Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

Good luck tomorrow English, will keep everything crossed for you.

That is good service! Are you in the UK? My Dr doesn't even want to see me till I am 6 weeks.

Yes I am! My friend didn't get offered that, she got a scan at 7 weeks then was told to turn up at her booking apt and scan at 12 weeks. I can only presume that it's because a)I'm now classed as having recurrant mc's and b)have conceived straight after a ERPC for a mc at 12 weeks.

Definitely go for the 6 week scan then. It won't make you any more anxious than you will be just waiting and hopefully you will get some reassurance. X

Hi drama just to add my two pennies worth, we had a scan at 6 weeks to confirm viability at our EPU and we saw a blob on the screen and a heartbeat. It was wonderfully reassuring (for 24 hours) and made everything feel a bit more real. I knew that there was every possibility of not seeing a HB and everything still being ok. For us it was worth it, and especially if they aren't sure about dates etc with your mc it might reassure from your health perspective as well. Good luck!

cake good luck tomorrow. My 12 week is on Thursday and I'm feeling increasingly anxious and worried. It's at 9am at least so early.

Good luck tomorrow english, I had a scan at 6+3 and heard/saw a heartbeat but it's not always the case so try not to worry if you don't see one. I had an internal scan so they can see more then.

amicable good luck for thurs, 12 wks a massive milestone so it will be fantastic to get past that.

Well to take my mind off tomorrow my dd has just projectile vomited all re her bed. Just proves that life must go on however crap I feel with a toddler in the house!

Good luck tomorrow english! What a horrible dream...I think you can cross that one off your worry list.

I had a heartbeat at around 5 weeks 4 days ohthedrama - I had a scan at what I thought was 5 weeks (my ectopic ruptured then last time, despite that being apparently impossible), and they could only see what might have been a sac. I went in a week later and there was a heartbeat, but they told me I was measuring just shy of 6 weeks. So it is possible, but absolutely nothing to worry about if you don't see a HB. My sister didn't even see one at an 8 week TV scan and her scanner said nothing to worry about - she's now 3 days overdue.

Boo to workplace wankers MrsG, can't believe he's had the rudeness to mention loo breaks.

So - mini mum-rant, if I may. My mum, who I have a great relationship with, keeps insisting I'm having a boy, which I'm not sure why I find annoying but I do. I honestly have no preference either way, not a scrap, but yesterday she said "It's definitely a boy, and I think you should call him Henry". To which I said we were calling him Max if he's a boy - and her immediate reaction was "Urgh!" WTAF? Of course I told her that was incredibly rude, and though she couldn't see why at first she did apologise, and again today, and then I just got an email just saying: "Max Henry?" She's planning on moving to my town, which I would love love love, but we will need to have a conversation about her being interfering if this continues. Sorry for the mega post!

I should be 7-8 weeks so they should be able to see everything all being well. So nerve wracking! Think I'm just goin to close my eyes!

Didn't refresh before posting - poor thing (you and DD!) cake.

Good plan english, sleep the time away!

That is great that you have been offered so many scans ohthedrama, that will really help. I'd have had one every other day if I could!

On a related note, has anyone any experience of home dopplers?

cake I hope dd is ok, and good luck for tomorrow. Hope all the clots are out and now just a great home in there for your bean to survive.

seasides - well my ds has both those names so I think they are ace! They were our top two boys names so he has both. The order was decided at birth as we decided he looked more like one than the other when he was born. But mums really should shut up When it comes to names!! We don't tell anyone our choices as no doubt someone has an opinion on it!

drama!I saw a HB at 5 plus 5. But was fully expecting not to and sonographer said was unlikely - they were just checking for location (second mc was suspected ectopic)

Feeling enormous in this heat. Phewf. Actually want to get the tube in my underwear. It's too hot for pregnant ladies!!

Good luck for thurs moomin try and keep scan doom at bay, but I know how hard that is. It will be such a big relief when it's passed and all is ok!

Cake - meant to say thrive and not just survive. A happy, healthy, bouncy bean is what we want!

I can't keep up!!!

I'm also interested in your home Doppler views.....

Ha ha, that's a coincidence fedup! I like Henry, but we've always known we were going for Max, and we're probably going to use my maiden name as the middle name (it's a boy's name). I'm just a little worried if she's trying to name him she's going to have strong opinions on a lot of other child-rearing subjects too...a conversation may have to be had!

Is Henry a name that means something important to her? It seems a bit random to be so keen on one name so early with no prompting! Probably worth a chat!!

mrsg what a A-grade arse! Also really odd, what's it to him when you go? I had the opposite with DS, people suggesting that I should finish earlier because they were worried that I couldn't do my job properly (lots of physical work), so they would have to cover me. After everything you've been through, pricks like him are the last thing you need. Guy needs to wind his neck in and do one. Enjoy your mat leave when it arrives x

Thanks London and sqiz :) wasn't worried about hazards per se, more having had to tell someone. I reckon if I had my way I would keep quiet until the nth hour for fear of appearing complacent! thus meriting another failure... Totally illogical I know, I just seem to forget when I wake up at night.

