Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

cuppa I'm so sorry that the scans thrown up so much uncertainty, maybe just sit your husband down and explain that you appreciate him trying to keep you upbeat but the best way for you to get through the next two weeks is for him to just acknowledge your fear and let you express it? This is exactly how I feel, I can't stand my husband overriding what I'm scared about with a 'it'll be okay' sometimes you just need a hug from them x

cuppa I'm sorry. Also, this is not an attempt to give you false up, but it doesn't sound unrealistic that those could be your dates (5.5 to 6 weeks). It's definitely possible to 'feel' pregnant before 4 weeks - I had nausea around what I guess would be just after 3 weeks. Do you have any idea when you ovulated?

Anyway, I'm thinking of you and am sorry you're having to wait so long to get an answer. Wouldn't they do a 48hr blood test to check your HCG levels were going up? That could give you some more answers, and hopefully reassurance, rather than having to wait two weeks.

onelittletoddler congrats on the scan. So pleased for you.

Hi everyone else.
I'm wobbling a bit this week. 14 weeks pg but have to wait almost 2 weeks for next doctor's appt and just wish I had a way of knowing all was well with the bean. It's quite an in-betweeny phase this early 2nd trimester bit isn't it? Anyway, positive thinking, positive thinking.

nerdy lists are very good ideas at your stage - well they were for me. I found my late-pregnancy brain turned to mush. How exciting to have all the paraphernalia coming into the house - not long now!

cuppa - false hope, not false up, obviously.

nerdy when is your EDD? I treated myself to some maternity clothes today because of the good scan. I guess my next hurdle is new baby stuff. I have packed away things from DD to come down from the loft. Also will have to move DD to another room to free up the cot bed and the nursery. And convert the travel system seat back to its carry cot.

cuppa I'm sorry to hear the scan brought uncertainty. I too have an annoyingly positive DH. But as irritating as I find it, if he was as doom and gloom as I can be then we would just be in a terrible dark place. He does give me some perspective even though I want to thump him when he's 'what are you worrying about, it will all be fine'.
I think you should def have been seen my the RMC after 3, let alone six miscarriages. Hopefully you won't need to go but I think you should push for an appointment as they need to be helping you out with this preg. I have everything crossed for next week

one congrats on the scan - great news!!

Hello to everyone else on this very fast moving thread!!

cuppa I'm sorry to hear the scan brought uncertainty. I too have an annoyingly positive DH. But as irritating as I find it, if he was as doom and gloom as I can be then we would just be in a terrible dark place. He does give me some perspective even though I want to thump him when he's 'what are you worrying about, it will all be fine'.
I think you should def have been seen my the RMC after 3, let alone six miscarriages. Hopefully you won't need to go but I think you should push for an appointment as they need to be helping you out with this preg. I have everything crossed for next week

one congrats on the scan - great news!!

Hello to everyone else on this very fast moving thread!!

Having a few mild cramps this morning :( any of you ladies further along who had this and it's all been okay? I just can't remember how things went when I was pregnant with my dd and the baby I lost :( really wish I'd kept a diary

Hi all.
Time for me to have a moan (again) I'm afraid.

Ended up in A & E last night with abdominal pains. Obviously at only 22 weeks pregnant they took me very seriously and was seen by a gynaecology doctor. Turns out the GP was right and I do have an abdominal hernia. Have to go back to my GP today to be referred to a surgeon :-( feeling thoroughly fed up now and have had enough of it all. Not at work today for obvious reasons. I don't know what they are going to suggest either regarding work as it's a fairly manual job. I just want it to be September now so the baby is out and I can have my body back x

cuppa so sorry to hear about your scan, I'm with you on not appreciating positivity - sometimes you just want people to agree that life sucks.

TeaRex, yes, I was very very crampy for the first couple of weeks. Probably up until about a week ago - I'm 7+2 now. FWIW I kept reminding myself that my MCs started wih bleeding without cramping, and the cramping came much later. I vaguely recall feeling very crampy early on with DS2 as well.

Got to go chuck up now, nice! Only 2 days since I was complaining abut not feeling as sick as I normally do with successful pregnancies, things have changed....

Cuppa Sorry to hear your scan has thrown up so much fear. FX for you it works out. :(

Morning all

30 weeks today! Never thought I'd be here. This was my major target, the point at which I would allow myself to be hopeful and excited. Easier said than done though.

Yesterday I got the details of what my maternity pay is going to be. It looks like I will be able to manage for the six months I'm planning to take off without having to rely on DP for cash or use much of my savings so that's a bit of a relief.

I think I might be getting a few Braxton Hicks, not really felt anything before, but there's a definite sort of cramp or tightening across the top of my bump and on the right side on and off over the last day or so.

cuppa sorry you're in limbo. It's awful having to wait, do try and be nice to yourself with distractions. My DP tends to assume everything is going to be fine too, which is nice, but annoying when you just need someone to acknowledge your fears.

one my EDD is 18 july. Not been brave enough to add to the stats though!

mrsg hernia sounds painful, hope you can get it sorted out.

My hubby and I are a bit in shock. There were two pregnancy sacs! She could only find the yolk for one but she said it's just 1mm so absolutely tiny and it's probably just that the other one is too small to see yet. Obviously with the weak cervix not being able to hold one I'm very worried but hoping professor Regan can ease my fears next week. Makes sense why I feel so terrible so early and how I got a positive test when it must have been incredibly early. When I handed the results to the woman at EPAU she walked down the corridor and as she saw the two she did a little whoop. There's no twins in my family but my husbands aunt and uncle are twins. Madness. Keeping everything crossed.

Wow amum congratulations!

amum - wow!! congrats - what amazing news.

