Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

London re books, you'll love this one! I saw a 'new father' book 2nd hand for about 50p so bought it for DH. Mostly about ways of supporting your wife, how to help round the house etc'. Nothing underlined in the whole book except on one page, very firmly, a couple of sentences about 'if she can't dtd due to stitches, don't shag a random behind her back, it will risk STDs and your whole marriage' as if this was a MAJOR new learned item!

Ah, thanks ladies, so true. Lots of love to give! And cardboard boxes to play with!

I don't make much more than money for rent and bills. I had a bad first quarter this year and I daren't tell dp. I guess that's made me bottle it up. But it was me who wanted this and the theory is I will save us a fortune in child care costs. It just seems so big now it's going to actually happen. I need to heed your 1 day at a time stance Amum!

I guess as well there's only so much dp can do now (like pram purchase!) so of course he's thinking about when baby comes..
If he was that bothered he'd have waited for me to save up wouldn't he?

It's pretty obvious I am a bit anxious about our new roles!

Lol seasides hooks don't sound fun! I cam off the contraceptive injection years ago and we just used condoms. People seem to find that oddly basic in this day and age!

Brilliant Squiz!! Oh that made me actually LOL!

'wanted this' meaning the work set up so could be a SAHM not the baby, dp wants that too, honest

Haven't been on for a while. Welcome to new posters. You can rest assured no worry is too big or small to post about here, everyone will do their best to help.

I'm doing my last big order of baby things today - sling and monitor. We're also finally able to get work done on our bedroom to make it properly usable, we've one powerpoint in the entire room at the moment, not handy!

Does anyone suffer with back/sciatic pain? I have suddenly developed what might be sciatica on the left side, but I'm not really sure. It hurts in general but more when I'm walking. I've been taking paracetamol but only when I really need it. Not sure if I should ring Dr or Midwife?

Hello.OK to join in? Very tiny bit pregnant and unsure how to react / get through the weeks to come. But trying to be excited.
Hi all.

Thanks for the welcome, yes my HCG had gone back to normal. I had 3 neg HPT's and a blood test showed my HCG levels were below 5. I rang the EPU this morning and they will see me in two weeks, all being well.

Squiz maybe the wife underlined it and left that page open for her DH as warning !

Welcome Drama and Sighing! Congratulations! My advice would be to take things 1 day at a time and be prepared for anxiety and fear!
But we're all in the same boat so know exactly how you feel!

hi drama and sighing . Good to have you onboard.

London know the feeling re: money! I'm all for the cardboard boxes!!

Thanks. I am worried I may be over optimistic though. Dr was a bit sceptical(it is only 5 weeks since mc started). so I have to talk to EPAU tomorrow. I hope I'll be back on this thread

Hi everyone I am 4 weeks and 5 days pregnant 2 years ago I had 2 miscarriages very close together and have been trying ever since. I'm excited but really nervous

nerdy sorry to hear you're in some pain. I had sciatica when pregnant with my dd and it is a very different sort of pain to anything else, like an electric shock and absolutely excruciating. I had physio and it helped a lot but the only thing that fixed it was having dd! I hope it's not this for your sake but do see your gp if you're worried.

So things here slightly calmed down, still bleeding and feeling very bloated and crampy but not on the scale of last week and over the weekend. I'm not at all hopeful for the scan on weds but will just be glad to know either way now as this waiting is so hard. I wondered about posting to see if anyone else had had a huge subchrorionic haematoma like me and things worked out ok but then realised even if they so work out for some that won't help me as everyone is different. Trying to distract myself as best I can until the wait is over on weds. Sorry for being a grump.

Welcome to the newbies x

Hi to all the newbies and welcome to the board :-) no question is too big or small, share here and you will feel better :-)

cake I'm so pleased to hear bleeding had lessened. Just keep your fingers crossed for scan, I am crossing mine for you

As for me, yet another complaint to add to my ever growing list, I now have tonsilitis. You couldn't make this up :-( thoroughly fed up and want baby to be here now, only 12 weeks and 6 days till due date, not that I'm counting lol xx

oh mrsg you poor poor thing....

