Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

Jays43 I am getting pg symptoms too - sore achy boobs, feeling sick (not ideal on the quad bike chasing sheep with DH!) and feeling absolutely knackered. The low level nausea is really getting to me - it's making me car sick all the time, which DH thinks is great as I end up driving and he can drink - the sod!

We're seeing the NHS consultant a week on Monday at what should be 8+3. Hopefully we'll see progress. We're seriously thinking about having the NIFT/Harmony blood test privately, as it'll hopefully mean I don't need an amnio.

When I mentioned it to the consultant today, he said "of course you are welcome here any time for scans and things". I had to hit DH when he said under his breath "I'm sure we are - it means you can pay for your Aston Martin DB9 with its private number plate which is parked outside!"

congratulations quiet that is fantastic news!

Next door keep cooking really strong smelling food and the nausea is so bad I may have to move house!

Hi, sorry for the silence. Hope everyone is doing well? I'm so tired at the moment, second trimester energy is a myth in my book.
Great news tiger too!

I'm in need if a reality check, met up with friends last night and two announced pregnancies (8 weeks and 12)

this is exactly the same thing that happened last time :( I have no symptoms (not quite 6 weeks so still know it's a bit early) and I just can't help but feel it's all going to happen to me again and I'll have to watch two friends go through pregnancy thinking I should be the same as them :( not sure I can do that again pleeeeease someone slap me with a great white (I need something with teeth) sorry very mememe

Good to see positive news though quiet :)

Huge great white coming your way teaRex its so hard to be positive, i think we want to protect ourselves and so can't believe that things will go well. Its really normal - Im 38 wks and still can't quite believe this may actually happen. Just try to take each day at a time, try and occupy yourself as much as possible. Are you able to or want to go for an early scan at 8 wks? Lots of hand holding to you and remember its normal to feel anxious xxx

How you feeling penguin? How is your maternity leave? Any feelings that baby might make an early arrival? Hope you're keeping well due date buddy xxx

hey tea, I had exactly the same thing last week with a friend. it really brought me down too. I've been trying to remember the stats and focus on one day at a time as emki says. We are all pregnant today. Are you planning an early reassurance scan?

Hi TeaRex, I know exactly how you feel because after getting successfully pregnant after fertility treatment, but being super worried because of bleeds, my friend (who is on here waves) revealed she was a few weeks ahead of me. I was really happy for her but we were both worried that something would happen in my case and it might affect our friendship. I think it's natural to feel like that. To be honest I am more jealous of pregnant women than women with newborns (weird?), so it would've only been odd between us for about 8 months! However you have to remind yourself that why shouldn't it work out for you? Why shouldn't you have the same chance as someone else? And won't it be lovely if you are all pregnant together?

Remember, today we are pregnant!

(though naturally I am worrying as 19 weeks today and after lots of movements in the week haven't really felt anything for two days and am sure bump is smaller again. Argh!)

Thank you all, I keep reading positive stories online but I'm struggling today, my last baby stopped growing at 9 weeks so I'm going to go for a scan when I think I'll be 9+3. I have to just get through the next 3.5 weeks somehow. It helps to know that others feel this way and I'm not completely loosing it

hopefull fx you get lots of movement in a minute and you can breath a sigh of relief :)

Hi all

I've had 2 precious losses which needed d&c.

Had anyone experienced something similar and went on to have a healthy full term pregnancy

Great news on the scan quiettiger it's amazing to hear that heartbeat isn't it .

Thank you so much for all the encouraging replies on my lack of symptoms. I think I just need to take it one day at a time and before I know it the scan day will be here. Good to know I am not alone in finding scans reassuring for 48 hours max before I start worrying again. I am really hoping that my 12 week scan will prove a milestone for me as that's when it all went wrong last time.

Penguin if it makes you feel any better, I had a positive scan yesterday and today even though I have pg symptoms and have spent an hour trying not to throw up on DH when I was sat behind him on the quad bike checking sheep, I still have major doubts about the viability of our pg.

I feel your pain with the 12 week scan - I had a MMC at 11 weeks and found out at my 12 week scan when they couldn't find a heart beat after a positive scan & hb at 8 weeks, so I'm holding your hand!

Today we are pregnant.

Lots of sharp twinges today and worrying that I haven't felt as awful as the last few days. I can bounce from 'this will work out' to 'It will never work out'. Why can't they just knock us out until it's time for the babies to be born?!

Hi Emz welcome. Try not to worry as 2 miscarriages in a row are very rare, 3 even rarer (1% of women). Interestingly your odds of success stay at 75% or so after 3 losses, the only reason they test then is otherwise it would cost the NHS too much. Before 3, your odds remain the same as any woman your age/general health. So odds are you will be OK.

Penguin13 hope your symptoms are hjust bad enough to reassure! I was the same!

