Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

Thank you longest, yes thankfully I'm home as was told to rest up a bit after scan yesterday and my dh has taken the day off to look after our dd? Just feeling pretty shocked by seeing all this stuff, it just feels never ending at the moment.

Just think, a period lasts all week and apparently is only really 2 tablespoons of blood. It could well look much worse than it is. But I know the not knowing is awful. When I had my mmc they gave me a glimmer of hope and actually I felt better once I knew it was definitely over. But I am still hoping that is not your situation! A week till your scan seems an awfully long time away eh? Just concentrate on looking after yourself right now. Sweet tea, chocolate, whatever gets you through. Is it sunny where you are? Could you go and sit in the sun somewhere nice?

Sadly I think it is as bad as it looks now I've been through two changes of clothes today sat in the sunshine for a little while but soon rushing back to the toilet again. And it's my birthday this weekend, one to forget I think.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine and enjoying some x

oh cake I am sorry you are going through this. please look after yourself. Maybe postpone your birthday until next weekend.

welcome lurker. you are in good company hear among other panickers! The best advice I got was to keep setting myself small targets, eg get through to the meeting at work on Monday , rather than focussing on the pregnancy timelines themselves, which can feel unbearably long. I am 40 weeks on Monday and still feeling nervous, just in a different way!

Oh cake. I am sorry. It is so cruel. Can't think of anything positive to say except that I hope your year gets better and your next birthday is an amazing one.

Thank you chimp. Congratulations and good luck! I am feeling better this afternoon after finally getting a darker line on yet another test. Will try and relax for a bit now. Do you know if I might be allowed an earlier scan? Didn't discover my last mc till 12 weeks but it had stopped growing at 6.

Cake.... I know it must seem like all is lost, but they did say you'd bleed more. Hopefully it is just that. I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Are you able to go back in at all? Sending you massive hugs x

That sounds brutal cake, I hope your fears do get proven wrong. What an awful birthday weekend for you, I'm glad you've got support from your DH, and that he's ok too.

Welcome lurker - it's worth asking for an early scan, they can only say no. Lots of us have paid for reassurance scans too - I had one at 9 weeks and it was really helpful. Of course, the freaking out started just a couple of days later again! Now bricking it for 12 week scan on Monday.

Been away with work for couple of days and it's taken me most if the evening to catch up on the thread.
So sorry curtains, thinking if you.
tea and cake sorry you're both having such a rough time. Hugs and FX.
Have been thoroughly berated by DH today as despite having obviously grown in the boob department, I have refused to go and get new bras for fear of 'jinxing it'. He dragged me out of work early this afternoon and took me shopping, and told me off lots when it became apparent that my bras are now 4-5 cup sizes too small! eek!

Yay! Had my ultrasound today 11 weeks and baby is happy and healthy and flippin and kickin around! Finally after 4 back to back miscarriages last year i feel like i can safely shout from the rooftops! I am proof that you can have multiple mc and still be blessed to get pregnant and stay pregnant! Dont give up ladies!

I've been a complete idiot. I took my antibiotic today and realised the number left was wrong. I must have taken four yesterday rather than three! Please tell me this is so low dose it won't harm the babies. I'm so angry at myself. I wish they printed days on the bloody tablets!

Glad you're feeling posifrickintive after your scan katdoll!
Amum- phone nhs direct if you're worried. I'm sure it'll be absolutely fine, but the reassurance will put your mind at ease.

It's ok, my midwife Aunt got straight back to me and said it's completely fine. Phew, what an idiot I am though. I've got the daily clexane injection, two aspirin, pregnancy vitamin, extra folic acid because it's twins AND the antibiotics all with a fuzzy baby brain!
Hope this weekend is nice and boring.

Amum phew. All OK. :)

Welcome Kat, nice to see you've had the reassurance of a scan!

Cuppa I pretty much ran out of clothes thanks to the jinx thing. Currently finding pads (which I wore till week 26 out of superstition) mega itchy so have switched to pantliners. Had to check with DH about jinxing lol!

Lurker ask for a viability scan... If not companies like basbybond do them.

*babybond

If they won't give you an NHS scan lurker try asking the midwife or GP for a recommendation for a private ultrasound clinic. We went with baby bond with my first pregnancy and while it was fine, the clinic was 45 minutes away and charged us £100. This time the midwife recommended someone only 10 minutes away who gave us a much more personal and friendly service and only charged us £60. He even gave us a disc with a video clip of our little bean, we only got a photo from babybond

Hi all. I have been offline a bit because of the craziness at work. I also have my probation meeting next Tuesday so I'm mega nervous. I'm really scared they will tell me I haven't passed. I know I have done a good job but then you can't tell if they are scumbags looking for excuses can you.

cake hang in there and maybe postpone the birthday till next week if you don't feel up for it. You know you will get a lot of bleeding and clots. I have been told at my last mc (after a mmc 12 week scan so quite late). That I will know I have pass a placenta. I was passing very very large clots but no placenta. (The nurses were checking my clots). So there is every chance your bean and placenta is still hanging in there. I was in a very different situation because mine was a blighted ovum and they performed a ERPC in theatre to clean it out. Your little bean could well be still very much attached.

tea hope you are ok too.

lurker welcome on board.

cuppa I am shocked you managed to squeeze into bras 4 sizes too small.

