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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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The berry copter thread for all your clenching and hand holding needs

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BlindKitty · 19/04/2014 09:01

Small print: ideally pg with #1 and had ttc for >12months although let's face it, we ain't as fussy as we used to be, just as long as you're nice

5 second generation berry babies and LOADS more to follow

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BlindKitty · 17/05/2014 05:42

Did we scare dartmoor off?!?

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CatsCantFlyFast · 17/05/2014 07:31

And another one...I smell a cluster diff

PuppyMummy · 17/05/2014 07:47

lovely news! I have popped over to say congratulations.

Hope everyone is enjoying the lovely weather.

38 weeks here, only a week left at work for me. very exciting! Although increasing feelings of strangeness - im not convinced I actually think im having a baby!!

Foodylicious · 17/05/2014 07:55

CatsCantFlyFast · 17/05/2014 08:21

Puppy I don't think I believed I was having a baby til after I brought one home!
Longest ever stint between feeds last night (7.45 til 1.30) meaning I got a reasonable amount of sleep. Would have been even better if I had gone to bed at 8.30

Tallyra · 17/05/2014 08:30

I should sleep in the evening too merk. went to bed for her 11 feed. should have slept from about 7.30 too.

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BlindKitty · 17/05/2014 09:00

So 2 new diffed berries??!!

It's almost like they will replacing 2 VERY soon!!! Arrrhh!

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CatsCantFlyFast · 17/05/2014 13:08

It's tough isn't it Tally as the only time I get a break (especially as she still refuses to be put down) is when DH is home on an evening. So if I go to bed early I won't get a chance to relax while he holds her. Maybe I should do alternate early nights. God knows if DH and I will ever spend any time together again (as arguing about who should eat their dinner first doesn't really count)

jessplussomeonenew · 17/05/2014 13:13

Hello lovely berries, still on holiday so not online much - having a lovely time and managing to find fun things to do instead of my normal, but definitely non-pregnancy-safe, holiday activities. That said I managed to capsize and get back into a dinghy this morning, which I'd been a bit concerned about whether I could manage - lucky my bump is still quite compact despite being spot on for dates last time they checked! Visibly wriggly now - trying not to think about aliens...

Welcome Dartmoor, and belated congratulations. Lovely to have another August due date on board - think we're due about a week apart so can be bored on maternity leave together [smil.

Will catch up on the rest of the thread when the internet is more cooperative!

Foodylicious · 17/05/2014 17:04

Soo good news today it MOT and service was thankfully a reasonable £150.
Bad news is I just checked out joint account for the first time in about 6 months, its usually pretty steady with what goes in and out - seems OH reduced his monthly input by £200 a month back in September.

So about £1500 less all together! (no wonder the account is overdrawn)

Prior to this we both put in £700 a month with me putting a bit less in occasionally when I have done the food shopping (which is pretty much all the time) and us both taking back any extras we had got for 'house' stuff.

I do earn more, but thought what we were both contributing to the house overall was quite fair/even. neither of us are big shoppers/spenders.

I hate money and talking/arguing about money but this is going to be a 'conversation' when he gets back from work.

Feeling a lot less cross than I think I should be, must be too much of the pesky relaxin hormone going round. Either that or not getting upset about it is my way of avoiding an argument.

Mostly upset that I had no idea about this and not sure how regularly OH checks this account, but sure he does quite frequently so annoyed that he has possibly kept this from me knowingly. I have mentioned that I have not checked it for while a couple of times in the last few months (when I was paying our plasterer etc) and he has said nothing...
Also said nothing when I forked out £200 for a tumble dryer week before last - did he just assume I got that out of my account (which I did incidentally)? or has he no concept of how him reducing his contribution would add up??? grrr

Sorry, just needed to rant!

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BlindKitty · 17/05/2014 21:27

foody I'm not surprised you're annoyed! Do you put your cash in by direct debit? If he's just changed the dd without telling you that's a bit naughty! However, try to stay calm, tiger still could be an explanation for it. My shopping from joint account got declined today but that's because I've been battering the account lately!

merk oh it sounds rubbish! I have all this to come! Hopefully it won't be for much longer and you'll both be sleeping better

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Foodylicious · 17/05/2014 22:43

I have stayed calm, when I spoke to him he said he thought he had told me, and was genuinely shocked that we were over drawn.
We have agreed what to put it back up to and all is good.

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BlindKitty · 18/05/2014 08:09

That's good foody. Money is such a touchy subject!

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jessplussomeonenew · 18/05/2014 10:06

Catching up now...

Bunny, that's really sad about your cat, and still feeling sick and bunged up can't be helping. Hope things start to look up for you soon and you have a good scan tomorrow.

Foody, glad you managed to get your finances straightened out - it's hard to keep track of a joint account! I have mine set up to send me texts with my balance once a week or if it goes below £100 which is the only way we've been able to keep tabs on it.

