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Posifrickentivity thread: pregnant after miscarriage. TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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squizita · 17/05/2014 22:09

Continuing our journeys through pregnant after past loss.

Hand holding and support for all.

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT.

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EnglishGirlsReturned · 27/05/2014 19:41

ahhhh amum, thats lovely!!! So happy for you! Grin

TeaRex · 27/05/2014 19:45

Good news amum how lovely :) we've had some brilliant news on this thread past few days :)

amicable scanoia ha, sums it up brilliantly! Yes please join us so we can stand in a circle and fish slap each other, we can play some music to get a good rhythm going...

curtains pull yourself together ;) this works on a couple of levels lol as you can see from my earlier post you'll be worrying whatever stage you're at so accept you'll have bad days but just try to make the next one a bit better and don't beat yourself up x

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squizita · 27/05/2014 20:20

Amum great news! :)

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LondonJen · 27/05/2014 20:32

One I was very much thinking I'd feel confident at the end of the 2nd tri but dp's brother is a Dr and been saying very reassuring things about viability after 24 weeks and quite often after 22 weeks which is next week for me. I know that doesn't necessarily mean all will be well but I have found it quite grounding somehow. And if I'm honest we've got my mum and then the In Laws visiting at the end of June so I want to get some things in case they decide to purchase everything on my beahlf if I've not bought much. Not trusting their taste!! Though them not knowing the gender helps a lot with reigning them back

Aw, nice to hear from Pixie

Sure you'll feel ready to purchase soon Squiz! The pram freaks me out a bit. That seems a big one.

Tea my two pregnancies (1st was mmc, then this one) were near identical up to 10 weeks if it helps (mmc was at 10 weeks.) Hang on in there Smile

Curtains make sure you check a max of 5 times tomorrow for fifty percent more sanity! Sounds daft but you'll feel good for it.

Wow Amum that is just fabulous!

Good luck for all upcoming scans.

Seasides · 27/05/2014 20:42

Go go pingu! Good luck penguin, you might even be mummy penguin by now!

Glad everything's sorted out fine baking, and you're all home safely. What an amazing quick labour, I hope I take a leaf out of that book when/if I get there!

Glad I'm not the only one who's no sex goddess just now Wink Until the 1st December that is, when DH is going to be on serious 'get this baby out of me before Christmas' duty!

My 12 week scan is the 9th, tea, and I'm cacking myself for no good reason except paranoia and fear.

TeaRex · 27/05/2014 20:46

Thanks londonjen Thanks and enjoy shopping :)

Right I'm off to bed, party animal that I am.

aMuminwaiting · 27/05/2014 20:52

Thanks everyone. Still shocked they were both there and doing well. Am having a bit of a mare with St Marys though. Since changing their system it's total chaos. I've seen two different people after my scans, neither of whom had a clue about what was going. The one two weeks ago telling me one twin would die and today a consultant saying "so we have only one heartbeat" and I had to get him to look at todays scan and not the one from two weeks ago! I should be having a pre assessment at my next appointment but the receptionist say they don't do that which is odd because I had my pre assessment there for the surgery I had in January AND the woman I poke to last week told me to book it at reception. The consultant also said surgery is done on Monday and I'll be out Tuesday but the date I've been given is for a Wednesday. None of it gives me reassurance which is what I need most right now. He said "do you have any questions?" and I said well obviously I'm worried about being able to carry two full term when I've not been able to manage one. And he said Yes that's an understandable concern. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. Yeah, it's that simple not DH's and my hopes and dreams, not to mention our families and the precious lives of our much longed for babies. When going through my notes I also noticed the midwife had put single pregnancy on the paperwork for my bloods rather than twin. I pointed it out to the consultant and he said that was really bad because obviously my bloods would be very different with twins. I feel like I have to be constantly checking everything, which is not easy when I'm puking for England and feel awful.

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squizita · 27/05/2014 21:16

Amum put everything in writing in an email to st Marys PALS and supervisor of midwives. State you would like to contact the supervisor.

They totally messed up my bookings a few weeks back - this worked instantly!

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squizita · 27/05/2014 21:17

Amum put everything in writing in an email to st Marys PALS and supervisor of midwives. State you would like to contact the supervisor.

They totally messed up my bookings a few weeks back - this worked instantly!

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squizita · 27/05/2014 21:17

Amum put everything in writing in an email to st Marys PALS and supervisor of midwives. State you would like to contact the supervisor.

They totally messed up my bookings a few weeks back - this worked instantly!

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squizita · 27/05/2014 21:17

Amum put everything in writing in an email to st Marys PALS and supervisor of midwives. State you would like to contact the supervisor.

They totally messed up my bookings a few weeks back - this worked instantly!

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Penguin13 · 27/05/2014 21:18

Amum what fantastic news that there were two heartbeats going strong. What a shame though that the disorganisation of your team is giving you additional stress instead of taking it away from you which is what they should be doing. I am completely Shock at what your consultant said to you. I get that it's part of their job to not get people's hopes unreasonably high but surely compassion and understanding should come with the territory. Really hope your continuing care improves and that you start to feel less sick soon .

Alb1 · 27/05/2014 21:50

amum that's lovely news, congrats on the good scan!

baking nice to here your all home and doing well Thanks

fedupofrainydays · 27/05/2014 22:33

amum I agree you need to get it in writing to them and complain to get this all sorted. If you are feeling shite I would dictate to your dp and get him to do it for you. They prob don't realise that all these things are adding up and making you stress and worry unnecessarily. The single pregnancy thing would mess with my head so I would definitely get that changed and sorted on all your documentation and records.