Hi luckyaugust ,postitnotes ,xkatxdollx , longestlurkerever, ohthedrama and signing

londonjen people are very generous when there is a new baby. I had one friend who was upfront and asked everyone to lend her anything we didn't need. I was slightly offended because I was midway through my family! But I did buy her more gifts because I knew things were tight. Be open with people you know because some people keep stuff to give away. Also people like to buy gifts. We were given a lot of gifts. We printed a lot of thank you cards and used them all.

Hi jodien1!

I am sorry cakebaker35. Sounds really tough.

What a pain mrsgiraffe12! I feel like when I am pregnant it is the extra "illness" that I get sick of. It is not fun having something on top of being pregnant.

I'm still catching up with the thread but felt have to reply to london

Don't feel you are owing your child's dad money and that you have to pay equal shares. You will be a team. Most likely mums sacrifice their careers for children. A lot of us went PT or even SAH. Then you can't help but depend on him. Even if you go back PT, inevitably your priority changes. I work FT but I won't accept a job with lots of travel, too long a commute, or regular work away. I want to home every day for my DD. I want flexible enough working that I can put my children first. This is not compatible with lots if high powered jobs. Even if your DP will be the main carer, you would have still taken a year off work. And I'm sure you are ramped down the moment you inform your boss of pregnancy too.

Money will be tight but like everyone says live is more important. And it sounds like your DP is on board, even getting the new pram himself!

seasides hope everything's okay

London I was in a similar position when we were pregnant with DD1. We weren't married then (are now) and had very separate finances and just split the household expenses. I was very proud and tried to survive on just my Mat allowance. We moved cities because of DH's job and obviously I had to leave my job and rely on DH. I was too proud to ask and he never really thought about what I was living on as he was paying rent, bills and groceries I don't think he considered I needed anything else. I got so stressed and made myself ill with worry, DH set up a joint account after that as he was mortified. I too was doing 100% of the child care. What I'm saying is you need to be very upfront and open about money and deal with it as a team otherwise it causes unnecessary stress.

Drama I'm the same as you with the testing too early and faint positives. Some of my cycles have recently been 35 days in which case this Weds should be AF, but had a faint pos last Weds (28 days). Can't even call it a BFP or say 'today i am pregnant' because it's just too early. Hand holding and fingers crossed for you.

Hope you scan was ok seaside

I did a hypnobirthing course with my healthy preg and it was great, but I ended up having a CS as DD was breech. I'll have another CS (if I can get there) and I'm happy to pass the book on if anyone wants it. It's the Katherine Greaves one.

nerdy I had acupuncture (part of a research group on back pain in pregnancy) and it completely got rid of my back pain. I had been v sceptical but it did work.

And YY to not going overboard with the baby things, but it will depend on what your family and friends equip you with. But love, attention and cuddles are going to have longer lasting beneficial effect on your babies than any trip to Disneyworld (I am very stingy) :)

Hi everyone - thanks for thinking of me, all went well ! Little wriggler, was quite hard to get the nucal measurements, but that meant I got to see him/her for ages on the screen. Went out for lunch after, been telling/updating lots of people, and now having 1/4 glass of champagne to celebrate. So so relieved, and so glad to have passed that milestone. I will crank down the worrying now, I'm determined!

Welcome newbies, I'm sorry for your losses and know how terrifying worrisome these first weeks are. I hope time passes as quickly and smoothly as possible for you.

Chiropractor is supposed to be very successful for sciatica nerdy, might be worth a try?

london, won't you be reliant on your DP when you've given birth? I agree with oltt, it might be time for a joint approach to finances, though I don't know your circumstances of course so wouldn't don't want to pry.

post It's really strange because usually my cycles are between 32 & 35 days and I usually ovulate between days 18 & 21. This month after the ERPC I ovulated on day 15 and got a faint positive today on day 28. If I'm honest I'm totally petrified and want to cry, I feel no joy.

seaside that's brilliant news!

mrsg oh dear. That doesn't sound fun at all.

nerdy I have pain in the lower back pain down to the bum. But I don't think is sciatica. I think it's definitely worth talking to your midwife if it's making you feel miserable.

amum not sure about twins but I agree everything would be earlier. There is just a lot less space in there isn't it?

Welcome all the newbies.