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Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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squizita · 17/05/2014 22:09

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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OneLittleToddleTerror · 29/05/2014 08:09

gw congrats on the good scan news. I'm the same as fedup that I haven't managed a normal level of pregnancy worry after the 12 week scan either. I am 23 weeks and still am paranoid. I'm going to leave a message for the midwives team at the GP today and ask about the flutters/kicks against my 'cervix'. (I have no idea it's cervix or not, but it's very low and down there). I have a good few days to mull over what some of you said here and I think I better ask the HCP and see.

36 days left at work, eek. When are you off fedup? I'm going work till 8 August I think. But I haven't set a firm date with HR yet. Going to pick up my mat1b tomorrow and then arrange an HR meeting.

pgchimp · 29/05/2014 08:51

gw congrats on the scan news. Don't apologise for being down. That is what this thread is for.

tea I am so sorry for what you are going through and I hope that you get some information from the epu today.

GailLondon · 29/05/2014 09:28

Hey All,

Congrats on the lovely 12 week scan gw and Im thinking of everyone still in limbo and waiting for scans xxx

Talked to my manager and told him the pregnancy news. I was really nervous before the conversation but he was great - looked genuinely delighted for me and even did a little 'yay' and gve me a big hug :)

Tried to book an appointment to see the nurse to fill my maternity referral in, but I cant even see her till 25th June! (I will be 8 weeks then). So i cant imagine getting a booking appointment with the midwife until i'm 10 weeks or so which seems like forever.

daftgeranium · 29/05/2014 09:28

Hello ladies, can I join you?

I'm 6+1, after losing a baby at 14 weeks last October....

feeling very nervous and trying not to think about 12 week scan. Also feeling utterly bloated and whale-like, achy, exhausted and a bit gloomy and complicated!

Seasides · 29/05/2014 09:39

How worrying tea, I'm sorry-my friend had a big bleed at just after 12 weeks and all was totally fine, was a bruise around the cervix or something. And another friend had one earlier, thought all was over and dd is now 3. So it's not always bad news, I so hope it's not for you.

Yay for a great scan gw! Hopefully now the excitement will start, we deserve that too!

I told my editor yesterday as well Gail, he was really nice. I'm a freelancer and have taken a new, much better paying job for July-Oct, so I'm only working for my magazine for another month (all going well at 12 week scan). And then we'll have a last holiday and then no more work for me from November, Yaaay! Lazy me. God I'm dying for that 12 week scan, I feel everything will finally become real and this horrible 1st tri limbo will be over. Can't wait to start scouring gumtree for baby kit!

Welcome and congratulations daft! I''ve felt bloated and whale like since 6 weeks too, and the gloom and fear is sadly oh so natural.

DitzyDonkey · 29/05/2014 10:23

Hello ladies, apologies as I have not been on here for a while but I have been keeping up with all your progress.

I went for a scan at the epu this morning and in the middle if the scan my dh fainted and busted his head off the desk then started having some sort of fit Shock he is down in a&e now getting a ECG and may have to get a head X-ray and stay in overnight Sad I am in shock!!!

I didn't even get a moment to enjoy the scan (selfish I know) and I measuring 7 weeks when I thought I should be 7+6......now I'm worried that it is not growing properly. My blood pressure is through the roof so I have to go back up to epu when dh is sorted and get it checked again then she said another appointment in three weeks as I. High risk!

Sorry about the me me me post I'm in shock.

CorporeSarnie · 29/05/2014 11:55

Have been lurking, but not had any real news to post (realise this is largely a good thing). Situ with colleague now being dealt with by snr mgmt - the tosser has yet to show his face or respond to contact attempts.
OMG ditzy, the whole thing sounds awful. tbh I think it is hard to enjoy early scans anyway as there is so much uncertainty there, and a day or two of slow implantation can affect things a lot, so not sure 5 days is enough to worry about. Good that they will let you back and are seeing you again soon. Your poor DH - does he have any history of fainting or fits? Looking on the bright side, there couldn't be a better place than the hospital to have such a thing happen. Hope you both get sorted out v soon.
Right must go as work/meetings to do, but waves to the new arrivals, fingers crossed for those who are having worries or bleeds, and cheers for good scan news.

amicablemoomin · 29/05/2014 12:18

OMG ditzy how terrible.. I hope he is ok and you are being looked after.

gail glad all went ok with the boss

daft

tea thinking of you today and hope you get some (positive) answers.

