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Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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squizita · 17/05/2014 22:09

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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EnglishGirlsReturned · 11/06/2014 12:06

Congrats Cake, so happy for you.

Not such happy news here I'm afraid.
The pregnancy sac seen at the last scan had grown but not big enough and there was nothing insideSad. So now waiting to hear if I have to endure yet another scan to confirm the enviable or wether the consultant will let me go ahead with an erpc. Thank you for your support,hopefully I'll be back again soon. Good luck ladies!

Cakebaker35 · 11/06/2014 12:11

Oh english I'm absolutely gutted for you Flowers so very very very sorry and I hope you're getting all the love and support you need in rl xxxxx

Thanks london I'm totally knackered from all the worry and think I'll sleep like a log tonight. amicable no further scans for me unless any further massive bleeds. I'm so impressed with the private clinic I've been to, they could easily have got me back every week to spend more ££ but she said really no need unless I am concerned and I should now just get into the process for the regular 12 wk scan.

amicablemoomin · 11/06/2014 13:18

English so so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you. Thanks

MrsGiraffe12 · 11/06/2014 13:47

cake how amazing for you!! Such wonderful news :-) rest and relax now, as much as you can! And hopefully DD is feeling better too

english I'm so sorry to hear your news :-( hopefully it gets resolved as quickly as possible and that you have a lot of support in RL. Be kind to yourself and rest xx

longestlurkerever · 11/06/2014 14:08

Cake, that is just brilliant. I welled up when I read that, but English I am so sorry, and cuppa too, how stressful for you. Xxx

Seasides · 11/06/2014 14:37

I'm so sorry english, I really am Thanks I have no consolation but to hope that you are well cared for, and that your next pregnancy comes quickly and progresses smoothly. So sad for you.

How wonderful cake, I bet there were more than a few tears of relief in that scan room! These beans really can amaze. Hope you don't get any more scary bleeding, and you can relax a little now.

Not the dreaded piles london! How odd, I thought they were caused by being bunged up. There's no escape! Glad they're not sore or anything though, long may that continue.

joosiewoosie · 11/06/2014 15:44

Just had a quick read of latest posts.

Congratulations on your good scan and everything still crossed for you Cake! X

So very sorry English. Thinking of you. Hope you are being well looked after and hope to see you back here when you are ready xx

I had my confirmation scan today, (9 days after the last one at 7w which showed a blighted ovum.)

However, you could knock me down with a feather right now, as today's scan, after 30mins plus of prodding, poking, innie and outy scans, only went and found a little bean with a flickering heartbeat! It measures 7w 4d so not too far off dates.

The 10x12cm fibroid on the front wall of my retroverted and distorted uterus obscured the previous scan and this one a lot. They worked really hard to get a clear-ish image. But I saw it with my own eyes! The red flicker of the blood flow in the little heart! I still can't believe it, after resigning myself to the fact I had a BO, and mentally prepping myself for an ERPC tomorrow!

I know nothing is a given, but at least - today I am pregnant! Xx

EnglishGirlsReturned · 11/06/2014 15:47

Oh joosie that is amazing news! Hope things continue to go from strength to strength for you.

LondonJen · 11/06/2014 15:52

English I'm so sorry to hear that. Life can be so mean. Take care of yourself. I hope you have lots of rl support xx

LondonJen · 11/06/2014 15:55

Fantastic Joosie! That's such lovely news for you Smile You are indeed!

amicablemoomin · 11/06/2014 16:04

Congratulations Joosie!

MrsGiraffe12 · 11/06/2014 16:08

Yay joosie great news :-)

Seasides · 11/06/2014 16:23

Wow joosie, wonderful news!!