Kitty, getting close now, how exciting that yet another berry baby is about to make its entrance into the world!

greatbigbushybeard · 18/05/2014 10:37

Hello chopper ladies, let me introduce myself, I'm one of the berries from the present 'seepage' thread. Been trying nearly 2 and a half years and just undergone Ivf with icsi. My test date was Thursday and was a total head f*ck as result wasn't clear but got a + in eve! then Friday had some brown spotting, sat was more and cramps, retested today and got bfp again but more cramps, heavy feeling, have now just been to loo and more brown blood on panty liner and when I wiped, tmi here, dark brown/ red blood. What is going on?? I thought I'd come on here and ask as a few of you have been really lovely checking the other thread and saying it's normal, this red brown blood is worrying me, is it just spotting ( although seemed more than just that) or is it game over? Can I have a + test but still be losing it? Thought it would be best to ask here and not keep wanging on to the berries about it as don't want to be insensitive. Thanks.

CatsCantFlyFast · 18/05/2014 12:52

Bushy welcome in to the chopper and the world of worry. The berries will all be waddling in in a minute to provide you their experiences. In the meantime if you are worried you should ring your clinic or your epu although I suspect neither will be able to scan as it is too early.
By red/brown do you mean more red or more brown. Bright red is the most worrying kind, although I had a bright red bleed and was fine. Are the cramps on and off or all of the time? As I said before it really is likely that it's just settling into your lining and disturbing things as it does.
Stick around and post as much as you need, we are all here for hand holding x

greatbigbushybeard · 18/05/2014 13:13

Cheers merkin. I'll ring clinic tomorrow to let them know result and ask about the bleeding. On the whole it's more brown but earlier was a bit of dark red and liner looks pink now. Looks bit like a period, off to check properly in a bit. Cramps a bit on off but got that heavy feeling and funny feeling concentrated down there! not so much in the abdomen if you know what I mean, more the, ahem, vagina. Makes me feel better hearing other people's exp and reassuring that you had bright red bleed but everything was ok.

Trying to just get on and do other things to take mind off it but it's the uncertainty if it, messes with your head, starting to think this may not be pg after all. Cheers for the welcome and looking forward to meeting the other berries! Waddle away!

PoppySeedBun · 18/05/2014 13:27

Hi bushy
The not-that-helpful answer, as with almost everything in pregnancy, is that it's almost all normal for someone.
Yes, this could well be implantation bleed, especially if more brown. On the other hand, I hate to say it, but it is possible to still have a + if you lose it, as the hormones carry over for a while.
If it gets heavier and heavier, and if there's bright red blood, it's more worrying, but still not necessarily game over. Best to get in touch with your clinic or EPU if you can, but I'm afraid it's hard to avoid the worrying at this stage. Try and take it a day at a time. Fx for you and sending hugs and

Bunnygirlie · 18/05/2014 14:10

Hey bushy another hand to hold here. I have no advice ref spotting as I was one of the very few that didn't spot.
Def worth checking with clinic but they can't really scan till 6 weeks.
Sending hugs!

CatsCantFlyFast · 18/05/2014 14:48

Bushy its bound to be a bit pink as it is blood after all. Cramps and that weird feeling I think are common, I'm sure it was Bunny who said she felt like she was going to get AF imminently
Take it one day at a time

greatbigbushybeard · 18/05/2014 17:08

Makes total sense merkin of course blood will be pinky. It has got heavier and is def more red and tmi alert , a bit stringy but not clots. I have got some cramps and pain down there. I was using panty liners and now it's more than that so using sanitary towels. Now just trying to take it easy, do really hope it's nothing but a bit of burrowing. Anyhow sorry it's all spotting blood talk!! Thank you for your advice, it really helps.Hope you ladies have enjoyed the nice weather today.

MotherOfCleo · 18/05/2014 17:19

bushy I'm afraid nobody knows what is normal for them until it happens. I had some brown spotting for weeks, but was fine, my friend had bright red blood all the way through and was fine too, it seems to be swings and roundabouts. I found that I was freaking myself out so decided to only test every 3 days, that way I could see the lines get darker as the hormone levels increased. Try not to panic, easier said than done I know, just take it easy and fingers crossed this will pass and all will be fine. We are all here for you!!!

qazxc · 18/05/2014 18:50

Bushy Early pregnancy spotting/bleeding and crampy style pains are common. I know that it's nigh on impossible to not freak out though.
Hopefully the clinic will be able to give you some answers tomorrow.
I've had 3 miscarriages and after the first day, i was definately passing clots and heavily bleeding red blood (like a very, very heavy period) and going through quite a few pads (sorry if this is TMI). So I'd still be hopeful for you.

CatsCantFlyFast · 19/05/2014 06:21

Hope you're ok this morning Bushy

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BlindKitty · 19/05/2014 10:37

bushy as said in berry hq, I was in same position and worried sick! Does your clinic monitor progesterone rises? Mine didn't as said they're not reliable enough so don't worry if yours doesn't. Afraid you may have to wait it out until your 6 week scan

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