Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

[squizita]

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

Thanks everyone,really appreciate it. I've decided to do a last minute weekend away to try to take my mind off things - hope it works!

ihavetowaithowlong and cuppachaplz great scan news!

penguinita congratulations! Brilliant news.

mrsgiraffe12 medicalised pregnancies suck. I will have a lot of appointments from 20 weeks (gestational diabetes). It just makes the whole thing about seeing the doctor and what they will say. I am sorry. I am sorry that you have several things all at the same.

OneLittleToddleTerror I am glad your birth reflections meeting was positive. It sounds like they gave you more to think about! Good luck sorting it out in your head.

Can't keep up!
Just a quickie from me. Had more bleeding and several little clots today. Increasingly less hopeful.
Rang EPU who have booked me in for scan on Tuesday morning. Am convinced they will see bad stuff if anything by then. Just need to try and get thru weekend and Monday. Am cramping a bit, so think this might be it.
Called DH home from work early today, as just felt I wanted to lay down and not be running around after toddler DD.
Just thought an update would be good. Thanks for your support lovelies. X

Oh joosie it's horrible isn't it? The sonographer I saw yesterday said that there's an area of bleeding in my uterus and due to gravity it's very likely to come out so I've been spotting and I'm expecting more bleeding, you could be just like me so the bleeding really might not mean it's all over. I know nothing other than a scan will reassure you (and even then only temporarily) but the sonographer and nurse couldn't stress enough how common bleeding and cramps, esp bleeding over a number of days/weeks is and that it's not always bad news. I really hope Tuesdays here in a flash for you though and you get a clear scan and good news xxxxx

Hi all.

Some positive news from me for a change. Midwife today said my blood pressure was totally normal, pulse was normal AND the protein in my pee was gone! Measuring bang in dates and heart rate is brilliant too.

Still have to see them weekly but at least for a week I can relax a little.

I'm also glad to see so much positive news on the thread, it makes me smile and feels so pleased for us all, we've all had tough journeys in one way or another to get pregnant again :-)

That's so good to hear mrsg long may it continue x

joosie so sorry you're going through this. FX for a non-threatening cause. I know it's hard to believe, but bleeding without MC is very common.

onelittle good news :), and thanks fir your answers (and everyone rose x)keen to back back to normal ASAP. Also because I don't drive so cycle over 2miles to work. Tis a long walk if I can't use the bike. They told me strict rest when diagnosed with the SCH, now said gradual return to light exercise initially. Was wondering if anyone with experience of SCH had any experience of this as I don't want to jump from bed rest to my normal triathlon training overnight, not that I could right now anyway,, breathless lump that I am. :/

MrsG - what a relief! :) Bet you're super glad. Phew.

Joosie - fx it is something harmless. As we've seen a few times on here it can happen! Thinking of you.

mrsg what good news you got. I'm so happy for you.

joosie try to keep yourself busy in the weekend so you can't dwell on it. You really don't know until you have the scan.

Thanks all for the kind words. As the midwife said, PET is a funny illness, many of its symptoms can be attributed to something else but obviously with my history they gave to be super cautious

joosie I know it's super hard (and I really should follow my own advice) but try try try not to worry and relax. You won't know anything until the scan and trust me, trying to second guess everything drives you bonkers! Just be kind to yourself over the weekend, and we will all be rooting for you come scan day xx

Thanks everyone for the much needed injection of hope.

As an initially amusing, but now highly irritating diversion, Mr Joosie has been chasing a mouse around the living room since 7pm! I've been roped in and this bloody rodent has outsmarted both of us! I felt like a character in that Lee Evans mouse film.

I've just had a wobble and some tears...don't think my adrenalin can take much more on top of the bleed today, so we've just settled down a few mins ago and are dutifully ignoring said mouse until we can get a humane trap tomorrow. Will go to bed in a bit.

What a day! I hope tomorrow is calmer and much less eventful! Thought tales of our escapades tonight might amuse you though!
Night all x

Each morning I look down at my bump to make sure it's still there! Anyone else do that?
Everyone keeps telling me the all day sickness will get better soon but if anything it's been worse the last two days. I heard my DH mumble 'shut up' last night as I was hurling in the loo! I was going to walk back in and punch him in the face but didn't have the energy.
This weekend we have the mammoth task of redoing the floorboards in the small room (can't bring myself to say nursery yet just in case, although I did get some cath kidston wallpaper last week) and then get the builder back to test the new water pipes before ordering the carpet. Steam the ripped wallpaper off that was here when we moved in, take furniture outside for sanding ('we' meaning clearly not me!) put in skirting board, paint walls…and no doubt find a whole host of nasty surprises in the process. I put an sos out to friends and family yesterday on Facebook. Got two likes and no offers. When I think of all the things we've done for people over the years. You know how many people have even visited us since I've been pregnant? My Mum, Nan and Dad. Zero friends, there's always an excuse why we have to go to them and I'm sitting in the car puking into a bag.
…wow I have woken up super grumpy today!

