Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[Seasides]

God, the sonographer had to keep stopping at my 6 week scan because I was sobbing so much my stomach muscles were obscuring the view! Lovely scan news quiet, hope the relief lasts at least a few days for you!

English, hope the move home went well? Must be a relief, I remember you saying how much you were looking forward to moving back, and that the care over there wasn't great? Fab that you've got an early scan in the diary, that's a result.

Cake, I don't think I had many symptoms except sore boobs much good that's done me, still tiny until after 6 weeks, since when nausea and tiredness have creeped me out by coming and going.

corpore, it might be a good idea to have a quiet word with a manager or someone about the real reasons that guy is 'off sick', if appropriate? Though they probably know already, doesn't sound like he's a wizard at his job at the best of times if he's that lame now. Sounds like you more than did your bit in last ML, you easily could have told them it wasn't your job when you were off.

[Cakebaker35]

Thanks for the reassurances all, I really should no better as had no symptoms with dd either - but that was back in the days pre mmc when I wasn't an anxious loon!

Little tiny minnow slap for you aMum, try not to worry but that's rich coming from me

Lovey news Quiet x

[Cakebaker35]

Know not no! Can't even spell anymore

[amicablemoomin]

Lovely news on the scan quiet and Engels

Just adding to the good scan news - I had my reassurance this evening, and despite working myself up into a state before hand (cue mini well meaning lecture from midwife about self managing anxiety!!!) all was well - we saw a little jelly baby with a heartbeat measuring 9+1 which is right by my dates.

[Seasides]

Ah, great moomin! What good news over the past few days

[Penguin13]

Great news Moomin long may the positive news keep rolling in!

[HopefulHamster]

Love it when there's lots of good news, long may it continue :)

[fedupofrainydays]

Loving the good scan news!!! Yay!! Posifrickintivity all round!!

[fedupofrainydays]

amum I still check when I wipe too and I am 19 weeks. DH wonders what am doing at 3 am!!

corp he sounds like a right twat. And a bit pathetic! Get a grip silly man - what would he do if you just left the company?

Thanks for the potty training stories. Childminder seems to want him back in nappies as he did two poos in his pants today and 2 wee accidents (he wees quite a bit). Am just so confused as people say 'stick with it' and others say put him back in nappies for another couple of months. I think he does get it, just forgets when he's playing or tired. Cried on the way home as just felt child minder was so doom about it. But I don't want to start training him either just before or just after this baby is due - and it's due when he turns three so it's either waiting again til like he's 3.5 or trying again in July / aug. Thing is. He's had totally dry days before so it's not impossible! Sorry - I know this isn't a potty training thread but totally doing my head in today!!

[Penguinita]

Great scan news engels, quiet and moomin, brilliant!

quiet there is nothing that melts my heart more than a big man blubbing. Aww, your DH must be so happy.

[fedupofrainydays]

seasides I felt similar when I cleaned the bathroom with some heavy duty lime scale remover. And then again when I went down a big slide at peppa pig world that totally left my stomach behind (and in my head, my placenta). Told
DH and he was like... So it's just like going over a bridge in the car and your tummy flips a bit' errrr yep. Sounds silly when you put it like that!!

[IhavetowaitHOWlong]

Lovely to hear all the positive scan news. Congratulations moomin, quiet, engels and hamster

[Alb1]

Lots of great scan news today, lovely to see!

amum I also still check every time I wipe and I'm 25+3, I don't think il ever stop exept now I also check as I'm constantly convinced my waters are leaking

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hi all. I haven't checked in for a while but pleased to say that for once it's not due to being snowed under at work but have been away to london for a few days with DH and DS.

I'm so pleased to see so much positive scan news for those ladies early on and so much posifrickintivity :-) can't believe I'm only number 12 on the list now and only have 15 weeks and a few days to go.

Have been feeling rather posifrickintivitive recently myself having reached viability, and haven't had too much pain with the hernia thank to the fab drugs they have given me (though had a wobble when leaflet said babies may be born addicted and need to go through withdrawal from them. DH gave me a needed fish slap and said as kindley as poss my health is priority now and having pain killers is preventing surgery which would be even more risky).

However I'm in need of hugs or something today. One year ago to the day I had my ERPC for my miscarriage and have been awake since about 4 feeling rather off. Of course, I'm so over the moon to be pregnant again, and know that at almost 25 weeks the chances of me bringing home a baby are so very high. I just can't help but remember what a shit day this time last year was. I think I cried solid all day, and for about 3 months afterwards too. Is it normal to feel like this?? The due date was hard as that was Christmas Day but at least I had DS to distract me. Today it's just me and my feelings and I feel like hiding away again :-(

[bakingtins]

RMC thread graduates particularly if you were treated at St Mary's, could you pop back and help out a newbie called moorthya please?

