The berry copter thread for all your clenching and hand holding needs

[BlindKitty]

Small print: ideally pg with #1 and had ttc for >12months although let's face it, we ain't as fussy as we used to be, just as long as you're nice

5 second generation berry babies and LOADS more to follow

Bushy IMO pregnancare is fine (and thousands of people are taking it as it's the #1 brand). The midwives will want you to have vit d as well as folic acid now (no doubt boom will correct me if I'm talking shit about that) so it also ticks that box. And yes, when all you can eat is crisps, you will feel better if you're taking a multivit!
Sex...honestly you will be fine. Nobody has ever been able to prove that sex caused a miscarriage to my knowledge, I think what you read is speculation. Your body is designed to grow a healthy baby and sex won't interfere with that. Having said that, be prewarned that it might cause some spotting...that's normal and is something to do with your cervix. But it's the outside of your cervix sex is interfering with and not the inside iyswim so all will be fine!
Good luck tomorrow

Puppy - any update

bushy hope you get on ok today.

merk NOTHING to report!!! he isnt for shifting!

3 more days til My maternity leave, i cannot wait.
My feet are now so fat I struggle to get them into flip flops.
People keep asking me what I'm going to do in the 2 weeks leading up to birth. Do they expect me to have flurry of activity? because all I have planned is nag DP about jobs around the house and get a haircut (maybe go to cinema if I can muster the energy) but other than that all I want to do is veg out on the sofa and watch my belly dance/ trashy daytime telly.

Fingers crossed for you today, Bushy.

Any news from bushy?

Well, had scan today and inconclusive again! She scanned,basically she could see an egg yolk and sac but no fetal pole and something else that she would expect to see at nearly 7 weeks. So there was no heartbeat. She said what she could see was measuring 5 weeks and a good shape and size for 5 weeks etc but that we're 2 weeks behind and it definitely implanted in the uterus so I have a uterine pg,so we'll have to wait another 7-9 days and see if it has grown and'progressed'. She said not to lose hope but also to realise it may have not worked but the positive things to take away from it ( if a negative outcome) are that the eggs fertilised and it implanted so no issues there and that we got a pg the first time so everything would be set up well for a second try. She couldn't really shed any light on the weird lump, said perhaps it was a bit of clot caught behind and the embryo implanting moved it.

Said I can do yoga if tell teacher and we can have sex, it's just the implantation bit that you should avoid.

So there I am, both came away thinking can't believe we're still in limbo, we just want to know one way or the other so we can move on. Dh just said to me he thinks it won't be good news, he feels we've been up against it because of the low chance of a pg from Ivf, the bleed and lump. And felt the nurse was trying to tell us not to be hopeful but I just think she was trying to give us a balanced view, not to lose hope as they can progress well and they'll see more at the epu but also to prepare ourselves in case it hasn't progressed.

So any advice, any ideas?

Bushy you poor thing. Inconclusive scans are torturous because you get your hopes up that you will have an answer and then you don't. I think you are right, the lady would have been trying to give you the balanced opinion as she will have seen it go both ways. I don't think you need to wait as long as 9 days though, this time next week should be enough. Everything crossed that its all fine. Are you still bleeding? Hang in there this week, the wait will seem horrific so maybe plan some nice things x

Bushy, so sorry you're still in limbo, must be maddening to still be in suspense! No practical advice to offer as I didn't have an early scan but I hope some of the other grad/copter berries will have thoughts to offer. Thinking of you!

Feel for you bushy, I dont think you should lose hope, I'm sure she was just giving a well rounded view. Everything crossed for you still.

Bushy wind the clock back a few months and I was writing an almost identical post.
I was scanned at 7 weeks, and dead sure of conception/period dates after years of trying and using ovulation tests. Had an early scan as I suffer from recurrent misc, Sac was there with yolk but no foetal pole. They also said that i was measuring about 5 weeks so gave me another scan date for 2 weeks later. Limboland as I came to call it was exhausting, varying from thinking the worst to hoping the best (and feeling terrible all the while).
Scanned at nine weeks and there she was, heartbeat and all, measuring spot on 9 weeks! They reckoned that it must have been the angle (even though they had a good old rummage with Dildo cam on the first scan).
Things at this stage are so small, they are easily missed.
I will hope, pray and cross all fingers that you get good news at the rescan.

bushy so sorry you are in limbo, it's going to be a long week, hugs x

Went to my first pregnancy yoga-type class tonight, lots of weird stretching and breathing stuff which I'm sure will be helpful once I'm used to it.
Next decision is NCT classes or not!

Arr thank you so much qazxc, that brought a tear to my eye. Your summing up of limbo land sounds familiar and rather like the next couple of days/week to come. Nurse said she'd phone when I'm booked in and said 7-9 days so may not be as long as 9 days merk

bunny pregnancy yoga sounds lively. How far along are you? Just curious as I'd love to do it if I get the chance. I like normal yoga so would be interested to see how similar or different it is.

bushy will continue to keep fingers crossed for a good outcome for you.

no baby here yet but lost some mucous plug yesterday and cramps picked up a bit, all quiet overnight though, will c what midwife says this aft...

Ooh puppy how exciting. Your plug means your cervix is opening so should be promising news

im hoping its the start of something proper merk not a lot goin on today tho, few cramps but thats all!

will get on my ball later for a good bounce!!

Have you seen the midwife? Keep us posted

seen midwife, she was as good as useless as usual.
Got a date booked for induction next week (which she did without asking me before I got there, which I wasnt too impressed with).

However lost a bit more plug this aft (bit blood tinged this time) and more tightening/cramps so hoping he is getting going (just very slowly!)

back on the ball after tea!

How exciting! Good luck Puppy :D

Oooh plug! surely this must mean things are happening! Good luck Puppy!

Good luck puppy, fx you meet your little one soon!

Puppy hope your waters go overnight and everything gets started, I will check in during my numerous night feeds.
You can refuse the induction and ask for monitoring if you'd prefer

Good luck puppy
I nearly fell out with my midwife yesterday whenshe stsrted telling me I 'would' have a sweep at 40 weeks, then that I would be booked in for an induction at 41. I had to repeat myself several times saying that i was happy to wait as long a we were both happy and healthy. She re phrased it a couple of times, tried to sound really nice whilst loiking at me disapprovingly and basically talking bollox.
I did say that I might feel differently in 2 weeks, but again repeated myself about wantin give myself/baby a chance to start things off on our own.

foody I was offered a sweep too but did decline that.

I know I can refuse the induction and will consider this next week. am planning to ask for a sweep first in any case.

I don't like the way they r just presuming to make decisions for me without even a discussion its very off putting.

in baby news there isn't one yet! waters not gone (boo) merk I was hoping over night too!

am having more pains rather than just cramps. and these seem to be more of a pattern than random. coming in more of a wave feeling.

but if im not sure if its a contraction then maybe it isn't? ?? - I think it might be but then I think that might be wishful thinking!!? will c how they progress and not get too excited yet!

Sound like contractions to me. Remember cramps (and period pain) are actually contractions too. Is the weather nice? A long walk might help