Ah amum that sucks no one has offered to help. We have found that offers of beer and BBQ usually work! Just don't expect too much to be done at once and take it easy a that sounds like a lot to do.

joosie sorry to hear bout the bleeding. Hopefully Tuesday will come quickly and they will find good news for you. So hard not to obsess and worry about it over the weekend, I know I would be awful at not worrying. Distraction all the way.

joosie, all our fingers are crossed for a good outcome for you.
amum, do they all know your situation? If so, they are mean, otherwise they probably don't realise that you need the help.
cuppa, it is a difficult one. I stopped cycling to work after bfp because I partially blamed pushing myself (both physically and mentally) for the MC (during the heat wave last summer). I know this is irrational yet couldn't bring myself to do it. Now I partially regret this, as prior to my pregnancy I was cycling 5miles, 2 tough uphill, most days, with DD in a trailer. Now, at 18 weeks, I know there is no way I can get back to doing that. I know one of the reasons for my fast recovery from my CS was that I was really very fit, cycling up until a week or so before I delivered (at 36weeks). So am worried about that as well.
Having had my fall and injury, I know that doing proper exercise is going to be difficult in a way it wasn't last time. However am taking consolation in the fact that the injury has forced me to get back in the driving seat (I learnt a long time ago but stopped driving a long time ago too and was nervous).
If you are used to doing the 2m cycle to work, and it isn't steep , perhaps give it a gentle go? Then decide from there? Have no SCH experience though.

They do know yes. And I am seriously thinking I need new friends! I can't afford bribery at the moment, not that the buggers ever gave DH and I anything for helping. Grrrrrr
On another topic, has anyone who goes to St Marys for scans ever got a picture? I've had three scans there so far and no scan picture. When I go on 11th I'd really like one to put in my Dad's fathers day card. Is this something they just don't do there? I was surprised they don't do the nuchal screening either and I have to go to my local hospital for that. Maidstone used to ask for donations for scan pictures but Ashford gave me loads with my previous pregnancy.
Yesterday it felt like my uterus was swinging around on a pendulum and I got really paranoid the babies would just fall out! Had a nightmare last night about someone to kill me and as you've noticed I woke up really crabby!
Good luck to everyone going through a nerve wracking time this weekend. Hope you get good news next week.

That's horrible no ones offered help amum hope they get their arses in gear and give you a hand. At my local hospital you have to put a few quid in a machine and they put a sticker on your notes (that's normal scans rather than epu who just gave us one on Thursday) so check with the receptionist in case you need to get a sticker, if not then just ask the sonographer for one when you go in x

Amum that's quite horrid of your friends. :( Hope they buck their ideas up. ...mind you mine do visit and I offer them wine and sit staring at it with my cup of redbush tea then have a rant LOL!! Well done on progress so far with the spare room. We have done very little. I have built myself up to looking at paint/furniture but not actually buying/doing.

Well I have everything for a nursery from my first pregnancy and we've kept it all wrapped up. The pram will need a rethink now there's two rather than one though! I just don't think I will put all the bits and pieces in there until they're born.
My Dad and brother are coming to help for a couple of hours. I'm still really annoyed at my so called friends though. Everyone keeps saying 'if you need anything just let me know" or FIL says all the time "we're just at the end of the phone if you need anything" but every time we ask no one comes to help. Then that say "take it easy, just lay down for nine months!"

Maybe too late notice amum? Just trying to give them some excuse? Ie already have plans for weekend?

I've been asking for weeks and gave an unsubtle nudge the other day. It's nice of you to think the best of them but I think they may just be douche bags.
It's normal to feel sharp twinges in the lady area around nine weeks right? Just got back from food shopping with DH and was hurling all the way from tesco.

Amum yeah I had twinges, think it's everything moving round ready for bump time.

Off to a wedding now. I look like a faberge egg on legs, all diamante and bronzer but no waistline.

That made me laugh squizita, and it takes a lot to do that these days :D

Anyone still get paranoid about movement? I'm 22 weeks tomorrow and after a day or so earlier in the week where I felt a lot of movement, it's now a lot more sporadic again. I think the baby's changed position a bit but I'm also worrying a bit.

It's common not to feel the baby move at every hour at this stage isn't it?

Yesterday I was out with friends from 9:30am to 3pm and it wasn't until I came home and sat down for a bit that I felt anything at all!

hamster that was definitely my experience. I was also much more paranoid at weekends because I had more time to notice. I think the baby can get into a position where you can't feel it move, especially as early as 22 weeks. at 39 weeks there isn't room for that I can assure you!

hamster - totally paranoid about movement here.
Last wk I had quite a bit and last two days not sure I've felt anything. I'm 21 weeks. It's really stressful!

hamster still worry at 33 weeks! but at 22 baby is still small enough to tuck itself into corners you can't feel, and it's too early for a pattern.
My baby doesn't move as much when I'm busy, and if I'm mentally distracted I may not notice as much. Always feel more if I sit or lie down and relax.
If you are really worried you can get checked. I went at 22 weeks and they felt my tummy and found the heartbeat. It was reassuring.