Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[Gwlondon]

Congratulations pgchimp! Enjoy!

Hello to everyone new! Good luck. The first trimester is a hard wait.

[OneLittleToddleTerror]

GandT can you give the slightly further one a call? I don't actually know the answer directly to your question because neither of the hospital near me will take self referral. But I have chosen to give birth in the hospital that is not in my local trust. I'm having all my scans and tests in the other hospital. No one ever asked why I don't go to the one in my trust. I don't think they are that strict!

[GandTnow]

Thank you so much, not sure why I'm being such a wuss! Will give them a call tomorrow.

MS has started to creep up a bit more this afternoon, on the one hand encouraging, on the other not great timing as we have tons of people to feed and to stay over the next couple of weeks!!!

[CallingAllEngels]

Congratulations chimp !

[Ellisisland]

Ladies I really need a big fish slap and some reassurance please !

I got into a horrible row at work today and it was one of those situations when your stomach sinks, you feel sick and my heart was pounding ( I hate confrontation!) and now I am convinced I will miscarry because of the shock iyswim. Can someone make me feel better before I hit google and scare myself ?

[squizita]

Ellis you 100% cannot trigger miscarriage through an argument. 100%. Medical. Fact.

[LondonJen]

Here is a salmon round your chops Ellis! That sounds tough but pregnant women receive much worse news/stress and still remain pregnant.

G&T my local epu is open 9-11am and only gp referral (not ideal.) When I went to the Dr with this 2nd pregnancy he told me I hadn't heard it from him but one in central london took self referals and if I found myself bleeding to just turn up saying I came there because I planned to refer myself there for all care/the birth once I was further along. So I don't think they will turn you away.

[CallingAllEngels]

Slap!!!

It's understandable to feel shaky and upset after confrontation ellis but your baby is tucked away and nothing you do or don't do is going to cause you to mc. I think it's a rational thought when you've been through mc before - we all understand.

SLAP!

[Seasides]

Yep ellis, I'm with squiz and london - and I've also read previously that short term stress like that can't do any harm, so that's the googling done for you. Horrible to have to have the argument, but it's not going to make you miscarry.

Congratulations pgchimp!! Hope you're recovering quickly.

I haven't heard about the nuchal test from last Monday, so I assume that's me in the clear for low risk? They said they'd call within 3-4 days, so phew if so, another hurdle cleared.

Welcome newbies...that first trimester is a worry pit for everyone. Hands to hold and fish to throw, here.

[Ellisisland]

Thanks everyone! I have never been so happy to be metaphorically slapped with a fish!

[Cirsium]

Hi all, Nervously joining you. I'm 7 weeks pregnant after my first pregnancy ended in MMC discovered at 12 week scan end of February 2013. That baby had died at about this point, so very, very worried and have had some spotting in the last few days which hasn't helped, although HCG level look good and GP seems positive.

Lovely to read all the positive outcomes on here, and so very sorry to all those who are having to go through it again.

[OneLittleToddleTerror]

Welcome cirsium I had an MMC also discovered at my 12 week scan in April 2013. I'm now 26 weeks. Many here have MMC as well. So you aren't alone. (I didn't think it could happen before. I had a previous MC and thought I was fine making it to 12 weeks). Just take it a day at a time.

[Cirsium]

Thanks one. Trying very hard not to overthink it but not easy. Definitely helps to know there are, sadly, so many others dealing with the same thing.

[Cakebaker35]

ellis just popping on to give you a big haddock slap round the chops totally horrible about your work row but others have said it, you will not mc because of it!

Now I may need a fish slap in return please. Woken up this morning feeling, well, fine. I mean no metal taste in my mouth, no sicky feeling, nothing. Scared about symptoms disappearing....I'm 9+1 and suddenly cacking myself it's another mmc. Even thought when I did mmc I had no symptoms to lose in the first place. Brown discharge stopped now but seems symptoms have gone with it

[OneLittleToddleTerror]

cake here's the fish slap. You know with MMC you don't lose your symptons at all. (Me neither). Your body thinks you are still carrying on with the pregnancy, hence the missed.

In a normal pregnancy, symptoms definitely come and go. I had the occasion day that I didn't feel like crap. I panicked, but really I should have been enjoying that non sicky day!

[Cakebaker35]

Slap gratefully received, thanks one x

[LadyNexus]

Hi everyone

Have had 4 mc's and one happy healthy dd. recently found out mc's were because of a bicornulate uterus with full septum (that's a mouthful)

I'm also shitting myself, in shock and dying to tell everyone. Third scan with consultant just revealed 8 week pregnancy in right horn, and a 5 week pregnancy in left horn, that wasn't visible 2 weeks ago!

Apparently I am the 12th recorded person this had happened to. I think my consultant got so excited he nearly wet himself. It's not supposed to be possible to get pregnant twice, but it happened

[Cuppachaplz]

cake symptoms can wax and wane! mine definitely been dropping off over last couple of weeks. Enjoy your sick free day x
ellis sorry you're feeling icky! but as everyone has said! this won't harm your baby. If this were so, I guess RMC would be the cause of RMC!
Welcome cirsium, mmcs are the pits! hugs and sympathy. Can you ask for a referral to EPU. With a history if mc and spotting a sympathetic gp might refer you. That said, spotting very common in many pregnancies and is not necessary something to worry about. Good luck.
DS poorly today, hoping he's feeling better tomorrow as have 12w scan at 8.30. Nightmares about another MMC, even though I know bubs was fine last week, and can't imagine taking him with me for that....

[Cuppachaplz]

ladynexus wow, and good luck xx

[LadyNexus]

Thanks Cuppa

[squizita]

Ladynexus wow! That's amazing! Keeping everything crossed.

[LadyNexus]

Thank you

It's called superfetation.

Dp just said to me 'you had to g and be different didn't you'!

[Cakebaker35]

ladynexus wowzers! Had never even heard of that, amazing and good luck!

Thanks cuppa and good luck for scan tomorrow, hope your ds is better soon x

cirsium welcome and hand holding for you here, I had mmc too and didn't know until just over 10 wks. Think everyone on here is/has had mega stress about 12 wk scan so feel free to rant away. I know I'll be cacking myself when mine comes around!

[LadyNexus]

Hope the good luck showers down for all of us

I would say my mmc was worse than my mc's for me personally, just because you spend weeks thinking everything is lovely and, well it's not.

That 12 week scan is a bitch I hate it / look forward to it so much.

[GandTnow]

LadyNexus Congratulations!

Just phoned EPU where is says you can self refer, but apparently not! They said they only take referals if you are under a consultant.