?

[Jael123]

I'm 18, just recently turned 18. Ive been trying for a baby with my boyfriend, we have been planning this all for the last 6 months, this really is what we want, we have a good income (we don't currently have any benefits and we plan to not rely on them)I came off my mini pill 1 week ago, I'm having heavy bleeding now, I presume this is my period.what do I need to know, what's important. I've googled and googled but I want really advice. How long do you think it will take for me to fall pregnant etc?

Anything would help, thankyou!

9.80/hr in a bank possible if you are agency staff so temporary. Could get a phonecall in the morning to say no work. Would also mean no maternity package. I'd want a hell of a lot more than 6k saved if i was to have a baby with such an insecure source of income.

Do you know what my favourite song is? It's this one:

"The best thing about this sing, is you make it up as you go along!"

BTW you arent doing better than i was at your age. I was in the bank too at 17, permanent staff though.

SONG!!!!!!

Fact is that you wont be entitled to a maternity package from the bank so how your 7k savings isnt going to last very long.

I've actually just checked and you can get into university on a one year photography diploma. Assuming it was a Level 3 Extended BTEC that is.

But true or not, there is still such a degree of immaturity to your answers that it's worrying. And if you and your partner have a joint annual income of circa £55k (ref. other thread) then there really is no reason to still be bunking at your parents'.

Good luck with the flat hunt and the ttc. There is loads of official information out there from the NHS, Mumsnet and a variety of books you can read. Prob better than relying on the advice of strangers on an internet forum.

I'm bowing out now.

Your boyfriend is 18 and earns £36k ?

Pull the other one, it's got a solid brass bell on it

Sorry I'm using the other thread. What do you want? Proof. Because this really is awfully childish of you lot basically telling me I am a liar ha. Yes it is a level 3 extended diploma. Also, I am not temporary I've been working 2 years, hardly temporary, also I do get maternity I've checked I just haven't had an in depth conversation about it. On Sunday I am going out with YourMove to see some flats/houses around the Plymouth area and then the following Sunday me and the boyfriend are heading into Exeter to have a look, again with YourMove. My boyfriend does have a good income for his age because he is a graphic designer and a web coder. He was lucky to get his job, it started as an Apprenticship and then he was taken on, not many people his age get the opportunity he did.

I'm bowing out. You're extremely immature jael. You have NO clue as to what having a child entails.
Good luck but make sure you name change when you come back bemoaning your lack of maternity pay, your wish that you'd waited etcetera because if you think we've been harsh now......you ain't see nothing yet!!!!

Grow up, I'm not going to start trying until I know exactly what my maternity pay will be and how long for.
Oh and as for being so rude to me, and then also saying I'm still a child, doesn't that make you kind of pathetic as you'd class yourself as an adult, cya!!!!!! Hahahaha!

If you have that combined income and still live with parents, I'm a little surprised by your lack of savings. Also none of the apprentices I know (bearing in mind i work in London with higher wages and the "big payers" for talented young people on the doorstep) have wages resembling that. Sorry it just sounds implausible.

To put it into perspective: our combined income nudges £50k, we pay mortgage on a 3 bed house in London. We are in the top 30% of earners for our age. We saved considerably more than you with our outgoings before planning a family. Living at parental home, a relative of mine on £30k saved over £20k over 2 years.

If he is being honest about his earnings, you both need to take some financial advice.

However, you do now sound like what ever is said, you'll have an "answer" then say its unfair and everyone else is wrong (using an insult you feel is hurtful... Childish ... Interesting choice there. Do you think that's what people usually say when other adults disagree with them? Or mat-choo-wa teenage girls say to less worldly ones in the playground?).

Now MNers, we are very childish and rude to try and pass on our experiences that we have aquired in our considerably longer and more experienced lives than this OP.

The old believe everything; the middle-aged suspect everything; the young know everything.
Oscar Wilde

Also, I am not temporary I've been working 2 years, hardly temporary

But you are agency right? Which means no contract, you are temporary dear. One of my very good friends was a colleague in the bank employed through an agency, he was there 3 years and then one friday was told we had a new (bank's name) staff member transferring from another branch on monday so he wasnt needed any more. You know yourself it can happen just like that. You wont have a maternity package with the bank either.

OP, there's one skill that you absolutely must master in order to become a mother and you've shown that you don't have it. It's the ability to listen to advice then smile and nod and ignore, without being rude.

Please don't bring a imaginary baby into your perfect fantasy life until you've learnt how to do this.

HTH (passive aggressive )

I'm 18, just recently turned 18. Ive been trying for a baby with my boyfriend, we have been planning this all for the last 6 months, this really is what we want, we have a good income (we don't currently have any benefits and we plan to not rely on them)I came off my mini pill 1 week ago

Then we have.........

Grow up, I'm not going to start trying until I know exactly what my maternity pay will be and how long for.

She also said somewhere else that she had beem planning it for a year.

I'm not sure she knows her arse from her elbow

I've taken some of this on board and I will be using contraception wether that is the mini pill or not to make sure everything Is ok, I am not from an agency I am a fully employed staff member? So no it's not temporary

On £9.80 an hour? Yeah ok.

I think I will just grab a glass of , some olives and put my feet up whist I observe.

This has been like watching a car crash in slow motion.

Jael before you accuse me of be jealous of your high flying career as a temp in a bank, can I clarify that I am on a permanent contract as a senior executive in a global business. However, I am really amused by this thread. Reminds me of Kevin and Perry!

What's that saying about teenagers? Something along the lines of 'move out and get your own place whilst you still know all the answers'

How did you manage to do an Ext Dip in one year?

Taking the op at face value

Op I got pregnant with my first (planned) when I was 21. I had a husband, a permanent job (that I had been in long enough to get ML) and a mortgage on a small three bed.

I'm now 33 and have had four children in my 20s. I don't regret my life, it's hard to regret children but I do regret that I didn't allow myself a life before. I thought I was mature, I was compared to my peers but that doesn't mean that it's actually a mature thing to do. If I could do it again but not lose what I have now I would leave it a few years.
You're only young once, a lesson I wish someone had taught me but of course I wouldn't have listened either. (And I had a few years on you)

I didn't realise there was more than one thread.

Grabs and watches with amusement as there's only one Corrie on tonight

What are your plans for work/childcare after the baby is born?
When I worked, we had a combined income of 66k & we couldn't afford for me to go back to work (london shift workers, childcare would've left us £300 short every month), if the option of working was taken away from you would you be happy as a SAHM?
Would you want to have another baby within the first few years?

Do you both drive/have your own cars? What's the difference between Plymouth & Exeter in terms of support/friends etc.
Have you looked into the nurseries/primary schools close to the places you're viewing?

My advice (to anyone of any age!) would be live together first, alone, for 6 months or so just to make sure there are no problems/issues between you you've not come across yet. Get into the flow of how you're going to live together (Sunday roasts at his parents? Yours? Etc, who does what around the house) & then go for it.

Somedizzy its like having sky.. Not sure whichis the directors edit though! You can flick between the two.