Seasides · 27/05/2014 23:08

Wow amum that is a catalogue of balls ups, definitely complain, this kind of thing is too important for them to be, or even appear, so disorganised and blase about. Wonderful you have two strong heartbeats though, that's lovely news!

Up for a circle of scanoia slapping! I have been unable to picture a positive outcome from my previous ones-or unwilling maybe, from a daft bit of me that thinks if I don't get my hopes up I''ll somehow find it easier to cope if it is bad news, which is clearly bollocks. But they couldn't have gone better, which should show me, and you guys, that all this fear is just in our heads, and we are waaaaay more likely to walk out of those rooms with a smile on our faces.

Sorry about duplicate post earlier, no idea where that came from!

Gwlondon · 27/05/2014 23:21

amuminwaiting I am so glad the scan went well. It does sound really bad that they are making so many mistakes.

bakingtins glad you are home. Sorry that you had to stay in longer to treat the jaundice.

NerdyBird · 27/05/2014 23:28

amum congrats on the good scan. Do agree with others about complaining and getting things sorted. It might be a huge effort now but will be worth it.

Hoping for updates on new arrivals from penguin and emki . Also glad to hear from baking that all is well.

I have been fine since the sickness of Friday night. Still no idea what caused it but can only think it must be to do with hormones or baby position. Am meant to have 32 week check with GP but have been too busy to book so not sure if I'll get one. NCT classes going ok, we've done two on childbirth and next one will mainly be about breastfeeding.
It's making it all a bit real!

joosiewoosie · 28/05/2014 07:52

Definitely put stuff in writing. Amum and let us know what feedback you get. It is a shame that such good news was tainted by their inadequacy in so many areas, not just admin! I complained, in a 7 page letter, to the EPU after my mc about how their registrar/SHO had treated me when talking about it, and I've had super treatment ever since, and I hope, helped others not to be treated poorly like we were.

Thank you LondonJen and gwlondon for your kind wishes. The blood test came back yesterday evening (at 8pm!) as 22000, which the midwife said was 'adequate' (I so hate that word, it's a bit of a double edged sword!).

I've looked it up, by my revised calculations, based on when I think I ov'd,rather than LMP date, I was 6w yesterday, and 22000 is in the usual range. So that's something.

I had a really painful cramp like period pains in my left side bikini line for most of the night though, so I'm trying not to hope too much. It was a similar pain to this that I had with the mc - whenever I fed my 13mo dd it would get bad again. This time at least I'm not bf anymore though.

I'm waiting til 12 today for a phone call and appt from the consultant who was looking closer at my fibroid after the last mc, ready to call them if he doesn't call me!

OneLittleToddleTerror · 28/05/2014 08:16

amum that is wonderful you saw two heartbeats! But I agree with everyone else that your hospital sounds shocking really. I've had doctors who say the most insensitive things about MCs, but there are some lovely doctors and midwives and sonographers too. I think twins usually come early, but like what Londongen says, hopefully you'll feel better once you reach the end of second trimester. I know it's hard, because at the moment I don't feel reassured at all. I'm feeling a lot of movement, but I worried the baby will come early. I think for me personally, it'd have to be 33+ weeks before I can feel easy!

Wow baking sounds like you have a great labour. Hopefully mine will be that easy too. I really don't want another marathon one Sad

nerdy 32 weeks, you are really getting there. When are you starting maternity leave?

seasides and joosie you are still pregnant today. Keep thinking positive.

amicablemoomin · 28/05/2014 09:24

good luck today joosie

Cuppachaplz · 28/05/2014 09:59

Fantastic news re scan amum but so sorry to hear you're having such a tough time with organisation. It's so stressful isn't it?

Good luck with the scan ihavetowait

nerdy glad to hear you're feeling better! long May it continue.

Google luck joosie*

Great news baking, enjoy your time at home with Faith

I have managed to put repeat scan on Friday out of my mind, but now starting to panic again. I know they told me I would bleed or see brown discharge probably for several weeks, but that doesn't stop one from worrying. I guess I'm joining you in the scanoia clique seasides...

HopefulHamster · 28/05/2014 10:32

I'll join in with the congrats for amum :). Wonderful news after all the stress but a pity about the doctor.

I had a consultant appointment yesterday. She got snippy when I mentioned concerns about low papp-a and possible ashermans (something my infertility consultant vaguely diagnosed) because she only wanted to talk about straightforward birth plan stuff - but from my point of view I had to raise those things in case they could impact birth or the baby!

However, she did say she will support me choosing whatever I want in terms of ELCS or VBAC. I've got a VBAC chat with a midwife next week so will make a final decision after that, but think I will go for an elective. I really wanted an active labour last time, but I don't want to risk having a rubbish non-progressing one again.

Afterwards I'd booked a private gender scan which was fab and confirmed we're having a little girl. I'd have been happy either way but I love knowing so we can do some planning :).

Cuppa worrying is normal but so is brown blood remember! I think it's impossible not to panic in our situation but you just have to find a level where you can live with it.

Good luck Joosie - your numbers sound good to me. I always had low hcg in both of my successful* (so far) pregnancies and I'm nearly five months now.

NerdyBird You're getting closer!

LondonJen I'm looking forward to 24 weeks to (and then 37 weeks, then 39 etc!) - 22 at the weekend for me. Eeep.

Sorry no time to read back much further but just hope everyone is well.

amicablemoomin · 28/05/2014 10:54

Congratulations on the pink news hamster!

EnglishGirlsReturned · 28/05/2014 11:56

Congrats on the pink bubs Hamster Smile Smile

Amandaj78 · 28/05/2014 12:42

i have also just fallen pregnant again after a MC in Feb and i am to say the least a little worried with all the what ifs, any advise/support apprciated :)