Tiger great scan news!

Alb movement can still be irregular at 24 weeks, I was told. FX you've felt some by now! I find I don't notice at work, too. Then I remember and worry. Could be light movement I just didn't sense.

Tea your friends have nothing to do with your uterus... Fish slap! :) I know what its like with these superstitions though. I was scared of some areas of London in my 1st trimester because I'd gone to them before losses. Totally illogical fear.

Hamster mate who had a giant baby boy quipped "do you have those days where your bump is smaller?" To me yesterday. So reassuring its normal!

Mummytono2 Sorry about your losses. They say (as in drs) 70-75% of women who have 2 losses are OK after that. So the odds are in your favour. Even after 3 its over 50%.

AMum twinges are vile but remember they could (probs are) muscle spasms as your muscles soften or gastric... Every woman seems to get them. We just get terrified by them.

Busy weekend for me. Went to a spa with a couple of long time friends, great deal (spa, 1treatment, B&B, 3 course dinner £99) - didn't mind much only using the pool and dipping my feet in the hot tub! Very relaxing.
They were both v v excited about the bump, weird to have people look excited not worried or pitying.
Had a facial, which was nice. Also the breakfast was a buffet so I could pig out and ostentatiously rub my bump should anyone look over hahaha! I crave danish pastry last the moment!
I was even unjinxy enough to go to mother are and get s leaflet on travel systems.

Emz sorry in my 1st sentence it should be 2 not 3. But basically you're more than likely to be OK. Fx for you!

sounds like a fantastic weekend squiz ! thanks for the stats, just what I needed to see right now!

random question: do you/is it normal to bring dh to the booking appointment? I said I didn't think he needed to go and he looked very hurt (I also don't think he trusts me to pas on the information correctly). thx!

My DH came to mine. Only difference is they ask "is DH/dp supportive" and the mW put "Very supportive of anxious patient" because he came! But I think you saying "yes" is fine.

My DH went to first booking appointment but not to my others. If he wants to / you want him then definitely! Also he can answer all the questions about his side of the family :)

And I had lots of twinges in early preg - I had to take paracetamol for some (more so I didn't notice it and worry about it all night than because the pain was unbearable) and they turned out to be stretching and growing twinges as body adjusted. Very scary tho.

brilliant! thanks ladies.

Hi Ladies,

I don't know why thread keeps disappearing from my 'I'm on page' Possibly because I'm not keeping up quickly enough! Sorry, I hope everyone is well.

Been reading quite a few of us are feeling a tad wobbly and down.
It seems so unfair doesn't it to not be able to fully enjoy it all.

I felt quite content and dare I say excited after my 13 week scan as with my 3 MMCs I never made it past 9 weeks so for me I felt on top of the world for a few weeks and all would be well but now I'm very upset with worry and I'm over-thinking and very wobbly. So I think I'm in need a bit of a slap support.

I've come across a thread this evening about the cervix possibly being weaker after an ERPC which has filled me with a lot of panic as I've had 3 all pretty close together. Also having alot of pressure and a bit of pain down low past 2 days. I have a private scan tomorrow, It's not an anomaly scan but does anyone know if they may be able to check my cervix to put me more at ease?

Something else that has brought me back down to earth a bit is
I wanted to give birth at a midwife led unit which my midwife originally said i was a perfect candidate for due to giving birth naturally without any issues or epidural 5 years ago - I've since been transferred over to consultant-led care due to a feking heart murmur. I thought ok, the midwife is just doing her job wants to be 100% sure of her decision and the consultant will give me the go ahead and the midwife perhaps being over-cautious. The consultant checked me over and seemed quite surprised by my murmur and at first thought my notes must have been incorrect as they often go away but checked for herself and has now referred me for full detail heart scans which could take up to two months. I know it's not the end of the world, I'm just wondering if I'll ever be able to relax and just enjoy - probably not! It's just all very different to when I had DS, I was seventeen, and completely naive to any pregnancy issues so sailed through pregnancy without a care in the world. I'm feeling guilty on my little baba for not feeling happy

I still hadn't felt any movement last night so I finished work early just after 9, came home, found hb on the doppler instantly and within 10mins of being home there was a bit of movement, and then today he's been moving as normal again, so looks like I was panicking over nothing as usual even DP was worried in the end tho (he's usually overly optermistic about everything pregnancy related) I feel like I'm counting every movement now tho, it's so stressful! Looking forward to him being abit bigger in the hope his movements become properly regular.

fedup how far along are you now? I'm also finding the 2nd trimester energy to be a lie, this whole 'glowing' thing has never materialised either!

squiz sounds like a lovely weekend away, I'm jealous!

red it's good to hear ur being well taken care of but rubbish it may ruin ur birth plans. Hopefully after tests they'll be able to transfer u back to midwife led