MrsG sorry you are having a tough day. Being pregnant again doesn't cancel out the hurt. It's not disloyal to the LO you are carrying to wish you had not been through the trauma of loss. Be sad if you need to.

moomin great news

[aMuminwaiting]

I'm giving you a virtual hug MrsGiraffe. The first few years after losing my first baby were really hard too. Not made easier by the fact that it's the same day as my MILs birthday and she expected us to be there for family gatherings when we just wanted to curl into a ball, as you said. I'd say for the first two years that day was horrendous and I would picture the events with absolute clarity. Holding his little body, crying through his naming ceremony and again all the way through his funeral service. The rage at MIL ignoring our request for only those who held him to come to the service (both sets of our parents) and shaking with pain as his little coffin was taken away. I couldn't see how DH and I would ever be able to function again. But bit by bit we did and on the day now we do things like fly a balloon with his name on it or take our dog to visit the tree we bought at some woodlands. It hurts still but not quite as acutely. We would have adored the bones of him but it wasn't to be.
You say DS is a distraction which is great but must also be very hard as you can't just cry if you feel you need to because you have to be strong for him. I don't think I ever want to not feel emotional on that day because I always want him to know I miss him despite never being able to get to know him, but I'm glad that I can at least keep going.

[squizita]

baking will do :)

[Seasides]

Your post made me cry amum, that sounds so brutally painful. What you ladies have been through is just awful, of course today is a sad day for you MrsG. Take as much time as you can for yourself and your loss.

I'm feeling more wobbly too. The weedkiller thing has really thrown me, I suddenly feel massively paranoid about doing something wrong, I've felt nervous constantly for two days now. I'm finding this all very stressful, I just want to be safe with my baby, or at least to know for certain s/he's ok in there so I can relax and start afresh. This must be the start of the maternal anxiety/guilt...feeling like I'm going to screw up at any minute.

Two and a half weeks until my 12 week scan...wishing the time away. At least I'm down to stay with my ready-to-pop pg sister next week, the time should pass quickly.

[HopefulHamster]

Hi all, just jumping in this morning to finally add myself to the list of due dates - was too scared before my scan.

Cuppa glad you're on the road to reassurance. So many people bleed in pregnancy - I did in both of my successful (so far) ones, and not in my mc. Weird.

MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Polka: 0DC 1mmc 2mc EDD 9th May
Emki; 1 DD, 2MC, EDD 23rd May 2014
Penguinita: 0 DC, 1 MMC, EDD 27th May 2014
StarsInTheNightSky: 0DC, 2MC, 1MMC, ELCS 29 May 2014
Bakingtins: EDD 6th June
PGchimp: 0DC, 1 MC, EDD 9th June 2014
MeDoingMyThing: 2 DS, 1MC, EDD 14th June 2014
AliceBear: 1 DD 1MMC 1MC EDD 23 June 2014
Getagoldtoof: 1DC, 1MMC, 1MC EDD 2 July 2014
Louzul: 1MC, EDD 17 July 2014
Alb1 1mmc EDD 30th august
MrsGiraffe12: 1DC, 1MMC, EDD 7th September 2014
Squizita: 3MC, EDD 12 September 2014
OneLittleToddleTerror: 1DD, 1MC, 1 MMC, EDD 18th September 2014
HopefulHamster: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 5th October 2014
Londonjen: 1MMC, EDD 8 October 2014
Wigwam33: 1MC, 1DS, 1MMC & 2MCs, EDD 9th October (or 29th Sep according to NHS)
Fedupofrainydays, 1ds, 2mc, EDD 10 Oct
CorporeSarnie: 1DD, 1MC, EDD 1st Nov
MabelMay: 2DS, 1MC, 1MMC EDD 6th November
Omama 1 DS, 1 MMC, EDD 5th December 2014
Gwlondon 1mc DS 1mmc EDD 5th Dec
BobaFetaCheese; 4 MC, 2DS, EDD 14 December 2014
Seasides: 1 EP, 0DC, EDD 15 Dec 2014
Amicablemoomin; 2MC, 0DS, EDD 21 December 2014
QuietTiger; 0DC, 1DD (Stillborn), 1MMC, 3MC, EDD 25th December 2014
CallingAllEngels 2MC, 1DS, EDD 28th December 2014
TeaRex: 1MMC, 1DD, EDD 7th January 2015
DitzyDonkey: 1MMC, 1DS, EDD 9th January 2015

