Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

English so very sorry this has happened, take care and be kind to yourself, thinking of you. Hope to see you back soon.

amum I can't begin to understand the conflict of emotions you must going through right now . Thinking of you and hoping that you stay strong and get through this sad time.

Congratulations to joosie and cake!

Oh my goodness it's a real emotional one on this thread today. So so sorry for the losses.
amum it must be so difficult, take care of yourself and I too hope you don't have to go through the scary physical stuff.
English terribly sorry for your bad news. Nature can be so incredibly cruel and breaks many hearts in its wake.
Thoughts with you all xx

englishgirlsreturned I am very sorry.

amuminwaiting how very sad. You must feel so up and down about it all.

cakebaker35 congratulations! Good luck.

joosiewoosie I am glad your scan went well!

Like others have said this thread today had such a mixture of sad and happy news.

English really sorry to hear. :(

Amum how sad and worrying for you. Hang on in there.

Joosie and Cake glad you had good scans. I can't bear it when they have to scan around for ages, its torture! Big relief when they find the embryo! :)

Feeling "meh" today. Bit hot, quite tired. NCT tonight, might get burgers on the way rather than cook. Classy.

Can I join? Have been lurking for a while. Was on the TTC after MC board but don't want to post there now have my BFP.
Stats am 30 have one DS aged 2.5 and had a mc in Feb at 10 weeks. Am now 8 weeks pregnant had a scan at 7 weeks and saw a heartbeat. I mc at 10 weeks last time so am very nervous coming up to that time as worried it will happen again. My DH has also just started a new contract working away during the week so don't have anyone around to talk sense into me during the week!

Such a mixture of sad and happy on this thread. Am so sorry for anyone receiving bad news and good luck for everyone else.

Hey everyone. I did my third First Response test this morning and its twice as dark as yesterdays! In fact, its darker than I've ever had before and its only 11dpo! I'm really hoping and praying that this is it...I dreamed I had a baby boy last night.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT!

ellis welcome, so good to see you here, I remember you from the ttc board. I'm also 8 wks and mmc'd at 10 wks so share your nervousness. I've also had fun and games with massive bleeds so I'm a proper basket case now! Hand holding and fish slaps here whenever you need them.

seasalt congratulations! now stop poas-ing! You are pregnant! X

Ha not likely to stop any time soon its the only thing that keeps me sane!

I knew I was miscarrying before I did because of excessive testing last time so its sort of ingrained in me!

I've left a message for my GP to call me so she can refer me for an early scan and tell the consultant at the recurrent mc clinic. Its feeling more real now.

Ha ha salt . I'm the opposite now after my mmc as I was still testing positive for weeks after so that really messed with my head.

I am planning to stop once my stash of tests is all gone. I just cant yet. Seeing the lines get darker is amazing.

hi everyone, some good news from me, just got back from my 12 week scan and it was all OK! Was so grateful it was first thing in the morning as I was pretty anxious. Had a lovely sonographer who scanned me earlier in the pregnancy as well and she remembered me which was nice. We are now off for a family weekend where we will let close family know....that in itself is scary but going to do it before the scan reassurance wears off. Very happy right now although disbelieving it is real.

Welcome ellis.

Wonderful news amicable, so pleased for you. Enjoy your relaxing weekend away xx

thanks cake x

Thanks everyone

Congrats amicable that's great news!

Cake I remember you too so we are both going to be complete basket cases in about 2 weeks! I cried when the sonographer found the heartbeat at 7 weeks so god knows what I will be like if I get to 12 weeks scan!

Amum I am so sorry to hear your news. That must be a real mix of emotions to process. Fantastic news about the bean that continues to thrive. Fedup puts it well, whatever you feel, or want to say here, is what is the right way for you to work through your feelings about it all, so just let your instinct be your guide

One Hurray for passing your probation! Am glad you will have a job to go back to that is not something to be taken for granted these days is it.

Welcome Ellis congrats on your bfp! My mc was at 10 weeks and this pregnancy coming up to that was really hard so I know just how you feel. Am 23 weeks now. It must be hard that your dp is away now but do come here for hand holding/ letting out anxieties about constant knicker checking!

Good to hear of your first steps with gp etc Seasalt

Brilliant news AmicableMoomin!! I am so pleased for you to have reached that milestone. Enjoy telling your family and have a lovely weekend x

Whoop whoop moomin! Have a fab weekend, bet you're going to make lots of people's days.

Hi Ellis, congrats on the bfp! I did 10 tests over the week and have kept two of them, so no judgment from this quarter...