Nothing to do with this thread, but feeling pretty freaked out. DH was diagnosed with diabetes yesterday, also some other problems, and given that he is young fit and thin they are worried that there is something more serious (as if that wasn't serious enough) going on.

Sorry for mega post. Welcome newbies (sorry, forgotten names already and can't back up far on phone). Thinking of you today cake, hugs x

Wanted to say thanks to squiz for reassurance on the poo ishoo. I knew I'd seen something on here somewhere to that effect but couldn't remember who/when, so I do find that reassuring. No more problems since then, will perhaps need to make sure there is more fibre in my food and that I drink enough fluid.
Hope all well with you all, good luck for those going for scans - to add my own positive story, was scanned at 5ish weeks due to a previous gynae issue and saw just a sac, EPU called me in because of this a week later and scanned again, somewhere between 6+0-6+4 depending on dates used, fetal heart was there and beating (they even gave me a pic which was touching).
No idea on the home dopplers - I toyed with the idea, but decided it had the potential to cause as much upset as it solves for me.
Re: names, we always had silly ones which we told people, but not knowing the sex helps with not giving the baby a name in advance.

My husband got me a Doppler when I was pregnant with my daughter I could never find the heartbeat (midwife always found it) however friends used them and some found the heartbeat sometimes, others everytime so do try one (you can get them quite cheaply second hand/borrow one from a friend) but just don't freak out if you can't find a heartbeat! It means nothing :)
Love the name Max :) and yes keep a close eye on your mum, it's my pil that I had to be quite strict with (esp my fil, my mil calmed down after the first couple of months) they were just excited but other peoples enthusiasm can spoil it for you as their wants can overwhelm you and your baby's needs so stand firm if you need to. If they love you they'll respect your wishes xxxx

How worrying chuppa, your poor DH. And so unfair that he obviously looks after himself and is landed with this. I hope it's 'just' that, not that that isn't serious enough, and not a sign of more bad news to come.

Henry appears to have come from nowhere! She's had 8 children of her own to name, so you'd think she'd have expended most of her naming enthusiasm, but hey ho.

Yes, I worry that the doppler might just freak me out if I can't find a HB...maybe safer not to, as I would be using it for reassurance which might backfire!

Corpore - I've been going properly geriatric and putting tinned prunes on my breakfast porridge! I actually really like them, and they do seem to be keeping things regular. I have IBS so can have issues there.

cuppa so sorry, it took me so long to write my post I missed yours. Hope you're okay and your husbands holding up x

Seasides Just shout "my fanjo, my name choice!" I am full of helpful advice this morning

I hope it isn't anything else Cuppa

Good luck for scans

I have a new pg symptom [warning, it doesn't go well with elevenses so if you're eating stop reading] yes, it's piles! I don't know why as I've been lucky not to have an constipation so far. It doesn't hurt or itch or anything that I've read about though obv I don't want it to get worse. I only noticed as I thought I felt something on wiping (tmi sorry!) If it isn't bothering me I don't really know if I need to treat it or not?

In nicer news dp is super pleased with the pram. I was good and waited for him to open it and actually let him do it all as he was in his element. It was lovely to see. Weird to have it in the living room now though. But want to give it a test spin before storing it elsewhere.

how exciting London re pram, not piles. Is it making it all seem real? It is lovely that your DP is so enthusiastic and getting involved with both hands!

Well folks, I'm absolutely amazed to report I'm still pregnant!! Scan this morning showed I have passed the massive clot but still have a further two, so not out of the woods yet. But they are smaller clots and so we are in a much better position than last week. And it seems the bean has had a growth spurt in amongst all this so is now measuring 8+1. I just cannot believe you can still be pregnant after so much blood and clots and horribleness, utterly in shock. It's going to be a bumpy ride but as the weeks go by the clots will pose less of a threat, so we just have to try and take it day by day. I can't thank you all enough for your support, you are an amazing posifricken bunch! X

cuppa so sorry to hear about your dh, how scary for you, sending you lots of love

seasides yes definitely a word with your mum is needed! Absolutely no one else but you and dp should have a say about names. As london said, your fanjo your choice! Back off lady!

As for home dopplers, I've never had one but a friend did and it seemed to stress her out so much as she couldn't always find the heart beat. I think that's one gadget I will steer clear of before I become even more bonkers than I already

Good luck to all those waiting for scans xxx

CONGRATULATIONS cake ! What fantastic news! are you getting another scan in a couple of weeks? what's the plan?

Cake! That's brilliant. Your bean is super tough!! Goodness what a relief for you. I hope you are able to enjoy at least 24 hours of relief, relaxation and happiness x

Lol Amicable, yes it does make it seem more real! Although did also remind me of playing dollies when I was little!! I am actually now finding it very hard to think about/look at online/talk about anything not baby related. I have to really motivate myself for work. I suppose it's natural but I wasn't expecting to feel this way.