So I put our news on Facebook (I know this is a touchy subject as it was very difficult seeing scan pics and bumps on there when we were TTC, but I didn't put the scan photo up and included a couple of lines thanking everyone for being so supportive over the last two years, so I hope anyone who might be struggling sees that it didn't come easily for us. Also, none of my friends are trying atm), and now I've got the jinx fear! I'm organising DH's 40th, which is 10 days before my EDD, so obviously I've had to move the date and tell everyone why - so literally everyone knows now. I know it's irrational, but I'm nervous I've put the hex on my womb!

All the 'likes' etc are also pretty funny seeing how many people are on FB in the day when they should be working...!

aMuminwaiting · 11/06/2014 16:27

It's not been great news for me today either. One of my twins has died. Heart must have stopped beating just after our last scan because it hadn't grown at all in that time. The other one is doing well so that's wonderful but we have a weird mix of emotions, happy for the one alive but really sad to have lost our other little bean. I've been told I may miscarry the dead fetus or may reabsorb it. Was feeling very cramp on way to scan and still do now so worried it will be the bleeding, scary option. A few nights ago I had a nightmare that I'd come out of the scan room and a nurse said to me "well he must have died right after you saw his heartbeat" and I woke up really panicked. Emailed my aunt about it I was so upset. Weird how your brain tries to prepare you. Anyway, next scan is next week so they should be able to tell me if it's reabsorbing or not by then.
Sorry to everyone having a crap time right now.

Seasides · 11/06/2014 16:36

So sad amum, what a lot of emotions for you, and a lot to get your head around. Glad the other is doing well, take care of yourself. Thanks

fedupofrainydays · 11/06/2014 17:42

Just checkig in and what a mixed bag of news. So happy for cake and joosie - yay! Amazing, on both accounts!

Yet so sad for english and amum
:(

English i so hope to see you here back soon. It's so heartbreaking to go through mc once. Let alone another time. Thinking of you xx

amum that is really sad too. Don't let anyone say 'at least you still have one" as though you should feel guilty for mourning the loss of one twin. Believe me someone will say it. They were still your little bean and it's a loss like any other. Obviously it's awesome one twin is still growing strong Grin but you do need to let yourself grieve for the other little one. And don't feel that that is in any way wrong. Hope you get what I mean. And also hope that it's not the scary option for you. I have to admit I would find that terrifying.

seasides I've not told anyone on FB for fear of having to untell as well as the issue of the baby bomb! Bit I have a fair few friends ttc and having a tough time of it at the mo. It doesn't mean you have jinxed it and am sure after the last two years of awfulness people are genuinely chuffed for you. It's not as if you were an insta differ rubbing it on everyone's face!!

fedupofrainydays · 11/06/2014 17:45

Just checkig in and what a mixed bag of news. So happy for cake and joosie - yay! Amazing, on both accounts!

Yet so sad for english and amum
:(

English i so hope to see you here back soon. It's so heartbreaking to go through mc once. Let alone another time. Thinking of you xx

amum that is really sad too. Don't let anyone say 'at least you still have one" as though you should feel guilty for mourning the loss of one twin. Believe me someone will say it. They were still your little bean and it's a loss like any other. Obviously it's awesome one twin is still growing strong Grin but you do need to let yourself grieve for the other little one. And don't feel that that is in any way wrong. Hope you get what I mean. And also hope that it's not the scary option for you. I have to admit I would find that terrifying.

seasides I've not told anyone on FB for fear of having to untell as well as the issue of the baby bomb! Bit I have a fair few friends ttc and having a tough time of it at the mo. It doesn't mean you have jinxed it and am sure after the last two years of awfulness people are genuinely chuffed for you. It's not as if you were an insta differ rubbing it on everyone's face!!

fedupofrainydays · 11/06/2014 17:52

Just checkig in and what a mixed bag of news. So happy for cake and joosie - yay! Amazing, on both accounts!