Hi ellisisland and seasaltmill!

amicablemoomin great news! I am glad it went well

I'm worried about the nuchal next week. I'd been told coming up with a number for twins is tricky but now the bloods will be affected by the dead small twin so really don't know how that will work out. I'm so scared that they'll say there's something wrong with the living twin. I need a slap. I know I should focus on today and not worry about tomorrow (or next week) but it's so hard.
DH was affected by yesterdays news more than I was. Don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly sad to have lost yet another longed for baby but I'm trying to hold on to the fact that we still have one baby alive in there. He took today off work to jut be here because he couldn't face people at work asking questions. You'd never think it if you spent a little tie with him but he's a very sensitive soul and I feel privileged to know that part of him that no one else gets to see.
Still feeling VERY sick. Trying hard to get more food and liquids down. The monographer commented on how big my tummy is so was sure that meant they were both getting big in there. It's certainly not food that's making it big! But anyway, keep plodding on. We were up at 5am to get to our 10am appointment and thanks to traffic we made it by one minute and it was so hot in there I was sure I'd faint at reception. An hour wait for the scan (which makes me wonder about their 10mins late and you're appointment is cancelled policy) and then saw Nancy the nurse again who yet again read the wrong twins stats out first and nearly gave us a heart attack. Look at the bloody noted before you see people! And still no consultation with professor Regan. I don't even know if she's doing my suture on 30th. So far I have to say I'm very underwhelmed. Going there every two weeks of scans is long, expensive and stressful. We could have just had scans at the hospital 10 minutes up the road. The only thing we'll be getting at St Marys that we can't get here is the higher placed suture.

aMuminwaiting - I don't know much about the tests but if you are not happy with your care so far there should be a PALs office in the hospital. It always worth having a word with someone in there if you are not having much luck getting to speak with your doctor.

Received the 12 wk scan letter in the post today. Second week of July so have a date to count down to now. Not sure if that is a good or bad thing!

amum, it is totally natural that you are in a state of shock and flux right now. And I utterly empathise with not being able to think properly about the future yet focussing wholly on it. Try and let your DH in if you can - it sounds like he is dealing with it in a different way, which is common. I remember feeling fed up with DH after our MC that he wasn't as much of a state as me (although that would have been a disaster in reality, I felt alone in my pit of misery).
The most important factor in the test is the NT; the bloods have a lower weighting, so try and reassure yourself that the docs will figure it out - you will not be the first (nor, sadly, the last) who has lost a twin shortly before the test. The O&G team will probably look at your data more closely because of the unusual factors, but this is a good thing.
It might be worth emailing Prof Regan's PA to find out if she is doing the stitches, if this might help put your mind at rest. You are going through so much, please try and go easy on yourself.

amuminwaiting you have so much to go through. I don't know what to say so I am going to send you a big hug.

amicable welcome to the second trimester. That is a huge milestone you have passed.

amum st Mary sounds like a utterly useless hospital. And to think you travel so long to get there! And to have to spend so long in traffic every two weeks too. Don't worry about the down screening. You won't be the first one in your situation. I'm so glad to hear you are focussing on the positive. Remember you are pregnant today.

I really feel like I'm on the home run now. I'm only 26 weeks so still two weeks to third trimester. But I can't help counting down to maternity leave. I'm planning to start from 34 weeks ie early August. Was in meeting on team planning yesterday and the thought of only having to care about the July plan makes me happy. london my friend asked if I was angry about not qualifying for enhanced maternity pay! I'm just glad they didn't get rid of me given I fell pregnant first month into the job.

Has anyone else noticed that things wait for Fridays to land on you.
Didn't sleep at all last night, now can't wake up. I have a stinking headache which is threatening to turn into a migraine. Keep having to sit down putting the washing out as I feel dizzy every time I lift my arms above my head. Now just noticed some spotting, and wondering whether to contact EPU now, or see if it progresses?

Welcome ellis, and yay for onelittle and amicable :))
amum thinking of you I'm sure they have ways around your situation with the nuchal. My DS was one of a twin (other MC around 10w) and no one ever mentioned this a an issue or being unreliable because of it.

AMum All the consultants at St Mary's meet daily to discuss cases. St Mary's is run by Lesley Regan but seeing any sonographer/consultant there will be worth it: their equipment is more accurate, their clinicians better trained and simply put they 'see more' - even if it isn't the big cheese (who is like the Wizard of Oz in that regard!!) but the most junior there are equivalent to the most experienced elsewhere. Please please persevere... their admin staff (apart from Yash who is wonderful) can be slow but medically they are 1st chance. Their admin has been a right PITA to me and I contacted PALS and SoM about it, within 12 hours I got phonecalls back :)

One St Mary's far exceeds all the other hospitals I have attended in terms of medical care: they are a national centre for a reason. Without them, I would not be pregnant and would be at risk of a stroke in my 40s-50s. My lovely touchy-feely local hospitals simply didn't have the expertise.

Hello, please can I join? I'm 4 weeks pregnant after having a mmc in November.

Totally freaking out! I was told by the MW that I wont be given a reassurance scan, even though I was told I would when I lost the baby.

Thanks squizita for telling me about you guys.