I'm just back from my booking appointment which was good, but I found the constant references to appointments and babies actually arriving a bit unnerving. Apparently I need to book all my AN appointments now....feels a bit confident to me.

aMuminwaiting · 29/05/2014 12:22

Oh poor you and DH Ditzy. The stress and worry shouldn't be underestimated. Plus hospitals are so bloody hot. Hope he's ok now. Don't' stress about the dates this early on. One of my twins was written off by hospital staff as over a week behind the other and then on Tuesday there they both were and the little one was only three days behind. They really can't see much so early on so I think it's terrible when they worry you.
I did what you ladies told me and went through PALS with my concern over the crappy communication at St Marys and again, ten minutes later got my appointment confirmed via email! I don't want to have to keep doing this every time I need an appointment.

LondonJen · 29/05/2014 12:23

Thinking of you tea

Wonderful news gw hope you're enjoying the a new feeling of calm!

36 days Fedup that is very exciting!

Gosh Ditzy I hope your dp is feeling better. What a day you've both had. Take it easy both.

Welcome Daftgeranium love your name! Congrats on your bfp. You will find lots of hand holding here. Wishing you a boring & uneventful pregnancy.

IhavetowaitHOWlong · 29/05/2014 12:51

Welcome daft and congratulations!

How awful ditzy, hope your DH is feeling better soon and they find out what caused it. Take care of yourself in the meantime, must have been very stressful, especially when the scan hasn't really given you any peace of mind. Will they scan you again?
Here...and don't worry about the caffeine this time Wink...Brew

Itscurtainsforyou · 29/05/2014 12:53

Hello all - not great news from me. I went to see the consultant today and had an early scan. There was evidence of womb lining and bag of fluid, but no baby. They said that it could be that I'm a week behind the dates I think I'm at, but realistically I think it's unlikely. (TMI: conception will have occurred on or soon after day 13, generally a 28 day cycle, I was 6 weeks according to lmp, but scan says 5 weeks max). The only hope I'm holding to is implantation bleeding on day 26 which could indicate things are later than expected, but I think I'm grasping at straws :(

So I'm either waiting to miscarry or if that doesn't happen I have an appointment for 2 weeks so they can have another look...

aMuminwaiting · 29/05/2014 13:25

I had the same thing. They based my pregnancy on a 28 days cycle but I must have implanted really late because when I went for the first scan they saw thickened lining indicating a really early pregnancy. I went back two weeks later, saw two sacs but only one yolk, four days later two sacs and one heartbeat so told the other would reabsorb or I'd miscarry it but then Tuesday two strong heartbeats. Don't give up. I felt like Iw as grasping at straws and said that to the lady at EPU but our bodies do crazy things and the truth is that early on they just don't know. When I had the scan Tuesday the lady who did the scan two weeks before was behind a screen and she yelled out "two?!, I told you I saw something!"

Itscurtainsforyou · 29/05/2014 13:42

Thank you amum - I guess it's just a waiting game now (I'm not good at waiting at the best of times...)