Nerdy - that is a big milestone - I hope you can start to enjoy yourself - easier said than done I know.

cuppa sorry it wasn't the reassurance you need. And now a wait - we are all here for you.

amum that's really really great news at the scan. How do you feel about twins? (Must take some getting used to the thought of two at the same time. I'm excited for you just thinking about it). Have you seen a consultant about the weak cervix? A friend of mine has a weak cervix (I think it's what it is). Her first was born prematurely. In her second pregnancy she was under consultant care because of it. In her 20 week scan, they notice the cervix is dilating/failing, and she had an operation to sew it up. She has to stop working from 20 week, but her child was born full term. Don't worry too much about it and hopefully the consultants can work out a plan for your pregnancy.

Oh didn't see the reference to Prof Regan. I assume he's your consultant then? I'm sure he'll take good care of you!

Yes I've had consultations with her and she did keyhole in January to look at my uterus, bladder and ovaries. She is going to put in a stitch at 12-14 weeks. I did have one last time but it was an emergency stitch at 16 weeks and didn't hold. I'm seeing her or a member of her team on Tuesday so I'll talk to them about it. Even though I saw two sacs the empty one means I'm not convinced it will last as a multiple. It would be amazing (if not a little crowded in our teeny cottage) but I can't visualise it at the moment. When she was saying at EPAU take extra folic acid on top of your multi because you're growing two I thought…yeah, but seriously, I'm not though am I?

Sorry about your hernia MrsG that sounds painful, no wonder you are fed up. I hope work are understanding whatever the advice you are given.

Congratulations amum. My H is a twin and he a day his twin bro are really close. That must be a lot to take in and I understand your caution at this stage. The good news is it's been identified early and they have a plan in place to help support your pregnancy.

*And not 'a day' obviously!

Oh MrsG that sucks. I would be fedup too. I hope they can see you soon to at least stop the pain.

Amum wowee! You didn't see that coming did you?! He he. Congrats!

Congrats on reaching the milestone that means so you much to you Nerdy that is wonderful and I hope you can indeed now feel excited.

I never had real crampy feelings Tearex, I had real stabby pains instead but I had them from very early and still get them now. Is womb growing I think. This is yet another thing were I was different (I do wonder about my body sometimes you know!) as most people seemed to have period style cramps, I read it on many mn threads and it stuck in my head as mine felt different. Long winded way of saying all sounds normal to me!

Hang in there Mabel. You need to invite your friends round for dinner again! Always a good distraction

Last night I went to sleep on my front and I got kicked twice!! So I moved. Demanding little bean!!

Hi ladies. I have posted before and following the threads but not actively involved which I would like to be. I'm 7 weeks today and got my 12 week scan through. It's 6 weeks tomorrow;( feels like forever. I can have an early scan in a couple of weeks if I want to because I just want to reassure myself. After having a mmc in jan I am so worried its going to happen again. I'm also scared with an early scan they may not see a heartbeat and say its not as big as it should be with dates. I know scans can bring anxiety, no scans is anxiety;( I don't win. I can't think of anything else;(

Good news for me, I've finally been given approval for my home birth. After all the worries with my bump measuring about 4 weeks behind, I eventually got a growth scan today and baby is exactly on the 50th centile, currently weighing an estimated 6lb 6oz, just sitting really low down in my pelvis. Whoop whoop! Time to get that boiler on permanently for the birthing pool!

Sorry that your scan didn't give you more positive news cuppa. We are here for hand holding.

Rubbish news about the hernia too mrsg, can the surgeon repair it so you could get back to work?

nerdy well done on getting to 30 weeks, surely you can be brave and add yourself to the stats now?

So exciting about twins amum!

Welcome jays, congrats on your pregnancy and you will fit right in here, it is the perfect place to share your worries and fears with others that have been there.

Hi jays I'm about 5+3 and scans seem an age away :/ the waiting's hard isn't it? Hope it goes quickly for you! :)

Thank you london and some started frantically googling symptoms but have calmed down a bit (a little bit)

mrsg hope it's fixable quickly and easily for you, not surprised you're fed up fx you're back to normal soon

Well done for reaching 30 weeks nerdy!!

amum very exciting, fx it all goes well and I agree with penguin13, you're on their radar so you'll get the best treatment as early as possible :)

And pleased you've been approved for home birth penguinita :)

Told you bump measuring was a load of old tosh penguin great that baby is doing well and it's all systems go!

jays If I were you I would go for the scan. they can cause more anxiety around the 6 week mark if you are just seeing a pole and no HB, but later on if everything is approximately on track to within a few days of your dates that's reassuring. Can you choose to go beyond the point where baby stopped growing last time, perhaps?

nerdy add yourself to the stats immediately! Where is your posifrickingtivity, woman?

MrsG sorry to hear about the hernia, sounds sore. Hope something can be done to improve matters soon.

hi jays, I'm personally for the scan as I'd rather be in the know - either to reassure me or prepare me but of course it depends on how you feel. I had one at 6 + 3 and am planning a private one at 9 weeks, if all goes well. I feel like it is breaking up the time into manageable chunks and gives me a date to obsess over.

tea I had cramping from pre period being due (which I normally get anyway) to about 7 weeks. It seems to have calmed down this week (I'm 7+5).

London - how exciting on kicks!

penguinita - that's good news.

mrsg - hope you are not in too much pain.

I had a bit of a funny moment yesterday when I met a friend for dinner who confided she is about a week ahead of me (we've not told anyone). I've had this in the past where I've kept quiet and just congratulated them - they've now got bouncing babies and of course I haven't. The total confidence she had - she's even got a list ready of stuff they will need - it really threw me. It's so unfair! I have to keep reminding myself that I am pregnant too, and I have as much chance of getting my baby at the end of it as she does. But it is really hard.