Thread Babies:

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
BobaFetaCheese Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz
Pentagon baby Elsie born 23 October 7lb 5oz
Bodicea baby James born 3 November 8lb
Ibelieveinpink baby Imogen born 14 November 7lb 4oz
BumpKitty baby Matilda born 18 Nov 8lb 2oz
Luckysocks13 baby Charlotte born 24 Nov 8lb
Jmf294 baby Alexander James born 25 Nov 7lb 4oz
Shellsocks baby Noah Stephen born 27 Nov 9lb 3.5oz
Gardenworm baby Wolfie born 1 December
Janielovesluckysocks baby Leo Thomas born 4 Dec 7lb 5oz
Bootyluscious baby Sofia born 17 December 6lb 2oz
ChocolateTeabag: baby Joss born 18 December 7lb 7oz
Blackholes: Baby girl born 23 December
WhatwillSantabring: Baby boy born 6 January 8lbs 7oz
pumpkinsweetie: Baby girl born 7 January 6lb 4 oz
Christinedaae - Baby girl Sawyer born 6th Feb 9lb11.5oz
MissMedusa: Baby Rhydian Thursday 27 Feb 1080g
TotalShock - Baby James born 25 February 8lb 1oz
Swangirl: Baby boy, 4 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: Lucy Elanor 7 March 7lb
Pixielady83: Baby girl, 9 March
GuffSmuggler: Baby boy, 3 March
Fod: Baby Girl, 7 April, 10lb 3
TeaAndANatter: Baby Henry born 18 April 7lb 15oz
Kjh5: Baby Logan born 19 April 3.3kg
CbeebiesIsMyLife: Baby boy born 2 May
Tomkat: Baby Lolly born 16 May

[aMuminwaiting]

Sorry seasides, I made myself cry too! Not a good idea when we're all so hormonal!
Don't beat yourself up about the weedkiller. As long as you're not drinking it I'm sure your little one will be ok. Remember they put precautions on EVERYTHING to cover themselves legally just in case most of the time. Obviously there's some huge risk areas but hopefully you're not going to be standing in a bio lab or working with mercury any time soon. I had the most awful consultant after my first and he made me feel like it was all my fault which of course I know now it wasn't. He kept asking if I'd been in a car crash! As if I'd miss telling them that! And what was he saying about the way I looked?! Very random questioning. I remember saying "the most strenuous thing I do in my job is change the ink cartridge on my printer". And he looked down at his papers and said "oh well must be one of those things then". I won't say what I think of people like that but I'm sure you can guess! We all spend so much time worrying we're doing things wrong, that's the last kind of person you need!

[HopefulHamster]

seasides it's so hard not to stress. I had to use some steroid cream early in pregnancy and was reading about it causing cleft lip when injected into mice. Panicked like hell, but it all seemed fine in the scan. You have to remember how hard it is for most substances to get into our bloodstream in any serious amount. It's totally hypocritical of me, but relax if you can :)

[Cakebaker35]

Hello ladies, I had a good reminder from someone that one of the biggest risks for us is stress itself, not anything else we might come into contact with, so somehow we have to find a way to relax a bit....I'm tying to figure out how but reminding myself that strsss isn't doing me or the tiny bean any good is a start. I'm seeing someone next week about some meditation/ relaxation techniques, I'm determined to try. She is a friend so thankfully will be a freebie, so has to be worth a shot.
Sending you all posifrickentivity! X

[aMuminwaiting]

I was thinking about trying some acupuncture for relaxation dn hopefully help with the sickness. Anyone given it a go?

[Seasides]

What an awful man amum! Good lord, the stories I hear on here about people's insensitivity, what is wrong with these people? You're all right though, of course we're all doing great, and anything that has gone wrong in the past was not our fault.

I had acupuncture for a year before my BFP, for stress and to try and help my cycle. Not sure it helped with the latter, but I can feel my stress levels rising again, so maybe it did help with that. I am considering going back too. You're right cake, and that's what my DH told me which didn't go down well at the time when I was panicking about the Roundup. Not been sleeping well recently, so I need to do some relaxing too, stat!

[Cakebaker35]

seasides yes it didn't go down too well with me initially! Dh said the same, I practically ripped his head off, not my finest hour, but my massive overreaction told me a lot in itself. Then my friend who's had multiple mc's said it and I thought yep, I need to try and get control of this. So I'll give it a whirl, and no doubt still be on this thread panicking regularly. Hope the acupuncture works for you x