Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

Reassuring to know I'm not the only one worrying! Today was same story as yesterday - didn't feel baby move at all in the morning/lunch but after about 5pm there was suddenly a lot of movement. It may be fine but it isn't half keeping me on my toes.

Nerdy - I'm a bit weird in that even the thought of getting checked makes me more nervous! Though obviously I would go if I went a long time without feeling anything. I just want to be 39 weeks already. Ack! Wish I could be one of those laidback pregnant women. They do exist, right?

Hamster I'm at 25 weeks and movement varies from kicks to tickles, so scaled down to 22 weeks, you still won't feel gentle movements IYSWIM.

Just got all worried because couldnt feel baby through a wedding disco. Evidently not a fan of the playlist - giving me a little poke in the belly as I type. Still, yaaaaawn 1.30am is no time for an egg on legs like me, I'm off for zzzs. Another wedding in the morning another sack like dress.

I was mighty impressed with the waif like uber bridesmaids at this one though, they all have several kids. Oh, and more will power than me for the gym no doubt. Less impressed with the barman who gave the army lad a lime and soda and me a triple gin and tonic. Then insisted he hadn't mixed up the orders. Yeah, bump lady orders gin, testosterone lad orders water. Mmm. Thankfully sorted after one small sip, so nothing went through to baby I don't think.

hamster totally normal to worry. I am 24 weeks and still it is not regular. I think the consultant said it would be 28 weeks before if it wouldn't be. Like others said that's probably when they get big enough to not be able to hide in a corner.

squizita

Lucky you noticed it quick. I'd be really upset if I took a large gulp.

Lying in bed this morn and can feel some movement so momentarily reassured. I will never be a normal preg lady again. Although if this works out and baby is ok, it's my last apparently. Emotionally I'm not sure I could cope with being preg again but I would like more kids - so something will have to give!

Builders start on Monday - at 7 am. Say good bye to my dressing gown lounging til 10am :( and hello dust, mess and a smelly portaloo in my drive!

Fedup :) about the movements :( about the builders. Another wedding today! Just registry office and drinks in a posh pub afterwards, thankfully less full on.

squiz hope your enjoying your weekend of weddings! It's good weather for it here so hope it is wherever you are!

I'm now 27 weeks and there still isn't a pattern to my movements, but theyv got stronger this last week so that's something atleast.

I'm wondering if iv got anaemia as iv been so rediculously tired this last week, iv got my 28 week blood tests a week on Monday were they'll test for that anyway, so should I just wait for them or should I make a Docters appointment tomorrow to get checked out? May seem like a silly question but I always feel like I'm wasting the Docters time when I go there regardless of what's wrong with me so I always put it off as long as possible

alb I always think I might be anaemic too due to tiredness. I would take spatone if you feel it and worried about wasting doctors time as it doesn't do any harm and I took it throughout ds pregnancy and thinking I may need to get back on it for this preg!

I'm being sick all the time now, feel weak and it burns when I pee so another trip to the doc tomorrow. I'm almost a quarter of the way there. Getting work done is increasingly difficult. Help meeeeeeeeeeee

Hope you're feeling better today Amum

Hamster I've only had movements first thing in the morning for 3 days, today there was none and I did not like it! Had some since but it was stressful up till then. Nearly 22 weeks so shouldn't expect too much but it's hard. Had a lot more movement the last few days so particularly notice when there is none. Anyway, also had pain at bottom of bump, breathlessness is back full on and SO tired so think some stuff (growth spurt?) is going on in there. Have been chugging spatone myself to try help energy/breathlessness. Can't hurt.

I had a bit of a sob in the park today. Whilst walking dog ran into neighbour who looked after him whilst we were at hospital for mc. Have moved since so not seen her. And also only saw her once before moved and she was with friend so we'd had this whole "thank you so much for looking after dog" "how are you? Are you okay?" conversation that said everything and nothing since someone else was there, if you see what I mean. DP had taken care of everything with her you see. So though she knows all about it we've also never really talked about it. Anyway I told her we were expecting and flashed her the bump and she was delighted. Dog was v pleased to see her (she gave him steak whilst he was there so he loves her!) She said I had good tummy muscles (is that a polite way fo saying bump is small?!) Then we let her carry on with her run and I immediately just started crying hard whilst we carried on with our walk! I am welling up again now. Just needed to share. I guess it brings it all back.

London Aww it's the same for me, when someone is really nice it reminds me why and I well up.

Got my 24 week (well I'm 25 now) appointment this afternoon. Hope they have a doppler for the HB, it's just at a local health centre but it's been a while between scans!

Oh and on the positivity front I made a number of small online purchases for the baby yesterday, which will add up to us having a good basics stash once they arrive

Enjoyed picking out bright colour mulitpack bodysuits and muslins (which dp and I both like) that will make the inlaws gasp as not pink blue or white -shock horror! They are visiting later in the month and I want to be sure I have anything I don't want them to choose for us! Plus I needed to buy them now as will need July and Aug to save for big things like 2nd hand pram, car seat.