Yet so sad for english and amum
:(

English i so hope to see you here back soon. It's so heartbreaking to go through mc once. Let alone another time. Thinking of you xx

amum that is really sad too. Don't let anyone say 'at least you still have one" as though you should feel guilty for mourning the loss of one twin. Believe me someone will say it. They were still your little bean and it's a loss like any other. Obviously it's awesome one twin is still growing strong Grin but you do need to let yourself grieve for the other little one. And don't feel that that is in any way wrong. Hope you get what I mean. And also hope that it's not the scary option for you. I have to admit I would find that terrifying.

seasides I've not told anyone on FB for fear of having to untell as well as the issue of the baby bomb! Bit I have a fair few friends ttc and having a tough time of it at the mo. It doesn't mean you have jinxed it and am sure after the last two years of awfulness people are genuinely chuffed for you. It's not as if you were an insta differ rubbing it on everyone's face!!

fedupofrainydays · 11/06/2014 17:53

Sorry about the multiple post Blush
Blame Internet connection on SW trains!

Cuppachaplz · 11/06/2014 17:54

So sorry that you're going through this again english, hoping to see you here again soon.

amum, sorry to hear that. I hope you resorb and a spared the added scare of a bleed. glad to hear that the other bean is doing well, long may it continue x

joosie and cake that's fantastic news. cake, Isn't truly astounding how much blood pone can lose, and still have a sticky bean? Hoping the bleeding settles soon, and the haematoma resolves x

Thanks everyone for the words of support Thanks

Ellisisland · 11/06/2014 17:58

English - I am so sorry to read your news. I was on the conception board with you and am so so sorry you are going through this again Thanks

EnglishGirlsReturned · 11/06/2014 18:02

Thank you for your kind words ladies. Hopefully I'll be back soon with a better outcome.

AMum, I'm sorry for the loss of one of your twins. It's most be so hard to know what to feel. I really hope your little fighter continues to thrive. Lots of love to you x

TeaRex · 11/06/2014 19:36

Wow, so much good so much sad news!
cakes and joosie glad all's well fx things go from strength to strength.

amum I'm so so sorry, fedup's said it better than I could, give yourself all the time you need.

english I can't imagine how you feel, wish I could give you a big hug x

OneLittleToddleTerror · 11/06/2014 20:56

mrsg what a wanker you have as a colleague. I'm needing to take hourly toilet breaks too. The worst is my commute which is about 45min to an hour. Yesterday, after my glucose intolerance test, I made the mistake of having a pint of coke with my lunch. I got on the motorway afterwards and was bursting to go to the toilet when I get into the toilet! I had to ran pass my manager who was having a cigarette break in the car park.

fedup I'm actually liking the warm weather but I don't have to get into the tube. I got 3 maternity dresses and I love going to work without tights and wearing my sandals. It's just so comfortable. I don't like the feeling of anything on my bump at the moment. Dresses just work so perfectly for this.

english and amum I'm so sad to hear about your bad scan news. english good to hear that you are trying to stay positive and hopefully we'll see you back here soon. amum I know you'll grief about the lost bean and it's normal to do that. But I think those who tell you to concentrate on the one that's still inside might just be trying to help you focus on the good things (aside from those who are dismissive of you grieving ofc). I know someone who lost one of her twins, and her boy is now 5.

joosie and cake congrats on your good scan news. cake hopefully you can relax a bit when you see more clots coming. We all know it'll be difficult. If you feel down, just post here so we can fish slap you and remind you how your tough little bean has survived all those clots so far.

As for me, I had my probation review yesterday which I was massively stressed about. (It's a 6 months probation period). But I passed it so that's a huge worry off my shoulders. At least I'll have SMP and a job to go back too. Money is a huge worry and I know many of you share it. Now I can go and start buying things needed for the new baby.

Cakebaker35 · 11/06/2014 21:05

amum I am so very very sorry Flowers I hope you're getting lots of love and support in rl xxx

joosie amazing! I'm so so pleased to hear your news, our bodies are amazing and surprising sometimes!

Thanks all for your lovely messages, I'm definitely feeling a little more relaxed now and trying very hard to take things day by day. Xxx