TeaRex · 29/05/2014 14:06

They found a heartbeat! Can't believe it! Baby is at the top of the uterus and there's an area of bleeding underneath which means I'm likely to bleed again and pass more clots but the baby could be okay. They can't say for sure obviously but I have a little bit of hope. Back up to epu next Thursday for a follow up scan (they normally would have made me wait until the 12 week scan but because I was so anxious they've booked an early reassurance one, it's lovely of them and I'm pleased but surely every single woman through those doors is anxious?) so really just have to see how it goes. Thank you for all your messages, it really ment a lot x
curtains ditzy and joosie sorry you're all having a tough time and in the waiting for news zone, fx we all get good news in the next couple of weeks x

IhavetowaitHOWlong · 29/05/2014 14:07

Keeping my fingers crossed for you that it was late implantation curtains. Hope the wait isn't too agonising and you get good news at the end of it

IhavetowaitHOWlong · 29/05/2014 14:09

Great news Tea!

aMuminwaiting · 29/05/2014 14:15

Great stuff Tea.
And I know waiting is horrendous Curtains. We've all had to wait for so long for our babies that every day feels like forever. Getting through each day is a challenge!

joosiewoosie · 29/05/2014 14:42

Fab news Tea!
Curtains, I know what the waiting is like. Shall we join hands and play random rude word association to pass the days?! Wink Well, you gotta try and find some lightness somewhere xx

amicablemoomin · 29/05/2014 14:43

Tea bloody fantastic news, what a relief for you.

curtains the wait is the worst...fingers crossed for good news....dates can be weird things, and like amum says everything can change in a couple of days, so FX for you.

Gwlondon · 29/05/2014 16:47

teaRex brilliant news!!

itscurtainsforyou and ditzydonkey good luck. They do move the dates around depending on scans and maybe they will adjust it next time too. Overall mine was adjusted by 4 days.

ditzydonkey hope your DH is okay. Not what you want to happen.

daftgeranium hello!

MrsGiraffe12 · 29/05/2014 17:30

Urgh just need another moan. Again. Feels like all I have done this pregnancy is complain :-(

Had midwife today and BP has raised since last hospital appointment on the weekend. Protein is still "only" +1, so not being sent back up hospital today but have to see midwife again tomorrow. I feel like all this pregnancy has been tainted, obvious fear early on after miscarriage, then the hernia and diastasis recti diagnosis, now borderline for pre eclampsia returning. Also no one seems to know if I can VBAC or have to have an elective c section. DH is a patient man but he's getting fed up now of all the appointments and hospital visits etc and asks me so frequently if baby is alright and "jokes" about when I'll next be in hospital. The weekly appointment are a pain in the ass but needed. I just want this baby to be healthy and myself too. I'm dreading hospital admission as I have DS who is 6 at home and hope to God this doesn't happen.

Urgh, Sorry for such a moan but I have no where else to let my frustration out and just need a good cry x

Seasides · 29/05/2014 17:45

That sounds so wearing mrsg, I'm sorry it's just one thing after another. Frustrating they can't be clearer on your birth plan too.

Sorry you didn't get reassurance from your scan curtains- as the others have said, those early days areso hard to read. They didn't give me much hope at my 5 week scan, put me back a few days a 6 weeks and I was positive about my dates as I was temping, but it's all sorted now and I've made the days back up. I hope you get good news in 2 weeks.

Yay tea! Phew!

IhavetowaitHOWlong · 29/05/2014 19:33

Sorry you're feeling rubbish mrsg, but don't worry about moaning, that's what we're here for and you're not exactly having an easy ride Thanks

Just back from my scan. Was almost sick with nerves before we went in after nightmares last night about an empty sack, then phantom pregnancy, then triplets! All unfounded I'm very happy to report. Strong heartbeat seen, measuring 7+4, so only a few days behind what I thought.
I can't promise that I'll stop fretting now, but today I am definitely pregnant! Grin

Cakebaker35 · 29/05/2014 20:07

Such a fast moving thread! Thinking of you ditzy, tea and mrsg, sorry you're having tough times and don't apologise for moaning, that's part of what we're here for when you just can't say it in rl.

Great scan news Ihavetowait Flowers

Welcome daftgeranium and congratulations, today you are pregnant. We're almost the same on dates, 6+2 here and scared to death after an mmc in feb/March at 10wks which would've been twins. Hand holding and freak out support here for you x