Hope they have Squiz always lovely to hear a hb

london a (well meaning) friend told me to get a wiggle on with ordering stuff in case baby comes a bit early (as some things take ages to get in stock etc'). I bloody hope not THAT early I'm only 25 weeks!

Still any excuse to shop LOL.

Morning everyone, hope you are all OK today.

Haven't been posting too much as not much to report. 5+3 here, boobs hurting and weeing a lot but no sickness. Sometimes I worry that I am feeling too well and not sick enough! (fish slaps please) Which is ridiculous as sickness never started until 7-8 weeks with my successful pregnancy.
Just wishing the time away until my 8 week scan, but luckily i'm off to Centerparcs in Holland next Monday for 2 weeks which will definitely help!

amum hope you are feeling better. I guess your consolation is that it must be going ok for you to be really this sick. First trimester is rubbish and I promise second trimester is better. I don't buy the pregnancy glow thing but at least I'm not feeling sick, just tired.

london that's a compliment. It just means you are looking good and lean. I think it's normal to grief, it always hit at all the unexpected time isn't it?

I'm 24 weeks now and it's scary to think how soon it could all be. squitz your friend is right and you need to start thinking of getting stuff. Full term is 37 weeks and that's only 12 weeks away for you. I started labour at 37+3 last time. So 25 weeks is early and hopefully you won't have a prem. But don't bank on 42 weeks! DH went up the loft to fetch the infant carrier and two boxes of newborn stuff down from the loft. They are now sitting in the guest room (going to be DD's new room). I think having them down helps me with mentally preparing for it.

Oh squizita don't want to scare you, but if you are after a new pram, they usually have a lead time from order to pick up. So don't leave it till last minute.

Hello all, well it seems my stay on this thread is going to be a short one - at 6+5 yesterday I had a massive bleed, horrible horrible scary experience and just glad I was at home as it went through all my clothes. Tummy felt very sore too. Bleeding seemed to stop last night and only tiny spots today but it's going to be bad news. I've seen my gp and off for a scan later today, a private one as couldn't be seen as the local hospital until late this week. So it's going to be two mc's in the space of two months, I just feel so bloody angry and sad. Sorry to moan but I just needed to get it off my chest.

Oh cake, so sorry. I wish I had the words that could make this time better for you. I hope that you get through your scan OK today and that you have plenty of RL support. Hope to see you back here when you are ready.
Had a tiny (and I mean tiny) bit of blood stained mucous over the weekend, and brought some of the fear back. Nothing since so am trying to be calm.
Saw friends over the weekend who were supportive after the MC and were so lovely and solicitous, getting me to put my feet up and bringing me drinks and everything, agree with London and squiz that it brings it all home.
Have been feeling more stirring from the bump, difficult to distinguish gas and kicks at the moment (18+2) but think have been getting some movement.
squiz, even during my first, relatively uneventful pregnancy, I couldn't bring myself to have things in the house until in 3rd tri. I justified this to myself on basis that if baby arrived that early there would be time to sort things out, in practice when DD came at 36+4 or so I was only semi-prepared (bag packed, buggy and moses ready, clothes washed, but house was in disarray). Meant that DH spent a good deal of his pat leave cleaning, which was probably not so much fun for him. As have stuff from last time am currently putting off going through the vac bags and bringing home the brackets to make my buggy take the car seat (which I wish I'd bought last time). Don't fret but maybe start writing lists and deciding e.g. which buggy you want?

Thinking of you Cake and crossing my fingers for any chance of good news.

Squiz totally get you on not buying things but for me I get a cross between panic that I'll buy stuff and have to send it back, or panic that I'll sort it all out too late!

This time around, shopping has won out, so since the 20 week scan we have bought some furniture and got a pram this weekend (mostly because the one I liked was on offer).

22 weeks now and feel like I've got ages to go, but on the other hand I'll probably have a c-section (minus one week) and my husband has two week-long work trips coming up (minus another two weeks), so there isn't that much 'active time' left to paint, build flatpack furniture, wash old baby clothes etc. Also we haven't been in the loft yet to see exactly what we have left over from last time - need to see what state the crib and moses basket are in, and I can't even remember little things like whether I saved any muslins!

Cake I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am holding onto the glimmer of hope of positive news at the scan for you.

So sorry cake. Will be thinking of you this afternoon.

I had some bleeding yesterday and have been waiting for it to turn into full-on red bleed, but hasn't yet. Spoken to a couple of people at the hospital who've told me to contact Gynae assessment or a&e if it does, so at least I'll know what to do.

I know bleeding doesn't have to mean the end, but that combined with the inconclusive viability scan last week has me preparing for the worst although secretly hoping it won't be

Amum - sorry your friends are rubbish, if I lived near you I'd come over and help you myself

(((Hugs)) cake

Oh Cake so sorry to hear that. Let us know how the scan was today x

itscurtains and cake sorry your both having a bad time, will be thinking of you both and keeping my fingers crossed for you