The storm is supposed to pass by this afternoon. I'm looking forward for a bit of sunshine on Sunday! Currently sitting in a very very noisy softplay centre. Hope all of you having your first have a chance soon to enjoy endure this.

Can I join you ladies please? Found out I was pregnant a couple of days ago after a loss at 15 weeks in February of this year. Our dd had a chromosome disorder with a very poor prognosis so we chose to have a tfmr. I actually ended up starting to miscarry before this process started though. Happy, terrified, emotional, so many thoughts going round my head and praying this time turns out differently.

Thank you all for words of encouragement, just hiding away from the world today after a rough few days of what feels like endless bleeding and cramping. Thankfully dh a star and is looking after dd so I can hide away a bit.

onelittle I've been too scared to really look at what I'm passing in terms of clots after the first few huge ones (about the size of my palm) but I really don't think I'd know whether it was placenta or not, there is quite a variety of stuff coming out unfortunately it's the sheer volume of it that makes me feel sure this is mc. Weds will confirm it one way or the other so it's a case of hanging in there as best we can.

lurker I've had several private scans and can't recommend them enough - cost was £100 for the first one and £50 thereafter. Money well spent for us as the one I had at hospital involved a 5 hour wait and as lovely as the staff were it's not the same sort of personal, relaxed environment. If you can afford it then go for it.

Afternoon all. I am bored to tears by the longest game of monopoly ever giving my DS my undivided attention, but squeezing in a few minutes on MN whilst he makes us some drinks.

cake please don't give up hope yet. When I had my bleed the gush soaked jeans past my knees. I assumed the end was nigh, but mini bean clung on through 2 weeks bleeding. Last scan looked all good. Panicking already about the next one though after some Previous MMCs. Thinking of you, best wishes for Wednesday.

Welcome lucky, wishing you an uneventful pregnancy

I hope it went well Gail

Welcome Longest yes do try and feel posifrickintive when you can! Tests are to make a line or not make a line. How dark is not part of it so please don't worry about that. Some may just have less dye etc. Congrats on your bfp, I hope this bean is super sticky for you.

Cake I am so sorry you're having to go through that, it must be so hard, even if they did say to expect it. I hope you can find some hope to hang onto. I really have got everything crossed for you.

Cuppa yey for your dp giving you a new bra equivalent of a fish slap!! Understandable that you felt that way but your womb will carry on regardless!

Good to hear Kat! Congrats!

Welcome Lucky congrats to you too! Feeling everything at once and not daring to get excited is how all of us here felt I think. I hope you have a boring and uneventful pregnancy.

News here, dp has bought a new pram and a car seat and the seatbase fixer thing!! Honestly, one minute we were lined up to view a 2nd hand pram from ebay later today the next he has not only found it new but paid for it and moved onto car seats, then he announces that is done too! My head is still spinning, I can't quite believe it.. but he is so pleased with himself. I hope they take a few weeks to be delivered tbh. Must remember what I just told others about jinxing!!

Exciting london!

We've looked at several prams. Got to get DH to try them in store for arm length etc' - our car is too old for an isofix base. Anyone know an alternative or will we just have to use the fiddly seatbelt system?

squizita we have to use the seatbelt thing as our car is too old too. It really isn't that bad once you get used to it. No harder than folding up a travel system . Make sure you get the staff in the shop to show you how to do it and also understand what they are showing you. And get your DH to practise it before due date. You don't want a panic with a day old newborn in the carpark. (Talking experience here but our nice midwife who see us off in the carpark showed DH how to do it. But the hospitals car park was just outside the maternity hospital. The one I'm going to this time has a multi-storey car park across the road. I assume they won't see new mums and dads off to the car).

Thank you for the posifrickentivity, I am trying to pull myself together and realise that whatever is going on in there is totally out of my control so I just have to find a way to get on with things whatever the outcome on weds. I will keep you posted.

Hi all

I'm in the panicky hinterland of some positive tests but also some pinky/brown v light discharge and I'm really trying not to be loopy about it all. I've had a mmc, then a mc (that dragged on and on), followed by a healthy baby girl :) and we're trying again but my cycles are bonkers so I've no idea at what point I'm really at...

I had a faint positive on Weds, but then bits of v v light bleeding Thurs and Fri. Tested again this morning and it was a stronger positive so I dared to think that all might be ok. But about an hour ago I noticed v faint pink/brown again.

Feel like I'm holding my breath all over.

I'm not even sure this is the right thread for me and I'm mainly a lurker, but I found mn so good when I was having my miscarriages and helped just reading other people going through the same crap.

And I need to stop googling stats and symptoms - none of it makes me less panicky!

Welcome lurker, lucky and postit and congratulations.

postit I had some spotting which started the day after my BFP and lasted for a couple of days. I'm 9 weeks now. Try to stay positive (I know that's easier said than done, I was freaking out when it happened to me), if it's v light it's probably just implantation bleeding. Look at it as your little bean making sure it gets a good firm hold! Fingers crossed for you.

Could do with a fish slap myself. Symptoms have pretty much disappeared and they've taken the posifrickentivity my reassurance scan brought along with them. They've been fairly mild this time compared to previous pregnancies anyway, but now there's nothing really apart from feeling rough first thing in the morning. Suppose I'm still needing to pee a lot, but I'm drinking loads to stave off the dehydration headaches I was getting last week so that's not necessarily a symptom. I feel too good and I can't help thinking that's a bad sign!